Life Living at home

Jhcx

well lads of AH,

how are ye all. so anyone still living at home?. i moved back home last year. but 12 months later im regretting it. ive also just realized im at home 12 months no wonder im going crackers :pac:

so how do you deal with being back home and do you live in the culchieside? cause its a nightmare out here. anyone just want to entertain em im gone a bit mad

cruais

Jhcx wrote: »

well lads of AH,

how are ye all. so anyone still living at home?. i moved back home last year. but 12 months later im regretting it. ive also just realized im at home 12 months no wonder im going crackers :pac:

so how do you deal with being back home and do you live in the culchieside? cause its a nightmare out here. anyone just want to entertain em im gone a bit mad

read this for your entertainment ☺
http://touch.boards.ie/thread/2054967656

Jhcx

But thats like every person outside of the cities. only one thing i like on that list thats just a bit of ham. i need to move back to a city. what city do ye advice me to move to. cork would be one of my closest

Dravokivich

So... My ex girlfriend sent me a link to this thread on Facebook stating "here's one for you." Well as it so happens I have found myself back in my folks recently. With a kid in tow at that. There were personal issues between herself and I which made things difficult and uncontrollable for the kids best interest. My only option was to make sure she had no mean to impact on them. It resulted in me taking the kid and going back to the nest so to say. As it is I feel like I'm in a sort of limbo here. I've got no home as it is for my son and I. I find myself limited on a personal level because I'm sleeping in what is basically my baby sisters room. But its fine. Yeah. because this is a thread for me. Thanks like. For fu¢ks sake cop on.

Duke O Smiley

Everybody lives at home

RedXIV

Dravokivich wrote: »

So... My ex girlfriend sent me a link to this thread on Facebook stating "here's one for you." Well as it so happens I have found myself back in my folks recently. With a kid in tow at that. There were personal issues between herself and I which made things difficult and uncontrollable for the kids best interest. My only option was to make sure she had no mean to impact on them. It resulted in me taking the kid and going back to the nest so to say. As it is I feel like I'm in a sort of limbo here. I've got no home as it is for my son and I. I find myself limited on a personal level because I'm sleeping in what is basically my baby sisters room. But its fine. Yeah. because this is a thread for me. Thanks like. For fu¢ks sake cop on.

So when she reads this, from all of us here:
Bit of a bitch, aren't ya?

PandaPoo

Couldn't do it. I moved back in with my parents at the age of 22, having lived on my own for about 5 years. They treated me like a child.

I was engaged at the time, and had lived with my fiance but the lease was up and we both moved home while we waited to get the keys to our house.

I wasn't allowed out past 10pm, my dad was convinced I'd be murdered. It was absolute torture. Thankfully it only lasted 3 months, or thereabouts. Got married and moved into our house a few days later.

The_Valeyard

PandaPoo wrote: »

Couldn't do it. I moved back in with my parents at the age of 22, having lived on my own for about 5 years. They treated me like a child.

I was engaged at the time, and had lived with my fiance but the lease was up and we both moved home while we waited to get the keys to our house.

I wasn't allowed out past 10pm, my dad was convinced I'd be murdered. It was absolute torture. Thankfully it only lasted 3 months, or thereabouts. Got married and moved into our house a few days later.

Been there. Moved home for three months while waiting to move into new house. Had lived with herself for 5 years.

Came home from night out at 4am, whole house up in arms that I could have been killed, etc

Was basically told, the Old "my house my rules" mantra.


Did get washing and ironing done for free. And dinners!!!

Reiver

Back for a month during the summer. Basically doing all the odd jobs, painting, weeding, heavy lifting. Free rent and dinners is great but I'm just glad once September comes, I'm back to work. Lucky mine don't make a fuss of me coming home late but I think visits of 1-2 weeks will be the norm from now on!

Diamond Doll

RedXIV wrote: »

So when she reads this, from all of us here:
Bit of a bitch, aren't ya?

