Girls, would you date a man smaller than you?

Cold War Kid · 17-07-2015 02:04PM

Candie wrote: »

Everythings comparative. When some people were recently discussing their heights, I mentioned that everyone is tall to me, even the ones who described themselves as small, as I'm a total short-arse, even in heels.

To someone of 6ft 5, someone else of 5ft 9 is small. When you're under 5ft, everyone is lanky.

Notice the way the only people insulting guys who aren't tall on this thread are fellow guys.

Even when it was the men I knew it was the women!

nokia69 · 17-07-2015 02:04PM

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

I don't really believe people when they tell me their height unless it's in centimetres, so many people think they're a couple of inches taller than they are.

I'm 177cm so just under 5' 10". Had to laugh when I was talking to someone recently who was a bit smaller than me claiming I must be 6' 1" cause they're 6 foot

yeah every time someone tells me they're 6 foot tall I always tell them I'm 5'11"

the seethe is epic

nokia69 · 17-07-2015 02:07PM

Cold War Kid wrote: »

It is a dig, because she didn't even slightly imply a man had to be gym ripped to be a nice guy - and you know she didn't.
You cant find something interesting when it doesnt exist. You know full well plenty of overweight people will not only go out with slim people or only expect slim people to fancy them.

Such shyte.

I have seen it plenty of times

if you don't want to believe me then fair enough

One eyed Jack · 17-07-2015 02:18PM

nokia69 wrote: »

I don't think its a dig really

I find it interesting that when it comes to dating overweight people (men and women) expect no one to knock them back because they are over weight

Do you genuinely believe that, or are you just saying it to make a point? Are you seriously trying to suggest that overweight people aren't aware that people exist who don't find them attractive? I'd say they're acutely aware of the fact.

but many of them would never dream of going out with another fat person

I have seen this plenty of times with both sexes

Isn't that easily understandable surely? Everyone has their different standards and who they are and aren't attracted to, so it's only natural that there are fat people who wouldn't want to date fat people, because they don't find fat people attractive, in the same way as there are short people who wouldn't date other short people because they don't find short people attractive.

Your posts read like people should date other people in order to make that other person feel attractive, in spite of the fact that they aren't actually attracted to them?

I genuinely can't figure out your logic at all, are you saying people should take pity on other people and date them in spite of the fact they aren't attracted to them, like they owe that person something?

You're intelligent enough to know that's utter nonsense, so that can't be what you're saying, right?

kylith · 17-07-2015 02:28PM

One eyed Jack wrote: »

Do you genuinely believe that, or are you just saying it to make a point? Are you seriously trying to suggest that overweight people aren't aware that people exist who don't find them attractive? I'd say they're acutely aware of the fact.

Isn't that easily understandable surely? Everyone has their different standards and who they are and aren't attracted to, so it's only natural that there are fat people who wouldn't want to date fat people, because they don't find fat people attractive, in the same way as there are short people who wouldn't date other short people because they don't find short people attractive.

Your posts read like people should date other people in order to make that other person feel attractive, in spite of the fact that they aren't actually attracted to them?

I genuinely can't figure out your logic at all, are you saying people should take pity on other people and date them in spite of the fact they aren't attracted to them, like they owe that person something?

You're intelligent enough to know that's utter nonsense, so that can't be what you're saying, right?

No, I think what he's saying is that fat people should date fat people, because they are fat. They shouldn't expect thin people to date them on account of their fatness. And if fat people don't want to go out with fat people then they are hypocritical fatties who should be ashamed of themselves; if they want to date thin people then they shouldn't be so damned fat.

The Hill Billy · 17-07-2015 02:36PM

nokia69 wrote: »

yeah every time someone tells me they're 6 foot tall I always tell them I'm 5'11"

the seethe is epic

So, you troll people in real life too - not just on the internet. Such a full & rewarding life to lead.

The Hill Billy · 17-07-2015 02:38PM

Mrs Billy is taller than yours truly. Still together after many years of wedded bliss. There must be something to be said for us short-arses.

One eyed Jack · 17-07-2015 02:38PM

kylith wrote: »

No, I think what he's saying is that fat people should date fat people, because they are fat. They shouldn't expect thin people to date them on account of their fatness. And if fat people don't want to go out with fat people then they are hypocritical fatties who should be ashamed of themselves; if they want to date thin people then they shouldn't be so damned fat.

Yeah, I think that's why I was struggling with what nokia was saying, because it's based on his idealism rather than other people's reality. It's like saying that I should only date one eyed girls who are as dumb as I am...

