The Fear

Carlowgirl

Hi not sure if this is the right place to be posting. Just wondering is anyone else suffering from the fear out there.. I have it very bad after one nights drinking and don't know how to get rid of it. I have talked to my friends and they have said I was fine and that we were all drunk, but nothing anyone says to me can convince me otherwise:D.. Please help

Valetta

Carlowgirl wrote: »

Hi not sure if this is the right place to be posting. Just wondering is anyone else suffering from the fear out there.. I have it very bad after one nights drinking and don't know how to get rid of it. I have talked to my friends and they have said I was fine and that we were all drunk, but nothing anyone says to me can convince me otherwise:D.. Please help

Stop drinking

cml387

Search for your name on Youtube.
Give up drink.

Stheno

Your friends are just waiting for you to get over it before they tell you

Whatever you've imagined the reality is probably worse

Carlowgirl

Thanks but unfortunately , stopping drinking is nt going to help me today. I have stopped drinking and i am eating healthy and exercising etc and still no good Is this normal

cml387

Carlowgirl wrote: »

Thanks but unfortunately , stopping drinking is nt going to help me today. I have stopped drinking and i am eating healthy and exercising etc and still no good Is this normal

It takes a bit more than a day.

KungPao

No cure for now, just stop drinking so much. Get merry then chill, no strong stuff, and have a aul kebab afterwards to soak it up and sober up a bit.

Stheno

Carlowgirl wrote: »

Thanks but unfortunately , stopping drinking is nt going to help me today. I have stopped drinking and i am eating healthy and exercising etc and still no good Is this normal

If it causes you to feel this bad then it's suggested not to do it in future

Carlowgirl

Wow ,... thanks I really feel better that whatever I imagined its probably worse. That really makes me feel better...
I don't drink a lot , think that might have something to do with it.. its a bit of a shock to my system..

zeffabelli

What's "the fear?"

Aineoil

Carlowgirl wrote: »

Hi not sure if this is the right place to be posting. Just wondering is anyone else suffering from the fear out there.. I have it very bad after one nights drinking and don't know how to get rid of it. I have talked to my friends and they have said I was fine and that we were all drunk, but nothing anyone says to me can convince me otherwise:D.. Please help

Did you have a panic/anxiety attack?

Symptoms: Difficulty breathing, feeling very hot, difficulty with vision, a feel of impending doom, not being able to drive?

If you did one way to remedy this is to have cognitive behaviour therapy.

Carlowgirl

zeffabelli wrote: »

What's "the fear?"

When you think the whole world is out to get you after drinking alcohol. That you have done something really bad and were the only person in the world that was drunk

Stheno

Carlowgirl wrote: »

Wow ,... thanks I really feel better that whatever I imagined its probably worse. That really makes me feel better...
I don't drink a lot , think that might have something to do with it.. its a bit of a shock to my system..

This is ah you're not going to get tea and sympathy


@ zeffabelli some people who blackout after a nights drinking spend pretty much the duration of their hangover trying and failing to remember stuff and concocting all sorts of scenarios about whatt they did hence, the fear

KungPao

zeffabelli wrote: »

What's "the fear?"

Getting plastered and wondering if you felt up somebody in the smoking area before the bouncer ****ed you out, then wondering how the hell you got home and if you told your best friends to go **** themselves...and wondering where all your money has gone and thinking to yourself how a full uneaten doner kebab ended up in your pocket.

Something like that.

Carlowgirl

Aineoil wrote: »

Did you have a panic/anxiety attack?

Symptoms: Difficulty breathing, feeling very hot, difficulty with vision, a feel of impending doom, not being able to drive?

If you did one way to remedy this is to have cognitive behaviour therapy.

just feeling impending doom..re running things over in my head , multiplying them by 1000 and generally feeling very embarrassed. I don't go out a lot , I can go out and not get drunk but this time, I really did the dog on it.. feel like lying low for a while

ygolometsipe

you need to jump in a cardboard box like a cat, it makes them feel safe.

Stheno

KungPao wrote: »

Getting plastered and wondering if you felt up somebody in the smoking area before the bouncer ****ed you out, then wondering how the hell you got home and if you told your best friends to go **** themselves...and wondering where all your money has gone and thinking to yourself how a full uneaten doner kebab ended up in your pocket.