*raises hand* Bitchy ex here.

Actually it wasn't sent in a bitchy way.

Yes my ex and I have found ourselves in difficult circumstances (mostly my fault.) However I have been making every effort to make our separation (still a WIP, as we both still have a lease on the same house) as smooth as possible for the sake of our child.

I often send him links with information on custody, mediation etc for helpful information for both of us, as I want us to be working on the same side towards what's best for our son. I glanced at the title of the thread, didn't read it, and mailed it on to my ex as I realise it's very difficult for him to be back living at home for the foreseeable future - personally I'd hate it. I just thought it might be somewhere for him to vent or to get good advice, I dunno, it was a split second copy and paste just in case he'd find some good info here, or even just empathy for others in similar circumstances.

I can totally see how he took it up in a mean-spirited way, but I have apologised sincerely to him for this after seeing his post above. I have absolutely NO reason to create any further bitterness between us, none whatsoever, I've being doing all I can to build bridges with him.

There are two sides to every story. Obviously this is a sensitive and difficult time for all parties involved.

Hopefully we can leave it at that - no point turning this thread into a relationship counselling session!

NachoBusiness

Ah, I remember living at home. It had it's good points and bad points.

Good points: My Dad used to bring home free newspapers and unopened airline food (ssssh, don't tell Aer Lingus).

Bad points: Always having to wear earphones whilst masturbating.

PLL

We moved in with my oh parents for 3 months last summer to save a bit of money as we were moving from home town to a city. We had a 2 year old at the time. It was grand enough, I get on with them but naturally I think we all started to irritate each other. We are all very independent and opinionated.

In the future it might be a case of having to move in with them again for maybe 6 months to save some money to buy a house there. If there is a means to an end then that's grand but out of choice never. Myself and my oh both left home at 18.

kylith

If I moved back home either me or my mother would be dead and buried under the patio inside 2 weeks. She keeps trying to control my life as it is and that's just on FB, she'd be absolute hell to actually live with.

steddyeddy

This little piggy wrote: »

*raises hand* Bitchy ex here.

Actually it wasn't sent in a bitchy way.

Yes my ex and I have found ourselves in difficult circumstances (mostly my fault.) However I have been making every effort to make our separation (still a WIP, as we both still have a lease on the same house) as smooth as possible for the sake of our child.

I often send him links with information on custody, mediation etc for helpful information for both of us, as I want us to be working on the same side towards what's best for our son. I glanced at the title of the thread, didn't read it, and mailed it on to my ex as I realise it's very difficult for him to be back living at home for the foreseeable future - personally I'd hate it. I just thought it might be somewhere for him to vent or to get good advice, I dunno, it was a split second copy and paste just in case he'd find some good info here, or even just empathy for others in similar circumstances.

I can totally see how he took it up in a mean-spirited way, but I have apologised sincerely to him for this after seeing his post above. I have absolutely NO reason to create any further bitterness between us, none whatsoever, I've being doing all I can to build bridges with him.

There are two sides to every story. Obviously this is a sensitive and difficult time for all parties involved.

Hopefully we can leave it at that - no point turning this thread into a relationship counselling session!

I think you should be adult enough to chat about it face to face and not on a public forum.

NachoBusiness

Awkward.

Reiver

NachoBusiness wrote: »

Awkward.

#awkward #justafterhoursthings

For me it's doubly weird since I live and work abroad 10 months of the year. Even this year my little brother who comes home every weekend from college, he's gone off working for the summer whereas I'm back here.

That said, a few of my mates have never moved out and now at 24/25, I'm not sure how they handle it.

Tilly

Sooooo....

KERSPLAT!

MOD

Hi, can ye take it to PM please. I don't think this is the place.

Cheers

Akrasia

NachoBusiness wrote: »

Ah, I remember living at home. It had it's good points and bad points.

Good points: My Dad used to bring home free newspapers and unopened airline food (ssssh, don't tell Aer Lingus).

