Dating Deal Breakers

Gannicus

So recently I went on a bit of a blind date. The reason I say it was a bit of a blind date is while I never met the person in real life I have seen them commenting on facebook [oh what a wonderful invention (sarcasm)] as we have a mutual friend.

I've had awful, strange, spine-chilling dates throughout my life but thiss one was just bad. I've also had really good ones before someone starts accusing me of just being a pessimist.

So we met for a drink before we went for some food. She seemed nice to begin with. Friendly enough, good looking girl. I have some dating pet peeves. This girl seemed to get a list of them off our friend and it was almost like she tried to get through the list before the night was out. Rather than giving a play by play of the entire date I'll put a list of some of the things on my list.

1. Chewed with her mouth open (noises like feeding a horse)
2. Kept her phone on the table.
3. Talked to me while texting her friend(s) or facebooked.
4. Brought up ex-boyfriends.
5. Generally complained about her day
6. 30 mins late (MY BIGGEST PET PEEVE)

Needless to say i wasn't really attracted to her bar appearance so I seriously doubt I'll see her again.

So AH-ers what are you're dating deal breakers or whats you biggest dating pet peeve. Is there any one thing adate could do that will guarantee there'll be no second date.

Birneybau

Sh!t on the table. That's a no-no.

The Moldy Gowl

Was she wearing head phones as well??

#neverforget

gramar

Gannicus wrote: »

So AH-ers what are you're dating deal breakers or whats you biggest dating pet peeve. Is there any one thing a date could do that will guarantee there'll be no second date.

Kill you.

Sir Osis of Liver.

Was anyone else waiting for 'Shure,i rode her anyway'.

Gannicus

Sir Osis of Liver. wrote: »

Was anyone else waiting for 'Shure,i rode her anyway'.

I didn't.

mfceiling

You sound like a real catch OP.

Surprised you haven't been snapped up yet...

SeanFrank

Yeah, sounds like she dodged a bullet.

Gannicus

mfceiling wrote: »

You sound like a real catch OP.

Surprised you haven't been snapped up yet...

I don't quite get what you're implying by this. Am I wrong to expect someone to have some basic manners when meeting someone for the first time and do something like chew with their mouth closed or put the phone away for 1 single meal. If there was a chance their might be an emergency at home thats fine have the ringer on but leave the phone in your pocket or bag.


Or be ontime for that matter.

LDN_Irish

Gannicus wrote: »

Or be ontime for that matter.

What are you? Farrin or suttim? She was
****ing early.

Gannicus

LDN_Irish wrote: »

What are you? Farrin or suttim? She was
****ing early.

Had to read that twice ha ha

Sheep Lover

No pulse is where I'd draw the line.

the evasion_kid

Gannicus wrote: »

So recently I went on a bit of a blind date. The reason I say it was a bit of a blind date is while I never met the person in real life I have seen them commenting on facebook [oh what a wonderful invention (sarcasm)] as we have a mutual friend.

I've had awful, strange, spine-chilling dates throughout my life but thiss one was just bad. I've also had really good ones before someone starts accusing me of just being a pessimist.

So we met for a drink before we went for some food. She seemed nice to begin with. Friendly enough, good looking girl. I have some dating pet peeves. This girl seemed to get a list of them off our friend and it was almost like she tried to get through the list before the night was out. Rather than giving a play by play of the entire date I'll put a list of some of the things on my list.

1. Chewed with her mouth open (noises like feeding a horse)
2. Kept her phone on the table.
3. Talked to me while texting her friend(s) or facebooked.
4. Brought up ex-boyfriends.
5. Generally complained about her day
6. 30 mins late (MY BIGGEST PET PEEVE)

Needless to say i wasn't really attracted to her bar appearance so I seriously doubt I'll see her again.

So AH-ers what are you're dating deal breakers or whats you biggest dating pet peeve. Is there any one thing adate could do that will guarantee there'll be no second date.

The amount of dates I've been on and this has happened...and I thought It was written in stone by women to never ever mention exs on a first date,its kinda an instant turn off.

Talib Fiasco

Sounds like she wasn't attracted at all to you but was too kind to say it. Seemed like a top gal but you were too much of a beta.

Deal breaker for me....if she spits instead of swallows...that's just not nice

wnolan1992

Sheep Lover wrote: »

No pulse is where I'd draw the line.

Snob.

Gannicus

the evasion_kid wrote: »

The amount of dates I've been on and this has happened...and I thought It was written in stone by women to never ever mention exs on a first date,its kinda an instant turn off.

Thats what I've been told from female friends too. Don't talk about ex-s. my reason for not liking it is that if you've broken up with someone and go on a date an start talking about them you're either not over them or not ready to date others

Talib Fiasco wrote: »

Sounds like she wasn't attracted at all to you but was too kind to say it.

That could quite possibly be the case.

skittles8710

How old are you OP ?

Gannicus

skittles8710 wrote: »

How old are you OP ?

29 why?

the evasion_kid

Gannicus wrote: »

Thats what I've been told from female friends too. Don't talk about ex-s. my reason for not liking it is that if you've broken up with someone and go on a date an start talking about them you're either not over them or not ready to date others



That could quite possibly be the case.

Yeah might as well make your excuses and leave,save yourself the time cause in the back of your head its already done or if you do carry on you wont invest much in it.

skittles8710

Gannicus wrote: »

29 why?

