do you talk/bitch about people behind their backs?

NachoBusiness · 14-07-2015 01:25PM

If Big Brother has taught us anything, it's that most people bitch. If people are willing to it so openly, with cameras on them, when in the same house for a couple of months, then they will do it in their everyday lives for sure.

There is however the odd contestant that won't engage in it, confronts people to their face and walks away from bitching sessions, but they are as rare as hen's teeth in fairness. BB has also made it clear that it is something both sexes are equally as guilty of, which makes the term 'bitching' itself somewhat.. inapt.

eviltwin · 14-07-2015 01:28PM

Mesrine65 wrote: »

Don't do passive/aggressive...I'd rather call someone a cúnt to their face or tell them to go fúck themselves.

At least both parties know where they stand with each other.

Failing that, 'nothing good to say, say nothing' works for me.

Ditto. I hate people bitching. I especially hate bitching for no reason, just because people have a dislike for someone. I don't get involved in any of that, I find it childish, passive aggressive and it usually comes back to bite you.

I was on FB last week and found myself involved in a group chat where a friend of mine was bitching about his ex's new boyfriend and than dragged her and her family into it. I didn't get involved and left the conversation when I got the gist of what it was about. Sure enough the ex found out and now everyone involved is fighting and for what? So one guy could have a rant...pointless.

hatrickpatrick · 14-07-2015 02:51PM

Only if someone is directly a bollocks to me, and it comes up with mutual friends. I wouldn't just bitch about someone for the sake of it, or just about someone I didn't get on with - but if someone f*cks me over and someone else asks me why I'm not hanging with them much, I've no problem explaining why.

hatrickpatrick · 14-07-2015 02:55PM

NachoBusiness wrote: »

If Big Brother has taught us anything, it's that most people bitch. If people are willing to it so openly, with cameras on them, when in the same house for a couple of months, then they will do it in their everyday lives for sure.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HyoXu2eap5c#t=35m25s

One of the best episodes of Big Brother ever, starting from about 35 minutes in. Featuring an Irish guy ignoring the b!tching and then after staying silent for the whole argument, proclaiming "I've never heard so much... BOLLIX, lads."

14-07-2015 03:09PM

Most people voice opinions about other people at some point. If it's habitual or constantly about the same person, it's not on.

It's human nature to talk about each other though, it's not always going to be relentlessly positive, but there's no need to be poisonous about people behind their backs either.

SMJSF · 14-07-2015 03:26PM

I'm female, it's in my nature!
I will always have something bad to say or gossip about someone, and most would always have a problem with me.
But I wasn't born to please everyone...

But I'm not a false person. If I have a problem with someone, they will know. I can't be false and pretend to be their friend when I secretly want to kill them! I'm crap at acting, so I don't bother!!

HalloweenJack · 14-07-2015 03:49PM

I bitch quite frequently and I'm happy with it because I'm not two-faced about it.

I don't go around telling people my negative opinions to their face but I'm sufficiently brusque and stand-offish with people I don't have time for that it's obvious enough to anyone with half a brain.

Menas · 14-07-2015 04:23PM

Candie wrote: »

Most people voice opinions about other people at some point. If it's habitual or constantly about the same person, it's not on.

It's human nature to talk about each other though, it's not always going to be relentlessly positive, but there's no need to be poisonous about people behind their backs either.

Spot on. Some people seem to be able to maintain a duplicity where they are nice to a person when engaging with them but downright spiteful and nasty behind their backs. Not a nice trait.

The Adversary · 14-07-2015 05:59PM

Don't usually initiate it but if the person is a genuine nob I might engage depending on how the person has treated me. Can't stand the petty bitching based on appearance or a perceived personality flaw (such as being too quite) when the person is generally sound.

Boom_Bap · 14-07-2015 06:05PM

I'm 100% Irish so I 100% do this.

kerry4sam · 14-07-2015 06:47PM

In my current place of work there is this one guy who has a problem with me for reasons that I don't yet know myself. He comes round to my section and pulls up a seat with another in my section and be all secrets & whispers in-front of me and showing texts and talking absolute sh!te.
Now clearly my being there is a problem for him in that if I were not there he'd have no need for all his secrets & whispers and making a point of showing private texts in-front of me.
^^^ One day I found out:
He stopped working when he should've been working ; made the effort to pull up a seat right up close to my work colleague in my section; start whispering and showing a secret text that I clearly wasn't meant to see or hear about &
... It was all for the sake of a soccer game result. That's the sorta sh!te happening in-front of me in my work-place.

More days he tries to be discrete and whisper in riddles about more sh!te only in-front of me and no-one else.

He clearly has issues & needs to grow up! Maybe one day he'll tell me what his problem is - strange character.
I'm enjoying watching his antics though.

It is people like him though that have me pulling out my auld Psychology books to try understand him and his character so always an up-side. I'm constantly learning.

I only even talk about people behind their backs in praise. I don't see the point in being a b!tch myself <- something I never understood! It is a form of bullying anyways that I'm couldn't be more against.

Thanks,
kerry4sam

do you talk/bitch about people behind their backs?

Comments