Weird housemate

fryup · 11-07-2015 09:50PM

OP, don't be too hard on the guy...maybe he's got mental health problems like social anxiety or autistic

northgirl · 11-07-2015 09:58PM

Cody montana wrote: »

So I refused to do it this week, several days later, the dishwasher was still full of cleaned dishes and the bin is still overflowing and has flies buzzing around it.

Flies now, maggots next ...

wuzziwig · 11-07-2015 10:04PM

Buy in some Chianti and fava beans and away you go.

jamesbere · 11-07-2015 10:11PM

Ah the joy of house sharing, I've lived with a few odd balls. People that don't do a bit of house work annoy the hell out of me.

I got well ticked off with a fella before cos he didn't do a tap and left his dishes everywhere and never put anything in the bin. Told him to change his act but no joy so I collected all the dishes he used and left them outside his door.

Guess what he stepped over them and left them there, I was away for a few days and when I came back still there. At this stage there was also a smell coming from his room when you passed the door (not the dishes outside the door they were clean by me), so I called the landlord and complained about him, he called over and could definitely get a smell.

He said he couldn't enter the room so had a word with him, no joy. Two weeks go by and the smell gets worse, so got sick of it and went into his room. Didn't like doing it but was gone beyond a joke at this stage. What I saw in the room was horrible. He had dirty plates which had not seen the light of day since god no when, bottles yellow liquid which turned out to be piss and he must of s##t myself sometime because there were s##t covered clothes in the corner of the room. Disgusting stuff, recorded it and showed the landlord. Your man was kicked out two days later. Landlord had to dump the mattress and carpet, but on the plus he gave me two months free rent.

Cody montana · 12-07-2015 05:51PM

Right, I'm home, nothing was done over the weekend.
I'm in the sitting room waiting for the arsehole to come home....:eek:

El_Duderino 09 · 12-07-2015 06:05PM

Cody montana wrote: »

Right, I'm home, nothing was done over the weekend.
I'm in the sitting room waiting for the arsehole to come home....:eek:

Go for it. If he hasn't learned these things by now, you telling him what's expected is the only way the fella will ever learn it.

Cody montana · 12-07-2015 06:18PM

I'm composing a song as we speak.
I am going to embarrass him via the power of music.

What rhymes with dishwasher?

Arrow in the Knee · 12-07-2015 06:21PM

Cody montana wrote: »

What rhymes with dishwasher?

Scrubber

NachoBusiness · 12-07-2015 06:27PM

Cody montana wrote: »

He's a fu@king weirdo in general.

I appreciate he is annoying you but posting his email here is out of order.

Arrow in the Knee · 12-07-2015 06:34PM

Cody montana wrote: »

Right, I'm home, nothing was done over the weekend.
I'm in the sitting room waiting for the arsehole to come home....:eek:

You sound like my wife!

Cody montana · 12-07-2015 06:37PM

Arrow in the Knee wrote: »

Scrubber

Hey confused Achilles, that doesn't rhyme.

Cody montana · 12-07-2015 06:39PM

Arrow in the Knee wrote: »

You sound like my wife!

Does your wife teach you a lesson on cleaning with a guitar and no clothes on?
I've just decided on the last part.

Aineoil · 12-07-2015 06:51PM

Cody montana wrote: »

Cleaning with a guitar and no clothes on.
I've just decided on the last part.

Sounds like a good plan.

Give your housemate a wink and say hello gorgeous.

mikemac1 · 12-07-2015 06:58PM

Never leaves his room?

I read a stack of threads in personal issues forum and housemates moving their wimmin or lad in and taking over the place

The guy stays in his room and never bothers you. Yeah he's not clean but Id say there is some social anxiety involved here

As housemates go you could do worse

CarrickMcJoe · 12-07-2015 07:06PM

Kill him,or chances are he will kill you and hide your bodies in the dishwasher (providing you've cleaned it out)!

suicide_circus · 12-07-2015 07:15PM

fryup wrote: »

OP, don't be too hard on the guy...maybe he's got mental health problems like social anxiety or autistic

So, what? The OP should be this guys live in servant on the off chance he has some disorder? Fcuk that. Tell him to sort himself out or you'll be on to the landlord.

17larsson · 12-07-2015 07:18PM

Cody montana wrote: »

Probably him, thing is he took clean dishes out of the dishwasher and then washed them in the sink when finished, and left the rest inside.
So I did the same.

So he washed the dishes he used?

Cody montana · 12-07-2015 07:19PM

Why don't you clean!

We all live here and we all share and care,
We all live here, we clean but you just stare,
My anger grows like the rubbish in the bin,
Clean the house or on your bed I'll murder a hen.

It's took clunky, his laziness has ruined my sense of musical compositing as well.

Cody montana · 12-07-2015 07:20PM

17larsson wrote: »

So he washed the dishes he used?

By putting them in the dishwasher originally and then taking them out.

Paramite Pie · 12-07-2015 07:22PM

Social Anxiety ultimately isn't a good enough reason to not pull your weight -- I say this as someone who experiences it.

