A Country funeral... what do I wear?

riclad · 13-05-2015 02:49PM

Its Part of growing up,
heres a tip once you pass 40 ,
You,ll find people you know are dying every year .
never went to a wedding before i was 25,
nobody i know was getting married .
people dont usually get married before 24,
they live together 4 a few year s .

Most of my friends were same age as me, under the age of 20.
my family were all in good health .

sheesh · 13-05-2015 02:49PM

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

I think you are jealous of our sophistication, and in my case a caring attitude to the traditions of my country cousins. :eek:

Sophisticated is it now?:D

jimgoose · 13-05-2015 02:50PM

5starpool wrote: »

...Donegal is a strange place that is governed by it's own set of weird ways and shouldn't be lumped in with the est of the country..

Git ta fcuk hi, ya wile clouster ye.

5starpool · 13-05-2015 03:38PM

jimgoose wrote: »

Git ta fcuk hi, ya wile clouster ye.

Uh-huh, ya, oh right ya. A little after half 3.

The Backwards Man · 13-05-2015 04:04PM

josip wrote: »

OP, just google "Donegal funeral" and select "Images".
Ignore the suggestions that involve black berets and sunglasses.

Of which there is one in the first two hundred images. And that's not even proper Donegal

folamh · 13-05-2015 04:25PM

Dark neutrals, not necessarily black. Smart, neither casual nor dressy.

blue5000 · 13-05-2015 04:29PM

Well OP are you there yet, what's the broadband like?

Sam Kade · 13-05-2015 04:34PM

Truffle Pig wrote: »

Are you really looking for funeral fashion advice from the Internet?

Really? For real like? Really?

This is what happens went people spend their whole lives in the pale and never venture out of it.

Fat Christy · 13-05-2015 04:36PM

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

Feck it, in Dublin anyway you wear what you like colour wise lol.

Heard tonight from a pal that it's all black clothes down the country at a funeral. Jays I don't want to be a Goth.

Hi OP.

I'm from Longford and generally people wear black to funerals where I'm from. You wouldn't be rocking up in bright colours. I didn't know if it was different in Dublin, I thought it was like this for all funerals. It's a genuine question in fairness. I know one of my colleagues was at a country christening over the weekend and she was shocked that they had a proper fancy meal afterwards. This is really common in the country, I'd be a bit surprised if there wasn't one. Funerals, christenings, communions, confirmations...they're all a big deal where I'm from. I honestly don't get why, it might have something to do with the difficulty associated with getting the whole family together. Half my family don't even talk to each other. I hate these things, total awkwardness. :pac:

Santa Cruz · 13-05-2015 04:57PM

Also if you get stuck for topics of conversation you will always get away with any of the following.

1. Shockin weather for the time of year, will we ever see a bit of sun..rain.. again (as suits the climate)

2. Did ye ever see anthin like the price of hoggets?

3. Its very hard to make money out of sucklers

blue5000 · 13-05-2015 05:21PM

Santa Cruz wrote: »

Also if you get stuck for topics of conversation you will always get away with any of the following.

1. Shockin weather for the time of year, will we ever see a bit of sun..rain.. again (as suits the climate)

2. Did ye ever see anthin like the price of hoggets?

3. Its very hard to make money out of sucklers

4 You'd want a right good job now to keep a farm goin'.

lulu1 · 13-05-2015 08:08PM

5starpool wrote: »

Some people seem to assume North West equates to Donegal. This is a fallacy.

Reasons:
1. Donegal is a strange place that is governed by it's own set of weird ways and shouldn't be lumped in with the est of the country.
2. If Mayo is West, then Donegal should just be North as it contains the most northerly point of the island.
3. As Sligo is on the angle of North and West it is the true location of North West. A part of Leitrim should be allowed too because, well, poor Leitrim. South Leitrim can go in the midlands though.
4. Cavan is occasionally described as being in the North West but that's just lunacy.

Ergo North West should be Sligo or North Leitrim only. I'm not biased at all though, no siree.

Reason no 1 You are talking a load of s***

wendell borton · 13-05-2015 08:39PM

Nekarsulm wrote: »

Quite agree with you, BABM. English couple who are friends went to a wake recently, their teenage daughters friend had her mother pass away. Our friend related how insane it was, she was drinking tea in the kitchen , when she was invited into the bedroom to see the deceased.
She hadn't realised the body was in the house. She was still in shock a week later when talking to me.

I think it quite a healthy thing mentally, death is going to come to use all might as well accept it. It also brings a sense of closure and acceptance that helps move on the grieving process.

recylingbin · 13-05-2015 08:50PM

Fat Christy wrote: »

Hi OP.

I'm from Longford ... Half my family don't even talk to each other. I hate these things, total awkwardness. :pac:

Surely that par for the course there. Signing each other into the mental to get the land and firing shots into each other's houses.

