Dating Deal Breakers

Gannicus · 20-06-2015 02:20PM #1

So recently I went on a bit of a blind date. The reason I say it was a bit of a blind date is while I never met the person in real life I have seen them commenting on facebook [oh what a wonderful invention (sarcasm)] as we have a mutual friend.

I've had awful, strange, spine-chilling dates throughout my life but thiss one was just bad. I've also had really good ones before someone starts accusing me of just being a pessimist.

So we met for a drink before we went for some food. She seemed nice to begin with. Friendly enough, good looking girl. I have some dating pet peeves. This girl seemed to get a list of them off our friend and it was almost like she tried to get through the list before the night was out. Rather than giving a play by play of the entire date I'll put a list of some of the things on my list.

1. Chewed with her mouth open (noises like feeding a horse)
2. Kept her phone on the table.
3. Talked to me while texting her friend(s) or facebooked.
4. Brought up ex-boyfriends.
5. Generally complained about her day
6. 30 mins late (MY BIGGEST PET PEEVE)

Needless to say i wasn't really attracted to her bar appearance so I seriously doubt I'll see her again.

So AH-ers what are you're dating deal breakers or whats you biggest dating pet peeve. Is there any one thing adate could do that will guarantee there'll be no second date.

Birneybau · 20-06-2015 02:23PM

Sh!t on the table. That's a no-no.

The Moldy Gowl · 20-06-2015 02:24PM

Was she wearing head phones as well??

#neverforget

gramar · 20-06-2015 02:24PM

Gannicus wrote: »

So AH-ers what are you're dating deal breakers or whats you biggest dating pet peeve. Is there any one thing a date could do that will guarantee there'll be no second date.

Kill you.

Sir Osis of Liver. · 20-06-2015 02:25PM

Was anyone else waiting for 'Shure,i rode her anyway'.

Gannicus · 20-06-2015 02:25PM

Sir Osis of Liver. wrote: »

Was anyone else waiting for 'Shure,i rode her anyway'.

I didn't.

mfceiling · 20-06-2015 02:26PM

You sound like a real catch OP.

Surprised you haven't been snapped up yet...

SeanFrank · 20-06-2015 02:29PM

Yeah, sounds like she dodged a bullet.

Gannicus · 20-06-2015 02:31PM

mfceiling wrote: »

You sound like a real catch OP.

Surprised you haven't been snapped up yet...

I don't quite get what you're implying by this. Am I wrong to expect someone to have some basic manners when meeting someone for the first time and do something like chew with their mouth closed or put the phone away for 1 single meal. If there was a chance their might be an emergency at home thats fine have the ringer on but leave the phone in your pocket or bag.

Or be ontime for that matter.

LDN_Irish · 20-06-2015 02:35PM

Gannicus wrote: »

Or be ontime for that matter.

What are you? Farrin or suttim? She was
****ing early.

Gannicus · 20-06-2015 02:37PM

LDN_Irish wrote: »

What are you? Farrin or suttim? She was
****ing early.

Had to read that twice ha ha

Sheep Lover · 20-06-2015 02:37PM

No pulse is where I'd draw the line.

the evasion_kid · 20-06-2015 02:39PM

Gannicus wrote: »

So recently I went on a bit of a blind date. The reason I say it was a bit of a blind date is while I never met the person in real life I have seen them commenting on facebook [oh what a wonderful invention (sarcasm)] as we have a mutual friend.

I've had awful, strange, spine-chilling dates throughout my life but thiss one was just bad. I've also had really good ones before someone starts accusing me of just being a pessimist.

So we met for a drink before we went for some food. She seemed nice to begin with. Friendly enough, good looking girl. I have some dating pet peeves. This girl seemed to get a list of them off our friend and it was almost like she tried to get through the list before the night was out. Rather than giving a play by play of the entire date I'll put a list of some of the things on my list.

1. Chewed with her mouth open (noises like feeding a horse)
2. Kept her phone on the table.
3. Talked to me while texting her friend(s) or facebooked.
4. Brought up ex-boyfriends.
5. Generally complained about her day
6. 30 mins late (MY BIGGEST PET PEEVE)

Needless to say i wasn't really attracted to her bar appearance so I seriously doubt I'll see her again.

So AH-ers what are you're dating deal breakers or whats you biggest dating pet peeve. Is there any one thing adate could do that will guarantee there'll be no second date.

The amount of dates I've been on and this has happened...and I thought It was written in stone by women to never ever mention exs on a first date,its kinda an instant turn off.

