Who made you realise which side of the fence you sat?

No idea actually. I could not put a finger on a time or date or event.

But lots of people have written ABOUT that moment. Like chistopher hitchens in "letter to a young contrarian".

But if I were to write one moment down in my life that defined me it would be - of all things - snooker. Jimmy White was in the lead against Stephen Hendry. Jimmy had never won a snooker world title before. He got down on the white. He lined up his shot.

And he got up and told the ref "I tipped the white" - and the ref called foul. No one else saw it.

White went on to lose the final.

Now we could be cynical and say if he had not been honest then he might have been found out in replays and so forth. And I get that. But when I was sitting there that day and I saw him do it - and I saw that level of sportsmanship where a man would be THAT honest in the face of attaining the one thing he always wanted and never had - and never did get - in that moment I decided myself "THAT is the person I want to be".

And I hope I have done ok so far!

Pretend edit: Oh is this thread about sexual orientation? Yea Jimmy was ok for a man but I wouldnt do it with the lights on

Actually I asked my loins just now - and did some history soul searching. And weirdly the first thing that came to mind was that kissing scene in the goonies. The one under the water fall. I think I was defined as straight in that moment - I was probably 6 or 8 or something - but I have a distinct memory of thinking "I want me some of that".

Though I am not sure how the fact she was kissing someone other than the person she thought she was kissing figures into that