Weird housemate

Ubiquitous Synergy Seeker · 18-07-2015 02:39PM

Links234 wrote: »

Hah, reminds me of a story my friend had, he was living with some people who never cleaned up or did the dishes, etc. So he got pissed off, bought his own dishes, cutlery and utensils and kept them in his room, washing them up right after use and bringing them back to his room again. The housemates got super annoyed with him, because all their crap was getting piled up and up, and he wasn't washing it up for them.

I did that very same thing. Got sick of doing everyone else's dishes, so bought my own and used only them. Made my life a bit easier

Dord · 18-07-2015 03:06PM

Ubiquitous Synergy Seeker wrote: »

I did that very same thing. Got sick of doing everyone else's dishes, so bought my own and used only them. Made my life a bit easier

Same here. Had a housemate that kept bringing plates and cutlery to her room, wouldn't bring them back for a week or more. So, I bought my own. When I used them, I washed them up and brought them back to my room. She was pretty pissed off.

Mully1988 · 18-07-2015 03:16PM

he stays in his room and puts his dishes in the dish washer. Just doesn't empty the dishwasher or take out the bins?? What actually is the problem here? You have a nice quite housemate, could be a lot of a hell worse like living with a drunk, living with a druggie, living with a scumbag with his scumbag mates over all the time. If simply having to empty the dishwasher and take out the bins to have a housemate who lives in his room I would gladly do it.

If its really bothering you that much then do a rota, Week 1 he does it, Week 2 other housemate, Week 3 you do it etc and pin it up on the fridge. Just kindly mention it to him that we need to split the cleaning duties and he will probably say thats fine.
It seems like he has social anxiety or something so don't do something like leave notes on his door, leave notes on the dishwasher, leave bin outside his room as you just come across as an absolute prick!

Ruu · 18-07-2015 03:53PM

Tell him you find a lot of sexual tension between ye and he has to move out, otherwise just be safe and think of Ireland!

18-07-2015 04:02PM

It may be a bit annoying but at least he spends most time in his room, this is my favourite type of housemate the less if see if them the better. One of my housemates annoys me as he messes the kitchen up all the time however I see very little off him while my other housemate only leaves his room
to eat but he cleans up after him always.

It's great as I can go days without seeing either of them and have the living room and kitchen to myself the vast majority of the time. It's the only reason I'm sticking house sharing still. If I had to be sharing the TV and people where always cooking when I'm cooking and around the common areas I'd have to bite the bullet and look for a place alone.

raah! · 18-07-2015 04:15PM

You don't sound like a very nice person OP

Satriale · 18-07-2015 04:18PM

Consider yourself lucky OP. There was a thread on here a bit back about a housemate who use to sh1t into plastic bags and hang them off the stairs or something.
As housemates go, i'd prefer one that didnt do the dishes and stays in his room.

Mint Aero · 18-07-2015 04:59PM

Nothing about this person sounds weird, other than staying in their room to avoid an overbearing housemate and their stupid OCD dishwasher rules.

thegreatgonzo · 18-07-2015 05:00PM

rocheyy wrote: »

Having a dish washer in a shared house is a bad idea anyway! People have to clean their dishes after they use them if there's no dish washer!!

I wish I could introduce you to my chicken carcase hoarding ex flatmate.
We had no dish washer.
She didn't care.
We also had a bin for disposing sanitary towels in the shared bathroom but she didn't care for that either the dirty f**king mong.

HowAreWe · 18-07-2015 05:04PM

I had a housemate like that, would leave plates and plates with food on em in the sink.

It would be there for days, a few times I'd crack and just clean it when I would clean my own after eating but eventually I got sick of it so id stack up all the **** he had used and stack it outside his bedroom door.

He got the message eventually. Some people are just genuinely pigs.

AnonoBoy · 18-07-2015 05:26PM

After some of the people I've shared houses with over the years this ghost sounds like a dream.

Big whoop - he doesn't empty the dishwasher. It takes 2 minutes.

I'd prefer that to having a housemate who constantly has annoying friends around, who takes over the sitting-room to watch sh*te reality shows and how insists on tagging along on nights out and being a drunken pr*ck to everyone.

Saipanne · 18-07-2015 05:28PM

He sounds like my housemate. It's great, I've the gaff to myself!

18-07-2015 05:38PM

I hope you're not serious about singing a song about his habits to his face.

It sounds weird and humiliating, even moreso if he suffers with social phobia/ anxiety.

Just say it to his face politely if you must, although it's such a petty issue I really don't see a need to say anything.

If an un-emptied dishwasher is the level of stress you have to worry about in your life then Haleluhja, be glad.

Hammer89 · 18-07-2015 05:50PM

I do often wonder how people get to be like this. Like, it's a case of common courtesy to do a bit of tidying up every now and then. Whether or not you made the mess is immaterial. I'd be too embarrassed to do what your housemate is doing.

Having said, no possible good can come from being passive aggressive - and the fact you made this thread shows that you may be that type of bloke. You've also skipped right to trying to get him evicted, rather than confront him, which is no good.

Say it to him. Let's say his name is Barry: "Baz, can I have a word pal? Listen, myself and Rory need a word. Can you chip in a bit more? We all live here, but Rory and I are the only ones who contribute to the hygene element in and around the kitchen. Is that fair enough?"

If that doesn't work, then you can try get him evicted. Best of luck.

Mechanical Clocktail · 18-07-2015 05:56PM

Honestly he sounds harmless. OP sounds like more of a headcase. I think I'd rather live with the "weirdo" than the guy with no communication skills that flips out over the dishwasher and starts composing songs and talking behind a person's back.

