Girls, would you date a man smaller than you?

Gerry Rio

Ive just seen this on a dating site on a profile:

"Guys, if you are smaller oe younger than me then please dont mail as its not going to work"

Now the age thing I get but this girl is 5 foot 9! Its a safe assumption that some guys are going to be smaller than her. Im 5 foot 8 myself.

What is girl's fascination with men's height these days? Do they equate it to being big "elsewhere" too or something? Is it a "I want to be feel protected" primal thing?

Years ago you would hear a bit about this being a thing but now it seems to be the norm with the vast majority of girls in that if a guy is smaller then he doesnt have a shot.

Thoughts?

yermandan

In my experience girls wanna feel protected, hense the taller thing

PirateShampoo

Are you feeling shunned, short arse?

steddyeddy

It's what you're attracted to and there's nothing wrong with it. What I hate is the sexism applied. A woman stating her preferred choice of physical look has generally been better received than a man rejecting an overweight woman.

irish_goat

I can understand it, I wouldn't date a girl who was bigger than me. Length or breadth-wise.

bee06

I'm a tall woman and I personally wouldn't. It would make me very conscious of my height especially when wearing heels.

Gerry Rio

PirateShampoo wrote: »

Are you feeling shunned, short arse?

5 foot 8 isnt short.

Smart arse.

RedemptionZ

I've dated a girl 5'10 and I'm 5'8. It didn't really play much of a factor in the role but I think we both would've preferred if she was smaller or I was taller. I'd find it hard to go out with a fat girl, I guess height is just another thing like that. It's unfortunate because we can't control our height but the world sucks sometimes. I don't mind that, but when girls openly mock your height it is a real ego bruiser. I've had it a few times in nightclubs.

RayM

Everyone - male or female - has their preferences. It's hardly unreasonable. I'm 5'7, and if a woman (as opposed to a 'girl') decided to overlook my incredible personality and immense good looks, simply because of my height, then that's fair enough.

steddyeddy

Maybe I'm wrong about the double standard. Girls is it still wrong to reject a girl because of her weight?

NachoBusiness

Solution is simple. Ban high heels.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AR3YR1ZTonc

wakka12

Girls like tall guys. Shocker, I think we've been over this many times

Dogowner55

Wouldn't date a girl over 150lbs, it's fine if women have a height preferences. If a person is not pleasing to the eye to you it won't work, being honest up front help everyone save on time

bisounours

Smaller, unlikely but mainly because I am 5'2". Men shorter than me usually have a massive chip on their shoulder cause they've probably been made fun growing up. I used to date a guy who was 5'6" and I loved being able to look into his eyes when I was in heels.

Younger, not a problem. OH is younger, and a good foot taller. Now I can't be bothered with heels most of the time so he kinda looms over me.

Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius!

I hate to admit it because I do feel a bit shallow and unfair for saying it, but no.
It is just my preference though, same as me not fancying blonde men or whatever.

Im 5 '8 myself and about 6 foot in heels, so I dont wear them much because I tend to feel like an Amazon Woman in them!

Cold War Kid

Guys, would you date a woman taller than you?

Gerry Rio wrote: »

Ive just seen this on a dating site on a profile:




Now the age thing I get but this girl is 5 foot 9! Its a safe assumption that some guys are going to be smaller than her. Im 5 foot 8 myself.

What is girl's fascination with men's height these days? Do they equate it to being big "elsewhere" too or something? Is it a "I want to be feel protected" primal thing?

Years ago you would hear a bit about this being a thing but now it seems to be the norm with the vast majority of girls in that if a guy is smaller then he doesnt have a shot.

Thoughts?

Not sure it's a new thing at all; just seems that way because of the internet. To be honest, just about my only preference in relation to something a man can't control is height - as in, I would prefer if he were the same height as me or taller. But that's not exactly setting the bar high, as I'm 5ft 4.5 and don't wear high heels (a bit of a heel yes, but not those crazily high ones) - I don't get all this stuff about guys under 5ft 8 being small. Seems grand and tall to me.