Ah just curious.

Gannicus

skittles8710 wrote: »

Ah just curious.

Why the curiosity about my age?

Streetwalker

Anyone who speaks with one of those D4 fake American accents.

Buona Fortuna

Vagina, a pulse and not too much facial hair - in that order and we're good to rock.

Augme

I don't get the whole "never mention an ex" thing. I mean obviously if someone spends an hour talking about how amazing their ex was then it's a bit wtf but to just mention them in a story seems perfectly fine. If the topic of conversation goes to a place that it's difficult not to mention an ex then I would have no problem with it.

I find it far more weird that people are supposed to mentally plan a conversation to make sure they never mention an ex or else refer to them as a "friend".

conorh91

Gannicus wrote: »

Why the curiosity about my age?

I was thinking the same question because you sounded either really young or really old. Like over fifty.

I didn't know people took offence at a mobile phone left on the table.

Gannicus

conorh91 wrote: »

I was thinking the same question because you sounded either really young or really old. Like over fifty.

I didn't know people took offence at a mobile phone left on the table.

Its not so much the fact that its on the table in and of itself. Some people are waiting on important calls about children or ill family. Its more that it becomes an easy distraction and to me it seems you're not that bothered to be there and it led to her texting and facebook while speaking but looking and scrolling through the phone.

agent graves

Picking the nose and eating it.. you're already eating dinner ffs

hatrickpatrick

Coming between me and my friends, including my ex and her husband and kid.

If any woman asks me to choose between her and my existing social circle, it's over. I've seen too many friends have their lives destroyed by this kind of thing in the past.

wandatowell

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

I've seen too many friends have their lives destroyed by this kind of thing in the past.

I dunno who's worse in this situation, the controlling woman or the piss weak man.

Either way they are well matched I guess

hatrickpatrick

wandatowell wrote: »

I dunno who's worse in this situation, the controlling woman or the piss weak man.

Either way they are well matched I guess

I don't blame men or women who end up in that kind of manipulative relationship in a lot of cases. Sure, people like you describe certainly exist, but emotional blackmail persists in a huge amount of cases as well. My first "relationship" involved a woman first threatening to tell our mutual friends that I'd cheated on her if I didn't date her, and then when that didn't work, telling me I was making her suicidal by not talking to her. After that experience, I'm far more hesitant to automatically label as weak-willed those who remain in such situations - especially to the inexperienced, guilt-bombs of that nature really f*ck with one's head. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, in the heat of the moment and when you have no prior experience to draw on, the threat of having someone's blood literally on your hands by not playing along can be impossible to walk away from.

Specialun

Always annoys me when they call the guards

Bitching about ex's
Bad manners
Smoking
Arrogance

Those would be the big ones for me.

Junkyard Tom

Dropsy
Scurvy
Rickets
Black Plague
Consumption
Lockjaw
Swamp Sickness

Captain Chaos

conorh91 wrote: »

I didn't know people took offence at a mobile phone left on the table.

I do and I'm 29 aswell. It's just bad manners. Same with people constantly on their phone texting or faceboook or whatever on nights out. Can't stand it.

beks101

Someone being stingy. There's no coming back from being an absolute tight arse.

Buzz Meeks

You're going to have to come down in price. By at least 10%.
And I'm going to bring in my own people.

Otherwise the deals off.

Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius!

Having worked in the service industry for a few years, Im conscious of being polite and make sure to make eye contact and say please and thank you to waiters/cashiers etc in general

Deal breaker for me if a chap treats service staff with any less respect than I would

Leilak

she's just not that into you move on....

kumate_champ07

using the phone at the table, especially to take photos of food or drinks,then uploading them online where they live an alternative pastel colored existence

One eyed Jack

Someone lacking in manners really. I'm pretty tolerant of a lot, but poor manners is just inexcusable.

gordongekko

Sheep Lover wrote: »

No pulse is where I'd draw the line.

ah give it a go. Don't rule anything out until you try it.

hatrickpatrick

Weinberg wrote: »

That's a fine effort you've made to make it sound like it's actually difficult to not mention your ex, but ultimately it's bollix, it's easy not to mention your ex unless you're a bit if a dimwit.

If you're still good friends with your ex, never mentioning them would be pretty weird.

roadrunner16

Buona Fortuna wrote: »

Vagina, a pulse and not too much facial hair - in that order and we're good to rock.

I agree but i would subscribe to the Tina turner school of thought ... two outta three aint bad ....

Greenmachine

Talking about x's should be the deal breaker. Everything else is pale in comparison.

One eyed Jack

roadrunner16 wrote: »

I agree but i would subscribe to the Tina turner school of thought ... two outta three aint bad ....

I'm sure Tina would be well chuffed that you confused her with Meatloaf

PARlance

One eyed Jack wrote: »

I'm sure Tina would be well chuffed that you confused her with Meatloaf

As Prince used to say, you ain't nothing but a hound dog

wp_rathead

beks101 wrote: »

Someone being stingy. There's no coming back from being an absolute tight arse.

KY Jelly helps

whatismyname

This one time....
In band camp..............................

blackcard

When she brings her mother on the date

cookiexx

People who smell
People with smelly breath
People with bad teeth
Racism
Sexism

Smidge

Sandals worn with socks