That's a pretty, ahem, tall order :pac:

eternal · 17-07-2015 02:41PM

nokia69 wrote: »

but were they that size when the relationship started

I was a size 0 then I met someone and ate a fig and became a size 1 and inevitably, heart breaking and soul destroying as it was, he left me for a girl who was -0.

nokia69 · 17-07-2015 02:48PM

The Hill Billy wrote: »

So, you troll people in real life too - not just on the internet. Such a full & rewarding life to lead.

in real life I troll people who tell lies

does telling the truth on the internet make me a troll

Fat Christy · 17-07-2015 02:53PM

nokia69 wrote: »

in real life I troll people who tell lies

does telling the truth on the internet make me a troll

What truth?

You're giving your opinion and your opinion is wrong.

Are all short men unattractive?
No

Are all women going to write off a man shorter than them?
No.

Are all fat women unattractive?
No

Is it just fat men that date fat women?
Again no.

Some yes, but all, absolutely not. You can't speak for everyone. You throw out a generalisation and call it a truth. All it is, is a pile of bollocksology.

nokia69 · 17-07-2015 02:56PM

Fat Christy wrote: »

What truth?

You're giving your opinion and your opinion is wrong.

Are all short men unattractive?
No

Are all women going to write off a man shorter than them?
No.

Are all fat women unattractive?
No

Is it just fat men that date fat women?
Again no.

Some yes, but all, absolutely not. You can't speak for everyone. You throw out a generalisation and call it a truth. All it is, is a pile of bollocksology.

you should read my posts again

most of the things you think I said, I never actually said

Fat Christy · 17-07-2015 03:01PM

nokia69 wrote: »

you should read my posts again

most of the things you think I said, I never actually said

I expanded (:pac:) on your posts a little bit. I was trying to make a point about generalisations and how silly they are. And believe me I noticed the fat girl digs. I thought I was back in secondary school for a minute.

One eyed Jack · 17-07-2015 03:02PM

nokia69 wrote: »

you should read my posts again

most of the things you think I said, I never actually said

Well it's difficult to figure out what you are actually saying though nokia because it's like you're flinging sh1t at a wall and hoping something sticks.

You're talking in riddles with your "isn't drink great", "were they the same size when they got into the relationship?", etc.

It's like you don't really have a point at all, but sure anything for an arguments sake?

nokia69 · 17-07-2015 03:15PM

Fat Christy wrote: »

I expanded (:pac:) on your posts a little bit. I was trying to make a point about generalisations and how silly they are.

you're reading stuff thats not there

shakencat · 17-07-2015 03:16PM

I wouldn't date anyone shorter than me,

Im self conscious enough over my height, (5'10)

Don't need any more comments than i already get, made...

''Janey you're so tall''

-really? am i? i never noticed

and yes, i wear heels out

17-07-2015 03:29PM

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

I don't really believe people when they tell me their height unless it's in centimetres, so many people think they're a couple of inches taller than they are.

I'm 177cm so just under 5' 10". Had to laugh when I was talking to someone recently who was a bit smaller than me claiming I must be 6' 1" cause they're 6 foot

It was like a big conspiracy years ago back in school, "well john measured himself and he said he's 6ft, so I must be 6'1 and you must be 6'2 "

Cold War Kid · 17-07-2015 03:33PM

One eyed Jack wrote: »

Well it's difficult to figure out what you are actually saying though nokia because it's like you're flinging sh1t at a wall and hoping something sticks.

You're talking in riddles with your "isn't drink great", "were they the same size when they got into the relationship?", etc.

It's like you don't really have a point at all, but sure anything for an arguments sake?

Yip. And to have a go at women.

wakka12 · 17-07-2015 04:00PM

nokia69 wrote: »

drink is a great thing

You seem a tad bitter my friend.

Dial Hard · 17-07-2015 04:40PM

Roquentin wrote: »

5,8 isnt short. when you see a short man, you know straight away.

Candie wrote: »

Everythings comparative. When some people were recently discussing their heights, I mentioned that everyone is tall to me, even the ones who described themselves as small, as I'm a total short-arse, even in heels.

Candie has it spot on here.
At 5' 7", I'm the shortest of the five kids in my family. All the men in my family are over 6 feet. So to me, yes, 5' 8" is short for a man.

One eyed Jack · 17-07-2015 04:56PM

Dial Hard wrote: »

Candie has it spot on here.
At 5' 7", I'm the shortest of the five kids in my family. All the men in my family are over 6 feet. So to me, yes, 5' 8" is short for a man.

That's the same as myself, and why I always thought at 5'10' I was pretty short for a guy when all my brothers were 6ft plus, my father was 6'8", and most of the guys I worked with in various jobs were all 6ft plus (used hate talking to a Spanish guy called Oscar because I'd get a crick in my neck, he was tipping 7ft ffs!).

I never actually took any real notice of what I thought were the one or two guys that were shorter than me because most of them were also skinnier than me, except for my best mate who is 5'8" and he's like a walking billiard ball, he's massive, I've never asked him, but he's definitely more than a size 48 trousers (I'm a size 40).

