Joined at the hips

steddyeddy · 09-07-2015 06:48PM #1

One of my friends has been going out with a girl for two years. Every single time we go out he takes her with him. She goes mad when he doesn't. He brought her on a stag. I asked him for advice in confidence a while ago and he brought her along too. When I brought this up with him that the whole couples thing is driving me crackers him and her insisted on trying to set me up with someone despite the fact I'm emigrating soon. None of the other lads or female friends do this to this extent.

Do you know any couples that can no longer function as individuals and have to involve their OH in everything? I've stopped going out with them am I being unreasonable?

purplecow1977 · 09-07-2015 06:49PM

steddyeddy wrote: »

One of my friends has been going out with a girl for two years. Every single time we go out he takes her with him. She goes mad when he doesn't. He brought her on a stag. I asked him for advice in confidence a while ago and he brought her along too. When I brought this up with him that the whole couples thing is driving me crackers him and her insisted on trying to set me up with someone despite the fact I'm emigrating soon. None of the other lads or female friends do this to this extent.

Do you know any couples that can no longer function as individuals and have to involve their OH in everything? I've stopped going out with them am I being unreasonable?

He brought her to a STAG?!??! Why would she even want to go?! Can't imagine it would be met with a good response if the shoe was on the other foot and a man was brought along to a hen! (Unless he was the stripper!)

She sounds very very insecure.

pmasterson95 · 09-07-2015 06:50PM

Shoot her. Solve your problem.

steddyeddy · 09-07-2015 06:54PM

purplecow1977 wrote: »

He brought her to a STAG?!??! Why would she even want to go?! Can't imagine it would be met with a good response if the shoe was on the other foot and a man was brought along to a hen! (Unless he was the stripper!)

She sounds very very insecure.

It's not her alone to be fair. It's both of them and she's a little more sensible than him.

A friend of ours is long term single and he asked him out, invited his OH and two of their coupley friends. I mean have some sensitivity. They did the same with me when I was single.

SmilesInMass · 09-07-2015 06:59PM

steddyeddy wrote: »

It's not her alone to be fair. It's both of them and she's a little more sensible than him.

A friend of ours is long term single and he asked him out, invited his OH and two of their coupley friends. I mean have some sensitivity. They did the same with me when I was single.

Maybe they wanted him to fill in numbers for an orgy? An extra man is always useful in that situation!

cassid · 09-07-2015 07:01PM

Its healthy to be apart in a relationship, when away for a few days its great seeing your partner again, you need to be able to miss them.

I know a few women who don't allow their partners out without them, or they have to be home by dark even if thats 7.00pm.

Am married 15 years and would drive him to the pub to get some peace and quiet, not that he is any bother, sometimes just like the house to myself when the children are in bed

ShoulderChip · 09-07-2015 07:04PM

SmilesInMass wrote: »

Maybe they wanted him to fill in numbers for an orgy? An extra man is always useful in that situation!

I am with you there!
I dont see any need for women in an orgy.

steddyeddy · 09-07-2015 07:07PM

cassid wrote: »

Its healthy to be apart in a relationship, when away for a few days its great seeing your partner again, you need to be able to miss them.

I know a few women who don't allow their partners out without them, or they have to be home by dark even if thats 7.00pm.

Am married 15 years and would drive him to the pub to get some peace and quiet, not that he is any bother, sometimes just like the house to myself when the children are in bed

It's both of them and not his GF. He insists on her coming too.

corner of hells · 09-07-2015 07:10PM

steddyeddy wrote: »

It's both of them and not his GF. He insists on her coming too.

Very considerate of him insisting she comes.
Does he sleep in the wet patch ?

Aineoil · 09-07-2015 07:11PM

steddyeddy wrote: »

It's both of them and not his GF. He insists on her coming too.

That's not healthy for either of them.

purplecow1977 · 09-07-2015 07:16PM

steddyeddy wrote: »

It's both of them and not his GF. He insists on her coming too.

But is that because if he doesn't he'll get an earful?!

I just don't see why 2 people can't spend a bit of time apart!

A night out with the boys, should be just that!

Going on a stag?! She should have more cop-on & say no! Will ye go off and enjoy yourselves!

Topper Harley · 09-07-2015 07:18PM

steddyeddy wrote: »

He brought her on a stag.

This is just beyond weird. It defeats the whole purpose of a stag.

cassid wrote: »

Am married 15 years and would drive him to the pub to get some peace and quiet, not that he is any bother, sometimes just like the house to myself when the children are in bed

If things don't work out, I'd like to marry you next.

mailforkev · 09-07-2015 07:21PM

How was he allowed bring her on a stag? Why did your group of friends accommodate this oddbod?