Something like that.

Jaysis that's fairly mild for the fear

retro:electro

I actually hate when people go on about the fear. Ya we get it you were drunk last night and now you're hungover aren't ya great. Not you personally op, I just hate how people glorify how hungover they are. We all feel sh1t after a night on the sauce, big deal get over yourself.

Carlowgirl

KungPao wrote: »

Getting plastered and wondering if you felt up somebody in the smoking area before the bouncer ****ed you out, then wondering how the hell you got home and if you told your best friends to go **** themselves...and wondering where all your money has gone and thinking to yourself how a full uneaten doner kebab ended up in your pocket.

Something like that.

Ya that's it.. exactly except I didn't feel anyone up in the smoking area.. just got smart with the bouncers as you do of course

Carlowgirl

ygolometsipe wrote: »

you need to jump in a cardboard box like a cat, it makes them feel safe.

If i had a cardboard box I would most definitely climb into it

Eugene Norman

anna080 wrote: »

I actually hate when people go on about the fear. Ya we get it you were drunk last night and now you're hungover aren't ya great. Not you personally op, I just hate how people glorify how hungover they are. We all feel sh1t after a night on the sauce, big deal get over yourself.

Actually for people who blackout -- not me I don't -- it can be terrifying. It's not like saying " I've a hangover so I'm in my pyjamas all day" it's a genuine fear of what happened.

KungPao

Stheno wrote: »

Jaysis that's fairly mild for the fear

Thankfully I haven't had many episodes over the years...mostly because I only drink beer and don't end up spending 40 extra notes on shorts like some idiots.

retro:electro

Eugene Norman wrote: »

Actually for people who blackout -- not me I don't -- it can be terrifying. It's not like saying " I've a hangover so I'm in my pyjamas all day" it's a genuine fear of what happened.

Ya and I get that, it's just the overuse of it to glorify how drunk they were annoys me.

Carlowgirl

Ok, gonna go sleep it off. Tommorrows another day

KungPao

Carlowgirl wrote: »

Ok, gonna go sleep it off. Tommorrows another day

You do know it gets worse the following day, don't ya?

I'll say a little prayer for you.

retro:electro

Sure the drink in Carlow is pure poison

Aineoil

Carlowgirl wrote: »

just feeling impending doom..re running things over in my head , multiplying them by 1000 and generally feeling very embarrassed. I don't go out a lot , I can go out and not get drunk but this time, I really did the dog on it.. feel like lying low for a while

That's a panic attack. I constantly re run things in my head, over examine

situations and conversations.

Alcohol doesn't help. I don't go out much myself. I tend to

lie low too. I try and beat my demons by facing them - not easy, but I force

myself.

ulinbac

Aineoil wrote: »

That's a panic attack. I constantly re run things in my head, over examine

situations and conversations.

Alcohol doesn't help. I don't go out much myself. I tend to

lie low too. I try and beat my demons by facing them - not easy, but I force

myself.

That's not a panic attack. A panic attack is a lot worse. It's a bad hangover only.

The Backwards Man

KungPao wrote: »

Getting plastered and wondering if you felt up somebody in the smoking area before the bouncer ****ed you out, then wondering how the hell you got home and if you told your best friends to go **** themselves...and wondering where all your money has gone and thinking to yourself how a full uneaten doner kebab ended up in your pocket.

Something like that.

That's a quiet Monday night with the mart crowd around here.

Carlowgirl

KungPao wrote: »

You do know it gets worse the following day, don't ya?

I'll say a little prayer for you.

This is the following day! It can't get much worse than this! Seriously need to cop myself on!

Lenin Skynard

Gets worse and worse as you get older OP. And it has nothing to do with being blacked out and omg totes morto from your unremembered actions out on the town. The dehydration and other negative effects of drink change your brain chemistry and increases anxiety.

