2015 brides!

Uno my Uno. · 08-05-2015 1:40pm

Sorry for butting in here, I'm not a bride but I am getting married next Sunday, very excited to say the least. After so much time and thought the idea that it will all be over and done so soon is very strange!

stickybookmark · 08-05-2015 1:41pm

nosietoes wrote: »

Sticky - to be honest, I've been worried about your obsessive focus on your appearance too. Your fasting and dancing comments made me particularly concerned.

Sure, I want to look pretty (why I'm getting my hair and make up done and am taking better care of my skin than normal) but more interested in having fun and committing to my fiancé in front of everyone we value and love.

what's concerning about not wanting to wiggle your bingo wings around on the dancefloor when you are the sole focus of 150 pairs of eyes? I think that's a normal concern to have if you're self conscious of your arms?

Shur look at all the brides that wear long sleeved dresses or boleros to hide their arms....loads of people do. If I'm wearing a bolero or if i had a long sleeved dress I wouldn't give a fig about first dance arm position it'd be Dirty dancing all the way :P

stickybookmark · 08-05-2015 1:44pm

Gee_G wrote: »

Obviously if you have your heart set on semi permanent make up, go for it, but definitely research it, a lot, there are a lot of places using less quality products than is standard.

Do you think it's one of these things where price = quality? i.e. I shouldn't be going with the cheapest place coz seems a lot of salons do it.

Gee_G · 08-05-2015 1:52pm

stickybookmark wrote: »

Do you think it's one of these things where price = quality? i.e. I shouldn't be going with the cheapest place coz seems a lot of salons do it.

Yeah its not so much the products, but the training that the person providing the treatment has had! I am a therapist but don't do semi permanent make up, but as far as I know its generally a couple of hundred euro, but I have seen lots of people advertising through Facebook offering them for as little as €50/60/70. So I'd just make sure its a reputable salon! I really don't know much about it, I've just seen some horror stories(or pictures I should say!!) Through social media of people going to get their eyebrows done and one ended up completely different to the other or half way up their forehead etc.

stickybookmark · 08-05-2015 2:07pm

Gee_G wrote: »

Yeah its not so much the products, but the training that the person providing the treatment has had! I am a therapist but don't do semi permanent make up, but as far as I know its generally a couple of hundred euro, but I have seen lots of people advertising through Facebook offering them for as little as €50/60/70. So I'd just make sure its a reputable salon! I really don't know much about it, I've just seen some horror stories(or pictures I should say!!) Through social media of people going to get their eyebrows done and one ended up completely different to the other or half way up their forehead etc.

Ok. The salon near me at home does it for 370. That salon has been going 20 years I'd say and I've had mixed experiences at that salon through the years. If you get the owner it's grand but some of the other girls working there can be very mixed. Might find out who does the SPM so first off!

Milly33 · 08-05-2015 2:10pm

Id say go more than four days to be safe sticky. Well you wouldn't use a bright coloured mouthwash as it can just add to staining of the teeth again, and yeah you can pick up mouthwash and paste for sensitive teeth..
Are your teeth badly stained? If you don't mind answering.. Sorry just I have got both done and completely agree the white light one is much better but for badly stained teeth.. The one the dentist gives you is just as good though if you don't have badly stained teeth. I don't think you leave it in every night for a week, there are two types as far as I know. One you leave in overnight for that night that is it, tis up to you if you want to do it again the following night and another one Colgate normally that you leave in for a few hours...

I must say though you do baffle me.... I find it very odd how much makeup or kinda of product things you are mentioning from someone who mentioned they don't really use a lot of makeup or products..

Don't go too overboard, I am sure your man loves you for who you are now and not what you think you should look like on the day...You want him to recognise you when you meet at the alter.. I still laugh at that after getting my makeup trial done I think he would have been scared to see me in so much makeup..

My friend got hers done in Poland I am afraid but I defiantly would do a load of research before getting anything done... I actually wouldn't go down that route myself for fear that something would happen and it will ruin they day ye have been planning..

Is it just your worried about the lipstick coming off! You can get long wear lipstick, or like that just ask one of the bridesmaids to carry some for you...

nosietoes the shawl sounds loverly, I love the Indian shawls so pretty... I think you can buy the crest sheets online to be sent to Ireland but you cannot get them in the shops which is a shame..

