Introvert Life

Turtyturd · 19-04-2015 10:23PM

Stheno wrote: »

Seriously this is not introverted it's an indicator of wider issues

As an introvert I happily do all of the above, speak at conferences etc

Being introvert means you need personal time more, not that you are a social cripple

Yeah I would consider it more socially awkward/anxious than introvert, which I thought the thread had moved on to.

Edit: although I just did an online test there and scored 89% introvert.

Akrasia · 19-04-2015 10:27PM

The biggest 'problem' with being an introvert is that you hate asking others to do things for you.

The biggest benefit of being an introvert Is that you learn how to do things for yourself

The biggest drawback of being omnitalented and introverted is that useless extroverts have no problem with asking you for help all the time

Stheno · 19-04-2015 10:30PM

zeffabelli wrote: »

I notice people in IT never use the phone....why don't they ever use the phone? It's weird...

I work in IT and live on the phone as I'm on a virtual team so don't get your thinking

zeffabelli · 19-04-2015 10:31PM

Stheno wrote: »

I work in IT and live on the phone as I'm on a virtual team so don't get your thinking

Just my experience.

Agricola · 19-04-2015 10:33PM

Cold War Kid wrote: »

What if she were a 36-year-old attractive woman?

Yeah, I don't know why I got ageist there. If Helen Mirren sat down beside me on the train, I wouldnt be complaining.

Akrasia · 19-04-2015 10:47PM

Stheno wrote: »

I work in IT and live on the phone as I'm on a virtual team so don't get your thinking

Its completely different being on a conference call at work compared with a social call. Introverted people aren't afraid of talking to other people, we just hate undirected meaningless chit chat

Akrasia · 19-04-2015 10:48PM

Turtyturd wrote: »

Yeah I would consider it more socially awkward/anxious than introvert, which I thought the thread had moved on to.

Edit: although I just did an online test there and scored 89% introvert.

Typical introvert, won't share the link to the test ðŸ˜Š

Roquentin · 19-04-2015 10:49PM

Akrasia wrote: »

Its completely different being on a conference call at work compared with a social call. Introverted people aren't afraid of talking to other people, we just hate undirected meaningless chit chat

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=stop+and+chat

stop and chat

When someone stops to engage in a conversation with another while passing them in public. These conversations are short, meaningless, awkward and mostly unwanted by at least one of the parties involved. This term was coined by Larry David on the HBO series Curb Your Enthusiasm.

"Oh there's Tom, don't acknowledge him, he always wants to stop and chat."

Mr_Muffin · 19-04-2015 10:50PM

Not telling the milk man you don't drink milk even after 5 years of paying for It.

somefeen · 19-04-2015 10:53PM

I hate people asking me what I was up to at the weekend.

I don't know why, I dont even do anything embarrassing or weird. I just dont like people knowing what I've been up to.

ahnowbrowncow · 19-04-2015 11:07PM

Stheno wrote: »

Seriously this is not introverted it's an indicator of wider issues

As an introvert I happily do all of the above, speak at conferences etc

Being introvert means you need personal time more, not that you are a social cripple

Someone seems to be getting narky because they identify themselves as an introvert and is now annoyed upon realising that people think it means she's a "social cripple"

rawn · 19-04-2015 11:16PM

I think we're missing the point of the thread... it's to have a bit of a giggle, not to psychoanalyze!! Introverted/socially anxious or whatever, share more funny examples!

brevity · 19-04-2015 11:29PM

I ****ing hate canteens.

yes there · 20-04-2015 12:09AM

Stheno wrote: »

Seriously this is not introverted it's an indicator of wider issues

As an introvert I happily do all of the above, speak at conferences etc

Being introvert means you need personal time more, not that you are a social cripple

Actually it sort of is Professor. It's purely situational what he has described. Speaking at conferences is part of your job. I know a lot of outgoing people who crumble when talking in front of large groups. I'm sure most introverts are capable of conversations with friends and family and colleagues. Somewhat meaningless confrontations avoided due to the energy sapping dialogue which would have probably taken place is not not normal behaviour. Sounds to me like an introvert maintaining his energy levels.