Talib Fiasco · 20-06-2015 02:40PM

Sounds like she wasn't attracted at all to you but was too kind to say it. Seemed like a top gal but you were too much of a beta.

Deal breaker for me....if she spits instead of swallows...that's just not nice

wnolan1992 · 20-06-2015 02:42PM

Sheep Lover wrote: »

No pulse is where I'd draw the line.

Snob.

Gannicus · 20-06-2015 02:44PM

the evasion_kid wrote: »

The amount of dates I've been on and this has happened...and I thought It was written in stone by women to never ever mention exs on a first date,its kinda an instant turn off.

Thats what I've been told from female friends too. Don't talk about ex-s. my reason for not liking it is that if you've broken up with someone and go on a date an start talking about them you're either not over them or not ready to date others

Talib Fiasco wrote: »

Sounds like she wasn't attracted at all to you but was too kind to say it.

That could quite possibly be the case.

skittles8710 · 20-06-2015 03:03PM

How old are you OP ?

Gannicus · 20-06-2015 03:03PM

skittles8710 wrote: »

How old are you OP ?

29 why?

the evasion_kid · 20-06-2015 03:04PM

Gannicus wrote: »

Thats what I've been told from female friends too. Don't talk about ex-s. my reason for not liking it is that if you've broken up with someone and go on a date an start talking about them you're either not over them or not ready to date others

That could quite possibly be the case.

Yeah might as well make your excuses and leave,save yourself the time cause in the back of your head its already done or if you do carry on you wont invest much in it.

skittles8710 · 20-06-2015 03:06PM

Gannicus wrote: »

29 why?

Ah just curious.

Gannicus · 20-06-2015 03:08PM

skittles8710 wrote: »

Ah just curious.

Why the curiosity about my age?

Streetwalker · 20-06-2015 03:12PM

Anyone who speaks with one of those D4 fake American accents.

Buona Fortuna · 20-06-2015 03:20PM

Vagina, a pulse and not too much facial hair - in that order and we're good to rock.

Augme · 20-06-2015 03:23PM

I don't get the whole "never mention an ex" thing. I mean obviously if someone spends an hour talking about how amazing their ex was then it's a bit wtf but to just mention them in a story seems perfectly fine. If the topic of conversation goes to a place that it's difficult not to mention an ex then I would have no problem with it.

I find it far more weird that people are supposed to mentally plan a conversation to make sure they never mention an ex or else refer to them as a "friend".

conorh91 · 20-06-2015 03:26PM

Gannicus wrote: »

Why the curiosity about my age?

I was thinking the same question because you sounded either really young or really old. Like over fifty.

I didn't know people took offence at a mobile phone left on the table.

Gannicus · 20-06-2015 03:29PM

conorh91 wrote: »

I was thinking the same question because you sounded either really young or really old. Like over fifty.

I didn't know people took offence at a mobile phone left on the table.

Its not so much the fact that its on the table in and of itself. Some people are waiting on important calls about children or ill family. Its more that it becomes an easy distraction and to me it seems you're not that bothered to be there and it led to her texting and facebook while speaking but looking and scrolling through the phone.

agent graves · 20-06-2015 04:45PM

Picking the nose and eating it.. you're already eating dinner ffs

hatrickpatrick · 20-06-2015 04:47PM

Coming between me and my friends, including my ex and her husband and kid.

If any woman asks me to choose between her and my existing social circle, it's over. I've seen too many friends have their lives destroyed by this kind of thing in the past.

wandatowell · 20-06-2015 04:52PM

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

I've seen too many friends have their lives destroyed by this kind of thing in the past.

I dunno who's worse in this situation, the controlling woman or the piss weak man.

Either way they are well matched I guess

hatrickpatrick · 20-06-2015 05:10PM

wandatowell wrote: »

I dunno who's worse in this situation, the controlling woman or the piss weak man.

Either way they are well matched I guess

I don't blame men or women who end up in that kind of manipulative relationship in a lot of cases. Sure, people like you describe certainly exist, but emotional blackmail persists in a huge amount of cases as well. My first "relationship" involved a woman first threatening to tell our mutual friends that I'd cheated on her if I didn't date her, and then when that didn't work, telling me I was making her suicidal by not talking to her. After that experience, I'm far more hesitant to automatically label as weak-willed those who remain in such situations - especially to the inexperienced, guilt-bombs of that nature really f*ck with one's head. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, in the heat of the moment and when you have no prior experience to draw on, the threat of having someone's blood literally on your hands by not playing along can be impossible to walk away from.

Specialun · 20-06-2015 05:21PM

Always annoys me when they call the guards

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