What are the rules regarding sex tapes made with previous partners?

Galway K9 · 14-07-2015 03:06PM

Super-Rush wrote: »

I'm a qualified barrister, so the best thing to do is send me a copy of the tape so I can advise you accordingly.

Yes, I too am a qualified barrister. We can liaise with each other on its contents and give the OP the legal advice.

blue note · 14-07-2015 03:08PM

Galway K9 wrote: »

Yes, I too am a qualified barrister. We can liaise with each other on its contents and give the OP the legal advice.

There's much better stuff available than his scrawny pasty self. It's not worth requesting.

Ashbx · 14-07-2015 03:10PM

Kirby wrote: »

Come off it. Everybody keeps secrets from their loved ones. It's healthy.

Keeping secrets happens, of course! Is it healthy??? Certainly not!

PandaPoo · 14-07-2015 03:10PM

I still have some recordings of me and an ex. I watch them once a year I'd say, I look really hot in them so it's a nice reminder

my husband has seen them, no issue there.

I think I'll delete them though, no reason to have them bar a little ego boost every now and then.

Ashbx · 14-07-2015 03:12PM

Its a bit of a non question, isnt it? If you had to clarify on boards what your morals should be, you know what the answer is.

If he (you) wants any sort of relationship with this future girl, then he (you) will most definitely need to get rid of the video!

walkingshadow · 14-07-2015 03:13PM

PandaPoo wrote: »

I still have some recordings of me and an ex. I watch them once a year I'd say, I look really hot in them so it's a nice reminder my husband has seen them, no issue there.

I think I'll delete them though, no reason to have them bar a little ego boost every now and then.

Please don't.

seamus · 14-07-2015 03:42PM

I'd say there are two chances of his current girlfriend approving of it.

Think of it this way - if she had a sex tape of herself and her ex and she wanted to keep it so she could watch it while she was feeding the pony, how would he feel about it. Probably not good.

As sad as it would probably make him I think he probably needs to stick it in some backup file where he can forget about it completely, or watch it, commit it to the spank bank and then delete it.

14-07-2015 03:52PM

I think it'd be mannerly to delete it when the relationship ends, and to leave the gf in the dark about it's existence, forever.

14-07-2015 04:00PM

DeadHand wrote: »

I'm not sure why he'd want to keep it.

Really? You can't think of any reason?

I wouldn't erase a sex tape if I had one. I mean, when you're seventy and you can't even pull yourself into bed, it might be nice to have that stuff lying around for, eh, memories and suchlike...

Ashbx · 14-07-2015 04:06PM

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

Really? You can't think of any reason?

I wouldn't erase a sex tape if I had one. I mean, when you're seventy and you can't even pull yourself into bed, it might be nice to have that stuff lying around for, eh, memories and suchlike...

Well if he is so happy in his new relationship, he wont want to look at it! I know I certainly don't want to see myself with any of my ex's.

They are ex's for a reason!

14-07-2015 04:09PM

Ashbx wrote: »

Well if he is so happy in his new relationship, he wont want to look at it! I know I certainly don't want to see myself with any of my ex's.

They are ex's for a reason!

I can't help but feel that one has nothing to do with the other. It's like saying that if you fancy your bf/gf you won't ever look at anyone else. It sounds nice, but it has nothing to do with real human nature.

OneOfThem · 14-07-2015 04:23PM

Think it'd depend on the current partner. I had a few (most pictures/videos girls had sent me, rather than ones involving me) when I got with my ex, it came up in conversation and I told her. She didn't have a problem, was pretty enthusiastic actually. Genuinely just never thought to tell her before then. Never crossed my mind to delete them either. As to why I kept them? Well for me, porn involving girls I'd actually been with would always be far ahead of porn involving some random girl I never will be with. Would be the same in terms of imagination based things. Would always have tended to think of previous actual experiences or girls that would soon (hopefully) be involved in actual experiences. Would never be someone to be off fantasising about a celebrity or anything like that, just doesn't do anything for me.

With my current gf, I know her well enough to know she'd be pretty uncomfortable with me retaining something like that. So wouldn't have anything like that (not involving her).

That's just me though, no problem with anyone seeing it differently.

Specialun · 14-07-2015 04:23PM

Love these "friend" stories

walkingshadow · 14-07-2015 04:27PM

Does YouPorn pay you for uploading a sex tape?

Toots · 14-07-2015 04:37PM

walkingshadow wrote: »

Does YouPorn pay you for uploading a sex tape?

Can't imagine the ex would be too happy about that, and some guy in the UK just got prosecuted for posting revenge porn so there's that to consider. Aside from the fact that it'd just be a sh!tty thing to do.

To the OP's friend I'd say this, if he's 100% sure his GF would be cool with him having those videos, then tell her. Hell, watching them together might make for some kinky sexy time. However if there's any doubt, as Seamus said, add them to the spank bank and delete them. Otherwise your 'friend' will probably end up in a PI thread some day: "Wife found sex tape of me and an ex on my laptop, now I'm sleeping in the shed"

Egginacup · 14-07-2015 04:53PM

Gongoozler wrote: »

If you're in a relationship with someone, I can't see why you'd want to keep a sex tape of someone else.