Paramite Pie · 20-04-2015 12:22AM

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

Where has this idea that introverts hate people come from? I don't hate people at all, I just require a lot less company that most people.

I'm an ambivert or whatever.. it's like going through the seasons.

I seem to have some social anxiety issues, mostly building trivial things up until they become too much to handle & I need to talk my self back down. It can be a bit crippling making me avoidant at times. It might be something as simple as I forgot to text someone back and then I avoid them for days even though they've likely forgotten.

Thankfully I've got friends who are used to this fluctuation and I can sit with them reading/drawing or actively engaging in conversation. It's all good. I can also go weeks/months without seeing them and just pick up where we left off. Other times I'm the one organizing the nights out.:pac:

Macavity. · 20-04-2015 12:25AM

Railing lines of cheap amphetamine substitutes before presentations or any functional event that involves excessive talking and gregariousness. Sneaking off to the toilets to re-dose every 90 minutes or so. Oh the life of an Introvert.

DareGod · 20-04-2015 12:34AM

Stheno wrote: »

Are you confusing introvert with self esteem issues?

folamh wrote: »

Social anxiety =/= introversion.

Jenny Thalia wrote: »

That sounds like confidence issues/insecurity, not being introverted.

Stheno wrote: »

I'm not sure you get what introversion is

Macavity. wrote: »

You don't have to have a degree in psychology to understand that the majority of "introverted" traits the OP mentions are signs of low self confidence

El_Dangeroso wrote: »

that's social anxiety, not introversion.

Colonel Panic wrote: »

That's not introversion.

Stheno wrote: »

Seriously this is not introverted it's an indicator of wider issues

gifrific.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/Liz-Lemon-Eye-Roll-and-Exhale-30-Rock.gif

Seriously. No wonder the OP hates talking to people!
You all knew full well what he meant.

newmug · 20-04-2015 12:47AM

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

Where has this idea that introverts hate people come from?

I think its from the "dont suffer fools" attitude some people have. Those people generally tend to be introverts. And arseholes.

Robsweezie · 20-04-2015 01:10AM

if i'm in any restaurant that offers take out I will always go for that instead of eating inside. you'll never see me eating alone in McDonalds, if im meeting someone there then yeah, but I prefer bringing food home (or a quiet room at work) away from the crowds. this isn't a problem in proper dining restaurants like a fancy ''champagne and filet mignon'' place, I don't mind them. as long as its relatively quiet and good atmosphere.

if someone needs to tell me something unimportant over the phone then I like them to text instead of leaving me stuck on the phone talking when im trying to focus on something else. if it can be said in a short and sweet text then that's what I expect. obviously if someone close to me is pregnant, is in trouble, or other significant news good or bad, then that's phonecall stuff. if you're ringing me to tell me to bring home a loaf of bread then **** off. if im given detailed instructions by text rather than a call than I remember them much easier.

another one is always requesting payment by post or credit card instead of face to face exchanges, in the case of donedeal, buy and sell and adverts etc. ive never met any buyers/sellers face to face.

Robsweezie · 20-04-2015 01:14AM

DareGod wrote: »

gifrific.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/Liz-Lemon-Eye-Roll-and-Exhale-30-Rock.gif

Seriously. No wonder the OP hates talking to people!
You all knew full well what he meant.

after hours = pedant's paradise

Mountainsandh · 20-04-2015 01:52AM

I hate shopping with someone, unless shopping for them exclusively. If I am on the lookout for something for myself then I just want to be free to analyse, look, and ponder on my own. Someone else's presence is nearly insufferable then, their advice not welcome.

All of my hobbies are things you do individually : reading, walks (so much more enjoyable alone), photography, ... I relish that time.

I frequently listen to white noise, Tibetan bowls, and similar in headphones to "top up" my mental well-being when others' presence gets overwhelming. I have no patience for others if I can't have that "me time" first.

I have highly social job which involves meeting and talking to dozens of people daily. I have no problem with small talk provided I have had alone time beforehand, and I enjoy meeting people when it's the right time. I usually leave early before work/an appointment to have a dedicated "me time".

I got the intj result at test.

token101 · 20-04-2015 02:18AM

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

Where has this idea that introverts hate people come from? I don't hate people at all, I just require a lot less company that most people.

