Do your kids call you by your first name

dollyk · 29-10-2015 09:28PM #1

My adult children do, maybe due to being raised with stepchildren
who called me by my first name.
I have kids ranging from 34 to 11, and now my 11 year old sometimes
calls me by my first name
On holidays she called me and a few women at the pool
said this was lack of respect, I never gave it much thought.
Would you mind if your kids referred to you by your first name ?

Penny Tration · 29-10-2015 09:29PM

I don't have kids, but I call my parents by their name a lot. not all the time, but fairly often.

I think it's partly because one set of grandparents made us call them by their name, rather than grandad or gran.

It's not disrespectful unless you ask them not to, and they do it anyway.

Deep Six · 29-10-2015 09:31PM

I still call mine Mam and Dad at 30, would find it weird not to.

dollyk · 29-10-2015 09:32PM

My grandkids call me nanny ****** so i suppose they call me by my first name too. I still call my older neighbours, mr ...... and mrs ..... . Its the way I was taught.
Funny when I see my teachers I still say Hello miss ***. lol

ElleEm · 29-10-2015 09:35PM

I doubt my parents would be impressed if I used their first names. Sometimes I do it when I'm takin the piss.

eviltwin · 29-10-2015 09:38PM

No they call me mum or mam. My son went through a phase where he wanted to call me by my first name and I told him he was one of only two people on the planet who get to call me mum and to think about that. He's called me mum ever since.

TheLastMohican · 29-10-2015 09:38PM

From my late teens I called my parents by their given name. I've heard the old "lack of respect" thing before. But it's surely a way of showing that you treat another person as a human being rather than being obsequious.
I find it strange some people calling Mammy and Daddy in their 20s, 30s, 40s, and 50s.

XplaygirlX · 29-10-2015 09:43PM

Always call me mam 'mam' and me dad 'dad' or ma and da

dollyk · 29-10-2015 09:45PM

my parents called each other " the ma " and " the da " They never referred
to each other with their first names .

One eyed Jack · 29-10-2015 09:48PM

Nope, I'll always be "Dad" to my child.

One of his friends one day tried to call me by my first name, I told him straight out "That's Mr. ..."

He's called me Mr. ... since.

blondchick · 29-10-2015 09:48PM

A little boy I know always calls his Mum by her name just because he says that is what everyone else calls her. I think that is fine. I always call my parents Mum and Dad but called my Granny by her first name, not sure why, I was her first grandchild and it was what everybody else called her! I wouldn't consider it lack of respect, whatever people are comfortable with.

blondchick · 29-10-2015 09:51PM

One eyed Jack, why would you not let your child's friend call you by your first name, if anyone refers to me as Mrs..... I look around and expect to see my mother in law!

Sunnyisland · 29-10-2015 09:55PM

Mine call me da, but sometimes chastising me they will say my first name,

There in late twentyfold bracket.

I call my ma by her first name mostly, she prefers it :-) she in her 80,s.

LordSutch · 29-10-2015 09:57PM

Deep Six wrote: »

I still call mine Mam and Dad at 30, would find it weird not to.

Our kids call us Mum & Dad, and we too would find it weird if they called us by our 1st names, on a regular basis.

Probably where stepchildren are involved.

RhubarbCrumble · 29-10-2015 09:59PM

I don't have kids, but my nieces and nephews all call me by my first name. I don't think I've ever been called "Auntie Rhubarb Crumble" in my life.

Medusa22 · 29-10-2015 10:01PM

I call my mother 'mum' and I call my dad 'dad' but when I talk about my dad for some reason I use his name, but not when I talk about my mum. I think it stems from the fact that I didn't get on with my dad at all when I was a teenager so I used to call him by his first name just to rile him. I really was a cheeky little shyte (not much has changed) :pac:

eviltwin · 29-10-2015 10:02PM

blondchick wrote: »

One eyed Jack, why would you not let your child's friend call you by your first name, if anyone refers to me as Mrs..... I look around and expect to see my mother in law!

Same here. I hate anyone calling me Ms, adult or child I prefer my first name. Ms just sounds ancient to me, like something you'd call an old lady

blondchick · 29-10-2015 10:03PM

I call all of my aunts and uncles by their first names and my two older children call all of their aunts and uncles by their first names but for some random reason my youngest little fella calls all his aunts and uncles auntie mary, uncle pat etc. No reason for it just seems normal for him.

One eyed Jack · 29-10-2015 10:04PM

blondchick wrote: »

One eyed Jack, why would you not let your child's friend call you by your first name, if anyone refers to me as Mrs..... I look around and expect to see my mother in law!

