Does your bull**** tolerance decrease with age?

dublinjen · 26-01-2015 07:25AM #1

So a friend of mine made quite an interesting point the other day. We were discussing our friends and how they are much more likely to dump dumbass's then they were a few years back (all approximately 25yo). We were wondering if it was due to a decreasing bull**** factor, in that with age you will no longer waste your time with idiots?

I ask because my other half has displayed some pretty epic idiot behaviour tonight, and I'm wondering would my reaction be the same when I was a carefree 20 year old.

T-K-O · 26-01-2015 07:28AM

The real cull begins at 30.

dublinjen · 26-01-2015 07:35AM

I hate cats what am I supposed to do ?

blinding · 26-01-2015 07:40AM

Maybe as you get older you realise that you can be a bit of a bull****ter yourself and if you are producing enough bull**** that you do not need other bull**** providers !

I may have just proved my own point !

suicide_circus · 26-01-2015 07:49AM

http://static.ijreview.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/800px-Falling_01.jpg

I didn't used to be this guy

beks101 · 26-01-2015 07:51AM

I think it's just that with time comes experience.

At 20 you probably met someone attractive and just thought "BOOBIES"...fast forward a few years and you know that you're not going to be compatible with someone who talks shyte and is a head-wrecker who displays epicly crap behaviour, even if she has a great rack.

The more gobshytes you have under your belt, be it through relationships or friendships or work or general life experiences, the more privy you are to them.

I'm almost 30 and I hate most people.

yes there · 26-01-2015 08:07AM

Yes, for me anyway. Also I will call bsr's out more and question them more than before.

The Peanut · 26-01-2015 08:24AM

I think as we get older, we're certainly way more comfortable in our own skin. We worry less about our image and we're less conscious of what others think about us. I'm far more comfortable speaking my mind than I was when I was younger and I guess one aspect of this is not putting up with crap.

It's easy on the interweb; mainly just don't get involved. I disagree with a lot of what's posted on AH but I tune it out. There's no point in pursuing it. 20 yr old me would have argued the issues to death and I can't be dealing with that now. In the real world, I will raise a point if I have an issue with something but also criticism from others bothers me less so I guess its a win-win to some degree.

There are benefits to aging; not quite grumpy old man but slightly-cranky-and-come-back-to-me-when-it-gets-serious old man.

Oink · 26-01-2015 08:28AM

In some cases you start with "low tolerance to bull" and end up turning into a cantankerous old bastard.

I'm taking tablets, we'll see if they work.

Roger Hassenforder · 26-01-2015 08:43AM

Oink wrote: »

In some cases you start with "low tolerance to bull" and end up turning into a cantankerous old bastard.

I'm taking tablets, we'll see if they work.

As you get older, you realise time is running out, and "ain't nobody got time for that"

suicide_circus · 26-01-2015 08:43AM

http://static.ijreview.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/800px-Falling_01.jpg

I didn't used to be this guy

Duggy747 · 26-01-2015 10:17AM

suicide_circus wrote: »

http://static.ijreview.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/800px-Falling_01.jpg

I didn't used to be this guy

I think you're this guy now :pac:

Playboy · 26-01-2015 10:21AM

As you get older you have less and less free time due to work and family commitments. You want to ensure that the free time you do get is spent doing something enjoyable/worthwhile and with people you like. If you like idiots then by all means spend time with them but most people dont have the time or energy to waste on them.

The One Doctor · 26-01-2015 10:28AM

beks101 wrote: »

I'm almost 30 and I hate most people.

You think you're cool, right?

_Kaiser_ · 26-01-2015 10:38AM

Yes as I've gotten older I find I have less time for muppetry, time-wasters or bull**** - I'm very direct and upfront anyway and appreciate the same in others. Makes life a lot easier.

Where relationships are concerned this is even more important - not that BOOBIES aren't still important too

beks101 · 26-01-2015 10:58AM

The One Doctor wrote: »

You think you're cool, right?

Of course. And your opinion is really important to me.

anncoates · 26-01-2015 11:07AM

Not in an overly dramatic way but it does. I dumped 2 old friends in the last few years just because stuff I was OK about for years, I suddenly didn't want to tolerate. Not that I'm perfect but you just don't put up with things as much when you get older, not just because you've grown up but also because you simply don't have the time so you prioritize people you can rely on.

jimgoose · 26-01-2015 11:18AM

I think as you get older you become more conscious of time being a rather precious commodity, and thus more resentful of wasting it on gobsheens.

One eyed Jack · 26-01-2015 11:21AM

I always try and remember the serenity prayer -

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,The courage to change the things I can,And the wisdom to know the difference.

Hence I have an unusually high tolerance for bullshìt because I still lack the wisdom to tell the difference all too often.