Plus would you not want to hear what your current girlfriend thinks of it...? as in would she be ok with that? Or is the idea to keep it a secret.

People are in serious relationships and still watch pornography. A sex tape is just pornography with you in it. I doubt his current girlfriend would want to watch it but the guy himself can watch and get a kick out of it. Would you throw away all photos of you with previous girlfriends hanging off your arm just because you broke up with them?

Roquentin · 14-07-2015 04:55PM

sex tapes are dangerous

walkingshadow · 14-07-2015 05:07PM

Roquentin wrote: »

sex tapes are dangerous

so is ISIS.

Roquentin · 14-07-2015 05:09PM

walkingshadow wrote: »

so is ISIS.

sex tapes are at least seven and a half times more dangerous

Samaris · 14-07-2015 05:12PM

Honestly, I'd be inclined to delete it. It's from the past, and he's serious with this girlfriend.

Then again, I wouldn't want someone to record me, and if I did, presumably due to temporary insanity, you'd be damned sure I'd want to be certain that they were deleted if we broke up. So honestly, I'd be more inclined to delete it for the peace of mind of the ex.

This crap gets onto the internet far too easily.

14-07-2015 05:19PM

Samaris wrote: »

Honestly, I'd be inclined to delete it. It's from the past, and he's serious with this girlfriend.

Then again, I wouldn't want someone to record me, and if I did, presumably due to temporary insanity, you'd be damned sure I'd want to be certain that they were deleted if we broke up. So honestly, I'd be more inclined to delete it for the peace of mind of the ex.

This crap gets onto the internet far too easily.

The problem is, even if it's deleted you don't know where else it is. I'd never consent to a sex tape or take naked selfies. The potential for disaster is too great, even if the other party is completely honorable.

howamidifferent · 14-07-2015 05:21PM

Candie wrote:

The problem is, even if it's deleted you don't know where else it is. I'd never consent to a sex tape or take naked selfies. The potential for disaster is too great, even if the other party is completely honorable.

Spoilsport...

Roquentin · 14-07-2015 05:22PM

Candie wrote: »

The problem is, even if it's deleted you don't know where else it is. I'd never consent to a sex tape or take naked selfies. The potential for disaster is too great, even if the other party is completely honorable.

i agree. id never agree to such a thing.

Samaris · 14-07-2015 05:29PM

Candie wrote: »

The problem is, even if it's deleted you don't know where else it is. I'd never consent to a sex tape or take naked selfies. The potential for disaster is too great, even if the other party is completely honorable.

Nah, I agree, although I don't have an issue with other people doing it; whatever floats your boat, sorta thing. I certainly wouldn't say that X deserves it if things went wrong and they ended up on the internet, it's an awful thing to happen. Not suggesting that you do, mind, it's just a point of view one does often see on the internet.

14-07-2015 05:32PM

Samaris wrote: »

Nah, I agree, although I don't have an issue with other people doing it; whatever floats your boat, sorta thing. I certainly wouldn't say that X deserves it if things went wrong and they ended up on the internet, it's an awful thing to happen. Not suggesting that you do, mind, it's just a point of view one does often see on the internet.

God no, no one deserves to be the victim of revenge porn.

People can do whatever makes them happy if it's not harming anyone, as far as I'm concerned, but tapes and naked selfies are not for me. No way Jose. Or anyone else who asks.

seenitall · 14-07-2015 05:46PM

Candie wrote: »

tapes and naked selfies are not for me.

I'd say that's pretty much a given these days for any half way intelligent person. Do you think that poor girl Jessica Brown-Findlay (just an example) will consent being filmed performing a sex act ever again, even in a most loving, most trusting relationship of her life? I doubt it.

And no, you don't have to be a semi-well known actress to get the kind of negative attention and grief she got when the thing leaks somewhere you never thought it would.

Samaris · 14-07-2015 05:46PM

Candie wrote: »

God no, no one deserves to be the victim of revenge porn.

People can do whatever makes them happy if it's not harming anyone, as far as I'm concerned, but tapes and naked selfies are not for me. No way Jose. Or anyone else who asks.

Heh, I'm entirely with you there!

recylingbin · 14-07-2015 05:48PM

Keep it in the Scotland v Holland 1978 world cup match box. No one will ever see it.

Roquentin · 14-07-2015 05:48PM

once something is on the net, its there for life. you can delete it from some website, but it will pop up on another and under a different title.

one has to be very careful

blue note · 14-07-2015 05:51PM

Samaris wrote: »

Honestly, I'd be inclined to delete it. It's from the past, and he's serious with this girlfriend.

Then again, I wouldn't want someone to record me, and if I did, presumably due to temporary insanity, you'd be damned sure I'd want to be certain that they were deleted if we broke up. So honestly, I'd be more inclined to delete it for the peace of mind of the ex.

This crap gets onto the internet far too easily.

The girl in the tapes had her phone stolen since and asked for the clips to be resent to her, so I think she's still okay with them existing!

What are the rules regarding sex tapes made with previous partners?

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