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Weekday Weddings

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  • #32
    MistyCheese
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,006 ✭✭✭MistyCheese


    Weekday weddings will most likely put paid to big 200+ people shindigs.


  • #33
    bucketybuck
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,700 ✭✭✭✭bucketybuck


    keithclancy wrote: »
    I can think of two notable examples,

    One where they invited everyone they where expected too, chose food on the basis that the older people might not like 'fancy' food, they booked rooms for the older members in the family and arranged lifts, went out of their way to look after everyone.

    They got married in a church by a priest even though they hadn't stepped foot in a church since they were in school.

    In the end everyone still complained about things, people asked why they were in a smaller room than someone else, people complained about seating arrangements.

    The couple ended up with around 20k of debt after the wedding because their costs and choices were driven by other people.

    The other example is a couple that had a wedding, arranged everything how they wanted, invited people they had only seen in the past 5 years (friends/family) and left everyone look after everything.

    They got married in the hotel because they thought getting married in a church wasn't necessary

    They had no debt in the end because their costs were dictated by what they wanted and they were able to budget accordingly.

    The amount of complaining in both cases was the same, doesn't matter how much effort you put in.

    The wedding is for you, if you piss people off, don't worry they'll get over it and probably won't even be able to remember in a few years if they were there or not.

    What on earth does any of that have to do with the utterly selfish act of dragging friends and family overseas for a wedding?


  • #34
    keithclancy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,157 ✭✭✭keithclancy


    bucketybuck wrote: »
    What on earth does any of that have to do with the utterly selfish act of dragging friends and family overseas for a wedding?

    If they felt like they were being dragged somewhere they shouldn't go.

    In my case anyway I live in the Netherlands, most of my friends are here, I have family in the US/UK/Ireland/Australia

    Where exactly should I have gotten married to fit your criteria :P ?


  • #35
    martinedwards
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,046 ✭✭✭martinedwards


    yeah this is new.

    I got married on a Thursday in 1992

    Is some one can't come, Ah well, I KNEW that having a midweek wedding would be difficult for some folk.

    Thats MY problem as the host and guests have the choice of coming or not.

    we had folks who couldn't get time off work, but that was OUR fault for not waiting 3 years to get a Saturday.


  • #36
    Dirty Dingus McGee
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,631 ✭✭✭Dirty Dingus McGee


    bucketybuck wrote: »
    What on earth does any of that have to do with the utterly selfish act of dragging friends and family overseas for a wedding?

    Why did you have to go.

    Just tell your family you don't want to go to the wedding as it costs too much and if they don't like that then **** them.

    Would the couple really care about who turns up for their wedding?

    If you ask me expecting someone to go to your wedding is incredibly narcissistic.


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  • #37
    eviltwin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    Well I got married on a Thursday so I guess there were some people who felt that way and I can understand that but as we had a civil wedding we didn't have an option of a weekend so we were kinda stuck in that regard. Its unfortunate when people can't make it but that's the thing with social events, you're not going to get full attendance unless you are really lucky. There are always reasons why people can't attend. I recently had to turn down an invite to an adult only wedding as I can't get a sitter but the couple understood, I certainly don't think they were selfish and I hope no one would think we were selfish for not having a weekend wedding.


  • #38
    [Deleted User]
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    I'm getting married on a Friday. I was thinking of having a third option on the rsvp for "can only attend evening only".

    Least then people who wouldn't mind a Friday night out have the option of working that day. Otherwise, it's yes I'll be there or no I won't.

    Honest question, is it a dumb idea?


  • #39
    _Kaiser_
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    Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »
    I'm getting married on a Friday. I was thinking of having a third option on the rsvp for "can only attend evening only".

    Least then people who wouldn't mind a Friday night out have the option of working that day. Otherwise, it's yes I'll be there or no I won't.

    Honest question, is it a dumb idea?

    Sounds like a good idea.. not everyone can get time off so giving them the option would be welcome to some I'm sure and still let you have them there.


  • #40
    Super-Rush
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,473 ✭✭✭✭Super-Rush


    Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »
    I'm getting married on a Friday. I was thinking of having a third option on the rsvp for "can only attend evening only".

    Least then people who wouldn't mind a Friday night out have the option of working that day. Otherwise, it's yes I'll be there or no I won't.

    Honest question, is it a dumb idea?

    That's not a bad idea at all.


  • #41
    Tarzana2
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,553 ✭✭✭Tarzana2


    Civil weddings can only happen on a weekday and with them becoming more and more common, I can see there being many more weekdays weddings in the future!


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  • #42
    [Deleted User]
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    Never seen anyone I know get married any day other than Fri or sat (bar a wedding abroad with doesn't really count as everyone was over for the week anyway), with the majority being on Saturday. Doesn't really matter if it's a Friday or Saturday to me as far as days off as you take Friday off for the wedding if is Friday or you take Monday off if it's a Saturday wedding as you will have the Sunday pi*s up the following day. If probably prefer the Saturday wedding as I'd rather taking a Monday off than a Friday as the week always feels shorter then.