Only thing for it is eating and drinking a lot of water the next day as well as being active. Which are pretty much the last things you're interested in when you're feeling mouldy like that.

whupdedo

You won't sleep tonight op, you'll have the heebie jeebies, sweats, itchy skin, and the vivid dreams of mice and dogs and long lost lovers who you'll never meet again,

also, you'll be horny ,

you may want to masterbate profusely , which will take your mind off it for a while but will only make you sink into a bottomless trough of self loathing and pity, but don't worry , you'll get through it , and tomorrow is a better brighter day

When the Sun Hits

Hair of the dog.

Stheno

The Backwards Man wrote: »

That's a quiet Monday night with the mart crowd around here.

Indeed one of my work Christmas parties last year was a scene of carnage

Next day we were all "working" from home but didn't have to start until twelve

Many people had im conversations checking that their recollections were correct

In fairness our boss was English and decided he was footing the bar bill and went on a rampage ordering prosecco after we had pints in the pub, beer and wine during dinner, some toxic cocktail at dessert and then more pub

For most of us the abiding question was if we'd given him any extreme abuse. I thankfully just fell asleep as I usually di

Carlowgirl

KungPao wrote: »

You do know it gets worse the following day, don't ya?

I'll say a little prayer for you.

It is the next day! hopefully it will get better tom x

Carlowgirl

whupdedo wrote: »

You won't sleep tonight op, you'll have the heebie jeebies, sweats, itchy skin, and the vivid dreams of mice and dogs and long lost lovers who you'll never meet again,

also, you'll be horny ,

you may want to masterbate profusely , which will take your mind off it for a while but will only make you sink into a bottomless trough of self loathing and pity, but don't worry , you'll get through it , and tomorrow is a better brighter day[/quote
Ha I'm so bad I don't even fancy myself! Think ill leave myself alone :-P is the Fear a sign of a drink problem! I normally can go out and not get this the next day!

Carlowgirl

Carlowgirl wrote: »

whupdedo wrote: »

You won't sleep tonight op, you'll have the heebie jeebies, sweats, itchy skin, and the vivid dreams of mice and dogs and long lost lovers who you'll never meet again,

also, you'll be horny ,

you may want to masterbate profusely , which will take your mind off it for a while but will only make you sink into a bottomless trough of self loathing and pity, but don't worry , you'll get through it , and tomorrow is a better brighter day[/quote
Ha I'm so bad I don't even fancy myself! Think ill leave myself alone :-P is the Fear a sign of a drink problem! I normally can go out and not get this the next day!

when I get up in the morn it ll be overt48 hours! That should be enough time?

Carlowgirl

Lenin Skynard wrote: »

Gets worse and worse as you get older OP. And it has nothing to do with being blacked out and omg totes morto from your unremembered actions out on the town. The dehydration and other negative effects of drink change your brain chemistry and increases anxiety.

Only thing for it is eating and drinking a lot of water the next day as well as being active. Which are pretty much the last things you're interested in when you're feeling mouldy like that.

I am eating and excercised today! the little bit I could do

Stheno

Its not a sign of a drink problem more that you drank far too much

If you do that too often you've a problem

JonEBGud

Carlowgirl wrote: »

Hi not sure if this is the right place to be posting. Just wondering is anyone else suffering from the fear out there.. I have it very bad after one nights drinking and don't know how to get rid of it. I have talked to my friends and they have said I was fine and that we were all drunk, but nothing anyone says to me can convince me otherwise:D.. Please help

If you drink, don't talk.
If you talk, you slur.

The Backwards Man

Carlowgirl wrote: »

Carlowgirl wrote: »

when I get up in the morn it ll be overt48 hours! That should be enough time?

You'll get up feeling like Diane Charlemagne.:)

Stheno

Carlowgirl wrote: »

Carlowgirl wrote: »

when I get up in the morn it ll be overt48 hours! That should be enough time?

The fear can last for days as snippets come back to you

whupdedo

I often had a 72 hour hangover , where I found it difficult to eat and sleep until Tuesday or Wednesday after a big Saturday night out , I used to have the fear your describing, but I found the older I got the less I gave a fcuk what anyone thought , so it doesn't bother me as much now , you'll know hoe bad you have it if you start having delerioums and raving in your sleep

Carlowgirl

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Carlowgirl wrote: »

You'll get up feeling like Diane Charlemagne.:)

At least this time next week it will all be over :-P I feel like I was the only person in the world that was drunk!

smurgen

A good run normally sorts me.also avoiding energy drinks as mixers.my heart is like a yoyo the next day after vodka redbull or jaeger bombs

Stheno

smurgen wrote: »

A good run normally sorts me.also avoiding energy drinks as mixers.my heart is like a yoyo the next day after vodka redbull or jaeger bombs

I've never drank either in my life can only imagine waking up after that

That's not The Fear.

