How much to give to a wedding couple?

One More Toy · 23-07-2015 10:51PM #1

Well my mate is having a shotgun wedding, its a funny one its early next year yet he only met the doll 9 months ago online.

Anywhoo i hate weddings but hes a mate so ill have to go, ive never had to go to one where I havent been a +1, how much should I reluctantly give in an envelope?

Boxtroll · 23-07-2015 10:52PM

€0

Flippyfloppy · 23-07-2015 10:52PM

Give €1000 but don't attend

23-07-2015 10:52PM

Would you not give anything as a +1

Right Turn Clyde · 23-07-2015 10:52PM

It seems to be still around €200, or €100 if you're going on your own.

Sir Osis of Liver. · 23-07-2015 10:53PM

Is it a blow-up doll?

grindle · 23-07-2015 10:53PM

Zero if you can manage it, but bring €100 in an envelope just in case you're cornered.

Filmer Paradise · 23-07-2015 10:54PM

100 yo-yo's should do the job, especially if he's a good mate of yours.

Either that or a toaster.

Right Turn Clyde · 23-07-2015 10:54PM

bluewolf wrote: »

Would you not give anything as a +1

If both I and my girlfriend know the person we split it. If not, the person who got invited pays the whole thing and the +1 sits back, drinks and enjoys the expense everyone has gone to.

Inspector Coptoor · 23-07-2015 10:54PM

€100 if he's a good mate and you're going on your Sweeney

One More Toy · 23-07-2015 10:54PM

Right Turn Clyde wrote: »

It seems to be still around €200, or €100 if you're going on your own.

You are ****ting me son. ****ing arshebiscuits

Buona Fortuna · 23-07-2015 10:55PM

How good a mate?

What sort of do?

As mentioned above, anywhere between 0 and 1000 would seem grand

jamesbere · 23-07-2015 10:55PM

You should give him a good piece of your mind

retro:electro · 23-07-2015 10:56PM

Fiver

Sam Kade · 23-07-2015 10:56PM

I though shotgun weddings were a thing of the past, sure don't they shack up together for 10 years and have the ba ba oops children before getting married nowadays

Cold War Kid · 23-07-2015 10:56PM

One More Toy wrote: »

You are ****ting me son. ****ing arshebiscuits

Yeah this "going rate" stuff is tacksville. And how do people actually know how much other individuals give? Just give whatever you can afford.

OneOfThem · 23-07-2015 10:57PM

Draw him a really heartfelt picture. No, seriously.

23-07-2015 10:57PM

Right Turn Clyde wrote: »

If both I and my girlfriend know the person we split it. If not, the person who got invited pays the whole thing and the +1 sits back, drinks and enjoys the expense everyone has gone to.

Ah right
I'm going as +1 to one soon with a friend but i'm still paying for my half of the hotel room and gift so I was curious

Right Turn Clyde · 23-07-2015 10:57PM

One More Toy wrote: »

You are ****ting me son. ****ing arshebiscuits

If you put anything less than €100 in a card you're gonna look like a cheap bastard. You'd be better off handing him an empty card.

Boxtroll · 23-07-2015 10:59PM

Right Turn Clyde wrote: »

If you put anything less than €100 in a card you're gonna look like a cheap bastard. You'd be better off handing him an empty card.

You would be better off giving no card as to give an empty card, would you give a child an empty sweet bag?

Right Turn Clyde · 23-07-2015 10:59PM

bluewolf wrote: »

Ah right
I'm going as +1 to one soon with a friend but i'm still paying for my half of the hotel room and gift so I was curious

Ah that's the decent thing to do in fairness. My way just suits me because I only have one friend. He's gay, which had great until now, but this referendum is gonna cost me a fcukin fortune.

Right Turn Clyde · 23-07-2015 11:00PM

Boxtroll wrote: »

You would be better off giving no card as to give an empty card, would you give a child an empty sweet bag?

What other purpose does a sweet bag have?