LynnGrace · 13-05-2015 08:54PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Not just the shop, the mechanic, the publican, the milkman and the postmaster will all be noted in their absence. Always sit in one of the transepts to ensure the best possible view of who's there and who isn't.

And any local T.D. or councillor must also put in an appearance :pac:

The Backwards Man · 13-05-2015 09:05PM

LynnGrace wrote: »

And any local T.D. or councillor must also put in an appearance :pac:

Nobody would miss them though, and they aren't as plentiful since the funeral attending allowance has been cut.:pac:

AnLonDubh · 13-05-2015 09:11PM

Twas a while after the boom that Me and Micheál were chewing the cud outside Mick's gate (only a donkey's neigh from the creamery if you don't know it), "It's settlin' in for a long evenin" says I and Micheál gives us a nod, sure enough it was evening on us soon enough after that. And us leaving to head for a drop of the craither, me fella says "Did ye hear dars a Dub comin' to Paddy Phats funeral?", "Would ya get away out of that" I says, sure they were only in auld Miss McGawn's stories like the White Walkers.

No says Micheál, "they're real as all bejaysus, mini skirts on the lads, the woman have jobs and the Tractors are powered by internal matter-antimatter reactors sure". I spat on the ground and went home to have a **** to Dev in penance for even imaginin' a West Brit being present at such a sacred ritual.

Flood · 14-05-2015 03:41AM

sombrero

silverfeather · 14-05-2015 03:44AM

riclad wrote: »

Its Part of growing up,
heres a tip once you pass 40 ,
You,ll find people you know are dying every year .
never went to a wedding before i was 25,
nobody i know was getting married .
people dont usually get married before 24,
they live together 4 a few year s .

Most of my friends were same age as me, under the age of 20.
my family were all in good health .

Makes you think really.

Flood · 14-05-2015 03:47AM

silverfeather wrote: »

Makes you think really.

About what?

silverfeather · 14-05-2015 04:47AM

Flood wrote: »

Its Part of growing up,
heres a tip once you pass 40 ,
You,ll find people you know are dying every year .
never went to a wedding before i was 25,
nobody i know was getting married .
people dont usually get married before 24,
they live together 4 a few year s .

Most of my friends were same age as me, under the age of 20.
my family were all in good health .
...............About what?

'Those various scalpels.'

Those slender devices....the 'dublin thing' the 'country thing'

All the ornaments on the mantlepiece all positioned and correct. From from far away. Are they ornaments or are they knives in their alikeness?

Those slender devices....conventions or are they knives

I am reading Marianne Moore {:-)

It's a funeral...the great 'leveler' ..other there ....'country' the slender device..

I didn't think people really thought like that as in country 'Dublin' etc . And I would have thought of all things a funeral would have shattered the slender device of separation.

It's silly.

Not to berate the OP so much. She only asked a question.

But it makes you think.

Flood · 14-05-2015 04:51AM

silverfeather wrote: »

'Those various scalpels.'

Those slender devices....the 'dublin thing' the 'country thing'

All the ornaments on the mantlepiece all positioned and correct. From from far away. Are they ornaments or are they knives in their alikeness?

Those slender devices....conventions or are they knives

I am reading Marianne Moore {:-)

It's a funeral...the great 'leveler' ..other there ....'country' the slender device..

I didn't think people really thought like that as in country 'Dublin' etc . And I would have thought of all things a funeral would have shattered the slender device of separation.

It's silly.

Not to berate the OP so much. She only asked a question.

But it makes you think.

I didnt post what you quoted.

silverfeather · 14-05-2015 04:51AM

Why would anyone think a funeral of all things would be different somewhere else in such a small country? Or that such a small difference would be bigger than the similarity and universal human experience of a funeral?

Flood · 14-05-2015 04:53AM

Are you posting in general or to a poster specific?

silverfeather · 14-05-2015 04:57AM

Flood wrote: »

Are you posting in general or to a poster specific?

I have no idea ..so i guess general.

silverfeather · 14-05-2015 04:58AM

Flood wrote: »

I didnt post what you quoted.

No but that was what i was responding to originally :-)

I can't multiquote.

Santa Cruz · 14-05-2015 08:29AM

folamh wrote: »

Dark neutrals, not necessarily black. Smart, neither casual nor dressy.

Dark skirt a little on the tight side, a bit slutty but still respectful and blouse buttoned but still showing that you have a good rack underneath. That would be acceptable.

Spanish Eyes · 15-05-2015 02:29PM

OP here.

Well thank you all for your help with the Country Funeral attire, and much more besides!

I am back in the Smoke now after three days of it.

Would anyone like to hear my report?

redbel05 · 15-05-2015 02:40PM

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

Well thank you all for your help with the Country Funeral attire, and much more besides!

I am back in the Smoke now after three days of it.

Would anyone like to hear my report?

Do tell... interested in hearing your big city perspective

The Backwards Man · 15-05-2015 02:50PM

Yeah, tell us!!

A Country funeral... what do I wear?

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