How were you disciplined as a kid?

MilesMorales1 · 18-09-2015 01:42PM #1

How were you disciplined as a child? What years did you grow up in, etc?

I was born in the early 90s, I regularly got the belt, fists, being locked outside over night by my dad, etc. Still support physical punishment to a certain extent though.

Kimbot · 18-09-2015 01:43PM

The punishment always reflected the crime, many a wooden spoon or sweeping brush was broken in our house haha

Brian from Bray · 18-09-2015 01:44PM

That sounds a bit over the top Op. I'm certainly glad I didn't have a dad like yours.

Captain Flaps · 18-09-2015 01:47PM

Was a 'child' from '88 to '00 (birth to 12yo). Was never 'hit' per se but when I was younger I had to hold my hand out for a slap if I'd been bold, it was effectively a high five so was more of a symbolic gesture than a painful punishment. General punishment consisted of a verbal bollicking and occasionally being sent to my room or having playstation rights rescinded but both my brother and I were reasonably well behaved so a stern word was usually enough.

I think something like that is fine but I can't understand people who defend lamping a kid to actually cause pain, and I would intervene if I saw a parent violently disciplining a child in public.

In my own world view your Dad physically and emotionally abused you but everyone's interpretation of events is different.

frostyjacks · 18-09-2015 01:48PM

Corporeal punishment, but only if I deserved it. Did me no harm, if more kids were introduced to the business end of a leather belt the country would be a much better place.

The_Morrigan · 18-09-2015 01:48PM

Child of the 80's here.
Neither of my parents ever resorted to physical discipline - the threat of the wooden spoon was enough, or that look only a mother can make - I always felt the worst when my father told me he was disappointed in my behaviour.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 18-09-2015 01:50PM

I was born in the mid 40s. My mother did most of the disciplining but it was mild. Dad would threaten us with being put in the shed at night if we were messing in bed at night but never did so. I suppose we got the odd slap on the back of the knees from mother when we were kids but nothing much.
Dad was famous for "Now, now lads" and my aunts used to say "I hear he's beating them with a feather again". A gentle man.

Brian from Bray · 18-09-2015 01:50PM

The_Morrigan wrote: »

Child of the 80's here.
Neither of my parents ever resorted to physical discipline - the threat of the wooden spoon was enough, or that look only a mother can make - I always felt the worst when my father told me he was disappointed in my behaviour.

That's nearly worse than any beating tbh when they say that.

Drexel · 18-09-2015 01:50PM

Smacked on the back of the legs with a skinny bendy stick from outside. Was like a whip!

Lucena · 18-09-2015 01:51PM

OP, you wouldn't hit an adult, would you?

So why is hitting a child ok?

The_Morrigan · 18-09-2015 01:51PM

Brian from Bray wrote: »

That's nearly worse than any beating tbh when they say that.

Yup - it killed me (metaphorically of course)

Brian from Bray · 18-09-2015 01:52PM

Finnegan Drab Geek wrote: »

I was born in the mid 40s. My mother did most of the disciplining but it was mild. Dad would threaten us with being put in the shed at night if we were messing in bed at night but never did so. I suppose we got the odd slap on the back of the knees from mother when we were kids but nothing much.
Dad was famous for "Now, now lads" and my aunts used to say "I hear he's beating them with a feather again". A gentle man.

That's a good one :pac:

Captain Flaps · 18-09-2015 01:52PM

frostyjacks wrote: »

if more kids were introduced to the business end of a leather belt the country would be a much better place.

I disagree, I've seen plenty of little sh*ts get a proper slap and all that happens is they grow up into big sh*ts who do the same to their kids. Tough Love parenting doesn't need to resort to violence, it's like everything else in life... If you have to resort to attacking your opponent, you've lost the argument.

MilesMorales1 · 18-09-2015 01:53PM

Lucena wrote: »

OP, you wouldn't hit an adult, would you?

So why is hitting a child ok?

I think a slap on the arse or a tap with the wooden spoon doesn't hurt. Kids don't respond to the same reasoning as adults, and kids these days get away with stuff I wouldn't have dared to even try, cos they know they can't be disciplined efficiently.

Mesrine65 · 18-09-2015 01:54PM

Born in '65 to a working class, inner city Dublin family.

My father was the disciplinarian for the my brother & I, my mother disciplined my sister.

Da was a boxing champion in the 50's & had 2 pairs of old leather boxing gloves hanging on a nail in the shed.

Discipline for misdeeds was a bout of fisticuffs in the back garden.

I was 15 years old when I first put him on his back...he took off the gloves, I shít myself & he told me to get into the kitchen.

He slowly, without words made a cup of tea, lit a smoke & sat down at the kitchen table facing me & said, "from now on we talk, I can teach you no more."

For years I thought the fúcker was just beating on me...I learnt a lot from him, I loved my da!

Kimbot · 18-09-2015 01:54PM

MilesMorales1 wrote: »

I think a slap on the arse or a tap with the wooden spoon doesn't hurt. Kids don't respond to the same reasoning as adults, and kids these days get away with stuff I wouldn't have dared to even try, cos they know they can't be disciplined efficiently.

