Caught my neighbour cheating

Hammer89 · 10-11-2015 10:57AM

They were probably tins of red Pringles and not dynamite like I assumed so it's not my business either.

OldGoat · 10-11-2015 10:59AM

Samaris wrote: »

Well now, a kiss on the cheek is one thing, and even that's relatively rare amongst Irish people, but a kiss on the lips isn't exactly a common hello/farewell between married friends (who aren't married to each other).

I meant kiss on the lips. It's common to me. I do it all the time with many friends. To be honest I would think that something was awry if those friends didn't kiss on greeting or parting.
I know I'm a bit louche but I'm far from extreme. I can't be the only person here who thinks that a kiss on the lips can be innocent.

10-11-2015 11:02AM

OldGoat wrote: »

I meant kiss on the lips. It's common to me. I do it all the time with many friends. To be honest I would think that something was awry if those friends didn't kiss on greeting or parting.
I know I'm a bit louche but I'm far from extreme. I can't be the only person here who thinks that a kiss on the lips can be innocent.

In Ireland? Irish people are probably the least touchy people in the world

Samaris · 10-11-2015 11:04AM

OldGoat wrote: »

I meant kiss on the lips. It's common to me. I do it all the time with many friends. To be honest I would think that something was awry if those friends didn't kiss on greeting or parting.
I know I'm a bit louche but I'm far from extreme. I can't be the only person here who thinks that a kiss on the lips can be innocent.

Huh, alright; it's not something that I've ever seen, but then again, it wasn't until I went to college (in Cork) that I saw people hugging as a hello/farewell, but that's caught on more now in the rest of the country. But even that seemed unusually tactile when I was first introduced to it. Kissing on the lips - I would find - to be a rather intimate gesture.

Well, the OP only knows if it's a common thing around where she lives. I would assume if she (I'm assuming she, there was a mention of feminine wiles!) would know the difference between a greeting peck and something else.

_Kaiser_ · 10-11-2015 11:04AM

yes there wrote: »

The best thing you can do here is bribe him

Deleted User wrote: »

Wouldn't blackmail be more obvious?

Ah lads, am I the only one who got this?

OP you don't have all the facts, but even if you did you should stay out of it. Not your business.

OldGoat · 10-11-2015 11:08AM

riffmongous wrote: »

In Ireland? Irish people are probably the least touchy people in the world

Yep, here in Ireland where growing numbers are overcoming parochial* attitudes.
Perhaps I just hang out with the wrong sort. Thankfully. :cool:

* I mean this as in "having a limited or narrow outlook or scope" rather that any seeming attack on the church.

Knex* · 10-11-2015 11:11AM

I'd be saying feck all, and removing it from memory tbh.

sbsquarepants · 10-11-2015 11:14AM

I don't see the problem.
It's your neighbour not your mother - who gives a toss what they get up to.
(Your mother wasn't the other woman was she?):)

sbsquarepants · 10-11-2015 11:16AM

OldGoat wrote: »

I can't be the only person here who thinks that a kiss on the lips can be innocent.

It can be quite continental:D

Samaris · 10-11-2015 11:19AM

sbsquarepants wrote: »

It can be quite continental:D

*groans* You know, I was wondering why that song was running through my head the last ten minutes or so.

One eyed Jack · 10-11-2015 11:21AM

OldGoat wrote: »

Yep, here in Ireland where growing numbers are overcoming parochial attitudes.
Perhaps I just hang out with the wrong sort. Thankfully. :cool:

Ahh I know what you mean OldGoat, I often greet my female friends with a hug and a kiss, or we'd part ways on a hug and a kiss, so we might have a completely different perspective than the OP, but at the same time, you can still tell when something's a bit... more than just a peck on the lips!

I dunno, impossible to say what's going on there really OP, and when you don't know something, say nothing. There's no need to make up silly "oh but it might be this", or "they might have that" or whatever to defend or explain anything because there's nothing to defend or explain.

Basically you're more likely to be seen as shìt stirring if you interfere there at all, you're as well off out of it for your own sake, and let other people deal with their own relationships.

RDM_83 again · 10-11-2015 11:22AM

OldGoat wrote: »

Yep, here in Ireland where growing numbers are overcoming parochial* attitudes.
Perhaps I just hang out with the wrong sort. Thankfully. :cool:

* I mean this as in "having a limited or narrow outlook or scope" rather that any seeming attack on the church.

Its just not true though is it?Is it just you that does it or do any of your friends?
I mean even the Italians and Spanish don't kiss on the lips and I havent hung around with a particularly conservative crowd

marmurr1916 · 10-11-2015 11:22AM

yes there wrote: »

The best thing you can do here is bribe him

Bribe him? So the OP can have a go off the mistress?

CruelCoin · 10-11-2015 11:26AM

spud82 wrote: »

I feel so sorry for her and the kids

I wouldn't throw around the sentiment unless you knew the whole story.