I'm just not his friend is all, I prefer to keep that boundary in place between myself as an adult, and my child, and then my child's friends. I still call my parents in law Mr. and Mrs., because I'm not their friend either, I'm their son in law, and obviously then I still call my mother Mam or Ma :pac:

dollyk · 29-10-2015 10:06PM

RhubarbCrumble wrote: »

I don't have kids, but my nieces and nephews all call me by my first name. I don't think I've ever been called "Auntie Rhubarb Crumble" in my life.

Pmsl

feargale · 30-10-2015 12:27AM

dollyk wrote: »

my 11 year old sometimes
calls me by my first name
On holidays she called me and a few women at the pool
said this was lack of respect,

Ask those busybody butches have they anything better to do. This is your business. It's none of their bloody business.

Knine · 30-10-2015 12:32AM

My little lady has a severe disability. She had surgery last year at age 7 & thankfully now she can talk a little bit.

She normally calls me mammy. She is always up to mischief & when I hear her call me by my name - Swiftly followed by "Don't Worry" I get very worried.........

murpho999 · 30-10-2015 12:34AM

One eyed Jack wrote: »

I'm just not his friend is all, I prefer to keep that boundary in place between myself as an adult, and my child, and then my child's friends. I still call my parents in law Mr. and Mrs., because I'm not their friend either, I'm their son in law, and obviously then I still call my mother Mam or Ma :pac:

That is an incredibly old fashioned idea with the son's friend and the in laws.

Sounds like you're a barrel of laughs and you wouldn't have much of a relationship with any of them.

KERSPLAT! · 30-10-2015 12:36AM

One eyed Jack wrote: »

One of his friends one day tried to call me by my first name, I told him straight out "That's Mr. ..."

He's called me Mr. ... since.

Jaysus that's a bit much, IMO.

Have two kids but only one can talk so far, she calls me daddy. I'd imagine that'll be the same for the little lad and eventually it'll change to dad and from mammy to mam for their mother.

brevity · 30-10-2015 12:39AM

I've always called my parents by their first names-ever since I was young. People find it quite weird.

Kovu · 30-10-2015 12:41AM

I started calling my dad by his first name as a sort of pet name- He has a name that can be shortened to a nickname like James becomes Jim/Michael becomes Mick.

And it just stuck, I refer to him by that pet name around the house but he's Dad when we're out at a restaurant or something. Mum is always Mum or Mother.

cowboyBuilder · 30-10-2015 12:41AM

I always thought it weird that my cousin called his parents by their first name from his mid teens on - now my 4 year old is calling me by my first name sometimes !
But not always , I think he does it cos he hears his mam say it - hope so anyway !

foggy_lad · 30-10-2015 12:43AM

blondchick wrote: »

One eyed Jack, why would you not let your child's friend call you by your first name, if anyone refers to me as Mrs..... I look around and expect to see my mother in law!

murpho999 wrote: »

That is an incredibly old fashioned idea with the son's friend and the in laws.

Sounds like you're a barrel of laughs and you wouldn't have much of a relationship with any of them.

Jaysus talking about a barrel that is exactly where our bodies would've been found if we ever dared to address an older relative neighbour or parents friend by their first name(even if they told us to it was expected we would ignore their instruction and fall back on what our parents had thought us about being respectful to our elders).

We were always told that when we were adults we could make our own decisions on what we called our parents friends and neighbours!

We were children and were expected and thought to behave as children and not as little mini adults!

johnny osbourne · 30-10-2015 12:44AM

dollyk wrote: »

My adult children do, maybe due to being raised with stepchildren
who called me by my first name.
I have kids ranging from 34 to 11, and now my 11 year old sometimes
calls me by my first name
On holidays she called me and a few women at the pool
said this was lack of respect, I never gave it much thought.
Would you mind if your kids referred to you by your first name ?

some village is missing something

TheQuietFella · 30-10-2015 12:45AM

Any idiot or gobsh*te can call you by your Christian name but in my view at
least it is a name that very few can call you & it be treated & respected as such.

One eyed Jack · 30-10-2015 12:47AM

murpho999 wrote: »

That is an incredibly old fashioned idea with the son's friend and the in laws.

Sounds like you're a barrel of laughs and you wouldn't have much of a relationship with any of them.

Meh, call me old fashioned then, but you're hardly likely to take my word for it then when I say it's because I set those boundaries that I have a great relationship with all of them.

Different strokes for different folks.

Do your kids call you by your first name

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