Introvert Life

Robsweezie

writing up a rough script of what you're going to say when leaving a voicemail for an appointment because you don't trust yourself not to **** it up doing it naturally.

making up the right change in your pocket before you approach the counter so you're not stuck fumbling round when you get there keeping the cashier waiting, drawing attention to yourself.

always ordering takeaway through just eat instead of good old fashioned phone ins.

feel free to add more INTJS!!

Stheno

I don't do any of that and am an intj

Are you confusing introvert with self esteem issues?

Darkglasses

Robsweezie wrote: »

writing up a rough script of what you're going to say when leaving a voicemail for an appointment because you don't trust yourself not to **** it up doing it naturally.

making up the right change in your pocket before you approach the counter so you're not stuck fumbling round when you get there keeping the cashier waiting, drawing attention to yourself.

always ordering takeaway through just eat instead of good old fashioned phone ins.

feel free to add more INTJS!!

Queueing to use a self service machine at the supermarket when the queue for a normal till is shorter

folamh

Robsweezie wrote: »

writing up a rough script of what you're going to say when leaving a voicemail for an appointment because you don't trust yourself not to **** it up doing it naturally.

making up the right change in your pocket before you approach the counter so you're not stuck fumbling round when you get there keeping the cashier waiting, drawing attention to yourself.

always ordering takeaway through just eat instead of good old fashioned phone ins.

feel free to add more INTJS!!

Social anxiety =/= introversion.

http://psychology.about.com/od/trait-theories-personality/f/introversion.htm

Penny Tration

Robsweezie wrote: »

writing up a rough script of what you're going to say when leaving a voicemail for an appointment because you don't trust yourself not to **** it up doing it naturally.

making up the right change in your pocket before you approach the counter so you're not stuck fumbling round when you get there keeping the cashier waiting, drawing attention to yourself.

always ordering takeaway through just eat instead of good old fashioned phone ins.

feel free to add more INTJS!!

That sounds like confidence issues/insecurity, not being introverted.

catallus

Don't listen to them OP! I think you're introverted

Bubbaclaus

OP just summed up my entire ife

Sheep Lover

Putting a death notice of yourself in the paper so people don't visit or call anymore

Robsweezie

I knew the nit pickers would be out in force as I typed out the OP, im not an anxious person generally, introverts don't like to be the center of attention, and like to compose themselves before making a phone call just to be prepared, and as for the just eat, I prefer quietly clicking and typing away at what pizza toppings I want instead of often having to shout down the phone to someone who may get confused or cant hear me. the quietness over loudness thing is classic introvert territory. anyway the thread aint about that, keep it going

Stheno

Robsweezie wrote: »

I knew the nit pickers would be out in force as I typed out the OP, im not an anxious person generally, introverts don't like to be the center of attention, and like to compose themselves before making a phone call just to be prepared, and as for the just eat, I prefer quietly clicking and typing away at what pizza toppings I want instead of often having to shout down the phone to someone who may get confused or cant hear me. the quietness over loudness thing is classic introvert territory. anyway the thread aint about that, keep it going

As I said I'm an intj yet spend over half my life in work doing presentations and being the centre of attentioon
I'm not sure you get what introversion is

Entering a shop, realising that it's very busy, and deciding to come back later or go somewhere else.

mikom

Karsini wrote: »

Entering a shop, realising that it's very busy, and deciding to come back later or go somewhere else.

Smart, not introvert.

folamh

Most people who think they're introverts are either ambiverts (the most common type) or teenagers with special snowflake syndrome.

Darkglasses

mikom wrote: »

Smart, not introvert.

Or both possibly.

Buona Fortuna

Robsweezie wrote: »

I knew the nit pickers would be out in force as I typed out the OP, im not an anxious person generally, introverts don't like to be the center of attention, and like to compose themselves before making a phone call just to be prepared, and as for the just eat, I prefer quietly clicking and typing away at what pizza toppings I want instead of often having to shout down the phone to someone who may get confused or cant hear me. the quietness over loudness thing is classic introvert territory. anyway the thread aint about that, keep it going

Hummm

I don't like using the micrphone things at McD's but I'll happily talk to a person.

