No longer attracted to my girlfriend

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

Rogaine only helps the back and top of the head from thinning. There's special shampoo for the front and then medication, in pill form, that helps slow down balding or receding but lots of people report crazy side effects from it.

such as?

People are saying its very shallow but attraction is very important. I doubt most of them chose their partners only on personality.

Unless there is a medical reason for it then it shows a lack of concern for your partner. If you dont care about your health or being attractive to your partner, arent they being the selfish one?

It's not shallow - if you're not sexually attracted to your partner, then they're just a good friend, surely?

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

And those are just the side effects for rogaine?

Yes, and other Minoxidil base products as well.

Tarzana2 wrote: »

Not necessarily, she might have topped out at her current weight. Again, we just don't know. For example, I said earlier that I've gained a lot this year but it did stabilise, and that was before I began my weight loss plan.

There's no "topping out" when it comes to weight gain. It's a myth.

The reason why people stop gaining weight despite still eating the same amount is because their body has gotten bigger, which burns more calories. This might seem like an ironic blip in body function but it's just maths and thermodynamics.

The "topping out" usually results in a continuation of weight gain within a few weeks due to increased craving (not need) for calories caused by food addiction or the person looks at themselves in the mirror, panics and stops eating so much leading to weight loss.

looking_around wrote: »

this isn't true.

Many people will stay size 16 etc for years and years.

My grandmother was a size 18-20 most of her life.

I know people who are size 14-16, have been for a long time, and probably will be for an equally long time.

they don't necessarily start eating more and more..or the opposite stop eating.

On well, jesus, a few people you know. I guess you're counting every calorie they eat?

A size 18-20 isn't an accurate measurement - fat people clothes have more room for growth, shrinkage. You could go up and down pounds and still remain in that range.

If you get fat it's because you're eating a calorie excess. If you lose weight, it's because you're eating a calorie deficit. There is literally no other way for it to occur.

Even extreme medical conditions depend on this little equation.

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

This is the case for people looking to gain weight/muscle as well such as athletes and bodybuilders. Say, for example, someone is 6'2 and 180lbs and they need to eat 4,000 calories to gain weight and try to reach 200lbs. They will gain the weight but as they get bigger, and closer to 200lbs, they have more muscle tissue requiring nutrients and so their caloric needs also increase. So the original 4,000 calories increases to e.g. 4,200.

it's no different for people who get fat.....it's just stored differently.

Tarzana2 wrote: »

Well, basal metabolic rate decreases with every year, so it you eat the same, you will slowly gain. But it decreases by tiny amounts and if you eat well over what you need, that decrease becomes even less significant.

people also commonly get full easier/start eating less the older they get, so......

idk about you, but alot of the overweight people I know, stay the same....it doesn't increase..it doesn't change. just stays the same.

Tarzana2 wrote: »

Except when it's not.

I topped out this year. Could not eat the amount needed to keep gaining even if I wanted.

But it's a myth. Alrighty!

More like pseudoscience. Unless you can back any of this up? I really doubt it though.



What on earth are you wittering on about here?

Yeah... thermodynamics is pseudoscience. :rolleyes:

You didn't "top out" this year. Your body doesn't have it's own special snowflake regulatory system. What happened was that you were consuming lets say 3,000 calories per day, and you got fat to the point that your body actually reached a point in size that it was burning all of those 3,000 calories per day to keep itself alive, move around etc... So weight gain stopped because your calories in equaled your calories out. This is entirely different from the myth that we all have a "topping out point" pre-determined by our genes or some such.

Weightloss requires will power, a trait lacking in many, many overweight and obese people. So, what happens is that even though they're consuming 3,000 calories per day they find themselves still peckish because their body is consuming it instead of storing it as fat. So they will instinctively up their calories by eating eight biscuits instead of the usual five or whatever. And the weight gain continues.

OR

Something small changes in their life. Maybe they get a new job and have less time to eat, or they actively make a decision to lose weight. This means burning more calories than they consume. Hence weight-loss.

I was wittering on about the fact that you can't measure people fatness by the size of their clothes - particularly womens clothes made for fat chicks because they're normally "flowly" to conceal the fatness, measurements differ and vanity sizing is the fashion industry's way of making fat people feel good about buying certain sizes

. It's a poor measurement. For example, a size 20 moomoo - this person could easily gobble her way to an additional 10-15 pounds and still wear the same clothes. And because fat gain is less apparent on already fat people (as opposed to fit, thin people), the person themselves and their friends/family are unlikely to even notice that she's gained another fifteen pounds because it's a drop in the ocean at this stage.

However, if a normal healthy person gained 15 pounds they'd likely rocket up quite a few "sizes" and their friends, family (and definitely their OH) would notice.