In order to avoid being too confrontational (if your worried about him avoiding you), throw him a bone and maybe have a group discussion about not 'everyone' doing their share. This will avoid calling him out directly if he is sensitive but he'll still know it's about him.

Agree on a schedule together on basic chores. Maybe at first when it's his turn to do it, both of ye retreat into your rooms or go out for a wee bit. If he is socially awkward he'll use that time to get his share done.

If that fails, call his mother. :P

Links234 wrote: »

Hah, reminds me of a story my friend had, he was living with some people who never cleaned up or did the dishes, etc. So he got pissed off, bought his own dishes, cutlery and utensils and kept them in his room, washing them up right after use and bringing them back to his room again. The housemates got super annoyed with him, because all their crap was getting piled up and up, and he wasn't washing it up for them.

Wow... what sort of entitled **@'s did he live with? If it were me, I'd buy a pet mouse and let it loose into the kitchen. And wait.

tom tit tot · 13-07-2015 04:45PM

Play the waiting game?

lisasimpson · 13-07-2015 06:14PM

A there can be some right odd balls when it comes to housemates.... had the fair share.have the other housemate with you if you can. once lived with a girl who worked different hrs to the rest of us. she was loud coming in late at night.. totally lost the plot when we asked her to keep the noise down late at night coz the rest of us had to be up early in the mornings.... she rounded on us stormed off had a go at the landlord and only cameback once to collect her stuff

YFlyer · 13-07-2015 06:30PM

donegaLroad wrote: »

years back, a housemate decided to buy a pet snake which he kept in a glass case in the living room. He fed it mice which he kept in the freezer. He never asked anyone, just arrived back with it one day.. his other friends who were also lodgers in the house could see nothing wrong with this, and thought it was 'cool'... he was gone in 3 weeks.

Snake ate him?

Overheal · 18-07-2015 06:14AM

Links234 wrote: »

Hah, reminds me of a story my friend had, he was living with some people who never cleaned up or did the dishes, etc. So he got pissed off, bought his own dishes, cutlery and utensils and kept them in his room, washing them up right after use and bringing them back to his room again. The housemates got super annoyed with him, because all their crap was getting piled up and up, and he wasn't washing it up for them.

The worst part of that tactic is cooking utensils. Eg. I will clean my pans when I'm done with them, but in return I have a dirty greasy pan left behind for me whenever I need it. Thus I either clean it, use it, then clean it, or I don't clean it and all hell breaks loose. So don't cook. Well now what the hell.

18-07-2015 07:47AM

Kill him....before he kills you OP

make it look like an accident

RaRaRasputin · 18-07-2015 07:52AM

I'm not sure why the OP should walk on egg shells when talking to the house mate, nobody even knows if he has any form of disorder.

Just say it as it is OP, as it is you waited too long to let all the resentment building up. Next time say something earlier

El_Duderino 09 · 18-07-2015 07:59AM

I though I was a special snowflake having lived with a scruffy bugger but the very same behaviours appear to be all too common.

The guy was an only child who's parents split up when he was young and he was sent to live with granny. First of all his craic was shyte from living with older folk but nobody ever taught him to do the basics to take care of himself. He stank and his room was filthy. Never used bedsheets or duvet covers. Never cleaned the house unless badgered into it.

He kept bringing food to his room send keeping the plates, cutlery, cups and glasses. We ran out and asked him straight out where they had gone and he was scoobied. So eventually we just went into the room and took them. The state of the room was shocking. Everything was covered in a layer of pubes and dust and it stunk. As soon as we cleaned up and had all our utensils back, they started migrating to his room again.

He and his room got to the point where we couldn't bring people to the house because it stunk up the whole house.

Made up a story about having a kinky girlfriend and kept it up for the whole year

Filthy bugger. Dirty, dirty boy.

rocheyy · 18-07-2015 08:20AM

Having a dish washer in a shared house is a bad idea anyway! People have to clean their dishes after they use them if there's no dish washer! Id hate to be in your situation hate messy people drives me insane!

ToddyDoody · 18-07-2015 02:31PM

Cody montana wrote: »

Have you had any difficult housemates?

I've lived by myself a lot but i'd say i've had two difficult housemates.

One was in college and the housemate was absolutely wild when he was on the drink, and was somewhat wild for the drink too. Over-did it a bit and nearly drove me mental.

The other one might have been my fault for kinda fancying the housemate. Needless to say, I ended up moving out.

...not that I'm the best housemate in the world by a long shot.

Starscream25 · 18-07-2015 02:33PM

Cody montana wrote: »

So he hasn't done a shred of cleaning in a whole year, not even emptied the
dishwasher or bin.
So I refused to do it this week, several days later, the dishwasher was still full of cleaned dishes and the bin is still overflowing and has flies buzzing around it.

It would be easy to give out to him, but he never leaves his room.
So how do I get him evicted?

Have you had any difficult housemates?

I lived with someone similar, he was a polish hippy, nothing against polish. He wallowed in his own filth, didn't use any bedsheet, let mould grow on used plates etc, never cleaning, some people are just pigs, I feel your pain op

Weird housemate

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