How often do you encounter rudeness?

Robsweezie · 22-10-2015 11:20PM #1

going through your day to day life, how often would you encounter bad manners and plain rudeness? at the shop, at work, at home? do you think its getting more common or less so?

aaand another thing, do you find yourself being rude, maybe unintentionally so, to others? be honest.

apart from the odd dismissive cashier at the shop I don't run into it too often. I find most people are decent enough with a good set of manners.

cantdecide · 22-10-2015 11:23PM

I work in a customer contact centre at the moment so you can imagine the patience that exists with hoards of underpaid young people are scurrying about trying to eat, smoke, pee, and run their lives by phone on their short and heavily monitored breaks having been ground down by the general public for hours... there will be blood one day.

ygolometsipe · 22-10-2015 11:24PM

see you next Tuesday.

Sam Kade · 22-10-2015 11:25PM

I hate rude behaviour in a man, won't tolerate it.

MilesMorales1 · 22-10-2015 11:25PM

Specially on public transport, so quite often. People are dicks.

ygolometsipe · 22-10-2015 11:26PM

Sam Kade wrote: »

I hate rude behaviour in a man, I won't tolerate it.

you know a man can be a feminists?

Sam Kade · 22-10-2015 11:29PM

MilesMorales1 wrote: »

Specially on public transport, so quite often. People are dicks.

That would be only in America here they would be pricks

NachoBusiness · 22-10-2015 11:34PM

All the bloody time. Inconsiderate fcukers and a stink of the Liffey; two things you can count on in the fair city.

Sam Kade · 22-10-2015 11:34PM

ygolometsipe wrote: »

you know a man can be a feminists?

Did you ever get a belt of a blacksmiths tongs?

the evasion_kid · 22-10-2015 11:34PM

Almost daily,though I'm not one to suffer fools gladly and have a tongue like a razor blade

Ally Dick · 22-10-2015 11:35PM

I'm rude at home. I never answer the doorbell. Since mobile phones have become so popular, I now know that my friends will never ring my doorbell unexpectedly, so it is always hawkers, beggars and people who are looking for things who are ringing the bell. So I don't answer it...even when they can see me sitting watching telly through the front window !

Fr_Dougal · 22-10-2015 11:37PM

I hear Fairview is pretty bad for the auld rudeness.

petrolcan · 22-10-2015 11:40PM

Pretty much standard on a daily basis at work.

The_Valeyard · 22-10-2015 11:42PM

Sam Kade wrote: »

Did you ever get a belt of a blacksmiths tongs?

Sounds kinky, but I'm already spoken for.

wetlandsboy · 22-10-2015 11:43PM

You can tell a lot about someone by how they treat the weakest person in the room. So when someone is rude to waiting staff or doesn't say please and thanks, then I've pretty much formed an opinion about them that may not be altogether positive.

shoxter · 22-10-2015 11:44PM

I work in retail, at least once per hour

Stheno · 22-10-2015 11:51PM

Many years ago, as a youngster, I somehow got into the habit of saying please and thanks to people in situations where I was being served, dunno why but I did.

I then learned that a smile or a small act of kindness often meant more to people than anything monetary.

So I adopted that as an approach to dealing with people.

It seems to work, as I rarely encounter rudeness, unless it's an individual genetically programmed to be unable to interact with people.

And I say that as someone who dislikes interacting with people.

Result? In my local petrol stations, the staff don't bother asking me what pump I'm at, we have had a bit of crack at seven in the morning when they knew where I was and they remember, the "off licence" lady in my local supermarket chats away, and I'd a lovely experience today. I was wearing a cheap knockoff from Lidl of a fancy perfume, and getting a coffee in the canteen, the lady on the till asked me what it was. Rather than being rude and claiming it was the fancy brand, we ended up having a great chat about bagging a bargain, and when I'm next onsite with that particular customer, I'll be bringing in a bottle for her as I've about four, it's a small random niceness that I know she'll enjoy.

Look for the good in dealing with people guys, it really changes your perspective.

Ally Dick · 23-10-2015 12:00AM

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

I hear Fairview is pretty bad for the auld rudeness.

Yes. Al fresco crapping

conditioned games · 23-10-2015 12:01AM

When ordering or buying something I never say please, it's a word that's unnecessary and never appleaded to me. I think that word is used due to the over politeness of the English language. However I always say thanks or thank you if the good or service that is delivered is in good order.

Stheno · 23-10-2015 12:02AM

conditioned games wrote: »

When ordering or buying something I never say please, it's a word that's unnecessary and never appleaded to me. I think that word is used due to the over politeness of the English language. However I always say thanks or thank you if the good or service that is delivered is in good order.

Wow.

Would you ever compliment staff who were serving you or seek out a manager if you got really good service?

conditioned games · 23-10-2015 12:08AM

Stheno wrote: »

Wow.

Would you ever compliment staff who were serving you or seek out a manager if you got really good service?

No, if they are doing what I pay them then a simple thank you is enough.

ahnowbrowncow · 23-10-2015 12:08AM

Sam Kade wrote: »

I hate rude behaviour in a man, won't tolerate it.

So you tolerate rude women?