I make notes of any little anecdotes when I ring my mother otherwise - its just easier.

I hate the self service tills and if they tell me again that I have an unauthorised item in the baffing area, I'll jam a carrot in its coin chute.

I frequently check my change before I go up to pay - otherwise my trousers just get heavier and heavier.

rawn

Practicing telling the bus driver how much money you're giving them in your head waiting for the bus to approach:

*€3.05 please, €3.05 please, €3.05 please, €3.05 please, €3.05 please, €3.05 please, €3.05 please, €3.05 please*

Me: "€3.05 please!"

Bus Driver: "It's €3.30 now."

Me: *dies*

Macavity.

Cripplingly Low Self Esteem Life*

5rtytry56

Karsini wrote: »

Entering a shop, realising that it's very busy, and deciding to come back later or go somewhere else.

I do that with pubs. Go to some other watering hole.

Spunge

ordering a pizza then too scared to answer to door


nobody ?

cloud493

I'm an introvert forced to be more of an extrovert than I'd like

Stheno

Spunge wrote: »

ordering a pizza then too scared to answer to door


nobody ?

Font you have a hatch to pass the money through and have them slide the pizza in?

Roquentin

cloud493 wrote: »

I'm an introvert forced to be more of an extrovert than I'd like

one of the hallmarks of schizoid/schizotypal (not saying you have it) is the need to pretend in social situations. i spent my whole life doing this

Roquentin

feigning empathy

RayM

Savouring the silence and breathing a massive sigh of relief when visitors go home.

Being happy when it rains on your day off, so you can stay in and do nothing, guilt-free.

Turning down a party invitation because, after carefully consulting your diary, you find that you're watching television that night.

Roquentin

"Conversation enriches the understanding, but solitude is the school of genius."

- Edward Gibbon

Roquentin

'The introvert is pressured daily, almost from the moment of awakening, to respond and conform to the outer world.'

- Marti Olsen Laney

Hans Bricks

Anticipating when someone will finally stop talking to you and just leave the room to you undisturbed.

Cringing in horror when you can hear someone making their way to the room your're in.

PARlance

Not looking forward to your sons first birthday because your relatives are coming and need to be entertained.

pauliebdub

I'm INTJ as well and whilst it can be problematic it's also a massive advantage in the work I do (software testing) as I'm analytical and have no problem identifying issues etc, just as long as I don't have to manage or deal with people in a significant way.

The biggest problem for me is that I don't do small talk that well, it's torture, I'm also somewhat blunt which can alienate people sometimes and I really don't suffer fools at all. I don't have self esteem issues at all.

Jon Stark

The armchair psychologists are out in force.

anncoates

Karsini wrote: »

Entering a shop, realising that it's very busy, and deciding to come back later or go somewhere else.

That's called being an impatient, narky bastard.

A diagnosis that I am eminently qualified to deliver.

Riverireland

Sounds like a tough life being introverted/ shy . What seems like a very small thing to those of us more extrovert is such a huge issue to you guys. I would always have considered myself to be a reasonably kind person. Given me food for thought OP, I'll be more aware in future.

I have seen people getting what seemed like irrationally angry/ frustrated in social situations in the past and didn't get it. Introverts would this be a symptom?

anncoates

Jon Stark wrote: »

The armchair psychologists are out in force.

I would have thought that's par for the course when you insist on sharing your psychological issues with a load of unqualified strangers.

Rubberlegs

I'm about to go out the door, and can hear the neighbours outside, so I wait till I know they are gone.
Sometimes not looking forward to social situations as I don't want to talk to people I don't know well.
Sending the kids to the shop so I don't have to talk to anyone.
Being glad when it's sunny enough to wear my sunglasses some days so I feel almost invisible to others. No hope for me at all !!

