Crying

Whitewinged · 14-11-2015 11:14PM #1

I think this was done before but a few years ago.

Anyway i don't cry too much but i have cried before at a sad movie or if something really upset me. It's kind of a release if you feel sad and I can't imagine not being able to do it.

I've never seen a man cry, not even at a funeral.

If you do see someone cry, do you think it's a sign of weakness or do you automatically sympathise with the person or a bit of both?

For both the men and women, do you know, all there is to know, about the crying game?

Ruu · 14-11-2015 11:18PM

Weakness? Absolutely not. It is just a release, healthy release. It has been ages since I had a good cry, 3 years ago after my first marathon (not pain, just emotions).

suicide_circus · 14-11-2015 11:22PM

I should probably cry more than I do. I have "caught" myself not allowing myself to cry on many occasion.

14-11-2015 11:31PM

I've seen all the male members of my family cry, there are situations that absolutely warrant it. I'd never think less of people, male or female, for crying, unless it was over some triviality - but even then it can be a final-straw situation so it's hard to judge.

People crying because of a bit of a disappointment, or because they were pulled up in work over something relatively trivial, I've no time for. Sort things out and behave professionally in a professional environment. Obvious exception for extreme or prolonged stress.

People who cry from frustration are particularly hard to deal with, as they're usually unable to articulate themselves and this is why they get frustrated. That can be really draining and wearing, like dealing with obstinate toddlers.

Sir Osis of Liver. · 14-11-2015 11:31PM

A fellow I work with cries all the time.
Its fcukin awkward and embarrassing to be around a 50 year old cry baby.

C'mon ta fcuk.

intheclouds · 14-11-2015 11:31PM

I cry loads.

I cried a bit in the gym today seeing the images from France. I cried in the car yesterday at a sad song. I cried the day before at a beautiful view. Nature often moves me to tears.

Better out than in I say!

Charlie19 · 14-11-2015 11:32PM

If you don't cry after watching the movie 'Marley and me'

You're not human.

LETHAL LADY · 14-11-2015 11:35PM

I haven't had a good auld bawl in years, but I do get teary-eyed at the most silliest of things quite often.
Definitely don't think of it as a weakness though as it can be a really healthy release of emotions when necessary.

play it again · 14-11-2015 11:35PM

Charlie19 wrote: »

If you don't cry after watching the movie 'you me and Marley'

You're not human.

You me and dupree ? Or marley and me ? :pac:

14-11-2015 11:37PM

The image of the dead Syrian child on a beach in Turkey made me choke back a few tears.

Apart from that, a few things will bring a lump to the throat, like any time I read Yeats "When You Are Old".

Charlie19 · 14-11-2015 11:38PM

play it again wrote: »

You me and dupree ? Or marley and me ? :pac:

Ha ha.
Yup that's it..
Marley and me:)

blade1 · 14-11-2015 11:38PM

I hadn't cried since primary school up until 5 years ago when my father died.
I was 38 and forgot what it felt like to cry but it kind of felt good to get some of what I was feeling out.

Teyla Emmagan · 14-11-2015 11:38PM

Crying is good for you. Let it out peeps!

One eyed Jack · 14-11-2015 11:40PM

I'll sometimes choke up alright, but crying is just, well, I can't remember the last time I cried really, not since I was a child.

It's not the "boys don't cry" thing or anything like that though, or that I see it as a sign of weakness, I just don't think about it at all really.

If I see someone crying, it's important to consider context - sometimes they're being a drama queen, sometimes they're crying for joy, sometimes they're crying in pain, but the worst crying of all is someone crying when they've had their heart broken or their heart is breaking.

Sometimes people genuinely are overcome with emotion, and I can empathise with that, but when someone turns on the waterworks at the drop of a hat, I just can't entertain that at all.

nullzero · 14-11-2015 11:40PM

Roy Orbison was known for it in occasion.

eviltwin · 14-11-2015 11:43PM

Its good to cry sometimes, get your feelings out. Its healthy. Nothing worse than see someone too proud to cry bottle it up and express their pain in less healthy ways.

KKkitty · 14-11-2015 11:43PM

At one stage of my life I cried at everything. Things happened that were beyond my control and I completely did a 180 spin. I tried not to cry so many times. Now I try not to suppress it.

Whitewinged · 14-11-2015 11:46PM

nullzero wrote: »

Roy Orbison was known for it in occasion.

