Caught my neighbour cheating

One eyed Jack · 10-11-2015 02:42PM

spud82 wrote: »

I am still not saying anything it's not my place. So please lay off with mind your own business posts. It's very tough for me. I have known this couple for years, and seeing him cheat on her was awful. It was a peck on the lips, his hands all over her, him holding her hand and whacking her ass before leaving the pub together.

And they are still very much together saw him and his wife holding hands this morning.

OP I do think the "mind your own business" posts are harsh, and unnecessary really (as though you haven't thought of that before now like :rolleyes:), but, at the same time, ok, bear with me on this one because I'm not trying to be harsh with you, ok?

But if you're assuming your neighbour, that you've known for years, is cheating on his wife, on the basis of the above, I'd say you were being equally harsh on your neighbour, to jump to that conclusion so quickly. Does that make sense?

You'd probably assume the same if you saw me around my mates, but then if you knew me for years, you'd think nothing of it, and I'm guessing you're able to judge whether this was out of character for the guy, but I'd still stand by what I said earlier - rather than the "mind your own business" mantra, I'd say stay well out of it for your own sake rather than get involved at all, because chances are you're likely to come off the worst of it with just an accusation...

sbsquarepants · 10-11-2015 02:46PM

Hammer89 wrote: »

Men are retards. I know because I am one, and I think we can agree that it's far more likely the neighbour in question is just a cheating wanker rather than the husband in an open relationship, or the victim of psychological bullying.

Nice try at infiltration sister. Now back to the kitchen with you, the men are talking:D

josip · 10-11-2015 02:49PM

OldGoat wrote: »

I meant kiss on the lips. It's common to me. I do it all the time with many friends. To be honest I would think that something was awry if those friends didn't kiss on greeting or parting.
I know I'm a bit louche but I'm far from extreme. I can't be the only person here who thinks that a kiss on the lips can be innocent.

None of my friends/family members gives a kiss on the lips except my 93 year old gran aunt. Every time as someone goes in for the peck on the cheek goodbye, she turns the head at the last minute and lip impact, uggh!

Cee-Jay-Cee wrote: »

"I'm not saying anything" would be more grammatically correct because if you were 'not saying nothing' then that means your saying something which your not. Ok?

you're

Clampdown · 10-11-2015 03:00PM

spud82 wrote: »

whacking her ass before leaving the pub together.

At least he's doing it right. If you are not gonna whack your mistress on the ass what's the point of having one? I want to get married now just to have a cheeky affair full of ass whacking it sounds like brilliant divilment.

Seriously though you should out him just based on the unfairness of it all. This fella has 2 birds and at least one has a whackable ass meanwhile lads on boards are reduced to having to chat up women they've never seen in AH.

PS: I'm not fussy about looks, how do you feel about ass whacks, personally?

spud82 · 10-11-2015 03:05PM

Clampdown wrote: »

At least he's doing it right. If you are not gonna whack your mistress on the ass what's the point of having one? I want to get married now just to have a cheeky affair full of ass whacking it sounds like brilliant divilment.

Seriously though you should out him just based on the unfairness of it all. This fella has 2 birds and at least one has a whackable ass meanwhile lads on boards are reduced to having to chat up women they've never seen in AH.

PS: I'm not fussy about looks, how do you feel about ass whacks, personally?

Depends on the size of the whip

kunst nugget · 10-11-2015 03:07PM

You've to go to their Christmas party? Seriously, the fun you could have at that. It'd be great craic!

'Ah Barry, Happy Christmas to you. I think the last time I saw you was when I was in (name of place you saw him cheating). I waved over but I don't think you saw me!'

Clampdown · 10-11-2015 04:27PM

spud82 wrote: »

Depends on the size of the whip

Don't worry baby, it's big and black. And I'll sort a whip as well at some stage.

10-11-2015 04:38PM

OP, if it is bothering to you, and it seems it is, engineer so you see them again and make certain he sees you have seen them. The situations will sort out then.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 10-11-2015 04:38PM

Wouldn't be a situation I'd like to get involved in personally.
Maybe the wife suspects and is ignoring it because she doesn't want her family torn asunder.
Nobody appreciates a messenger. On one hand she'll believe you and 4 kids are left suffering their parents marriage breaking down just before Christmas, on the other hand, she won't and you're living next door to her.

Keep yourself to yourself. I'd let him know you saw him though.

Agent Smith · 10-11-2015 04:51PM

spud82 wrote: »

Hey all

Was out at the weekend and saw my neighbour all of this woman who wasn't his wife. I than went into the bar and saw him peck her on the lips before they left the bar together.

My neighbour and his wife has 4 kids, I babysat them when they were younger. I feel so bad about this and so sorry for his wife. I know it's not my business but I feel so bad.

Worst is they are hosting a X mas party in a few weeks in their house, and I can't get out of it. I feel so sorry for her and the kids

Maybe they have an open relationship?

timthumbni · 10-11-2015 04:52PM

I can just imagine any women on here with 4 kids and that are having a party in a few weeks time asking some very probing questions of their husband because of this thread. In fact, I feel that a lot of innocent men may suffer due to being wrongfully convicted in the court of their suspicious wife's mind.

