Life Living at home

Lusocu · 07-08-2015 02:20PM

magicmushroom wrote: »

Ah come on, that's bad form - I could never let my Mum do all of that for me and be proud of it - to not even make your bed is pretty god damn lazy!
She must have the patience of a saint the poor woman.

I'm not proud of it, I'm not ashamed of it neither. She does all the washing in the house so the bed making goes along with it. I'm out at work all day so it's done when I'm gone. It is what it is.

Birneybau · 07-08-2015 02:23PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

He knows how to sponge.

Probably not himself though, mother washes him.

DEFTLEFTHAND · 07-08-2015 02:26PM

Lusocu wrote: »

I'm a 34 year old male and I've never moved out of home. It's fantastic. I have all meals made, I don't lift a finger around the house, I don't even make my bed. All for 60 euro a week. I've saved a fortune and I'll move out when the time is right for me. I've always had girlfriend's who've had their own places. When I settle down I'll have a very small mortgage if any for all my years of luxury. That's the way to do it if you get on well enough at home with family.

You can move them out to a retirement home when the time comes for you to take a bride.

Lusocu · 07-08-2015 02:34PM

Birneybau wrote: »

And absolutely no life skills. And a substitute mother who will come to resent you.

I think you're over rating these life skills. I'll be able to deal with whatever I have to as it comes, despite missing on whatever life skills you are referring to.

I might not have a substitute mother. When the situation changes I'll adapt. Chores would be divided evenly on ability and time, working hours, DIY tasks ironing or whatever.

Lusocu · 07-08-2015 02:38PM

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

You can move them out to a retirement home when the time comes for you to take a bride.

The thought had crossed my mind lol. Or I could just move the wife in here.

Akrasia · 07-08-2015 02:55PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

He knows how to sponge.

And he's probably awesome at call of duty

kylith · 07-08-2015 02:58PM

Lusocu wrote: »

I think you're over rating these life skills. I'll be able to deal with whatever I have to as it comes, despite missing on whatever life skills you are referring to.

I might not have a substitute mother. When the situation changes I'll adapt. Chores would be divided evenly on ability and time, working hours, DIY tasks ironing or whatever.

what ability? Can you work a washing machine, dryer, dishwasher, iron, hoover, mop, toilet brush? Can you cook a meal (that's not out of a packet)? Can you cook several different meals? Otherwise the future Mrs. is going to do her nut teaching a middle aged man stuff he should have learned when he was 19.

Lusocu · 07-08-2015 03:00PM

Akrasia wrote: »

And he's probably awesome at call of duty

I sense resentment for my choice in life. Why is this? Everyone has freewill to make their own decisions. I'm not less than because of it. In fact I'm minted and when I move out I'll have no mortgage or ever have to pay rent. Sure there are some sacrifices that comes with living at home. But I weighed up the pros and cons and my choice has worked out great for me.

Akrasia · 07-08-2015 03:01PM

A few years ago my wife was desperate to buy a house and she wanted us to move back into her mothers house so we could save money.

I refused, I don't think owning a house would be worth the stress of moving back into that kind of environment.

If we had moved in there would have been Me, My Wife, our young 3 kids, my Mother in law and 4 brothers in law aged 12 18 20 and 24

They're grand to visit, but 6 adults and 4 kids in one house would be mental.

magicmushroom · 07-08-2015 03:02PM

Lusocu wrote: »

I sense resentment for my choice in life. Why is this? Everyone has freewill to make their own decisions. I'm not less than because of it. In fact I'm minted and when I move out I'll have no mortgage or ever have to pay rent. Sure there are some sacrifices that comes with living at home. But I weighed up the pros and cons and my choice has worked out great for me.

It's not resentment, you just came across like a bit of an idiot in your original post. 34 and you let your Mum make your bed. You don't lift a finger around the house. You should be ashamed of that, I would be.
Instead, it came across as bragging.

Green Mile · 07-08-2015 03:02PM

I say leave Lusocu alone. Sure he doesn’t conform to the norm of society but he and others around him are happy. Future wife wouldn’t be his wife if she didn’t love him so no need to criticise the guy.