Rabo Karabekian · 18-07-2015 06:09PM

Mechanical Clocktail wrote: »

Honestly he sounds harmless. OP sounds like more of a headcase. I think I'd rather live with the "weirdo" than the guy with no communication skills that flips out over the dishwasher and starts composing songs and talking behind a person's back.

To be fair, the OP said that he hadn't done any cleaning for over a year (not just the dishwasher). When you're living in a houseshare, you need to contribute to the cleaning or it won't work.

Mechanical Clocktail · 18-07-2015 07:22PM

Rabo Karabekian wrote: »

To be fair, the OP said that he hadn't done any cleaning for over a year (not just the dishwasher). When you're living in a houseshare, you need to contribute to the cleaning or it won't work.

Ya, that's true. I'm taking the OP with a pinch of salt though. He sounds awfully jumped up.

PLL · 18-07-2015 07:57PM

When my boyfriend was in college he lived with 3 guys who basically had EVERYTHING done for them by mammy so had notion of taking care of themselves, he felt like he had to mother them to do simple things like, picking up food they dropped on the floor, closing the fridge door, flushing the toilet (I wish this was a joke). When my boyfriend told them they had to wash up after themselves they said they didn't know how to. So my oh took their food as payment for all the cleaning he did for them, they thought it was great as 'ma' would easily give extra quid for food for no reason anyway. WOMEN DO NOT RAISE YOUR SONS LIKE THIS IN THE 21ST CENTURY.

Mully1988 · 18-07-2015 08:15PM

PLL wrote: »

When my boyfriend was in college he lived with 3 guys who basically had EVERYTHING done for them by mammy so had notion of taking care of themselves, he felt like he had to mother them to do simple things like, picking up food they dropped on the floor, closing the fridge door, flushing the toilet (I wish this was a joke). When my boyfriend told them they had to wash up after themselves they said they didn't know how to. So my oh took their food as payment for all the cleaning he did for them, they thought it was great as 'ma' would easily give extra quid for food for no reason anyway. WOMEN DO NOT RAISE YOUR SONS LIKE THIS IN THE 21ST CENTURY.

Probably still breast fed.

lulu1 · 22-07-2015 06:35PM

Op If you feel you cant go on with the situation, the next time you see your flatmate tell him you want to have a chat about who dose what in the house.

I would talk to him myself because if he dose have problems he might think you and the other flat mate are ganging up on him.

Maybe the flatmate dose not even realise there is a problem

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5 · 22-07-2015 06:49PM

One time I had a housemate who seemed pathologically averse to doing her dishes, or emptying the bins and would also frequently start cooking something like soup, give up and get takeaway instead, leaving the half cooked food to fester until either one of the other housemates took care of it or (I suppose) it literally just rotted away.

Left a general note re: do your own dishes (I know, I know, a note, but I was trying not to make it look like I was singling her out because she was fairly isolated within the house at it was) and she left me a very strongly worded LETTER about how she'd do her dishes when we stopped leaving 'the lounge' in a 'disgusting state'. Apparently, she had decided that there was some kind of Mexican stand-off whereby she was justified in never doing any cleaning under any circumstances because there were sometimes cans left in the living room (which she was under the impression she owned) overnight, and I suppose we were just meant to figure that out. Ended up in a shouting match anyway and I called her a pathetic cnut (not proud of myself), so that's my story of how I left a note to try and be nice and it backfired.

roadrunner16 · 22-07-2015 06:54PM

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

Please don't, he's not worth 15-20 years of your life. The best thing to do would be to knock on his bedroom door and request a sitdown in the kitchen where you can air your grievances.

15-20 ? what justice system are you thinking of ? 5 tops,

flas · 22-07-2015 07:14PM

Cody montana wrote: »

So he hasn't done a shred of cleaning in a whole year, not even emptied the
dishwasher or bin.
So I refused to do it this week, several days later, the dishwasher was still full of cleaned dishes and the bin is still overflowing and has flies buzzing around it.

It would be easy to give out to him, but he never leaves his room.
So how do I get him evicted?

Have you had any difficult housemates?

Firstly you will need some big spiders to get rid of the flies, then a cat to get rid of the spiders, then a dog to get rid of the cat, then a wolf to get rid of the dog, the a mountain lion to get rid of the wolf, at this stage you will have imported 2 illegal animals into the country and will be thrown in jail, so the mess will be the least of your worries! Good luck anyway

tinpib · 22-07-2015 08:46PM

Any update OP?

I'm on tenterhooks here.

DEFTLEFTHAND · 23-07-2015 01:16AM

roadrunner16 wrote: »

15-20 ? what justice system are you thinking of ? 5 tops,

If the charge was manslaughter maybe but the average time served for a murder conviction is 18 years.

lila1 · 23-07-2015 01:25AM

tinpib wrote: »

Any update OP?

I'm on tenterhooks here.

update
Going to be another one of these threads where there is no update:(

Arghus · 23-07-2015 02:04AM

No updates.

I presume the OP is as dead as the action in the dishwasher.

lulu1 · 24-07-2015 12:06AM

The op has murdered the flatmate and is on the run with no internet access

Well thats what I think anyway.

On second thoughts maybe the flatmate has murdered op.

degsie · 24-07-2015 12:11AM

Sorry, late to the party. Did anyone mention the make of the dishwasher?

Arghus · 24-07-2015 12:50AM

degsie wrote: »

Sorry, late to the party. Did anyone mention the make of the dishwasher?

I dunno, but I'd say it's big enough to fit a corpse inside, if that's any help?

Weird housemate

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