Bad points: Always having to wear earphones whilst masturbating.

other bad point, your mother probably caught you masturbating multiple times without you realising it, but was too polite to disturb you

wearing earphones while w*nking in parents house = rookie mistake

Stheno

kylith wrote: »

If I moved back home either me or my mother would be dead and buried under the patio inside 2 weeks. She keeps trying to control my life as it is and that's just on FB, she'd be absolute hell to actually live with.

Same here, she's obsessed with how much I eat.

If I ever had to move back in I'd end up battering her to death with a sliced pan, after one too many "what have you had to eat today, you're too thin, you need to eat more" statements from her

Ruu

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=coPlg0tSCgs

Medusa22

NachoBusiness wrote: »

Ah, I remember living at home. It had it's good points and bad points.

Good points: My Dad used to bring home free newspapers and unopened airline food (ssssh, don't tell Aer Lingus).

Bad points: Always having to wear earphones whilst masturbating.

I used to just turn the sound down as I'd be worried about someone walking in on me. Somehow it isn't the same though, the unnecessarily loud moans add to the experience :pac:

NachoBusiness

Duke O Smiley wrote: »

Everybody lives at home

Not according to the Simon Community.

waraf

It's your parents I feel sorry for OP. No more wandering around the gaff naked and shagging on the kitchen table.

magicmushroom

Oh God, I'm moving back home to Mammy and Daddy's in 9 weeks...I moved out 10 years ago! And not only moved out, moved to a different country - they're in England.

Wish me luck folks.

My Dad gets up at 5am every day and thinks nothing of putting the TV on downstairs full blast; thin walls and a small house means I am wide awake until he leaves about 6am.
They only have 2 bedrooms and the 2nd one (where I'll be sleeping) is used as my Mum's dressing room.
So when I've just settled back down into a nice sleep again, she comes in the bedroom to get ready, no chance of a lie on!

Hopefully it won't take me long to find a job so I can move out

They're very good for having me back though, no questions asked so I won't moan too much! I'm lucky to have them.

Lusocu

I'm a 34 year old male and I've never moved out of home. It's fantastic. I have all meals made, I don't lift a finger around the house, I don't even make my bed. All for 60 euro a week. I've saved a fortune and I'll move out when the time is right for me. I've always had girlfriend's who've had their own places. When I settle down I'll have a very small mortgage if any for all my years of luxury. That's the way to do it if you get on well enough at home with family.

magicmushroom

Lusocu wrote: »

I'm a 34 year old male and I've never moved out of home. It's fantastic. I have all meals made, I don't lift a finger around the house, I don't even make my bed. All for 60 euro a week. I've saved a fortune and I'll move out when the time is right for me. I've always had girlfriend's who've had their own places. When I settle down I'll have a very small mortgage if any for all my years of luxury. That's the way to do it if you get on well enough at home with family.

Ah come on, that's bad form - I could never let my Mum do all of that for me and be proud of it - to not even make your bed is pretty god damn lazy!
She must have the patience of a saint the poor woman.

Birneybau

Lusocu wrote: »

I'm a 34 year old male and I've never moved out of home. It's fantastic. I have all meals made, I don't lift a finger around the house, I don't even make my bed. All for 60 euro a week. I've saved a fortune and I'll move out when the time is right for me. I've always had girlfriend's who've had their own places. When I settle down I'll have a very small mortgage if any for all my years of luxury. That's the way to do it if you get on well enough at home with family.

And absolutely no life skills. And a substitute mother who will come to resent you.

The Backwards Man

You're not in the country if you find yourself with nothing to do OP. True culchies are never bored, there's always something to do.

The Backwards Man

Birneybau wrote: »

And absolutely no life skills.