Akrasia · 07-08-2015 03:03PM

Lusocu wrote: »

I sense resentment for my choice in life. Why is this? Everyone has freewill to make their own decisions. I'm not less than because of it. In fact I'm minted and when I move out I'll have no mortgage or ever have to pay rent. Sure there are some sacrifices that comes with living at home. But I weighed up the pros and cons and my choice has worked out great for me.

You're free to live your life whatever way you like

I hope you'll look after your mother when her time comes as well as she has looked after you.

Satriale · 07-08-2015 03:05PM

NachoBusiness wrote: »

Bad points: Always having to wear earphones whilst masturbating.

You'd probably be better off go into your own room!

Aisling(",) · 07-08-2015 03:05PM

I'm 24 and still at home.

I've started a permanent job two months ago but I wouldn't be able to live on my wages if I wasn't at home because I'm at the very bottom of the ladder.

When my wages go up I'll be trying to get out but now I'd be paying 2/3 of my wages on rent and not have any social life,car or hobbies.

It seems to be more acceptable in the current climate for people to be living at home at an older age.I only know one or two people my age who have flown the coop.

petes · 07-08-2015 03:05PM

Lusocu wrote: »

I sense resentment for my choice in life. Why is this? Everyone has freewill to make their own decisions. I'm not less than because of it. In fact I'm minted and when I move out I'll have no mortgage or ever have to pay rent. Sure there are some sacrifices that comes with living at home. But I weighed up the pros and cons and my choice has worked out great for me.

Bitty!

Lusocu · 07-08-2015 03:09PM

kylith wrote: »

what ability? Can you work a washing machine, dryer, dishwasher, iron, hoover, mop, toilet brush? Can you cook a meal (that's not out of a packet)? Can you cook several different meals? Otherwise the future Mrs. is going to do her nut teaching a middle aged man.

Fair comments, but I can do all of those. I'm a good cook, I like trying out recipes from cook books and tv shows, I can use all kitchen appliances and I'm capable of cleaning. I can imagine for a % of young people moving out of home these might seem like a learning curve. One just has to adapt to new circumstances.

NachoBusiness · 07-08-2015 03:28PM

Satriale wrote: »

You'd probably be better off go into your own room!

Would have been ideal for sure but back then, the sitting room was the only room in the house where you could watch the ten minute Playboy freeview.

Nucular Arms · 07-08-2015 03:34PM

Lusocu wrote: »

Fair comments, but I can do all of those. I'm a good cook, I like trying out recipes from cook books and tv shows, I can use all kitchen appliances and I'm capable of cleaning. I can imagine for a % of young people moving out of home these might seem like a learning curve. One just has to adapt to new circumstances.

Forget about the skills etc, I wouldn't be able to look at myself in the mirror.

Lusocu · 07-08-2015 03:34PM

magicmushroom wrote: »

It's not resentment, you just came across like a bit of an idiot in your original post. 34 and you let your Mum make your bed. You don't lift a finger around the house. You should be ashamed of that, I would be.
Instead, it came across as bragging.

I was bragging. So shoot me. I'm very happy with how things are. It doesn't mean I don't love and respect my parents and care for them when they need it. Me being very looked after and being a loving and caring son aren't mutually exclusive.

Lusocu · 07-08-2015 03:42PM

Nucular Arms wrote: »

Forget about the skills etc, I wouldn't be able to look at myself in the mirror.

I don't think it devaluates my worth as a human being that I'd go as far as not looking in the mirror.

waraf · 07-08-2015 03:51PM

Lusocu wrote: »

I was bragging. So shoot me. I'm very happy with how things are. It doesn't mean I don't love and respect my parents and care for them when they need it. Me being very looked after and being a loving and caring son aren't mutually exclusive.

What about if your parents want to go out though? Will you have to pay your babysitter or will they?

Lusocu · 07-08-2015 03:56PM

waraf wrote: »

What about if you're parents want to go out though? Will you have to pay your babysitter or will they?

Half and half

Nucular Arms · 07-08-2015 04:00PM

Lusocu wrote: »

I don't think it devaluates my worth as a human being that I'd go as far as not looking in the mirror.

