"we are going to do something different" - suggestions!

amdublin · 04-09-2015 07:58AM

sm213 wrote: »

My dress was just over 100 euro that's different

Yeah its funny the price of wedding dresses. I've seen beautiful dresses in the likes of Tk maxx, monsoon and Debenhams in around the 100/200 (even less in tk). It seems mad to pay thousands(!!) on a dress that is worn once.

eviltwin · 04-09-2015 08:49AM

I paid 80 for my dress, it was bought online, we had a cake but it was more like a large birthday cake. Wedding cakes look lovely but I don't think they taste nice, all that icing....we spent the night before together in our own house and got ready together. He'd seen the dress when I bought it too which is unusual. I think just be yourselves, if we'd gone traditional it would have raised eyebrows, we're not like that in reality so seems silly to fake it for the wedding.

sm213 · 04-09-2015 10:41AM

I have two kids so for me a grand or two would be better spent on them.
My dress is fab to me and that's really all that matters. I got mine online too custom size everything and its actually the one I wanted anyway so was a great surprise when I saw the price

My shoes were 15 in debenhams sale hehe

I just wanted a tiered Victoria sponge. Not going to pay over the odds.
Thinking of trays of chocolate biscuit cake I can do myself, transport easily and tastes great.
We're not going out to of our way to be different though. Just following the path of least resistance financially I think.
It's working out quite well.

fits · 04-09-2015 11:02AM

You are right not to spend on the dress if you can get away with it. That's the one cost I regret. Very wasteful of money.

Princess Peach · 04-09-2015 11:03AM

The cake is very important to me! I booked the venue and the celebrant, and then straight away the cake :pac: I love cake, don't care if nobody else eats it but me!

I won't be wearing a wedding gown anyway, wouldn't feel myself! Probably get an outfit with a mix of white and colours

amdublin · 04-09-2015 11:06AM

Princess Peach wrote: »

The cake is very important to me! I booked the venue and the celebrant, and then straight away the cake :pac: I love cake, don't care if nobody else eats it but me!

I won't be wearing a wedding gown anyway, wouldn't feel myself! Probably get an outfit with a mix of white and colours

Sounds lovely! Be sure to put a pic in the thread of picture of your wedding/wedding dress

BabysCoffee · 04-09-2015 03:26PM

amdublin wrote: »

Yeah its funny the price of wedding dresses. I've seen beautiful dresses in the likes of Tk maxx, monsoon and Debenhams in around the 100/200 (even less in tk). It seems mad to pay thousands(!!) on a dress that is worn once.

I see your point (I even wore one of these "value" dresses) but I assume they are worlds apart from a designer dress, in terms of quality of fabric, volume of fabric and time and energy put in to design and actual construction. That is why they cost so much more.

amdublin · 04-09-2015 08:03PM

BabysCoffee wrote: »

I see your point (I even wore one of these "value" dresses) but I assume they are worlds apart from a designer dress, in terms of quality of fabric, volume of fabric and time and energy put in to design and actual construction. That is why they cost so much more.

Very very true! I still could not spend thousands on a coat to wear every day let alone a dress for one day.

greenfrogs · 09-09-2015 12:18AM

Like someone mentioned above good food is a key component. It's so disappointing to be waiting all day for a meal and it's barely edible when it comes. I went to a wedding like this recently. The starter was cold, the soup was like water, the beef was tough and the veg wasn't even nice. I saw later the bride had done a review of the hotel gushing that the food was gorgeous. Clearly guests aren't going to be honest when telling the couple that the music, food was great. For that reason be careful of whose advise you take on choosing music or food. I think they are two of the key comments to a great wedding. By 11 I was starving and the evening food wasn't good either. So find people who have gone to a wedding at the hotel you are thinking about and ask them for their honest opinion.

amdublin · 09-09-2015 08:30AM

I think food is a really important factor. I'd love to see people doing something different and have earlier meals or later masses
I. E. Less time hanging around before dinner for guests.
Do you really need 2 hours of photographs?

Alternatively if there is going to be the big gap for your guests full it with substantial food (but not too substantial! ) e.g. finger sandwiches

lazygal · 09-09-2015 10:23AM

Food was a big thing for us. We made sure canapes were served as soon as the ceremony was over, so people could nibble away during the drinks reception. We went for a four course option, because we figured with the choices on some course everyone would be happy, and then decided to go for more evening food than was recommended, because I love sausages and sangers at a wedding! I have been that starving guest arriving at a venue only to wait hours for a meal and then have the speeches before the meal. I have also been to a couple of venues that seem to be very, very popular for weddings and read reviews where the couples gushed about the food. I know our wedding food was quite 'standard' in terms of our choices but people mentioned the next day they liked it so I'm sure everything was fine!
We had a ceremony and reception all in one venue, where most guests could get to it by public transport or share lifts, and this was really appreciated. That and a free bar and good band are all people mentioned afterwards!