And I wouldn't rule out a guy who's smaller, it would just be my preference for him not to be. I certainly wouldn't put "Must be my height or taller in an online profile".

PirateShampoo

Gerry Rio wrote: »

5 foot 8 isnt short.

Smart arse.

It is when you're stood beside a normal sized man.

the evasion_kid

I've seen girls put their height preferences on tinder.....I'm not getting much match's with my no fatties preference

Guy:Incognito

I'm only here for the inevitable Sophie Dahl / Jamie Cullum pic.

the evasion_kid wrote: »

I've seen girls put their height preferences on tinder.....I'm not getting much match's with my no fatties preference

Are you using the correct PC term? It's "no fat chicks"

Dogowner55

the evasion_kid wrote: »

I've seen girls put their height preferences on tinder.....I'm not getting much match's with my no fatties preference

The no fatties one has to be a silent preference or normal ones get all feminist as pass over you

Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius!

steddyeddy wrote: »

Maybe I'm wrong about the double standard. Girls is it still wrong to reject a girl because of her weight?

I think its fair game, personally. If a chap doesnt find me attractive then hes well within his rights to think that.

Itd be fairly cheeky of me to get all uppity about it

Wang King

I dated a taller bird, wasn't for me I'm afraid

Dogowner55

Wang King wrote: »

I dated a taller bird, wasn't for me I'm afraid

Bad news that's a dude your gay now

Aineoil

I'm 4 foot eleven and a half inches (and yes the half inch counts) in height in my stocking feet. I know it's after hours but this fact is true about me.

So no I wouldn't date someone smaller than me.

NachoBusiness

Aineoil wrote: »

So no I wouldn't date someone smaller than me.

What about a little Brad Pitt?

Wang King

Aineoil wrote: »

I'm 4 foot eleven and a half inches (and yes the half inch counts) in height in my stocking feet. I know it's after hours but this fact is true about me.

So no I wouldn't date someone smaller than me.

Don't think there are many hobbits left in Ireland though

Penny Tration

steddyeddy wrote: »

Maybe I'm wrong about the double standard. Girls is it still wrong to reject a girl because of her weight?

I'm an overweight woman (although I've lost 22lbs in the last six weeks and am continuing to lose ) and no it's not wrong. Whether we admit it or not, physical attraction is important. Yes, personality matters a LOT, but you can't fcuk it.

Aineoil

Wang King wrote: »

Don't think there are many hobbits left in Ireland though

I'm not a hobbit, just vertically challenged.:D

Dogowner55

Aineoil wrote: »

I'm 4 foot eleven and a half inches (and yes the half inch counts) in height in my stocking feet. I know it's after hours but this fact is true about me.

So no I wouldn't date someone smaller than me.

Truefully I wouldn't date a woman your size either, be wierd dating a someone that small, the looks from people thinking your dating a child would put you right off.

Wang King

Aineoil wrote: »

I'm not a hobbit, just vertically challenged.:D

I meant males actually... You're more of a ......Tinkerbell.... How's pixie hollow these days?

Fat Christy

Yes, I'm a 5'9 female. Went out with a guy 5'5 and my last bf of nearly 4 years was 5'9/same height. It's not like you have any control over what height you are.

Aineoil

NachoBusiness wrote: »

What about a little Brad Pitt?

Brad Pitt doesn't do it for me.

Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius!

Jenny Thalia wrote: »

I'm an overweight woman (although I've lost 22lbs in the last six weeks and am continuing to lose

Wow, congrats to you! :-D

Kwiecien

I'm tall.

Previous boyfriend was shorter than me. It didn't bother me. My height bothered him though. He would whine if i wore high heels! He thought everyone was staring at us (they weren't). Relationship didn't last....

10 years on - I'm marred to a lovely man, 6'5" - he admitted he asked me out because I'm tall too

It's not about height, it's attitude. I can't help being tall. Issues like weight can be dealt with, people can lose and gain weight.

NachoBusiness

Kwiecien wrote: »

Previous boyfriend was shorter than me. It didn't bother me. My height bothered him though. He would whine if i wore high heels! He thought everyone was staring at us (they weren't).