Gee_G · 08-05-2015 2:13pm

Uno my Uno. wrote: »

Sorry for butting in here, I'm not a bride but I am getting married next Sunday, very excited to say the least. After so much time and thought the idea that it will all be over and done so soon is very strange!

Congratulations! Hope you both have an amazing day! Enjoy every second x

stickybookmark · 08-05-2015 2:18pm

Milly33 wrote: »

Id say go more than four days to be safe sticky. Well you wouldn't use a bright coloured mouthwash as it can just add to staining of the teeth again, and yeah you can pick up mouthwash and paste for sensitive teeth..
Are your teeth badly stained? If you don't mind answering.. Sorry just I have got both done and completely agree the white light one is much better but for badly stained teeth.. The one the dentist gives you is just as good though if you don't have badly stained teeth. I don't think you leave it in every night for a week, there are two types as far as I know. One you leave in overnight for that night that is it, tis up to you if you want to do it again the following night and another one Colgate normally that you leave in for a few hours...

Oh right. Maybe I picked the dentist up wrong. The white smile clinic is only 79 euro the dentist is 240 I think she said? I thought she said you had to leave it in overnight several nights, maybe I heard her wrong so. My dentist gave me a crooked bite from a night-guard that he had fashioned for me (apparently my own fault coz I was meant to go back in to get it adjusted after a month and coz of living abroad, I didn't) so now I can't bite sellotape anymore, have to use a scissors! So when i heard the dentist receiptionist say 'it's like a night guard' I think I tuned out. I was delighted to see the White smile clinic are in Cork now, as I say I used them before (in Dublin) in 2011 for my sister's wedding so they are tried and tested in that sense. No I don't have badly stained teeth thank god. I like the idea of the white smile - 79 euro - just go in once for an hour, job done and I know the company. I don't trust my dentist with anything i have to put in my mouth at night!

stickybookmark · 08-05-2015 2:21pm

Milly33 wrote: »

.. I still laugh at that after getting my makeup trial done I think he would have been scared to see me in so much makeup..

What are you thinking now make-up wise? Gonna stick with the same MUA and try another trial?

Milly33 · 08-05-2015 2:35pm

well it kinda would have been you fault if you didn't go back to get it re-fitted haha. I know the dentist up here does a pack of whitening gels 4 one gel does 2 goes, for less than a hundred and they shouldn't charge that much for the mouth guard at all...Anywho sure the light one is easier

Not to sure what to do with the makeup, I defo didn't like it no matter how I tried to convince myself. I am waiting for a lady to come back with someone else's name and then ill see. I might ring the girl I had and say that I am just not sure, and see will I have another trial.. I didn't wear much makeup when I went down to her so this time I might do myself up and show her what I normally do and take it from there..She is a loverly lady so I would like to use her, just different tastes

stickybookmark · 08-05-2015 2:59pm

Uno my Uno. wrote: »

Sorry for butting in here, I'm not a bride but I am getting married next Sunday, very excited to say the least. After so much time and thought the idea that it will all be over and done so soon is very strange!

Exciting times, never heard of anyone getting married on a Sunday before, is that humanist?

Milly33 · 08-05-2015 3:07pm

Congrats Uno my Uno nearly there now....

I was kinda thinking the same recently about our own (well just that it isn't too far away and then that's it), it all seemed to kick off once we picked the date, and then we have the major saving and then getting bits and bobs ready and now its like mmm what to do..

I am sure married life will be as exciting and add a bit of yippee afterwards.. best of luck on the day

Faith · 08-05-2015 3:21pm

stickybookmark wrote: »

what's concerning about not wanting to wiggle your bingo wings around on the dancefloor when you are the sole focus of 150 pairs of eyes? I think that's a normal concern to have if you're self conscious of your arms?

I think people are concerned because you can't seem to see the wood for the trees. If you think that people will be focusing on your arms during your first dance, you're missing the point of the whole day! I guarantee nobody will notice your arms or that your lipstick has worn off. It's worrying that you're so focused on your appearance for one day that you're considering things like semi-permanent makeup.

I saw your hair trial picture. You have gorgeous hair, and I'm sure you have a gorgeous face and body too. You'll never enjoy your day if you're consumed by worrying about your appearance.

Take a deep breath. Park the idea of semi-permanent makeup, extreme dieting and absurd arm positions. Think about the fact that you're marrying the love of your life in a picturesque setting, surrounded by your friends and family. That's the important thing, not how your arms or lips look

Milly33 · 08-05-2015 3:43pm

I have never heard that saying before Faith "can't seem to see the wood for the trees" it is very good...