He knows how to sponge.

seamus

Probably wouldn't stress me out that much to be back living at home tbh, with the exception that there'd be so many adults in the house. My parents were never the overparenting type tbh. As the youngest of four, by the time I was 16 my parents were very firmly rediscovering their own lives, and by the time I was 18 it was very much a matter of coming and going as you pleased, we were all just adults sharing a home.

I know some people at 25 who would have to go home for their dinner if they hadn't texted their Ma early enough to say they wouldn't be home, but in our house it was always just a matter that if someone was making dinner, you made it for whoever was in the house at the time, simple as. If someone else arrived home at 7 o'clock, then tough sh1t, you go and make your own dinner. If someone wasn't at home at dinnertime, you assumed they had other plans.

That's not to say it was in any way cold, but my parents never babied us by insisting on making dinners, cleaning clothes and giving lifts to adult children. We were all well able to look after ourselves, and it meant my parents could go off and do whatever they wanted whenever they wanted.

I'm pretty sure if I was living at home I'd be there by myself most of the time as my parents would be off out doing whatever.

Lusocu

magicmushroom wrote: »

Ah come on, that's bad form - I could never let my Mum do all of that for me and be proud of it - to not even make your bed is pretty god damn lazy!
She must have the patience of a saint the poor woman.

I'm not proud of it, I'm not ashamed of it neither. She does all the washing in the house so the bed making goes along with it. I'm out at work all day so it's done when I'm gone. It is what it is.

Birneybau

The Backwards Man wrote: »

He knows how to sponge.

Probably not himself though, mother washes him.

DEFTLEFTHAND

Lusocu wrote: »

I'm a 34 year old male and I've never moved out of home. It's fantastic. I have all meals made, I don't lift a finger around the house, I don't even make my bed. All for 60 euro a week. I've saved a fortune and I'll move out when the time is right for me. I've always had girlfriend's who've had their own places. When I settle down I'll have a very small mortgage if any for all my years of luxury. That's the way to do it if you get on well enough at home with family.

You can move them out to a retirement home when the time comes for you to take a bride.

Lusocu

Birneybau wrote: »

And absolutely no life skills. And a substitute mother who will come to resent you.

I think you're over rating these life skills. I'll be able to deal with whatever I have to as it comes, despite missing on whatever life skills you are referring to.

I might not have a substitute mother. When the situation changes I'll adapt. Chores would be divided evenly on ability and time, working hours, DIY tasks ironing or whatever.

Lusocu

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

You can move them out to a retirement home when the time comes for you to take a bride.

The thought had crossed my mind lol. Or I could just move the wife in here.

Akrasia

The Backwards Man wrote: »

He knows how to sponge.

And he's probably awesome at call of duty

kylith

Lusocu wrote: »

I think you're over rating these life skills. I'll be able to deal with whatever I have to as it comes, despite missing on whatever life skills you are referring to.

I might not have a substitute mother. When the situation changes I'll adapt. Chores would be divided evenly on ability and time, working hours, DIY tasks ironing or whatever.

what ability? Can you work a washing machine, dryer, dishwasher, iron, hoover, mop, toilet brush? Can you cook a meal (that's not out of a packet)? Can you cook several different meals? Otherwise the future Mrs. is going to do her nut teaching a middle aged man stuff he should have learned when he was 19.

Lusocu

Akrasia wrote: »

And he's probably awesome at call of duty

I sense resentment for my choice in life. Why is this? Everyone has freewill to make their own decisions. I'm not less than because of it. In fact I'm minted and when I move out I'll have no mortgage or ever have to pay rent. Sure there are some sacrifices that comes with living at home. But I weighed up the pros and cons and my choice has worked out great for me.

Akrasia

A few years ago my wife was desperate to buy a house and she wanted us to move back into her mothers house so we could save money.

I refused, I don't think owning a house would be worth the stress of moving back into that kind of environment.