If she was being a demeaning hag, bullying him psychologically etc etc blah blah then i'd be doing the same.

DamienOB · 10-11-2015 11:26AM

spud82 wrote: »

I am not saying nothing

Does this mean you're saying something?

Always number 1 · 10-11-2015 11:33AM

spud82 wrote: »

Im not going to say anything I just needed to get it out of me in some way. thanks boardsies

That's what he said ;-)

Samaris · 10-11-2015 11:38AM

CruelCoin wrote: »

I wouldn't throw around the sentiment unless you knew the whole story.

If she was being a demeaning hag, bullying him psychologically etc etc blah blah then i'd be doing the same.

Ah, that's horrible, really. All that's been seen or referred to is that A was (probably) cheating on B. To suggest -from that- that it's B's fault from that is a nasty (and very Irish) bit of victim blaming - if he's strayed, it must be your fault for not keeping him there.

Blech.

Hammer89 · 10-11-2015 12:13PM

Men are retards. I know because I am one, and I think we can agree that it's far more likely the neighbour in question is just a cheating wanker rather than the husband in an open relationship, or the victim of psychological bullying.

arayess · 10-11-2015 12:38PM

Samaris wrote: »

Ah, that's horrible, really. All that's been seen or referred to is that A was (probably) cheating on B. To suggest -from that- that it's B's fault from that is a nasty (and very Irish) bit of victim blaming - if he's strayed, it must be your fault for not keeping him there.

Blech.

actually in my experience when a man cheats he is a dickhead.
when a women cheats the implication is that she wouldn't cheat if her man had treated her better or was a better ride etc...

donegaLroad · 10-11-2015 12:45PM

spud82 wrote: »

Hey all

Was out at the weekend and saw my neighbour all of this woman who wasn't his wife. I than went into the bar and saw him peck her on the lips before they left the bar together.

My neighbour and his wife has 4 kids, I babysat them when they were younger. I feel so bad about this and so sorry for his wife. I know it's not my business but I feel so bad.

Worst is they are hosting a X mas party in a few weeks in their house, and I can't get out of it. I feel so sorry for her and the kids

nothing new here.. people will be people, thats life.

Samaris · 10-11-2015 01:30PM

arayess wrote: »

actually in my experience when a man cheats he is a dickhead.
when a women cheats the implication is that she wouldn't cheat if her man had treated her better or was a better ride etc...

I don't care what way you put the genders, it's a dickish way of looking at it.

Cee-Jay-Cee · 10-11-2015 01:54PM

spud82 wrote: »

I am not saying nothing

"I'm not saying anything" would be more grammatically correct because if you were 'not saying nothing' then that means your saying something which your not. Ok?

CruelCoin · 10-11-2015 02:14PM

Samaris wrote: »

Ah, that's horrible, really. All that's been seen or referred to is that A was (probably) cheating on B. To suggest -from that- that it's B's fault from that is a nasty (and very Irish) bit of victim blaming - if he's strayed, it must be your fault for not keeping him there.

Blech.

I never said anything like that.

I merely said she could be. Just advising the op to have his facts in order first.

They could be separating, they could be trialling and open relationship, whatever.

Its 2015, op shouldn't be jumping to "he's cheating and thus a monster".

ejabrod · 10-11-2015 02:15PM

spud82 wrote: »

:D:D:D:D

If that fails Ill use my feminine charm on him and honey trap him hahah

You're a burd? (a female, like)

If so, are you hot?

If you're male, I feel sick about my comment above

spud82 · 10-11-2015 02:18PM

I am still not saying anything it's not my place. So please lay off with mind your own business posts. It's very tough for me. I have known this couple for years, and seeing him cheat on her was awful. It was a peck on the lips, his hands all over her, him holding her hand and whacking her ass before leaving the pub together.

And they are still very much together saw him and his wife holding hands this morning.

spud82 · 10-11-2015 02:19PM

ejabrod wrote: »

You're a burd? (a female, like)

If so, are you hot?

If you're male, I feel sick about my comment above

I am a bird. I fit, and not that bad looking so in theory some may find me hot

Ficheall · 10-11-2015 02:30PM

Ask him how the open relationship is going. Tell him you were thinking of getting into that scene. Play it from there.

spud82 · 10-11-2015 02:32PM

Ficheall wrote: »

Ask him how the open relationship is going. Tell him you were thinking of getting into that scene. Play it from there.

Should I chat him up too?

Ste- · 10-11-2015 02:34PM

so both women are hot and nobody has asked the one REAL question.

Pics or GTFO.

sbsquarepants · 10-11-2015 02:42PM

spud82 wrote: »

I am a bird. I fit, and not that bad looking so in theory some may find me hot

Stop it - you had me at bird:D

Caught my neighbour cheating

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