Yes some good advice there, I for one cant follow at all at all... I think we should meet for a drink sticky haha it would be like opposites

stickybookmark · 08-05-2015 3:45pm

Ah ye folks are no craic :-p
I'm gonna depart early. Milly thx for all the tips esp the Wedding stuff for sale in Cork fb page, I got loads of helpful info on there!

Milly33 · 08-05-2015 4:17pm

Ah theres plenty of Craic the good kind, were just concerned youll go bonkers and end up something your not suppose to be haha.

That page is good alright I got in contact with a great wedding supplier one who actually comes back to you.
Cant wait to get out of here, planning for a girly night tonight with two pals.enjoy the weekend all and sticky don't go out and get all your face done in permanent makeup or if you do post pics so we can see

spankysue · 08-05-2015 4:40pm

Can't believe my wedding is tomorrow! Spent all of today with my nearly husband and it was lovely, we laughed, we cried, going to have dinner soon then go our separate ways until tomorrow. Fit to burst with excitement now :-D

kildareash · 09-05-2015 3:03am

Sticky I really wouldn't go experimenting with anything so drastic this close to the wedding. It it really necessary.
Get yourself a good lip exfoliating and moisturising routine going and get a good long lasting lipstick and you'll be fine. I literally have to scrub the rimmel apocolips off my nearly 3yo lips and I can see an outline for days because her skin is so soft.

Have you ever looked at a bride and thought she needs to top up her lipstick or her bingo wings are ugly when when she dances? I can't say I have. People will don't concentrate on that kinda stuff. But they do notice if you look unhappy on the day.
Relax and enjoy the build up to the big day.

No wedding prep here this weekend. had to bring work home with me this weekend and I'm up with a teething baby now!
Seriously need to do the design for the invitations so my friend can start working on them.

How long does it take freedom letters and all that jazz to get sorted? We have to go to two different parishes for bits and bobs, just wondering if I shld get on to that now.

littlenubbin85 · 09-05-2015 8:25am

It took us a few days to get letter of freedom letters etc sorted. Give them a call first and your parish should have them ready for you to pick up in a few days.

09-05-2015 8:29am

My priest told me that letters of freedom have to be dated within 6 months of marriage date. He is organising hubby's one as its next parish over but I have to get mine from London including my confirmation cert.

bluebell27 · 09-05-2015 12:27pm

Just had my first dress fitting. My legs were properly shaking when i put the dress on! Only two weeks to go- getting very real.

spottybananas · 09-05-2015 1:04pm

Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »

My priest told me that letters of freedom have to be dated within 6 months of marriage date. He is organising hubby's one as its next parish over but I have to get mine from London including my confirmation cert.

You can just do a signed affidavit with a solicitor to state you were never married if it's hassle to get the letter of freedom from abroad.

nosietoes · 09-05-2015 1:23pm

1st dress fitting with only 2 weeks to go?! I would have been so nervous. Well done for holding out!

I just got that call that my dress is in the country! I have 11 weeks to go, and will end up having my first dress fitting at 9 1/2 weeks out cos I just can't wait! I'm so nervous.

Faith · 09-05-2015 2:28pm

bluebell27 wrote: »

Just had my first dress fitting. My legs were properly shaking when i put the dress on! Only two weeks to go- getting very real.

Good to hear of someone else doing it at the last minute! I have to too, due to circumstance. How many fittings are you getting done?

kildareash · 09-05-2015 2:40pm

We are just inside the 6 month mark so I think I might just get the ball rolling on iy next week.
We're getting married in my home parish but need freedom letters from where we're living now and his documents from another parish.

bluebell27 · 09-05-2015 4:06pm

Faith wrote: »

Good to hear of someone else doing it at the last minute! I have to too, due to circumstance. How many fittings are you getting done?

It was meant to be here in March but git delayed. Second fitting is next weekend and then last one will be a few days before. Needs a bit of adjusting as lost some weight since was measured for it but was so good to see it and it will be a good fit when they are done i am sure Was having straps added to it as well and they look fab. Feel like a proper princess in it!

09-05-2015 5:44pm

spottybananas wrote: »

You can just do a signed affidavit with a solicitor to state you were never married if it's hassle to get the letter of freedom from abroad.