If we had moved in there would have been Me, My Wife, our young 3 kids, my Mother in law and 4 brothers in law aged 12 18 20 and 24

They're grand to visit, but 6 adults and 4 kids in one house would be mental.

magicmushroom

Lusocu wrote: »

I sense resentment for my choice in life. Why is this? Everyone has freewill to make their own decisions. I'm not less than because of it. In fact I'm minted and when I move out I'll have no mortgage or ever have to pay rent. Sure there are some sacrifices that comes with living at home. But I weighed up the pros and cons and my choice has worked out great for me.

It's not resentment, you just came across like a bit of an idiot in your original post. 34 and you let your Mum make your bed. You don't lift a finger around the house. You should be ashamed of that, I would be.
Instead, it came across as bragging.

Green Mile

I say leave Lusocu alone. Sure he doesn’t conform to the norm of society but he and others around him are happy. Future wife wouldn’t be his wife if she didn’t love him so no need to criticise the guy.

Akrasia

Lusocu wrote: »

I sense resentment for my choice in life. Why is this? Everyone has freewill to make their own decisions. I'm not less than because of it. In fact I'm minted and when I move out I'll have no mortgage or ever have to pay rent. Sure there are some sacrifices that comes with living at home. But I weighed up the pros and cons and my choice has worked out great for me.

You're free to live your life whatever way you like

I hope you'll look after your mother when her time comes as well as she has looked after you.

Satriale

NachoBusiness wrote: »

Bad points: Always having to wear earphones whilst masturbating.

You'd probably be better off go into your own room!

Aisling(",)

I'm 24 and still at home.

I've started a permanent job two months ago but I wouldn't be able to live on my wages if I wasn't at home because I'm at the very bottom of the ladder.

When my wages go up I'll be trying to get out but now I'd be paying 2/3 of my wages on rent and not have any social life,car or hobbies.

It seems to be more acceptable in the current climate for people to be living at home at an older age.I only know one or two people my age who have flown the coop.

petes

Lusocu wrote: »

I sense resentment for my choice in life. Why is this? Everyone has freewill to make their own decisions. I'm not less than because of it. In fact I'm minted and when I move out I'll have no mortgage or ever have to pay rent. Sure there are some sacrifices that comes with living at home. But I weighed up the pros and cons and my choice has worked out great for me.

Bitty!

Lusocu

kylith wrote: »

what ability? Can you work a washing machine, dryer, dishwasher, iron, hoover, mop, toilet brush? Can you cook a meal (that's not out of a packet)? Can you cook several different meals? Otherwise the future Mrs. is going to do her nut teaching a middle aged man.

Fair comments, but I can do all of those. I'm a good cook, I like trying out recipes from cook books and tv shows, I can use all kitchen appliances and I'm capable of cleaning. I can imagine for a % of young people moving out of home these might seem like a learning curve. One just has to adapt to new circumstances.

NachoBusiness

Satriale wrote: »

You'd probably be better off go into your own room!

Would have been ideal for sure but back then, the sitting room was the only room in the house where you could watch the ten minute Playboy freeview.

Nucular Arms

Lusocu wrote: »

Fair comments, but I can do all of those. I'm a good cook, I like trying out recipes from cook books and tv shows, I can use all kitchen appliances and I'm capable of cleaning. I can imagine for a % of young people moving out of home these might seem like a learning curve. One just has to adapt to new circumstances.

Forget about the skills etc, I wouldn't be able to look at myself in the mirror.

Lusocu

magicmushroom wrote: »

It's not resentment, you just came across like a bit of an idiot in your original post. 34 and you let your Mum make your bed. You don't lift a finger around the house. You should be ashamed of that, I would be.
Instead, it came across as bragging.

I was bragging. So shoot me. I'm very happy with how things are. It doesn't mean I don't love and respect my parents and care for them when they need it. Me being very looked after and being a loving and caring son aren't mutually exclusive.

Lusocu

Nucular Arms wrote: »

Forget about the skills etc, I wouldn't be able to look at myself in the mirror.

I don't think it devaluates my worth as a human being that I'd go as far as not looking in the mirror.