Have to agree there, about 15 years ago when I hit the 18+ mark the things I seen 15 year olds do because the Guards couldnt arrest them and they knew it was shocking.

sjb25 · 18-09-2015 01:55PM

Got a few belts for myself did me no harm in fairness made me think twice before I did it again more so than sitting me down and explaining what I did wrong bulsh1t that people seem to do these days anyway

kylith · 18-09-2015 01:55PM

The Wooden Spoon.

shamrock55 · 18-09-2015 01:56PM

80's child, the threat of a hiding or wooden spoon was enough, but you need to know what both felt like first, also my dad chasing me up the stairs with him shouting and banging each step as he went behind me always frightened me but that was always just a scare tactic but it worked id stay quiet as a mouse in my room then:D

SillyBeans · 18-09-2015 01:57PM

I was an awesome little kid, didn't ever really need to be disciplined often. If I did, it was just an "I expected better from you" that did the job. I never have and never will support slapping/smacking/hurting a child, or anyone. It seems to me to be pure laziness. I've turned out perfectly well without being physically disciplined.

Sunnyisland · 18-09-2015 01:58PM

Born in the 60,s
Mother was the boss in the house,
Wooden spoon,belt,shoes,put to bed very early,

I remember my mother threw a shoe at my sister, my sister ducked, shoe went through window and my sister got punished more for ducking.

Love my parents both,they did what they could and to there best of there ability for us as a family.

zl1whqvjs75cdy · 18-09-2015 01:58PM

Mesrine65 wrote: »

Born in '65 to a working class, inner city Dublin family.

My father was the disciplinarian for the my brother & I, my mother disciplined my sister.

Da was a boxing champion in the 50's & had 2 pairs of old leather boxing gloves hanging on a nail in the shed.

Discipline for misdeeds was a bout of fisticuffs in the back garden.

I was 15 years old when I first put him on his back...he took off the gloves, I shít myself & he told me to get into the kitchen.

He slowly, without words made a cup of tea, lit a smoke & sat down at the kitchen table facing me & said, "from now on we talk, I can teach you no more."

For years I thought the fúcker was just beating on me...I learnt a lot from him, I loved my da!

So when he knew you were strong enough to kick the ****e out of him he stopped hitting you? Seems fair.

Lucena · 18-09-2015 01:59PM

sjb25 wrote: »

Got a few belts for myself did me no harm in fairness made me think twice before I did it again more so than sitting me down and explaining what I did wrong bulsh1t that people seem to do these days anyway

By the same reasoning I could kick you in the balls now, and that'd be ok because you won't feel it in twenty years time?

Iseedeadpixels · 18-09-2015 02:01PM

Pretty much like the OP but never got locked out, stopped when I was a teen when I went to the Garda, my Mother told myself and my father to ignore each other and if I was in trouble it would be up to her, worked a treat but years of not speaking to my Father was the only downside.

sjb25 · 18-09-2015 02:02PM

Lucena wrote: »

By the same reasoning I could kick you in the balls now, and that'd be ok because you won't feel it in twenty years time?

I'd rather if you didn't

See it works

By the way I don't hit mine but it did me no harm really like

Miaireland · 18-09-2015 02:05PM

The_Morrigan wrote: »

Child of the 80's here.
Neither of my parents ever resorted to physical discipline - the threat of the wooden spoon was enough, or that look only a mother can make - I always felt the worst when my father told me he was disappointed in my behaviour.

You and I must have the same parents. I was going to type almost the exact same post.

Polo_Cluvie · 18-09-2015 02:05PM

Clip around the ear from a tough kilkenny woman. If the ole lad was called into the fray we were in big trouble ha ha. Didn't do us any harm but in saying I've never hit my own kids. Born early 70s

18-09-2015 02:08PM

MilesMorales1 wrote: »

I was born in the early 90s, I regularly got the belt, fists, being locked outside over night by my dad, etc. Still support physical punishment to a certain extent though.

Jesus.

Christ.

That's fairly shocking. A belt and fists? In the 90s? Being locked out?

I'm afraid your Dad needs a bit of a talking to.

Was born in the 70s. Was given out to a few times. The usual threat was that if I continued to arse around in school I would be sent to boarding school...but knew it was idle cos I was pretty much doted on.

Darkglasses · 18-09-2015 02:10PM

Never had any hitting or slapping at my house, seems mad to me.

Just the usual pepper spray and rubber bullets.

Sunnyisland · 18-09-2015 02:12PM

Lucena wrote: »

By the same reasoning I could kick you in the balls now, and that'd be ok because you won't feel it in twenty years time?

I don't think that's the same reasoning at all, I think it's fair to say that most people speaking here are on about a few slaps of a wooden spoon, or shoe or belt or maybe a clip around the ear, getting a kick in the balls is taking it a bit extreme don't you think ? And anything other than above would be abuse of a child,I don't think me or my siblings were abused as children by our parents.

MarkAnthony · 18-09-2015 02:13PM

I was smacked and frequently trotted out the line never did me any harm. The someone said (here I think). It made you think smacking was acceptable, bit of an epiphany for me.

That said the odd tap in frustration after repeated warnings is nothing to get one's knickers in a twist over. That said as a semi-regular resort I think it reflects badly on parenting skills.

How were you disciplined as a kid?

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