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Refraining from fapping

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,022 ✭✭✭jamesbere


    My advice don't self diagnose, Better off going to your doctor. When it comes to anything to do with your penis better off getting it checked out.

    A penis is for life not just for....ah christmas :pac: sounded better in my head :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,687 ✭✭✭✭Penny Tration


    Yeh maybe i should. Have come across a condition known as Sclerosing Lymphangitis on in the internet which seems to resemble what im experiencing. Anyone else had this?

    Honestly, you could type your symptoms into Google and be told you have ovarian cancer mate, just go to your doctor. He's probably seen more penises than a prostitute and won't be phased. Don't go risking your health just because you're embarrassed!

    As for your original question about getting erections and thinking about sex - it's normal. You haven't masturbated in a week so you're probably getting aroused and thinking about sex more than usual because you're basically gagging for it!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 48 walkingmuch


    Yeh thanks i will go to doctor i think. I am gagging for it lol this is the longest in years ive gone without wa#@ing even have an erection while writing this. Need to get it sorted soon or ill explode, everything i see or do has a sexual conotation at moment.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,739 ✭✭✭✭Peregrinus


    Yeh thanks i will go to doctor i think. I am gagging for it lol this is the longest in years ive gone without wa#@ing even have an erection while writing this . . .
    TMI, I think.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 48 walkingmuch


    Lol sorry cant help it at moment 😂


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 436 ✭✭Old Jakey


    Hi.

    I have gone a week today without ****, because my penis was very sensitive last week and i decided to give it a break for a couple of weeks to see if it gets better. The problem is i cannot stop getting erections and thinking about sex. Anyone else experience this? So frustrated and any tips welcome!

    Go out and get the real thing.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,687 ✭✭✭✭Penny Tration


    Old Jakey wrote: »
    Go out and get the real thing.

    Ignoring that something could potentially be wrong with his dick? Smart advice


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 436 ✭✭Old Jakey


    Ignoring that something could potentially be wrong with his dick? Smart advice

    There's nothing wrong his dick, he's got the horn and that should motivate him to go out and meet some girls.


  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 42,515 CMod ✭✭✭✭ancapailldorcha


    Can we try and raise the standard of posting please?

    The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the LORD your God.

    Leviticus 19:34



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 48 walkingmuch


    Its more than that it is actually a sensitivity of the penis which has resulted in my having to refrain from **** to help it heal. It does seem to be getting a bit better but dont want to aggrevate it again so ill see how i go for another few days. And to old jakey going and meeting some GIRLS definately wont help. Not at all. Its just crazy how much it takes over everything when you dont do it for a while....


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,823 ✭✭✭✭keane2097


    Not particularly no. And the link you provided is not a great one. Firstly it is an opinion piece, not a science journal. Secondly any assumptions based on the article make the correlation - causation error. Though the article itself WARNS about this when it says there is no reason currently to suggest that masturbation or porn were the cause of any differences in the brains of those people.

    So the link you provided actually tells us nothing at all really. And I always recommend caution with articles like this one that say things like "A new study has found" without citing or naming the study.

    As with everything though - and the article acknowledges this indirectly too - the issue we face in society is not things like alcohol, porn, drugs, computer games, soap operas, reality TV, gambling and so forth. But with addiction. And as I said numerous times in the thread - if someone is engaging with masturbation and/or porn to an unhealthy degree then THOSE people will genuinely see benefits from refraining.

    It is more the idea that the average person - engaging with these things at an average level - are going to see any real world benefits that I find suspect and dubious. Especially when supported by testimonials and cult speak.



    Again this _might_ be true of extreme cases - but I doubt it is for the average joe. And even then I highlight _might_ because I am unconvinced. It would be like telling me that a person constantly rewarding their hunger with quick-hit ready meals - will find no interest in a well cooked 4 course restaurant meal. Yet in reality it is rare to find indulging in cheap alternatives puts people off seeking or engaging or enjoying the real deal.



    I wonder if this is worth discussing with a GP. Because recovery times for the average male between orgasms are generally not that long. Assuming some number of hours between when you indulge - and when you go through the complete mating dance of a night out on the town - before then ending up in a sexual situation - you should generally be well recovered by then. And in fact recovery times have been shown to be faster when a mate other than the one you orgasmed with previously are involved.

    So it is quite possible there are other issues at play with you here - which might come to light with a GP visit or two - which you are choosing to blame porn or masturbation for - when in fact it might have nothing to do with it at all or - alternatively - porn and masturbation are merely exacerbating some other issue you already have.



    I am seeing two things here worth questioning.

    Firstly - where did you get the idea masturbation or orgasm reduces testosterone in the system? Perhaps have a read of Jiang M, et al -"A research on the relationship between ejaculation and serum testosterone level in men" - J Zhejiang Univ Sci. (2003). While "A July 2010 "Psychology Today" article concedes that testosterone levels may rise during masturbation. However, the article suggests that ejaculation does not significantly affect testosterone levels: testosterone levels may rise slightly during sexual activity, which includes masturbation, and levels drop back down to normal levels afterward."

