Friends girlfriend cheated

TheOtherBloke · 28-04-2015 07:41PM #1

So, I just found out my friends girlfriend of 3 years cheated on him a few months ago. I wasnt the first to know.. A few of our friends know but refuse to tell him. I feel bad hiding it from him. I know its bad hiding the truth but it would be such a shame to ruin their relationship. What would you do? Thanks

Banjo String · 28-04-2015 07:42PM

TheOtherBloke wrote: »

So, I just found out my friends girlfriend of 3 years cheated on him a few months ago. I wasnt the first to know.. A few of our friends know but refuse to tell him. I feel bad hiding it from him. I know its bad hiding the truth but it would be such a shame to ruin their relationship. What would you do? Thanks

Is she hot?

Blackmail her. 'Blow job or I'm telling him'

Doh.

heldel00 · 28-04-2015 07:43PM

Do your homework, find out all the facts and is not just hearsay and then man up and tell him if needs be

The_Valeyard · 28-04-2015 07:43PM

Could be best not to get involved in peoples relationships, have seen it backfire spectacularly.

Panthro · 28-04-2015 07:44PM

I think the best thing you can do in this situation is.....

Blackmail the hell out of mates missus.

You'll make s fortune!

Once youve had your fill...then tell the mate.

He'll understand, surely.

TheOtherBloke · 28-04-2015 07:44PM

Banjo String wrote: »

Is she hot?

Blackmail her. 'Blow job or I'm telling him'

Doh.

So effectively making her cheat again?

893bet · 28-04-2015 07:44PM

Just tell him.

He is your best friend.

Edit: actually not your best friend. Dunno so. Make sure you know the facts and are sure before you say anything though.

cml387 · 28-04-2015 07:45PM

One piece of advice...follow none of the suggestions you're given on AH.
In fact that also goes for life in general.

28-04-2015 07:45PM

Are you sure YOU'RE not the other guy, OP?

Magico Gonzalez · 28-04-2015 07:45PM

Take him for a pint, tell him. Man up.

Banjo String · 28-04-2015 07:46PM

TheOtherBloke wrote: »

So effectively making her cheat again?

Whats the problem? it's like she can be a half cheater, she's already broke the ribbon and crossed the line man!

Plus it doesn't count if it's 'covered'.

Up to youuuuuuu..... .

TheOtherBloke · 28-04-2015 07:47PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Are you sure YOU'RE not the other guy, OP?

If I followes some of the suggestions on here I would be said guy

MagicMarker · 28-04-2015 07:47PM

TheOtherBloke wrote: »

So, I just found out my friends girlfriend of 3 years cheated on him a few months ago. I wasnt the first to know.. A few of our friends know but refuse to tell him. I feel bad hiding it from him. I know its bad hiding the truth but it would be such a shame to ruin their relationship. What would you do? Thanks

Tell him.

If I found out friends knew about something like that and didn't tell me, they would be friends no longer.

Panthro · 28-04-2015 07:47PM

Magico Gonzalez wrote: »

Take him for a pint, tell him. Man up.

Take her for a pint. Blackmail. Get laid.

28-04-2015 07:47PM

They usually do shoot the messenger, don't they?

Best to tell her to tell him.

Custardpi · 28-04-2015 07:47PM

As with most dilemmas in life, the answer can be found in the wisdom of Vince Vaughn.

Arsemageddon · 28-04-2015 07:48PM

Seduce your best friend and then ride him sideways....

....it's the only way for him to get even and it's your duty as a best friend.

TheOtherBloke · 28-04-2015 07:48PM

Banjo String wrote: »

Whats the problem? it's like she can be a half cheater, she's already broke the ribbon and crossed the line man!

Plus it doesn't count if it's 'covered'.

Up to youuuuuuu..... .

Do not put tempting thoughts into my mind.. You rascal you

DareGod · 28-04-2015 07:48PM

If my friend heard a rumour I'd been cheated on, I'd be seriously pissed off if they didn't tell me about it.

Tell him what you heard and let him do with the information whatever he wants.

Just say to him "This is what I've heard, and you can do with this whatever you want."

You'd have to be a real ****up for that to somehow backfire.

Jjiipp79 · 28-04-2015 07:51PM

Keep stum op, nothing to be gained by telling him. When it comes out and it will, act like you're hearing it for the first time....

No one wants to break that news to a mt8

Lux23 · 28-04-2015 07:52PM

Confront her and see what she says, it good be a load of crap, but if it was my friend I think I would tell them.

TheOtherBloke · 28-04-2015 07:53PM

Jjiipp79 wrote: »

Keep stum op, nothing to be gained by telling him. When it comes out and it will, act like you're hearing it for the first time....

No one wants to break that news to a mt8

Yes but if he finds out.. Then finds out that a heap of us know.. Humiliation and a big loss of friends would be coming his way. So good suggestion, thanks

fleet_admiral · 28-04-2015 07:55PM

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Gbear · 28-04-2015 07:56PM

I'm a fan of the "blackmail bad person into doing the right thing" school of thought.

Contact the girlfriend and tell her she has a week to come clean. If she refuses then get your friends to back you up and tell your other friend the truth.

Someone isn't Satan just because they cheated. If they've had a good relationship it might be salvageable.

Cee-Jay-Cee · 28-04-2015 08:05PM

I wouldn't say it to him, you don't know if could have been a one off and maybe they were going through s rough patch and have come through it and are good again BUT I would say it to her and just let her know that you know and that if she's serious about him then good enough but if she's unsure, do the decent thing and tell him and finish with him rather than leaving it till they're possibly deeper involved.

suicide_circus · 28-04-2015 08:16PM

Tell her to tell him or you will

the evasion_kid · 28-04-2015 08:16PM

Tell him,I made the mistake of not telling a friend and had to watch him walk down the aisle with her,she knows I know and hates my guts for it I even got a spiteful look at the wedding

DareGod · 28-04-2015 08:29PM

the evasion_kid wrote: »

Tell him,I made the mistake of not telling a friend and had to watch him walk down the aisle with her,she knows I know and hates my guts for it I even got a spiteful look at the wedding

Why does she hate you for knowing? It's not your fault you know!

Mechanical Clocktail · 28-04-2015 08:30PM

Tell him, no doubt. I don't know why anyone is suggesting contacting the cheater. The first thing she'll do is talk bad about you, maybe make something up about how you hit on her etc. to discredit you. That way be crazy town. Just tell the guy, he's being made a fool out of. Some friends he has.

strobe · 28-04-2015 08:31PM

This is what you do man. Next time you're out you point out some little ride to him to check out. Then after a minute you say "would you ever cheat on Mary, man?", if he says no. Ask why. This is a weird ass line of conversation. He'll ask why you're being weird. Then you tell him what you know.

Of course you have to tell him.

I don't word so good and I'm also a busy, busy man... no not busy, what's the other one? Lazy! I'm a very lazy man. So this video here will explain why you have to tell him in my place.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mG2Pwt6xiUI

(Skip to 2:20 or so for the applicable part)

the evasion_kid · 28-04-2015 08:31PM

DareGod wrote: »

Why does she hate you for knowing? It's not your fault you know!

Probably afraid I'll let it slip someday and her meal ticket will leave

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