I've always been a cantankerous little bastard though, but I'm a quietly cantankerous little bastard, I'll often keep it to myself. It just depends on the person and the circumstances how far I'm willing to put up with the bullshìt.

steddyeddy · 26-01-2015 11:25AM

It decreases exponentially. You make mistakes when you're younger, some of which hurt. You don't make them again.

ScumLord · 26-01-2015 11:46AM

I've zero tolerance for many things as I age. Really old people just annoy me with their presence now, I can feel time slowing down when they show up, really young people annoy me with the lack of knowledge on things I have knowledge of, ads on TV, newspapers, music in general, traffic lights, telephone calls, waiting for just about anything. The list is literally endless. I seem to just go around shaking my fist at everyone these days.

TheBeardedLady · 26-01-2015 11:47AM

It was very important that people liked me back in the day, even people I didn't particularly like, and I'd stress myself out making sure that was the case. Now I care I less. I speak my mind a bit more now (though not enough) and I'm more inclined to suit myself. Definitely a lot more cantankerous than I was in my 20s and less concerned about how I'm perceived by others.

Like previous posters, I've cut a few people out of my life as they were more hassle than they were worth and it feels good.

Saying all that, and this probably sounds contradictory but I'm probably more inclined to cut people slack than I used to be and accept the fact that we're all trying to muddle through the best we can. Some people are just cnuts though and they can fook off tbh.

I'm still work in progress though and am not quite there yet.

blinding · 26-01-2015 12:04PM

ScumLord wrote: »

I've zero tolerance for many things as I age. Really old people just annoy me with their presence now, I can feel time slowing down when they show up, really young people annoy me with the lack of knowledge on things I have knowledge of, ads on TV, newspapers, music in general, traffic lights, telephone calls, waiting for just about anything. The list is literally endless. I seem to just go around shaking my fist at everyone these days.

I wonder what people are thinking when you show up:D

runinfinity · 26-01-2015 12:40PM

The other day I annoyed myself being a giddy gobshyte.
That's how intolerant I have become.

happysunnydays · 26-01-2015 12:53PM

You know you have that power, you can drop a deliberate wind up clanger, sit back, hold your poker face and watch people get all red in the face as they hit the rage button. It can also work vice versa.

Like this guy...

The One Doctor wrote: »

You think you're cool, right?

...and textbook older person's response.

beks101 wrote: »

Of course. And your opinion is really important to me.

The One Doctor owned bigtime! Nice.

26-01-2015 12:57PM

The Peanut wrote: »

I think as we get older, we're certainly way more comfortable in our own skin. We worry less about our image and we're less conscious of what others think about us. I'm far more comfortable speaking my mind than I was when I was younger and I guess one aspect of this is not putting up with crap.

It's easy on the interweb; mainly just don't get involved. I disagree with a lot of what's posted on AH but I tune it out. There's no point in pursuing it. 20 yr old me would have argued the issues to death and I can't be dealing with that now. In the real world, I will raise a point if I have an issue with something but also criticism from others bothers me less so I guess its a win-win to some degree.

Totally agree with everything you've said.

I think you get to a point where you realise what's really important. You realise that you'd rather fill your time with only important stuff so the time you have to spend dealing and putting up with bollox becomes less and less. I barely find time for the important stuff as it is so I really don't have time for bullsh*t or for anyone/anything that drags me down. I think I'm less cranky, and happier as a result though. Not the other way around

jimgoose · 26-01-2015 12:58PM

The One Doctor wrote: »

You think you're cool, right?

I certainly am. I spend more time than I should over at the Downey's sipping their rather decent four-star Port. I have a groove in my hip. I can jive with turkeys with the best of them.

LynnGrace · 26-01-2015 01:00PM

TheBeardedLady wrote: »

Like previous posters, I've cut a few people out of my life as they were more hassle than they were worth and it feels good.

Saying all that, and this probably sounds contradictory but I'm probably more inclined to cut people slack than I used to be and accept the fact that we're all trying to muddle through the best we can. Some people are just cnuts though and they can fook off tbh.

I'm still work in progress though and am not quite there yet.

Same here.

ScumLord · 26-01-2015 01:12PM

blinding wrote: »

I wonder what people are thinking when you show up:D

I've seen some people just start crying.

blinding · 26-01-2015 01:17PM

ScumLord wrote: »

I've seen some people just start crying.

Thats probably mildly better than indifference:P

Tony EH · 26-01-2015 01:36PM

When you reach the point in life that you realise/suspect that we are all heading towards the same shitty prize at the end of life, i.e. fück all, your tolerance for people's bollocks talk gets pretty much wiped out.

Does your bull**** tolerance decrease with age?

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