Stag options are very simple.
A. Friend comes minus girlfriend.
B. Friend doesn't come.

jamesbere · 09-07-2015 07:34PM

pmasterson95 wrote: »

Shoot her. Solve your problem.

Only solution really. Especially when she's goes on the stag. She probably has a tracking device on him

libelula · 09-07-2015 07:42PM

Jesus. If my fella brought me with him everywhere he goes, I'd throttle him! I've my own stuff to be at.

There are some major insecurity issues there OP, I can't say I blame you for ditching the friend

Talib Fiasco · 09-07-2015 07:44PM

He is p*ssy whipped by her.

hatrickpatrick · 09-07-2015 07:44PM

I've broken up with women for pulling this crap. My honest advice is, at the first hint of something like that developing, get out.

Talib Fiasco · 09-07-2015 07:50PM

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

I've broken up with women for pulling this crap. My honest advice is, at the first hint of something like that developing, get out.

The thing is, it's not so much that the woman is pulling this crap, it's the fact the man is allowing her get away with it which is only reassuring her to do it more. It's his fault for not manning up and telling her off, or yeah f*cking off out of the relationship

Banjo String · 09-07-2015 07:51PM

He brought her on a stag.

Stopped reading at this.

Take his man card away, immediately if not sooner. Stop all contract too.

The humanity.

steddyeddy · 09-07-2015 07:52PM

Aineoil wrote: »

That's not healthy for either of them.

Feck them it's not healthy on us! It's sickening!

moc moc a moc · 09-07-2015 07:52PM

steddyeddy wrote: »

He brought her on a stag.

This is the most pathetic thing I've heard in months. He should have been barred from the stag, and had his last man card confiscated.

NachoBusiness · 09-07-2015 07:54PM

I can't stand people.

El Weirdo · 09-07-2015 08:05PM

mailforkev wrote: »

How was he allowed bring her on a stag? Why did your group of friends accommodate this oddbod?

Stag options are very simple.
A. Friend comes minus girlfriend.
B. Friend doesn't come.

^This.

I honestly don't believe that this actually happened.

If it did, you and his other mates are just as bad for allowing it.

buried · 09-07-2015 08:11PM

"Brought her on the stag"? Sorry. Not buying that. If that actually did happen you all should have said you weren't going on it.

Deranged96 · 09-07-2015 08:15PM

steddyeddy wrote: »

One of my friends has been going out with a girl for two years. Every single time we go out he takes her with him. She goes mad when he doesn't. He brought her on a stag. I asked him for advice in confidence a while ago and he brought her along too. When I brought this up with him that the whole couples thing is driving me crackers him and her insisted on trying to set me up with someone despite the fact I'm emigrating soon. None of the other lads or female friends do this to this extent.

Do you know any couples that can no longer function as individuals and have to involve their OH in everything? I've stopped going out with them am I being unreasonable?

OH... Other half... that's the problem, isn't it?

Nobody is half a person. Nobody needs anyone to complete them. You find someone who enhances your life and whom you love. You do not find your other half, you have two halves already.

She's terribly insecure if she can't leave his side, she doesn't view herself as an autonomous two halves person.

And it takes two to tango, so he can't be all that self assured himself.

steddyeddy · 09-07-2015 08:16PM

Guys I might have described the situation wrong but it's definitely not a case of home being whipped by her. Even when she's not out he calls her begging him to come out. It's just a weird weird interdependence him and her and some of their coupely friends have!

bodhrandude · 09-07-2015 08:31PM

I thought with the thread title you were talking about a catsuit or something like that.

biko · 09-07-2015 09:22PM

Somewhere on some chick forum there is a poster angry that her friend always brings the bf everywhere.

agent graves · 09-07-2015 09:27PM

b1tches be crazy

YurOK2 · 09-07-2015 09:59PM

That sounds like absolute hell to me.
I'm feckin delighted when my husband tells me he's heading off somewhere, even if I'm not doing anything myself, it's nice to have a few hours to be by yourself.
There's something seriously wrong with your relationship if you need to go everywhere together. There's no trust and one or both have no self confidence.

Cold War Kid · 09-07-2015 10:04PM

Talib Fiasco wrote: »

The thing is, it's not so much that the woman is pulling this crap, it's the fact the man is allowing her get away with it which is only reassuring her to do it more. It's his fault for not manning up and telling her off, or yeah f*cking off out of the relationship

It's moreso her fault for bossing him around. Ideally he would tell her to get lost but responsibility still shouldn't be deflected entirely onto him.

Joined at the hips

Comments