Jesus, tell everyone why don't ya! :mad:

Wang King

Jenny Thalia wrote: »

I'm an overweight woman (although I've lost 22lbs in the last six weeks and am continuing to lose ) and no it's not wrong. Whether we admit it or not, physical attraction is important. Yes, personality matters a LOT, but you can't fcuk it.

If you prejudge someone on their height , before meeting them, that has nothing to do with physical attraction... And it's not the size of the jockey, its the length of his whip

bisounours

Aineoil wrote: »

vertically challenged.

"fun-sized"

steddyeddy

steddyeddy wrote: »

Maybe I'm wrong about the double standard. Girls is it still wrong to reject a girl because of her weight?

Rejecting someone because you don't find them attractive makes complete sense, weight or otherwise

Fat Christy

I don't do fat guys. Ironic really since I'm not exactly skinny.

Aineoil

bisounours wrote: »

"fun-sized"

I was called "the pocket girlfriend" by my husband's friends on numerous occasions.

I'm small, I can't help that.:D

Diamond Doll

I don't see anything wrong with it in theory, but I've just never been attracted to a man smaller than me. I'm around 5'5". Once or twice I've been with guys around the same height, but I even found that strange, and wasn't comfortable wearing heels beside them.

A friend of mine (around 5'11" and blonde) recently married a Chinese man who must be a foot shorter than her, the wedding photos are lovely but they do look somewhat mismatched! But very very happy, and isn't that what matters.

kfallon

Fat Christy wrote: »

I don't do fat guys. Ironic really since I'm not exactly skinny.

Fat guys do you??

Ave Sodalis

Wang King wrote:

If you prejudge someone on their height , before meeting them, that has nothing to do with physical attraction...

Why do you say that? If someone has bad teeth, I don't care how good looking they are otherwise, I don't care if they're a male me personality wise, it's a no. Some people find shorter people unattractive. Some people find taller people unattractive. Some people find bad teeth unattractive. Why is it nothing to do with physical attraction?

I'm 5ft 10, and although I prefer taller, I wouldn't have ruled out smaller.

Señor Fancy Pants

Fat Christy wrote: »

I don't do fat guys. Ironic really since I'm not exactly skinny.

Phew, bullet dodged! Another pie please Bob

Cold War Kid

steddyeddy wrote: »

Maybe I'm wrong about the double standard. Girls is it still wrong to reject a girl because of her weight?

What do you mean "still"? Of course it isn't. Why would you think it is?

I've never been attracted to a very overweight guy.

Richard Hillman

I wouldn't go out with a lady taller than me. Being a shortarse of 5'6, this very much limits my options.

Wang King

sup_dude wrote: »

Why do you say that? If someone has bad teeth, I don't care how good looking they are otherwise, I don't care if they're a male me personality wise, it's a no. Some people find shorter people unattractive. Some people find taller people unattractive. Some people find bad teeth unattractive. Why is it nothing to do with physical attraction?

I'm 5ft 10, and although I prefer taller, I wouldn't have ruled out smaller.

Before meeting someone? It's called being shallow

Fat Christy

kfallon wrote: »

Fat guys do you??

Nope they're always a lot skinnier than me. I have never been in a relationship with someone heavier than me. I think it's lifestyle as well. I'm quite active and I like cooking. A fat guy wouldn't suit me.

Señor Fancy Pants wrote: »

Phew, bullet dodged! Another pie please Bob

I'd ride you into next week, ya sexy b@stard.

bisounours

Someone said on another thread "looks will get you the interview but personality will get you the job"

In the long run, even if we all subscribe to the nip/tuck way of life, we're not going to look the same 20/40 years down the line...

Aineoil

Attraction to another person is not an exact science.

Tombi!

I suppose a lot of people misunderstand "I'm not attracted to you because you're fat" with "you're a fat bitch and will be always single". If you don't date an overweight woman, you're "sexist" to some people.
Personally, so long as your civil about what you like/dislike, then I don't see much problem if the person is fat, short, whatever.