Thanks, that's good to know. My sister lives not too far away from the church so shouldn't be a problem.

Milly33 · 09-05-2015 5:54pm

Best of luck spankysue hope ye have a loverly day....

09-05-2015 5:58pm

I'm sure she's having a ball!

Milly33 · 09-05-2015 6:06pm

love hearing how the big day went when the brides to be come back so exciting

spankysue · 10-05-2015 5:03pm

Yesterday was absolutely amazing! The hotel was fantastic, there's not one thing that we could fault them on. Brian Whiteside from the Humanist association was our celebrant and he was brilliant, we got loads of compliments on the ceremony.

The most amazing part though was marrying the love of my life, his vows were the most romantic words that have ever been said to me and we were both welling up as he was saying them but we managed to keep it together and I didn't look like Alice Cooper by the time I was married like I thought I would :-D

Milly33 · 10-05-2015 5:09pm

Alice Cooper I am sure you were very very much far away from looking like him.. Delighted to hear ye had a fabulous day and that Love was in the air..... Ye were happy with all then, congrats and whooopp for ye

fits · 10-05-2015 6:42pm

Had my hen night yesterday. Wedding location is far away so had the hen in my home town. Just a big party in my Mum's house. It was fab!

I have wonderful family and friends.

We also went canoeing. Really good fun, very doable. Recommend. http://gowiththeflow.ie/

nosietoes · 10-05-2015 9:21pm

Aww fits that sounds wonderful. I wish I had done something like that for my hen. Going to a Madrid was fun but there was a bit too much going on.

Milly33 · 11-05-2015 8:45am

Sounds like great fun fits.. Oh were they in Kilkenny or just outside. Sure tis the same chaps we went with before. great day out loved it too... Still don't know what were up to for mine either house party or glamping...

Yeah got some of the invites out yesterday such a relief to get them out there.. Double thinking now about how I addressed some of the names but to be honest they have been such a pain in the arse im glad to see them gone

fits · 11-05-2015 9:06am

Milly33 wrote: »

Sounds like great fun fits.. Oh were they in Kilkenny or just outside. Sure tis the same chaps we went with before. great day out loved it too... Still don't know what were up to for mine either house party or glamping...

Near enough to Kilkenny yeah.

Clashganny where you launch from is in co. Carlow.

Milly33 · 11-05-2015 9:11am

OH it must be the same one I remember travelling out a little bit for it..sounds fab anyone.. well on you way now

nosietoes · 11-05-2015 10:56am

MILLY33: What worries have you about the names? I haven't used any Mr/Mrs on any of my invites.. Just first names and last names. I know it's not correct traditional etiquette but I don't like the other way.

I'm sending my international invites today. So excited!!

Milly33 · 11-05-2015 11:05am

nosietoes wrote: »

MILLY33: What worries have you about the names? I haven't used any Mr/Mrs on any of my invites.. Just first names and last names. I know it's not correct traditional etiquette but I don't like the other way.

I'm sending my international invites today. So excited!!

Hello, oh we just used first names too on ours. But there were things like mostly the invites going out abroad. Lets say there is one family. Kids all grown up now with their own kids, and I know for a fact that they aren't coming as really we would know by now if they were. So rather than send each couple a different invite I just put lets say Bob, his partner and family on the invite..

I knew in my head I should have done it the other way. It was just himself started putting a bummer on the whole thing again which drives me nuts so I was just like get them out... Wish we had spent a bit more time writing them but sure you can do it all

kildareash · 12-05-2015 10:57am

Milly33 wrote: »

Hello, oh we just used first names too on ours. But there were things like mostly the invites going out abroad. Lets say there is one family. Kids all grown up now with their own kids, and I know for a fact that they aren't coming as really we would know by now if they were. So rather than send each couple a different invite I just put lets say Bob, his partner and family on the invite..

I knew in my head I should have done it the other way. It was just himself started putting a bummer on the whole thing again which drives me nuts so I was just like get them out... Wish we had spent a bit more time writing them but sure you can do it all

I think for an evening invite that's fine, but for all day invite I'd be more specific. But as has been said previously there is no correct etiquette.
Family names are a fecking minefield too.

I wanted to go glamping for my hen too, but it's not really my BM's kinda thing. And we have a mix of ages too so a few in their 50's and the rest of us in our 30's. My BM is a bit more 'polished' than I am!