    Love a good wedding myself, the second day is always good craic too (you would really miss it now when someone doesn't do it) and a good excuse to get on the sauce in the afternoon again!


  • #43
    Typer Monkey
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 941 ✭✭✭Typer Monkey


    Not everybody works 9-5 Monday to Friday you know!


  • #44
    rubadub
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,387 ✭✭✭✭rubadub


    Toots wrote: »
    If you want a civil ceremony, you don't have a choice other than weekdays - the registry office and staff are only there Monday to Friday..
    Tarzana2 wrote: »
    Civil weddings can only happen on a weekday
    I was at a non-religious wedding on a sunday, not in a registry office. Dunno if it qualifies for your definition of civil wedding.

    bucketybuck wrote: »
    People dragging their families and friends overseas for stags and weddings need a good ****ing slap in the head, its such an incredibly selfish thing to do.
    Stags abroad can end up cheaper. For some reason many feel the need to have stags in another county, so you can end up paying a fortune in taxis, trains and hotels etc.

    Plane tickets to common stag destinations can be less than train tickets and once there the food & drink is often a lot cheaper.


  • #45
    Tarzana2
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,553 ✭✭✭Tarzana2


    rubadub wrote: »
    I was at a non-religious wedding on a sunday, not in a registry office. Dunno if it qualifies for your definition of civil wedding.

    No, that would have been a humanist wedding.
    rubadub wrote: »
    Stags abroad can end up cheaper.

    They likely won't be though, especially as Irish stags and hens are thankfully moving back to one night events again increasingly.
    Salma Mushy Wallet wrote: »
    the second day is always good craic too (you would really miss it now when someone doesn't do it) and a good excuse to get on the sauce in the afternoon again!

    I wouldn't, I never attend second day events. Why would anyone want to go saucing hungover. Yuck.


  • #46
    Menas
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    Tarzana2 wrote: »
    Why would anyone want to go saucing hungover. Yuck.

    Hair of the dog!


  • #47
    Tarzana2
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,553 ✭✭✭Tarzana2


    Menas wrote: »
    Hair of the dog!

    Ick.


  • #48
    rubadub
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,387 ✭✭✭✭rubadub


    Tarzana2 wrote: »
    No, that would have been a humanist wedding.
    I never heard of this one being described as that, but there was one soon after which was. Reading this thread spiritualist rings a bell.

    Either way there are non religious legally recognized weddings which happen at weekends, just in case anybody else thought that it was being said that it was not possible.
    Tarzana2 wrote: »
    They likely won't be though, especially as Irish stags and hens are thankfully moving back to one night events again increasingly.
    Almost all I have been on were in another county, and so there was a need for a hotel. A single night abroad can still be cheaper.

    I think it odd that this out of county thing is so popular. If the money blown on travel & accommodation was put towards the day events & food & drink I would probably have enjoyed them more.


  • #49
    Tarzana2
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    rubadub wrote: »
    A single night abroad can still be cheaper.

    It wouldn't be cheaper than a single night in Ireland. There are always more costs, both seen and unforeseen, when travelling abroad. People always try to sell foreign hens, stags and weddings as cheaper and they never are. Even if the single night in Ireland involves an overnight stay. And definitely a single night in Ireland that is local will be far cheaper.


  • #50
    [Deleted User]
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    Tarzana2 wrote: »

    I wouldn't, I never attend second day events. Why would anyone want to go saucing hungover. Yuck.

    You can't beat the cure, going drinking the next day/evening after a night out wouldn't be just reserved for weddings would be a fairly regular occurrence.

    Only one wedding recently where there wasn't a second night organised and I thought it made it a worse wedding weekend than when you all meet up again the second day for round two (few of us went on the beer ourselves anyway though starting at breakfast in the hotel :pac:)

    Single night stags aren't half the craic of a weekend stag either, can't beat the second all day in the beer. I wouldn't be a fan of going abroad for one though much better to head off somewhere in ireland.


  • #51
    rubadub
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,387 ✭✭✭✭rubadub


    Tarzana2 wrote: »
    It wouldn't be cheaper than a single night in Ireland..
    In both my posts I said "can be", yet you now seem 100% certain this is untrue, in bargain alerts there have been 20 euro flights to amsterdam as ryanair now go direct, a popular destination. The train setup in schipol is great, direct from the airport to slap in the middle of amsterdam. No need for taxis or hanging around for ages to get some connecting bus.
    Tarzana2 wrote: »
    There are always more costs, both seen and unforeseen, when travelling abroad.
    There are also possible benefits. I picked up 6 litres of spirits in the airport in germany for a fraction of the price they would be here, even though I was paying duty on them. If you are a heavy drinker the savings on drink can be significant too.


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