One thing he's never complained about though is the lack of attention from the ladies. Fcuker just has to walk into a pub and before we've even ordered a pint, he's got women swarming all over him. And these are objectively speaking some stunning looking women. Why?

Because as short and fat and all as he is, his personality still manages to shine through all the layers, and that's why I hate going anywhere with him because I'm the one left feeling like a gooseberry while he's lapping it up! :mad:

Seriously though, he's great craic, and all anyone could ask for in a best mate, but he says himself he's just not ready to settle down yet

OneOfThem · 17-07-2015 05:01PM

Fat Christy wrote: »

There's some scientific reason about attraction and high heels..where's steddy when you need him? It's something to do with a mating stance or something.

The only study thing I remember stumbling across concluded that the reason some men prefer women in heels, was that the fact they were unsteady on their feet made them appear more vulnerable, which appealed to guys.

Would it have been that?

Red21 · 17-07-2015 05:07PM

Earthhorse wrote: »

Yeah, all us short guys are as charming and good looking as RDJ. Gimme a break.

I was responding sarcastically to the other poster, generalising saying " I feel bad for short guys" as if all short guys were the same.

Some other 5'9" female poster, said I'm just not attracted to guys smaller than me. I find that strange and hard to believe, because there are men who are extremely good looking walking around in everyday life under that height. How does that even work, i reckon if you put an average looking taller guy beside an extremely good looking well build guy 5'8 5'7 guy they'd pick the hot guy 9 outta 10 times.
If that wasn't the case he would never have been called. hot in the first place

Fat Christy · 17-07-2015 05:11PM

OneOfThem wrote: »

The only study thing I remember stumbling across concluded that the reason some men prefer women in heels was that the fact they were unsteady on their feet made them appear more vulnerable which appealed to guys.

Would it have been that?

No, it's something about the posture of a woman when she's wearing high heels, it mimics a mating posture.

*goes to google*

All I can find is stuff on lordosis behaviour, I think that's it!!

As a result of these evolutions, lordosis behavior becomes secondary in hominidae and is apparently non functional in humans. When a woman gets onto all fours, curves her back and remains still, it is no longer a reflex movement triggered by sexual stimuli, but a voluntary movement.[5][23][24] The anthropologist Helen Fisher speculates that when a human female wears high-heeled footwear, the buttocks thrust out and the back arches into a pose that simulates lordosis behavior, which is why high heels are considered "sexy".

17-07-2015 05:14PM

Fat Christy wrote: »

All I can find is stuff on lordosis behaviour, I think that's it!!

Boobs upfront, butt out back. In other words, good advertising.

Its the same reason lipstick is so popular, and particularly glossy lipstick. One set of lips mimics the other in terms of blood flow, indicating mating readiness.

You and me, baby, ain't nothin' but mammals.

dark crystal · 17-07-2015 05:16PM

At 5"3, I'd have a hard enough time finding a man smaller than me!

Saying that, if I liked him, his height really wouldn't put me off dating him. I remember being a teenager and wanting to do very naughty things to Michael J Fox - I think he's 5"4. Still taller than me, but just.

It helps that I can't wear heels. I look like a wounded baby animal walking in them

nokia69 · 17-07-2015 06:32PM

Cold War Kid wrote: »

Yip. And to have a go at women.

only fat women TBF

17-07-2015 06:53PM

nokia69 wrote: »

only fat women TBF

A series of posts like yours always reminds me of the lyrics to that Doors song, People Are Strange:

"People are strange when you're a stranger
Faces look ugly when you're alone
Women seem wicked when you're unwanted
Streets are uneven when you're down"

Red21 · 17-07-2015 07:02PM

Fat Christy wrote: »

There's some scientific reason about attraction and high heels..where's steddy when you need him? It's something to do with a mating stance or something.

I'm happy enough with how I look. I still wear makeup and heels though. I don't really agree with what your saying. I wear flats most of the time but I love to don a pair of heels going out. I do think heels look sexy. But when the footsies get sore, off they come.

I'm not questioning how look, you could be a supermodel for all I know. But honestly are happy enough? How much stress would your looks cause from one end of the wk to the next?

I agree that heels and all that other jazz makes a women look sexy(so does a strap-on in the right situation) and I get that most woman will feel better than they usually feel about their looks with all that stuff on.
But isn't it a sad reflexion on how a person usually feels, that walking around 14/15 cm of the ground and looking completely different to their actual self is when feel happiest about their looks.

RayM · 17-07-2015 07:04PM

nokia69 wrote: »

only fat women TBF

There is a certain cohort of (let's face it, mainly male) posters on AH, who seem to get a real kick out of posting the most obnoxious crap that their tiny, unimaginative minds can conjure up.

Girls, would you date a man smaller than you?

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