In my heavy drinking days I could have drank and been drunk for 10-12 days on the trot on a very regular basis. It would eventually catch up on me and I'd need a break. During this break us when The Fear arrived.

But never on the first night without drink. The Fear always arrived on the second night. I'd be afraid to go to sleep.

For me The Fear took many forms, wicked frightening dreams, room spinning with profuse sweating and hallucinations. I've dreamed of ghastly gory happenings where Id wake up convinced that the dream was true and someone close to me had been butchered by me or I was present for it. I've even rang the girlfriend at the time at all hours making sure she was safe. Horrid terrifying dreams where Ivebeen known to cry out loudly both during the dream and while awake.

Hallucinations varied from crows sitting on the curtain rail mocking me and me screaming at it from under the duvet, to swarms of bees in the room or armies of ants in the bed.

I drank and lived this way for nearly 2 years. Many many sessions. Many forgotten. But I vividly remember the visits from The Fear and the horrors which he brought.

Stheno

TheTorment wrote: »

That's not The Fear.

In my heavy drinking days I could have drank and been drunk for 10-12 days on the trot on a very regular basis. It would eventually catch up on me and I'd need a break. During this break us when The Fear arrived.

But never on the first night without drink. The Fear always arrived on the second night. I'd be afraid to go to sleep.

For me The Fear took many forms, wicked frightening dreams, room spinning with profuse sweating and hallucinations. I've dreamed of ghastly gory happenings where Id wake up convinced that the dream was true and someone close to me had been butchered by me or I was present for it. I've even rang the girlfriend at the time at all hours making sure she was safe. Horrid terrifying dreams where Ivebeen known to cry out loudly both during the dream and while awake.

Hallucinations varied from crows sitting on the curtain rail mocking me and me screaming at it from under the duvet, to swarms of bees in the room or armies of ants in the bed.

I drank and lived this way for nearly 2 years. Many many sessions. Many forgotten. But I vividly remember the visits from The Fear and the horrors which he brought.

US that not dts?

Yeah, think a lot of people confuse drinking too much or drinking all night and forgetting big chunks of it, or even bog standard drink depression - the downer that follows a day or two after a great night out - with the Fear. The Fear is really akin to delerium tremens, which is far more serious, may require prolonged drinking and sudden withdrawal to start and can take days to kick in, and can result in fever, shakes, hallucinations etc.

Conall Cernach

Read some Hunter S. Thompson and then come here and say you've got "The Fear". You haven't had the fear until you've barricaded yourself into your room convinced that your flatmate is going to cut your throat with a scalpel and raving, in between taking swigs from a whiskey bottle, "keep away from my door! I'm a black belt!"

bur

TheTorment wrote: »

That's not The Fear.

In my heavy drinking days I could have drank and been drunk for 10-12 days on the trot on a very regular basis. It would eventually catch up on me and I'd need a break. During this break us when The Fear arrived.

But never on the first night without drink. The Fear always arrived on the second night. I'd be afraid to go to sleep.

For me The Fear took many forms, wicked frightening dreams, room spinning with profuse sweating and hallucinations. I've dreamed of ghastly gory happenings where Id wake up convinced that the dream was true and someone close to me had been butchered by me or I was present for it. I've even rang the girlfriend at the time at all hours making sure she was safe. Horrid terrifying dreams where Ivebeen known to cry out loudly both during the dream and while awake.

Hallucinations varied from crows sitting on the curtain rail mocking me and me screaming at it from under the duvet, to swarms of bees in the room or armies of ants in the bed.

I drank and lived this way for nearly 2 years. Many many sessions. Many forgotten. But I vividly remember the visits from The Fear and the horrors which he brought.

Think that's called alcoholism.