The Fear

Carlowgirl · 05-05-2015 11:33PM

FloatingVoter wrote: »

...sorry to break it to you. That was Kevin and Maureen from Store Street - they were meant to be answering the hotline but were actually doing a little B&E on the side. I've had a word and the relevant loan sharks have been paid off.

Hope its dreams of puppies and ponies or daffodils tonight.. don't want them in my house or my garden again..I actually knew one of them.. wonder what that means

Sand · 05-05-2015 11:41PM

Carlowgirl wrote: »

It just cant be worth this! Def not going to do this crap again... the thing that bothers me most is that I hardly drink but when people see you drunk one night , they automatically think your a P*** head.. when I am not .. not usually anyway.. I had nightmares last night and they were very real... hopefully the worst is over

They're more likely to remark on the fact that they never saw you drunk before rather than think you're a pisshead. That's if they noticed you at all (you're not the centre of everyone else's world) and they weren't so drunk themselves.

Everyone gets properly drunk at least once in their life - it helps you find your limit, and it reminds you that its never, ever, ever worth it to get so drunk that you lose time and memory or say things you'll later regret. And you always get the "Look, I was totally drunk and talking nonsense - sorry" card once so wouldn't worry about it. If you had a friend who got very drunk and said something stupid would you hold it over them forever and ever? Probably not.

Never get drawn into rounds of shots when you're already drinking. Its always a bad idea that some eejit comes up with. Absolutely no harm in switching soft drinks or plain water when you start feeling your limit approaching but you don't want to go home.

FloatingVoter · 05-05-2015 11:43PM

Carlowgirl wrote: »

Hope its dreams of puppies and ponies or daffodils tonight.. don't want them in my house or my garden again..I actually knew one of them.. wonder what that means

You will dream of a lovely Spring day with the wind in your hair as you sit by a gentle stream with clouds passing by.

Carlowgirl · 05-05-2015 11:44PM

Sand wrote: »

They're more likely to remark on the fact that they never saw you drunk before rather than think you're a pisshead. That's if they noticed you at all (you're not the centre of everyone else's world) and they weren't so drunk themselves.

Everyone gets properly drunk at least once in their life - it helps you find your limit, and it reminds you that its never, ever, ever worth it to get so drunk that you lose time and memory or say things you'll later regret. And you always get the "Look, I was totally drunk and talking nonsense - sorry" card once so wouldn't worry about it. If you had a friend who got very drunk and said something stupid would you hold it over them forever and ever? Probably not.

Never get drawn into rounds of shots when you're already drinking. Its always a bad idea that some eejit comes up with. Absolutely no harm in switching soft drinks or plain water when you start feeling your limit approaching but you don't want to go home.

I do it about once a year.. i.e get very drunk.. the rest of the time when I do go out which is every couple of months.. I ts socially .. when I do this heavy drinking night i.e go way overboard I am embarrassed and have the fear for days.. its not a nice feeling and I would nt wish it on my worst enemy

FloatingVoter · 05-05-2015 11:47PM

Carlowgirl wrote: »

I do it about once a year.. i.e get very drunk.. the rest of the time when I do go out which is every couple of months.. I ts socially .. when I do this heavy drinking night i.e go way overboard I am embarrassed and have the fear for days.. its not a nice feeling and I would nt wish it on my worst enemy

That's regret about the annual binge. When I stepped back from the brink (I'm missing 1999 - 2008 in terms of recall) I went dry for a year. When I resumed drinking, I deluded myself I was a head of state - someone who drank socially but could never be out of control. Laughable but it works. Three days a week I have a few beers in the afternoon to unwind. Or not. Whichever.

Massimo Cassagrande · 05-05-2015 11:59PM

Stheno wrote: »

If it causes you to feel this bad then it's suggested not to do it in future

Lol..ghey....

bb1234567 · 06-05-2015 12:17AM

wtf are you on about

bb1234567 · 06-05-2015 12:17AM

are you drunk right now

silverfeather · 06-05-2015 06:54AM

Carlowgirl wrote: »

Hi not sure if this is the right place to be posting. Just wondering is anyone else suffering from the fear out there.. I have it very bad after one nights drinking and don't know how to get rid of it. I have talked to my friends and they have said I was fine and that we were all drunk, but nothing anyone says to me can convince me otherwise:D.. Please help

I have anxiety issues i wait through it. It can take a while but it will pass. Remember to breathe and sit.

And if this keeps happening then you should see someone about it.

I don't drink I don't know if you have these issues without it. But maybe think about taking it easy.

anncoates · 06-05-2015 08:34AM

I too always thought the fear was simply the paranoid piecing together of your drunken activities from the night before.

What's being described by some people here sounds like serious withdrawal and /or DTs from sustained alcohol abuse.

nathang20 · 06-05-2015 03:30PM

Jesus, I hate this feeling. My Mam, who's hitting 80, had never heard of the fear. I've had a few times where I've been at a particular part of the pub/club and next I'm sitting up in my bed (complete Homer Simpson scenario, missing scenes, etc). It never ends well (in my head that is). By the time I've had the bravery to text one of my mates "some craic last night" and then spending the next, how ever long, waiting for the response and the gauging of the tone to happen. I know myself I'd never do anything completely crazy, but there's always that one unprecedented element that could be thrown into the equation. Then, its an open field..ha

biko · 06-05-2015 04:39PM

I don't get The Fear, I get The Guilt.

06-05-2015 05:10PM

nathang20 wrote: »

Jesus, I hate this feeling. My Mam, who's hitting 80, had never heard of the fear. I've had a few times where I've been at a particular part of the pub/club and next I'm sitting up in my bed (complete Homer Simpson scenario, missing scenes, etc). It never ends well (in my head that is).

That's just getting very drunk though. That's not really the Fear. I often don't remember large parts of the night, but I'm lucky in that I'm a pretty happy drunk, I don't get fighty or depressed so when I piece together what happened from eyewitnesses later it's usually nothing that crazy. For me the Fear is seeing rats in the bed, shaking for days.

When the Sun Hits · 06-05-2015 05:13PM

Hangover + Not remembering what happened = The Fear. DT and withdrawals from sustained alcohol abuse is not The Fear.

Rhys Essien · 06-05-2015 05:41PM

ROAAAR · 06-05-2015 06:18PM

Kind of strange, I wouldn't refer to the FEAR as being worried about something I did when I blacked out.
To me and my friends it's always been something different. Usually after a few nights drinking and you eventually have to stop before work on a Monday or whatever. Lying in bed, sweating it all out, getting heart palpitations and then suddenly getting scared ****less you just felt a spider on yourself even though normally that wouldn't scare you in the slightest.
Or perhaps being hungover with the FEAR and scared ****less to get on a plane or into a car without someone else driving. It's an oddity to me anyway.

The Fear

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