Milly33 · 12-05-2015 11:05am

Yeah I knew it really, it was just when it started again about the invites I was allergic.. Going to be more observant and go with my head from now on.. Just so frustrating when its like we agree on something and then he goes back on it or starts about it again.. Im allergic and it really gets me down..

On the happier note, has anyone every gone to these cottages for couples, based in West Cork.. Thinking about booking on for a break away for a few nights after the big day. They have an outdoor hot tub.... sweet

TheDuchess · 12-05-2015 2:57pm

Hi Ladies

I haven’t posted here before but have a minor problem which I was hoping I might be able to get advice on.

Getting married in a few weeks and my dress doesn’t fit. It was snug when I bought it but did fit and I was advised to go with that size as going the next size up the dress would need to be taken in so much that it would alter the shape of it.

Unfortunately after buying it, I had a number of life changes including unemployed for several months, moving countries unexpectedly and ended up putting on quite a lot of weight. For the past 6 months I’ve been eating healthy and exercising and the weight has slowly come off. But not by enough – I’m an inch larger in my waist than the dress and it needs to be taken to the dress maker in less than 2 weeks – that gives her about 3 and a half weeks to alter it.

I’m considering if it doesn’t fit by the time I have to give it to the dress maker to just cut my losses, try sell the new dress and buy a sample dress somewhere. I really don’t want the stress 3 weeks before the wedding of wondering will it fit and also feeling like I can’t even enjoy myself in the run up to the day if I wanted a lunch out or meet friends for drinks as I would be focusing on calories.

I’m just wondering if anyone has been in this situation? I know there may be the possibility of letting the dress out but I read online depending on the dress / material it doesn’t look right and can still be uncomfortable which is definitely what I don’t want.

Minera · 12-05-2015 4:18pm

Hi duchess I'm definately in the same boat except I bought a sample dress and guess what it doesn't even nearly fit so I'm going to try a dress maker to see if they can put a panel on the back with corset lace up instead of the original buttons (which I love). If not ill have to get another dress!
Alternatively you could try any of those meal replacement diets short term fix .... I just don't have the stamina for them!

kildareash · 12-05-2015 9:53pm

My dress was a teeny bit snug too, but the dress maker said she would be able to let it out if I still need to when the time comes.
Is that an option for you?

Faith · 12-05-2015 9:56pm

Mine was also... 'cozy' when I bought it. I'm hoping to lose enough weight to need to get it taken in, but the shop assured me it could be let out a little if needs be.

Could you use spanx to suck in your waist?

rainbow kirby · 12-05-2015 10:43pm

Same thing happened with mine - could barely zip it up when I got it but had to get it taken in last month.

Can check in tomorrow for my flight to Shannon. **** is getting very real. :pac:

Milly33 · 13-05-2015 8:35am

Oh no perhaps adding in the panel at the back would be the key heard a few people getting this done and you wouldn't notice it on the dress.. This is half the reason I didn't want to buy early as Id worry about the size...

The little slips you get in Dunnes too are great, the tuck you in ones that have a little bit of lace around the cup part... do wonders and they are comfy

rainbow kirby · 13-05-2015 9:12am

So it looks like we're relying on both Glasgow Warriors and Ospreys winning this weekend to keep the Munster team out of our wedding hotel... Pro12 semi for Munster will definitely be 2:30pm on May 23rd and they have a good chance of a home semi. :eek:

Pistachios & cream · 13-05-2015 9:23am

rainbow kirby wrote: »

So it looks like we're relying on both Glasgow Warriors and Ospreys winning this weekend to keep the Munster team out of our wedding hotel... Pro12 semi for Munster will definitely be 2:30pm on May 23rd and they have a good chance of a home semi. :eek:

I think i know your hotel, are you planning on using the rooftop terrace for your drinks reception? If you are then i think you will have no problems.

By the time the match is over and the players have done interviews and post match treatment you should be in the function room which is very secluded from the rest of the hotel. Also as far as i know the function room has its own kitchens.

The only issue i would bring up with the hotel is that for match days they often hold a BBQ in the main hotel bar which is off the foyer. SO if you were having your drinks reception in the foyer you could have seepage from munster fans and noise from the bar.

rainbow kirby · 13-05-2015 9:38am

We had been planning on having our drinks reception in the downstairs cafe (just for a change of scenery because we're in the top floor suite for the meal) - I think we may need to move it upstairs and provide a TV there for anyone who wants to watch it.

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