How often do you encounter rudeness?

Everytime I walk down the street.

In addition to please and thank you mentioned above my parents taught me to move to one side so everyone could share the pavement. Something sadly missed by many these days. Still they also told me to eat my dinner so I grew up to be 6'3 and I just head for the centre of the group and watch it scatter now.

Almost never, or near enough to make no difference. We're an insanely polite sort of folk, as a rule. (I live in Dublin city centre, use public transport all the time, and work with the public.) There was a junkie begging on the bridge at Heuston station this morning, his attempt to elicit money from me was "Good morning man, could you spare some change? Oh ok, thanks anyway, have you a spare smoke? OK. Thanks anyway, have a nice day."

Why are people rude?
Is it just who they are and can it be helped?
Or do they even want to change?
Is it just who they are.

JustTheOne wrote: »

Why are people rude?
Is it just who they are and can it be helped?
Or do they even want to change?
Is it just who they are.

I think sometimes its just people dont know how to be assertive without being rude.

I was getting my hair done the other week and the girl had over booked. She was running late for the next client. It was her fault but she openly and sincerly apologised to both of us. She also looked like she was under alot of pressure and she was the only one in the salon.

The other client still wasnt happy with the apology and kept digging at her instead of accepting that there was nothing else the hairdresser could do and that making smart remarks and sighing was not going to improve anything.

She finished washing my hair and proceeded to blowdry it and i said "wait i wanted to have it trimmed as well" . At this point she looked like she was about to cry so i just said "look its grand ill just have it blowdried this time". The list of demands the other woman hand were endless and the hairdresser spent more time on her hair.

so that woman is rude to people because it works for her. It works in her favour and thats why she did it. I personally find it hard to be like that with people because i start to feel sorry for them but then i got a worse service because of that. I think its just about learning to be assertive without being rude.

Rudeness like purposely bumping into people or snapping at strangers for no reason, i think is some sort of anger release and done out of some kind of superiority complex.

Stheno wrote: »

I go to our local spar the odd weekend to treat the OH to a breakfast roll.

The conversation goes as follows:

Staff: What would you like?
Me: A breakfast roll please?
Staff: What would you like in/on it?
Me: Butter/2 bacon/2 sausage/one egg, and one hash browne please
Staff: Would you like ketchup/sauce?
me: Ketchup please.
Staff: cut in half?
Me: Yes please?

Is that not normal or am I some sort of old fart relic?

Myself and the OH recently managed to get our schedules together so that we were going to meet up in Dublin city centre for a meal. He got delayed, and I was there on my own for over an hour in a new place for us both as our usual was closed. I was made feel incredibly welcome, and well looked after which can be unusual as a woman alone in a bar, and after we had a lovely meal, and were a bit demanding wanting to move tables etc, and got super service, I made a point of seeking out the manager, complimenting them on their staff, and specifically mentioning the particular staff members.

To me that's just appreciation of very good service that deserves mention, I'm a bit shocked people don't think the same.

I think your way of ordering in a deli is normal, it's exactly how I do it, followed by a smile and "Thanks very much," when the item is handed to me. It's just basic manners.

I also would seek out management to compliment particularly lovely staff.

I'd say with working in retail, I experience rudeness every day. However, most of my customers are genuinely lovely people.

One of them yesterday put her money on the counter while searching for her loyalty card. She wouldn't allow me to take it from the counter when she was paying. She insisted on picking it up and handing it to me because "you and I are equals, I wouldn't dream of making you pick my stuff up, I'll always hand it to you."

Penny Tration wrote: »

One of them yesterday put her money on the counter while searching for her loyalty card. She wouldn't allow me to take it from the counter when she was paying. She insisted on picking it up and handing it to me because "you and I are equals, I wouldn't dream of making you pick my stuff up, I'll always hand it to you."

I know she meant well but it just sounds a bit bizarre to me that she would think she had to assure you or aknowlegde that you were equals.

I don't know if I would call it rudeness, as I don't think the people involved are going out of their way or intentionally being rude. I suppose it's more...ignorance and disgusting habits. So, on an average day I would notice plenty of ignorant people coughing with mouths open, sneezing into hands then touching stuff that other people have to touch, sitting too close and invading personal space, clearly wearing dirty clothes and stinking of stale smoke or the píss up from the night before. Also other stuff like ignoring if there is a queue for a bus. I would class all of the above as ignorance rather than rudeness I suppose.