One eyed Jack · 10-11-2015 04:55PM

timthumbni wrote: »

I can just imagine any women on here with 4 kids and that are having a party in a few weeks time asking some very probing questions of their husband because of this thread. In fact, I feel that a lot of innocent men may suffer due to being wrongfully convicted in the court of their suspicious wife's mind.

That'd be the real problem there then, and not this thread

kunst nugget · 10-11-2015 05:07PM

timthumbni wrote: »

I can just imagine any women on here with 4 kids and that are having a party in a few weeks time asking some very probing questions of their husband because of this thread. In fact, I feel that a lot of innocent men may suffer due to being wrongfully convicted in the court of their suspicious wife's mind.

Aye, because that's all those womens do be doing. Going onto the internets to find reasons to accuse their menfolk of cheating.

Candy_Girl · 10-11-2015 05:31PM

kunst nugget wrote: »

Aye, because that's all those womens do be doing. Going onto the internets to find reasons to accuse their menfolk of cheating.

I'd say they're too busy watching Jeremy Kyle tbf...

josip · 10-11-2015 10:01PM

If they've got 4 kids and he's off larkin about, I doubt if his wife has much spare time on her hands

Specialun · 10-11-2015 10:47PM

Maybe the guy has a twin

mikeym · 10-11-2015 11:00PM

Maybe your neighbour has a Hallpass

Summer wind · 10-11-2015 11:05PM

I think the best thing to do is take a deep breath and step well back from this can of worms. You really don't want to be at the epicenter of the volcano when it blows.

RobbingBandit · 10-11-2015 11:14PM

Propose a three way where he spends it ball watching.

ratracer · 10-11-2015 11:21PM

Hold on.... Why has no one here offered to be the +1 for the OP at the Christmas party, I'd say it'd be great craic sitting there, the odd sly wink to the hosts......

KingBrian2 · 10-11-2015 11:36PM

Summer wind wrote: »

I think the best thing to do is take a deep breath and step well back from this can of worms. You really don't want to be at the epicenter of the volcano when it blows.

You sure don't.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u1T2jvE-ZVo

fleet_admiral · 10-11-2015 11:37PM

Keep your trap shut op, he could have just been testing her lippy for allergens

Jonti · 10-11-2015 11:52PM

Mind your own business. Nothing to do with you.

Tarzana2 · 10-11-2015 11:56PM

Jonti wrote: »

Mind your own business. Nothing to do with you.

What an original comment. Thank god you came along to save the thread!

Blueboggirl · 11-11-2015 12:03AM

But what about the bit on the side? Does SHE know he's married? Who's going to tell her......

ChippingSodbury · 11-11-2015 12:05AM

I was in a somewhat similar situation a long time back. Two friends of mine married each other. She was a lovely girl and I was more friendly with her than him. I moved jobs and location. I was out one night (about a year later) in the new location and there he was tearing into this young one on the dancefloor (not his wife!). I was dumbfounded and just stared at him. When he eventually came up for air, he spotted me and I walked off. He came after me and pleaded with me not to say anything: I didn't even acknowledge him.

I felt like sh1t for days afterwards but never said anything. Hopefully it was punishment enough for him to have to sweat for a while not knowing what might happen.

You could slap him on the arse at his XMas party and see how he likes it! Come to think of it, maybe don't :pac:

Miall108 · 11-11-2015 12:13AM

humberklog wrote: »

Get your ****ing nose out of their ****ing business you nosy ****.

How refreshing to see a mod get red carded

spud82 · 11-11-2015 12:34AM

Miall108 wrote: »

How refreshing to see a mod get red carded

If he did than fair enough.Thanks for defending me too

My head felt like it was going to explode since Saturday. I have known this couple for years and babysat for them too, and care about the two of them a lot. I was just sad by what I saw. I know it's not my business. I just wanted to unleash it some way and I don't need to be told 1000 times it isn't my business I KNOW THAT. I just wanted to fookin tell someone before I blurted it out to someone that knows them. It's so sad because they seem so happy.

Samaris · 11-11-2015 01:16AM

spud82 wrote: »

If he did than fair enough.Thanks for defending me too My head felt like it was going to explode since Saturday. I have known this couple for years and babysat for them too, and care about the two of them a lot. I was just sad by what I saw. I know it's not my business. I just wanted to unleash it some way and I don't need to be told 1000 times it isn't my business I KNOW THAT. I just wanted to fookin tell someone before I blurted it out to someone that knows them. It's so sad because they seem so happy.

I can't blame you being upset. I'd be pretty upset too, it's natural enough.

Calibos · 11-11-2015 01:25AM

Miall108 wrote: »

How refreshing to see a mod get red carded

Its no big deal. Being Mod of Songwriting is like being High King of Dalkey Island I'd imagine.

Caught my neighbour cheating

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