I read this and it struck a chord. There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be alone and anyone who makes you feel so is almost certainly far more insecure than they realise.

I've never felt alone being the only person in a room but I've definitely felt alone in a crowded room plenty of times.

ancapailldorcha · 20-04-2015 12:25PM

Paramite Pie wrote: »

I'm an ambivert or whatever.. it's like going through the seasons.

I seem to have some social anxiety issues, mostly building trivial things up until they become too much to handle & I need to talk my self back down. It can be a bit crippling making me avoidant at times. It might be something as simple as I forgot to text someone back and then I avoid them for days even though they've likely forgotten.

Thankfully I've got friends who are used to this fluctuation and I can sit with them reading/drawing or actively engaging in conversation. It's all good. I can also go weeks/months without seeing them and just pick up where we left off. Other times I'm the one organizing the nights out.:pac:

Friends are wonderful. Getting them on the other hand...

newmug wrote: »

I think its from the "dont suffer fools" attitude some people have. Those people generally tend to be introverts. And arseholes.

Bit harsh, no? I won't speak for anyone else but I'm very picky who I'll spend my free time with.

token101 wrote: »

I read this and it struck a chord. There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be alone and anyone who makes you feel so is almost certainly far more insecure than they realise.

I've never felt alone being the only person in a room but I've definitely felt alone in a crowded room plenty of times.

Being alone in a crowded place is my idea of hell be it a pub, festival or whatever. I look at a huge crowd the same way a cat looks at a lake.

token101 · 20-04-2015 12:49PM

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

Being alone in a crowded place is my idea of hell be it a pub, festival or whatever. I look at a huge crowd the same way a cat looks at a lake.

I don't really mind if I'm in a place full of strangers. I love sitting by myself in a restaurant eating and reading, a pub not so much. The crowd wouldn't really bother me though because I don't have to talk to anyone.

On the flipside, I tend to avoid work canteens unless I know it will be empty. It's not that I don't like the people, most of the time I do! I just don't really want to feel like I have to make inane small talk and I'd much prefer to read my book on my own.

There's a Ted Talk by Susan Cain about introversion which is a really good listen and made a lot of sense to me when I heard it. It should be required listening for anyone who's told, or tells people, they have 'social anxiety'.

bur · 20-04-2015 12:50PM

Pretty understandable that an introvert with social anxiety, but without an amateur psychology degree, might conflate the two.

ancapailldorcha · 20-04-2015 01:08PM

token101 wrote: »

I don't really mind if I'm in a place full of strangers. I love sitting by myself in a restaurant eating and reading, a pub not so much. The crowd wouldn't really bother me though because I don't have to talk to anyone.

On the flipside, I tend to avoid work canteens unless I know it will be empty. It's not that I don't like the people, most of the time I do! I just don't really want to feel like I have to make inane small talk and I'd much prefer to read my book on my own.

There's a Ted Talk by Susan Cain about introversion which is a really good listen and made a lot of sense to me when I heard it. It should be required listening for anyone who's told, or tells people, they have 'social anxiety'.

Funny you should mention Susan Cain, she wrote this which I've not had a chance to read yet.

SoulTrader · 20-04-2015 01:20PM

"Hey class! I'd like everyone to pick a partner for this next exercise"

<Faints>

careful_now · 20-04-2015 01:29PM

brevity wrote: »

I ****ing hate canteens.

Me too.. Love going into the canteen to find it empty.
One of my workmates popped in to the canteen while I was on my own one day.

Them: "Ah you poor thing, you're all on your own"
Me (in my head): "F**k off"

Akrasia · 20-04-2015 01:47PM

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

Funny you should mention Susan Cain, she wrote this which I've not had a chance to read yet.

Its good, but it goes a bit off the rails near the end.

Virgil° · 20-04-2015 02:06PM

I'll walk an hour or more to get home after a night out instead of paying 10-20 quid for a 15 minute taxi ride. I often just don't have the energy to feign interest in rugby or football etc..... and maintain a conversation about it.

On a side note to this, I admire/worry about how my body makes it home and into my bed whilst drunk with seemingly no intervention from my conscious brain at all.
Complete auto-pilot.

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