John Mason · 09-09-2015 10:41AM

Our wedding was somewhat different.

Got married in a pub at 5pm.
Dinner at 6pm
No bridesmaids
No white dress
the reading was about 2 dinosaurs in love
walked down the aisle to Darth Vaders theme tune.
No photographer
No DJ just a rock band
No favours
Flowers were made from buttons
Our guests had 4 choices of starter, main and dessert

Neyite · 09-09-2015 10:43AM

Can you pm me the story of the dinosaurs John Mason? Our house is dinosaur mad at the moment!

Princess Peach · 09-09-2015 11:09AM

Oooh I've been looking at a lot of things lately about making my bouquet out of buttons, I love them!

John Mason · 09-09-2015 01:28PM

Neyite wrote: »

Can you pm me the story of the dinosaurs John Mason? Our house is dinosaur mad at the moment!

sent

Milly33 · 09-09-2015 01:47PM

Defo get the dress and the cake. We didn't even get time to taste the cake it was so run here to do this and that....
Completely over-rated spending millions on it, although I will say my sis made ours and she put lots of effort into having something for everyone and it was fantastic..

Dress ditto went half way and got one made that I can get made into something else but did not spend millions..
Photographer is defo one thing unless you really want one don't bother.. We have so many pictures from everyone which is great as they got lots of different ones.. Get some cards made up to say to people to post their photos on yer site or something or to make sure and send them onto you later...

Milly33 · 09-09-2015 01:49PM

sister made of tray of kinda rocky road but a little nicer and they were all gone before the cakes

09-09-2015 04:22PM

Princess Peach wrote: »

Oooh I've been looking at a lot of things lately about making my bouquet out of buttons, I love them!

Or using old brooches and bits of jewellery that have some sentimental value, like Nanas broken string of pearls.

Tarzana2 · 09-09-2015 04:31PM

Milly33 wrote: »

sister made of tray of kinda rocky road but a little nicer and they were all gone before the cakes

The rocky road was a huge hit at my sister's wedding too! My mother made it and included ginger nuts, which might not have gone done well with every wedding crowd, being an acquired taste, but this particular wedding seemed to love it!

Milly33 · 09-09-2015 04:55PM

I was amazed to see that this was eaten more than the cake. I think aswell because it is chopped up already it is easier to take... Ginger nuts sounds interesting....

There are some lovely bouquets you can make from paper too... There were some up somewhere recently and they used music sheets to make the flowers for the bouquet which was quite nice...

Tarzana2 · 09-09-2015 05:47PM

Milly33 wrote: »

There are some lovely bouquets you can make from paper too... There were some up somewhere recently and they used music sheets to make the flowers for the bouquet which was quite nice...

My sister had fake flower bouquets. They were lovely and the nice thing is, she still has them now. She has her bouquet and the two bridesmaid bouquets in a vase on her kitchen table.

Paper bouquets sound lovely.

pooch90 · 09-09-2015 08:18PM

The alternative bouquets are lovely. I made mine out of buttons, word of warning,its a hell of a lot of work and can hurt your hands,scratches etc when making so give yourself a few weeks recovery before big day. I was going to make paper bouquets for BMs, decided not to and made them out of ivory beads instead. Was a great decision in the end. I made the centrepieces and buttonholes out of paper flowers instead. The buttonholes disintegrated when they got wet,they lasted just long enough for the photos. Now I did love them but was disappointed husbands one didn't survive.
I still have my bouquet,a bridesmaid one and the one I made for throwing. Lovely momentos. Also my bouquet was so colourful that it looked fabulous in photos and I had a button from all the important people in our lives and my dads wedding ring (he has died) so it was very personal and I'll have it forever.

amdublin · 09-09-2015 08:31PM

I've seen some lovely crocheted bouquets recently

ChewChew · 09-09-2015 08:40PM

John Mason wrote: »

Our wedding was somewhat different.

Got married in a pub at 5pm.
Dinner at 6pm
No bridesmaids
No white dress
the reading was about 2 dinosaurs in love
walked down the aisle to Darth Vaders theme tune.
No photographer
No DJ just a rock band
No favours
Flowers were made from buttons
Our guests had 4 choices of starter, main and dessert

I'm not gone on fresh flowers so I want a button/brooch bouquet for my wedding

fits · 09-09-2015 08:47PM

I actually wasnt pushed about the cake at all, but husband was. His mum made it and it actually was really lovely and nice to have. And so so tasty. Was a traditional fruit cake and she made biscuit cake as well. I like the fruit cakes though.

"we are going to do something different" - suggestions!

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