    Secondly - by what means are you linking testosterone to confidence? It is a regulator of sexual desire / libido but that is not directly a relation to confidence.



    Neither part of this description fits me or my posts however - if you had read them you would note. I have not "instantly dismissed" anything - nor have I been "unwilling to try".

    But the two descriptions do heavily fit into the cult narrative people perpetuating the "challenge" fall too readily into even when it does not apply. So lets watch for that - and I am sure we are all keen to see if your next reply to me replies to my content - or dismisses the content and makes other such cult speak comments about me personally.



    Perhaps it says something about YOU however that you need to view a person as a means to a sexual end - in order for you to find any motivation or "internal drive" to interact with them. As such I repeat my earlier suggestion that maybe the issue is with YOU and not with masturbation or porn.

    I - for example - see people as an end in and of themselves. I engage with them - enjoy their company - wish to make them happy and laugh and enjoy my company - all for the simple reason that I engage with them as _PEOPLE_ and not merely as walking genitalia existing for my physical pleasure.



    Except - as I have shown - the link supports no such claim _at all_.



    Great - well here is a truthful conclusion for you. There is currently no evidence offered here that the average person will see any significant benefit from it at all - certainly not in the single link you have provided - and that any noticeable benefits from abstinence are likely only observed by people who were engaging with the practice to an unhealthy degree already.

    As such the "validity" of the movement as a whole is somewhere between dubious and mis-leading.

    Creepy thread, but this is a great post.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 48 walkingmuch


    None the wiser now.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14 sserdda


    Je5us , I thought faping was using one of those vapor cigarettes. I couldnt understand why there were so many posts for something as boring.

    Your never to old to learn something.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,687 ✭✭✭✭Penny Tration


    sserdda wrote: »
    Je5us , I thought faping was using one of those vapor cigarettes. I couldnt understand why there were so many posts for something as boring.

    Your never to old to learn something.

    That's "vaping." :)

    Vaping sounds like vay-ping.

    Fapping doesn't have the ay sound in the pronunciation


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 6,310 Mod ✭✭✭✭mzungu


    sserdda wrote: »
    Je5us , I thought faping was using one of those vapor cigarettes. I couldnt understand why there were so many posts for something as boring.

    Your never to old to learn something.

    Maybe its a new way to read the entire thread. Replace 'fapping' with 'vaping' and see how bizarre the posts become.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 48 walkingmuch


    Think im going to try in couple of minutes.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,291 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    walking much, eh… we really don't need to be reading about your onanistic exploits so no more please.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 48 walkingmuch


    Thats a big word.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 255 ✭✭mattP


    I don't think I could last a month at all! I didn't fap in the last few days and was basically walking around with a horn 80% of the time, so there was a lot of sitting down/reluctant standing and holding stuff in front of me....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,554 ✭✭✭Pat Mustard


    Thats a big word.

    Mod:

    Please don't post in this thread again.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,909 ✭✭✭Gwynplaine


    mattP wrote: »
    I don't think I could last a month at all! I didn't fap in the last few days and was basically walking around with a horn 80% of the time, so there was a lot of sitting down/reluctant standing and holding stuff in front of me....

    I'd be buckled over with pain after 4 or 5 days. Severe case of the blueballs.


  • Posts: 8,317 ✭✭✭ Avalynn Sweet Quarterfinal


    Tried this for the last four and a half weeks. Without going into the gory details I was like a lunatic the last few days. Something akin to a volcano waiting to erupt.

    I read about fapstinence and also about it being a sin (lustful thoughts) but I still caved in. I wasn't sleeping and really couldn't think of anything else!! The slightest glimpse of the female form had me like a pubescent teenager! Bloody music videos these days are basically softcore porn I've noticed. It didn't help that the first time in ages I went to read a newspaper (to try and take my mind off of it ironically) that they had the finalists of Bikini Ireland 2015 on the third page!! :D

    Couldn't help it lads....I was seeing sex everywhere! Now I'm actually able to function again. Fair play to the guys who can go months without doing it.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1 Zahnpasta


    Tried this for the last four and a half weeks. Without going into the gory details I was like a lunatic the last few days. Something akin to a volcano waiting to erupt.

    I read about fapstinence and also about it being a sin (lustful thoughts) but I still caved in. I wasn't sleeping and really couldn't think of anything else!! The slightest glimpse of the female form had me like a pubescent teenager! Bloody music videos these days are basically softcore porn I've noticed. It didn't help that the first time in ages I went to read a newspaper (to try and take my mind off of it ironically) that they had the finalists of Bikini Ireland 2015 on the third page!! :D

    Couldn't help it lads....I was seeing sex everywhere! Now I'm actually able to function again. Fair play to the guys who can go months without doing it.

    Did you notice any benefits?


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