Reminds me of The Only Fools and Horses episode

blackbird 49 · 14-11-2015 11:47PM

Had a little cry last week, an uncle of mine was diagnosed with cancer he lives on his own as was not doing too good could see him going down hill, on top of that he fell and broke a bone in his back so he is back in hospital where he is being well looked after so I am happier now

Lau2976 · 14-11-2015 11:48PM

I cry all the time. I just can't help it!

Known my bf nearly all my life and I've only seen him cry once that entire time. When his step father passed. He doesn't find that it helps him.

For Forks Sake · 14-11-2015 11:51PM

Watch this and report back.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iccscUFY860

Turtyturd · 14-11-2015 11:55PM

Funerals used to be the only time for me, not hearing that someone had died but at the funeral, specifically when the music plays.

Find I am a lot more prone to it since having kids.

play it again · 14-11-2015 11:59PM

Is there any proof it's actually good for you or are we just being told it's good for you by the more touchy feely bleeding hearts that think constantly wearing your heart on your sleeve and being all emotional is totally natural , I've never felt like this and I've lost close ones and been in circumstances where I should have cried but didn't feel the need to

Tell me how · 14-11-2015 11:59PM

I cry more than I would like.
Have dealt with various degrees of depression on and off for quite a while. One period where it was particularly bad I probably cried at least once every day for months.

I can't say it helped me, used to leave me feeling very sad.

I think it mostly should be a private thing.

I do feel empathy with people when they are genuinely crying over something. It's like "Fcuk. I know what that feels like".
People who cry when they get voted in or out of XFactor or Big Brother can FRO.

Andre 3000 · 15-11-2015 12:00AM

I rarely if ever cry. I can never cry at funerals, even if I really wanted to I just cannot cry at funerals. I used to cry without fail in Brook's scene in Shawshank in his letter to Andy. James Whitmore's voice and the music certainly didn't help the cause there...such a sad scene.

Andre 3000 · 15-11-2015 12:03AM

For Forks Sake wrote: »

Watch this and report back.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iccscUFY860

You surely cannot be serious?

KERSPLAT! · 15-11-2015 12:03AM

Cried a few weeks ago over something that happened but Jaysus, I'd say it was years before since I last cried before that.

I don't see it as a weakness if I see someone cry, it's just something I very rarely do myself.

SMJSF · 15-11-2015 12:04AM

Death and seeing other people crying sets me off balling. Even if its on tv.

One eyed Jack · 15-11-2015 12:06AM

play it again wrote: »

Is there any proof it's actually good for you or are we just being told it's good for you by the more touchy feely bleeding hearts that think constantly wearing your heart on your sleeve and being all emotional is totally natural , I've never felt like this and I've lost close ones and been in circumstances where I should have cried but didn't feel the need to

There's plenty evidence to support the idea that it isn't good for your mental health to suppress your emotions, and it has nothing to do with "being all emotional is totally natural". Being yourself is totally natural, and if, like myself or yourself, we just don't feel particularly overcome with emotion when other people are, there's nothing unusual or whatever else about that either. It is what it is.

DavyD_83 · 15-11-2015 12:10AM

Turtyturd wrote: »

Funerals used to be the only time for me, not hearing that someone had died but at the funeral, specifically when the music plays.

Find I am a lot more prone to it since having kids.

Yep, seems like becoming daddy has flipped a switch for me. I used to shed the odd tear at ear jerker movies, and could never handle funerals, but since my daughter exists it's a whole different level. Can't handle any sort of family loss in movies, and then there's the random tear when you just see how deadly she is in loads of little ways. Anyways OP it's natural, just don't be a blubbering mess in work or where it makes ppl feel uncomfortable. And fact you've never seen a man cry seems slightly sad in itself. Either every man you're close is too 'manly', which is nonsense, or maybe you're just not close enough to any to witness it. I think in general, men try to only let ppl we really trust see us cry (still seem as a sign of weakness by most)

mud · 15-11-2015 12:12AM

I'm a crier. Most of the time it makes me feel better, calmer and a bit tired. Other times it's at a really inopportune moment and I hide it or suppress it and that makes me feel bad. Lost a good friend recently and find myself welling up several times a day. That's natural though. Hate when tears come at work or a similar situation. I always politely excuse myself and get composed before returning to the situation. It's a stress thing I guess, so the tears can be close to the surface quite a lot. I'm quite empathetic too so if I see someone I know who's upset I'll more than likely be shedding tears also. I cry at happy and sad things by the way! I'm a crier :pac:

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