Obviously, since you choose it for yourself. It would certainly devalue my own sense of self but probably because I have established my sense of self worth on my achievements and my ability to look after myself.

You know, like a grown up?

You can't really be blamed I suppose though. Your parents clearly raised you in such a way that you view it as perfectly fine so who am I to argue?

I wonder also if someone raised as you have been will be so considerate toward any potential children of your own?

Corvo · 07-08-2015 04:16PM

Ah lads, ye can't beat the aul magic laundry basket

In goes the dirty underpants, out comes fresh Lenor ones...

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 07-08-2015 04:21PM

I loved living at home. Someone to call me in the mornings and make sure I was up on time. House clean and warm when I came home. Laundry done for me. Meals prepared.
Nothing worse than being responsible for getting yourself up on time in the mornings, coming home to the house in the same state you left it in, cold, dark, and no dinner.

When I was in college, I would come home every Friday and would call home when I was an hour away, so they had time to prepare for my arrival. Good times

boobar · 07-08-2015 04:23PM

Unless you can afford your own place, living at home is much easier on the head than sharing with degenerates that you've nothing in common with

magicmushroom · 07-08-2015 04:32PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

I loved living at home. Someone to call me in the mornings and make sure I was up on time. House clean and warm when I came home. Laundry done for me. Meals prepared.
Nothing worse than being responsible for getting yourself up on time in the mornings, coming home to the house in the same state you left it in, cold, dark, and no dinner.

When I was in college, I would come home every Friday and would call home when I was an hour away, so they had time to prepare for my arrival. Good times

Totally agree, it's crap!
Especially when you've left the kitchen in a mess, then come home to it sitting there waiting for you when you'd totally forgotten the state it was in.
This is literally me every day lol.

Nucular Arms · 07-08-2015 04:39PM

The preponderance of spoiled little mammies boys on here is a bit of a shock to me in fairness.

You poor wee darlings! There there, you won't have to deal with the other nasty strangers in the world. Mammy will take good care of you.

And you're far too precious and delicate a little flower to have to deal with all the grotty details of washing your own clothes as well. Mammy'll do that for you.

Awwww... the nasty mean landlord wants to take some of the money you work so hard for? Don't you worry, you can stay with mammy as long as you like.

gag........

aaronjumper · 07-08-2015 04:40PM

Nucular Arms wrote: »

The preponderance of spoiled little mammies boys on here is a bit of a shock to me in fairness.

You poor wee darlings! There there, you won't have to deal with the other nasty strangers in the world. Mammy will take good care of you.

And you're far too precious and delicate a little flower to have to deal with all the grotty details of washing your own clothes as well. Mammy'll do that for you.

Awwww... the nasty mean landlord wants to take some of the money you work so hard for? Don't you worry, you can stay with mammy as long as you like.

gag........

You can't say stuff like that to me, I'm telling!

Lusocu · 07-08-2015 04:48PM

Nucular Arms wrote: »

Obviously, since you choose it for yourself. It would certainly devalue my own sense of self but probably because I have established my sense of self worth on my achievements and my ability to look after myself.

You know, like a grown up?

You can't really be blamed I suppose though. Your parents clearly raised you in such a way that you view it as perfectly fine so who am I to argue?

I wonder also if someone raised as you have been will be so considerate toward any potential children of your own?

There's no 'obviously' about it. I establish my sense of achievements on career goals, relationships, sport and hobbies. I don't pat myself on the back for forking out exorbitant sums of money to a landlord. And when I'm ready for a mortgage financially and relationshipwise I'll make that choice then. If that's what you need to do in order to feel like a grown up keep going for it.

Thank you for your pity on how I was raised and how I can't be blamed for it. Matter of fact my parents raised me very well. I worked hard for everything I've had. I've paid for my own college education entirely. Growing up I cut neighbours grass and saved pocket money for whatever I wanted. I remember in the 90's saving up for 2 and half years for the playstation 1 and I appreciated it so much.

And since you wonder, yes I would adore my children and raise them to be good people who aspire to achieve in life. It's my dream to have a family and lovely 4 bedroom house a little bit in the country with the love of a good woman.

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