Roquentin

anncoates wrote: »

I would have thought that's par for the course when you insist on sharing your psychological issues with a load of unqualified strangers.

“I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.”

― Abraham Maslow

Jon Stark

anncoates wrote: »

I would have thought that's par for the course when you insist on sharing your psychological issues with a load of unqualified strangers.

Yeah that's it, you've got the situation spot on.

Macavity.

Jon Stark wrote: »

The armchair psychologists are out in force.

You don't have to have a degree in psychology to understand that the majority of "introverted" traits the OP mentions are signs of low self confidence.

Everything s/he mentions is a way of avoiding possible embarrassment.

because you don't trust yourself not to **** it up doing it naturally.

so you're not stuck fumbling round when you get there keeping the cashier waiting, drawing attention to yourself.

Stheno

pauliebdub wrote: »

I'm INTJ as well and whilst it can be problematic it's also a massive advantage in the work I do (software testing) as I'm analytical and have no problem identifying issues etc, just as long as I don't have to manage or deal with people in a significant way.

The biggest problem for me is that I don't do small talk that well, it's torture, I'm also somewhat blunt which can alienate people sometimes and I really don't suffer fools at all. I don't have self esteem issues at all.

I've been personality tested a few times for different jobs

The most invasive produced a report saying I was aware I was not good socially but had learned methods to get around it

Jon Stark

Macavity. wrote: »

You don't have to have a degree in psychology to understand that the majority of "introverted" traits the OP mentions are signs of low self confidence.

Everything s/he mentions is a way of avoiding possible embarrassment.

I took the op as slightly comic and over selling her or his clutziness in order to start a simple conversation. It's a harmless thread just asking people for what they feel is their sign of introvertness so I've no idea why some people found it so important to jump in with their psychoanalysis of the op.

OldMrBrennan83

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Saralee4

I don't have a problem with small talk with strangers, I actually enjoy it but one thing I hate is small talk with someone I am supposed to know (but don't really know if you get me) like an aunt that you never see or a neighbour someone like that.

Roquentin

Patww79 wrote: »

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its the meyers briggs test

OldMrBrennan83

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ancapailldorcha

Where has this idea that introverts hate people come from? I don't hate people at all, I just require a lot less company that most people.

Stheno

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

Where has this idea that introverts hate people come from? I don't hate people at all, I just require a lot less company that most people.

It seems that being introverted in the wider world gets translated as dislikes people

ancapailldorcha

I'm definitely introverted (amongst other things) and I've not once avoided going to the shop because there were quite a few people inside. Noisy pubs are a different story but that's more to do with ambience and a desire to relax than shove my way to the bar for service.

seamusk84

Do everything by email so you don't have to talk to people. Never answer unknown numbers. Don't answer the door unless you know who is calling. Always use self service checkout at the tills. Get infrequent haircuts to avoid those awkward discussions.
I could keep going on with these! To be fair I am a lot better now than I used to be lol

Saralee4

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

Where has this idea that introverts hate people come from? I don't hate people at all, I just require a lot less company that most people.

its probably just because introverts tend to enjoy alone time but also social time. I have to have both. I cant be alone all the time or have someone with me all the time.

I am very social but I tend not to really be too pleased when someone calls unexpected whereas I know other people who seem to constantly have people show up at their house every minute or if I go away on a weekend, unless its family, I don't really like going for more than one night if it was with the girls, because I find anything more too much, things like that.

Colonel Panic

That's not introversion. I'm quite introverted but I have friends in and out of work, have a girlfriend and can make smalltalk with strangers. It's just a bit draining and I need to escape sometimes, plus I'm comfortable in my own company.

ancapailldorcha

I've moved about 4 times in as many years to different cities for work and going to meetup events is probably more draining that my job. It feels like I am interviewing friend candidates and is horrible.

Clandestine

"In this moment I am euphoric, not because of any phony conversations, but because I am enlightened by my own intelligence"

-self important introvert mantra