Sam Kade · 23-07-2015 11:00PM

Right Turn Clyde wrote: »

If you put anything less than €100 in a card you're gonna look like a cheap bastard. You'd be better off handing him an empty card.

So he'd be better off getting nothing instead of €99.99.

johnny osbourne · 23-07-2015 11:03PM

$1,000,000

OneOfThem · 23-07-2015 11:04PM

Right Turn Clyde wrote: »

If you put anything less than €100 in a card you're gonna look like a cheap bastard.

How on earth does anyone become close enough friends with someone where that is a legitimate outcome?

+"I'm getting married, will you come?"

-"Yeah ok, will cost me a bomb, but I'll do it anyway, even though it'll be gauranteed to be a fairly monotonous thing to have to sit through... but we're friends, ye know."

+"Ok, bring money to give to me."

-"That doesn't seem like an expectation one would have of a friend after obligating them to attend your sh1t, 'Hey everyone look, it's all about me' party... But... ok I guess, if that's the theme..."

+"Oh what? You only gave me x amount of money, for dragging yourself to my really really sh1t it's all about me, nothing here for you at all party? You cheap bastard!"

-"...why am I friends with you again..?"

Right Turn Clyde · 23-07-2015 11:05PM

Cold War Kid wrote: »

Yeah this "going rate" stuff is tacksville. And how do people actually know how much other individuals give? Just give whatever you can afford.

The "going rate" thing comes from the fact that you wanna cover your food, wine and the other bits and pieces that have cost the married couple. And then a few quid left over for them to spend on themselves. I've been to the odd wedding where I didn't know anyone, but generally speaking I like throwing the couple a few quid to help them on their way. Yes, I'm a goody two-shoes, but it's nice to be nice.

Sam Kade · 23-07-2015 11:09PM

Right Turn Clyde wrote: »

The "going rate" thing comes from the fact that you wanna cover your food, wine and the other bits and pieces that have cost the married couple. And then a few quid left over for them to spend on themselves. I've been to the odd wedding where I didn't know anyone, but generally speaking I like throwing the couple a few quid to help them on their way. Yes, I'm a goody two-shoes, but it's nice to be nice.

Great business venture, the wedding day paid for and a few €'s to boot

Cold War Kid · 23-07-2015 11:11PM

Right Turn Clyde wrote: »

The "going rate" thing comes from the fact that you wanna cover your food, wine and the other bits and pieces that have cost the married couple. And then a few quid left over for them to spend on themselves. I've been to the odd wedding where I didn't know anyone, but generally speaking I like throwing the couple a few quid to help them on their way. Yes, I'm a goody two-shoes, but it's nice to be nice.

Oh right, I thought you weren't being serious with the thing about looking stingy if it's less than €100 in the card and it would be better to give an empty card (€50 would look better than nothing, in fairness).
If a person can't afford €100... well they're not the ones who have chosen all those expenses in fairness; that's not stingy, that's being stuck financially. I don't agree with this thing of giving nothing, "My presence is enough" etc - that's just stingy and awfully bad-mannered, but a wedding present as "paying your way" is as bad from the other direction (although in my experience it's something that seems to be more of a concern to other guests than the actual people getting married).
Surely nothing is fairer - for either party - than whatever the guest can afford.

I've never given less than €100 myself, but if I ran into financial difficulty, then I'm not going to be able to give that - it's a case of can't, not won't. And any bride/groom who would have a problem with this - well I wouldn't be going to their wedding in the first place.

23-07-2015 11:12PM

ok I don't drink wine how much do I deduct for that :pac:

tommy100 · 23-07-2015 11:14PM

Ive been to plenty weddings and i got married last year so got a jist of going rate. Going rate is 200 couple and 100 if on yer own. Some people are very generous, give way too much. Had close friend who gave nothing.

Son Of A Vidic · 23-07-2015 11:19PM

One More Toy wrote: »

how much should I reluctantly give in an envelope?

Buy him a bottle of cop on and tell him don't be wasting his time with a wedding.

How much to give to a wedding couple?

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