Stheno · 23-10-2015 12:13AM

conditioned games wrote: »

No, if they are doing what I pay them then a simple thank you is enough.

Do you ever tip?

Aongus Von Bismarck · 23-10-2015 12:19AM

Without exception, when I have to ring the IT Support Desk. I'm trying to organise a conference call, check my calendar, read Bloomberg, make a trade. Citrix being an utter disaster as always. I ring and I'm promised a 'technician' within 15 minutes.

You'll end up using the terminal of a graduate while waiting for some heavily bearded weirdo with converse runners and a stupid shirt to plod down and try and 'reproduce' the issue. I don't think I'm being over the top in thinking that basic IT services should work as well as electricity, air-conditioning, and cleaning services. It's a utility.

Stheno · 23-10-2015 12:21AM

Aongus Von Bismarck wrote: »

Without exception, when I have to ring the IT Support Desk. I'm trying to organise a conference call, check my calendar, read Bloomberg, make a trade. Citrix being an utter disaster as always. I ring and I'm promised a 'technician' within 15 minutes.

You'll end up using the terminal of a graduate while waiting for some heavily bearded weirdo with converse runners and a stupid shirt to plod down and try and 'reproduce' the issue. I don't think I'm being over the top in thinking that basic IT services should work as well as electricity, air-conditioning, and cleaning services. It's a utility.

Google ITIL, learn what value means, it's not just utility. Once you do that, suggest it as an improvement initiative in your company and see your salary rise.

Sam Kade · 23-10-2015 12:34AM

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

So you tolerate rude women?

Tigger · 23-10-2015 12:35AM

conditioned games wrote: »

When ordering or buying something I never say please, it's a word that's unnecessary and never appleaded to me. I think that word is used due to the over politeness of the English language. However I always say thanks or thank you if the good or service that is delivered is in good order.

I can't wait till the recession ends
I used to say please back at customers who simply said give me such and such
not ducking downtown abbey Ffs

I had a quick list at your post history and well here is my favourite

conditioned games
Registered User

Join Date: Apr 2014
Posts: 306
Adverts | Friends
It will be a very sad day for Ireland if this gay marriage thing comes in. A large chunk of society is on a downward curve not knowing the difference between right and wrong anymore. Men having seX with men, women with women, absolute bonkers. We're living in a messed up world and worse it's getting. Where does the insanity end?

I'm glad you don't say please to your waiting staff now cos I'm well aware how they retaliate

Stheno · 23-10-2015 12:41AM

Tigger wrote: »

I can't wait till the recession ends
I used to say please back at customers who simply said give me such and such
not ducking downtown abbey Ffs

I go to our local spar the odd weekend to treat the OH to a breakfast roll.

The conversation goes as follows:

Staff: What would you like?
Me: A breakfast roll please?
Staff: What would you like in/on it?
Me: Butter/2 bacon/2 sausage/one egg, and one hash browne please
Staff: Would you like ketchup/sauce?
me: Ketchup please.
Staff: cut in half?
Me: Yes please?

Is that not normal or am I some sort of old fart relic?

Myself and the OH recently managed to get our schedules together so that we were going to meet up in Dublin city centre for a meal. He got delayed, and I was there on my own for over an hour in a new place for us both as our usual was closed. I was made feel incredibly welcome, and well looked after which can be unusual as a woman alone in a bar, and after we had a lovely meal, and were a bit demanding wanting to move tables etc, and got super service, I made a point of seeking out the manager, complimenting them on their staff, and specifically mentioning the particular staff members.

To me that's just appreciation of very good service that deserves mention, I'm a bit shocked people don't think the same.

Tigger · 23-10-2015 12:47AM

Stheno wrote: »

I go to our local spar the odd weekend to treat the OH to a breakfast roll.

The conversation goes as follows:

Staff: What would you like?
Me: A breakfast roll please?
Staff: What would you like in/on it?
Me: Butter/2 bacon/2 sausage/one egg, and one hash browne please
Staff: Would you like ketchup/sauce?
me: Ketchup please.
Staff: cut in half?
Me: Yes please?

Is that not normal or am I some sort of old fart relic?

Myself and the OH recently managed to get our schedules together so that we were going to meet up in Dublin city centre for a meal. He got delayed, and I was there on my own for over an hour in a new place for us both as our usual was closed. I was made feel incredibly welcome, and well looked after which can be unusual as a woman alone in a bar, and after we had a lovely meal, and were a bit demanding wanting to move tables etc, and got super service, I made a point of seeking out the manager, complimenting them on their staff, and specifically mentioning the particular staff members.

To me that's just appreciation of very good service that deserves mention, I'm a bit shocked people don't think the same.

exactly

MadMardegan · 23-10-2015 12:55AM

Worked in the nightclub industry for 7 years.

I've seen vile and disgusting behaviour from all walks of life.

Tigger · 23-10-2015 01:09AM

conditioned games wrote: »

When ordering or buying something I never say please, it's a word that's unnecessary and never appleaded to me. I think that word is used due to the over politeness of the English language. However I always say thanks or thank you if the good or service that is delivered is in good order.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pDlR_ccnZww

How often do you encounter rudeness?

Comments