Dating rich womens

feargale · 12-07-2015 07:41PM

Peadar O'Donnell had the right idea, preached hard left Marxism ( emigration to be outlawed as in the GDR etc. etc.,) and dated and married a Dublin heiress, swanning around the capital in a flashy car while rubbing shoulders with the great and good here.

RDM_83 again · 12-07-2015 07:43PM

I think one partner earning a lot less or being more financially insecure than their partners does have issues, it fcuks with life plans (renting, mortgages big holidays cars kids etc)and its harder to make big reciprocal gestures, neither you or your partner has to be materialistic for it to cause issues, that said if your both financially secure and its just a difference in earnings maybe that wouldn't happen.

Out of the couples I know I guess its probably 50-50 who earns more, that said I think when it comes to having a family its probably harder if the guy earns less, even with equal parenting pregnancy is happening to the woman and babies seem to cost a lot!

eviltwin · 12-07-2015 07:47PM

If the idea of a woman earning more than you - or a man earning less - is a problem because you think it should be the other way around you have a lot of growing up to do and should probably avoid relationships until you mature a bit.

seenitall · 12-07-2015 07:51PM

A very good friend of mine has 4 kids with her husband whom she met when they were both 17-18, and as life transpired, she is the one bringing home almost all of the bacon. She's a very driven woman career-wise and provider role-wise though, and knowing her well, I'm quite sure she'd be the same even if he were more ambitious jobswise, which he isn't. He's quite happy to be a stay at home dad, and doing an odd job here and there, when an opportunity calls.

It all worked out for them. You could never see a couple more in love with one another after 20-odd years together, or treating each other with more affection and respect and complete serenity, especially notable as they now have 2 toddlers in addition to two older kids to handle. I'm in awe of all that! I just sit back and marvel whenever I'm in their company.

The point is - there's no rulebook anymore, OP, and thank goodness for that. It's whatever works. Having a loving partner in life is the main thing. If the love and respect and partnership are there, everything else will fall into place one way or another.

Stheno · 12-07-2015 07:52PM

RDM_83 again wrote: »

I think one partner earning a lot less or being more financially insecure than their partners does have issues, it fcuks with life plans (renting, mortgages big holidays cars kids etc)and its harder to make big reciprocal gestures, neither you or your partner has to be materialistic for it to cause issues, that said if your both financially secure and its just a difference in earnings maybe that wouldn't happen.

Out of the couples I know I guess its probably 50-50 who earns more, that said I think when it comes to having a family its probably harder if the guy earns less, even with equal parenting pregnancy is happening to the woman and babies seem to cost a lot!

Not necessarily

I take the approach of paying expenses on a split basis as a percentage so if I earn 100k and my oh earns 25k I pay 80% of the expenses and they 20%

That means that proportionately we both have decent spending money

I do tend to pay for holidays if we go on one which is rare as days off mean no pay for me

He tends to go overboard for birthdays and Christmas more so than I, and the stuff he does week by week such as sorting out my dry cleaning or getting my shoes mended when I can't as I'm awat with work mean a lot to me

Were both of us like me, life would be a ball of stress or we'd have to have cleaners etc

We will be looking for a mortgage in a few years but are agreed on what we want and happy with it

RDM_83 again · 12-07-2015 08:01PM

Stheno wrote: »

Not necessarily

I take the approach of paying expenses on a split basis as a percentage so if I earn 100k and my oh earns 25k I pay 80% of the expenses and they 20%

That means that proportionately we both have decent spending money

I do tend to pay for holidays if we go on one which is rare as days off mean no pay for me

He tends to go overboard for birthdays and Christmas more so than I, and the stuff he does week by week such as sorting out my dry cleaning or getting my shoes mended when I can't as I'm awaynwithbwork mean a lot to me

We're both of us like me, life would be a ball of stress or we'd have to have cleaners etc

We will be looking for a mortgage in a few years but are agreed on what we want and happy with it

I don't think its unworkable at all but I do think it adds an extra layer of stress, I'd guess the thing is that as a unit your financially comfortable (125k combined salary), if one partner is on 40 and the other on an insecure 20 its a not really the same.

Stheno · 12-07-2015 08:06PM

RDM_83 again wrote: »

I don't think its unworkable at all but I do think it adds an extra layer of stress, I'd guess the thing is that as a unit your financially comfortable (125k combined salary), if one partner is on 40 and the other on an insecure 20 its a not really the same.

Ah I was using that as an example, they are not actual figures

I'm not willing to post the actuals, I just used those to illustraate how I approach it

pickarooney · 13-07-2015 06:50AM

Candie wrote: »

Why is it natural for a man to feel that way?

Surely that day is long gone, or at least should be.

It's still illegal for a woman to earn more than 77% of what a mn earns, I'm fairly certain.

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