Avoiding sausage fests

Annasopra · 15-12-2014 10:11AM

lufties wrote: »

I mean attractive women..

Lol.... I know lots of attractive women who are feminists. With an attitude like that no wonder so called ice queens dismiss you.

smash · 15-12-2014 10:34AM

OP, do you wear shirts like this when you go out?

The_Captain · 15-12-2014 10:49AM

The thing is, there's loads of girls in your position.
Hoping to find a man, out there looking, but struggling.
In fact, all the "women's" events/clubs they go to are filled with women so they'll struggle to just find a single man.
Sometimes there's men there, but even then the ratio of women to men is so low they have no chance
If you go to things like yoga, there's no single women there.
So you're best off ignoring places that you would expect to be full of women to be honest.
All you'll do is end up in a room full of girls talking about their boyfriends.
Let's be honest, that's the last thing you want to be stuck hearing about when you're single!
In a bizarre twist of fate, single girls looking for love end up going to traditionally male oriented things to avoid just being stuck in a room with other women and no men
End of the day, you're best off going to things like lower league football matches and professional gaming tournaments (seriously!) because you'll find they're full of single women

seamus · 15-12-2014 10:57AM

lufties wrote: »

Wow, what a right load of waffle. I do not feel entitled at all. Women talk ad nauseum about being confident. Well, I am confident. I don't see how smiling at someone and getting a cold look can be sensed as anything but being friendly. If we can't smike or approach in a polite manner, what else can be done?

It's time to grab yourself a nice cup of perspective here buddy.

You complain that all of the women you encounter are cold towards you, boring and "stuck up".

In the course of you posting here, a number of posters have remarked on (completely unprompted) an undertone of entitlement and resentment in your posts.

In both cases, its your assertion that it's not you, it's them. The women you've encountered are just stuck up ice queens and the people on boards are waffling through their holes and completely wrong. What an incredible coincidence, what are the odds of that happening.

Clearly there's something wrong with your approach. You're the common denominator here. You appear to have some "routine" that you use with women, yet you're striking out everywhere you try it - in pubs, in social clubs, online, on Tindr. Yet millions of others seem to get along just fine in these places.

But yeah, of course, it's not you, it's them. It must be. Stuck up bitches.

mikom · 15-12-2014 11:00AM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-I37jui1PVQ

lufties · 15-12-2014 11:17AM

seamus wrote: »

It's time to grab yourself a nice cup of perspective here buddy.

You complain that all of the women you encounter are cold towards you, boring and "stuck up".

In the course of you posting here, a number of posters have remarked on (completely unprompted) an undertone of entitlement and resentment in your posts.

In both cases, its your assertion that it's not you, it's them. The women you've encountered are just stuck up ice queens and the people on boards are waffling through their holes and completely wrong. What an incredible coincidence, what are the odds of that happening.

Clearly there's something wrong with your approach. You're the common denominator here. You appear to have some "routine" that you use with women, yet you're striking out everywhere you try it - in pubs, in social clubs, online, on Tindr. Yet millions of others seem to get along just fine in these places.

But yeah, of course, it's not you, it's them. It must be. Stuck up bitches.

Jesus christ, wtf are you on about. I said that at bikram yoga, the women will barely crack a smile, I've never approached any woman there for this reason and the vibe you get.

With regard to pubs, I actually don't approach often simply because Im trying to lay off boozing and looking to broaden my social activities.

I was at a singles night the other night, chatted to one girl who was all over me, I suggested going for a drink, she agreed..as we approached the bar, I got cockblocked by two lads who got her attention. She stayed with them thereafter. I thought t was a bit rude but got on with my night. Chatted to a few girls after that, had a few laughs, was attentive and polite but couldn't seal the deal. This is nothing to do with my attitude, as it is positive. I always smile and am witty and never rude.

BoJack Horseman · 15-12-2014 11:19AM

The best way to attract women is to be more handsome.

lufties · 15-12-2014 11:21AM

The_Captain wrote: »

The thing is, there's loads of girls in your position.
Hoping to find a man, out there looking, but struggling.
In fact, all the "women's" events/clubs they go to are filled with women so they'll struggle to just find a single man.
Sometimes there's men there, but even then the ratio of women to men is so low they have no chance
If you go to things like yoga, there's no single women there.
So you're best off ignoring places that you would expect to be full of women to be honest.
All you'll do is end up in a room full of girls talking about their boyfriends.
Let's be honest, that's the last thing you want to be stuck hearing about when you're single!
In a bizarre twist of fate, single girls looking for love end up going to traditionally male oriented things to avoid just being stuck in a room with other women and no men
End of the day, you're best off going to things like lower league football matches and professional gaming tournaments (seriously!) because you'll find they're full of single women

I'm done with dating sites, speed dating is fun and I've got a few dates out of it. Otherwise I think dancing classes might be the way to go. Meeting women through friends too. I cant state enough how much of an impact shiftwork has.

smash · 15-12-2014 11:22AM

lufties wrote: »

chatted to one girl who was all over me, I suggested going for a drink, she agreed..as we approached the bar, I got cockblocked by two lads who got her attention. She stayed with them thereafter.

Was it a swingers party?

lufties · 15-12-2014 11:23AM

BoJack Horseman wrote: »

The best way to attract women is to be more handsome.

Ive always been told im good looking but I aint tall so that seems to be a very important thing for women.

BoJack Horseman · 15-12-2014 11:24AM

lufties wrote: »

Ive always been told im good looking but I aint tall so that seems to be a very important thing for women.

Being tall in itself isn't the be-all.

Just being 'taller' is key.

Women don't like leaning down to kiss a guy.

the_monkey · 15-12-2014 11:29AM

wnolan1992 wrote: »

Stuck up bitches wanting to exercise in peace and not be bothered by some lecherous creep.

The audacity.

That's a bit harsh now !

While I agree maybe it's not the best place to try to meet women cos they are there for exercise or relaxing or whatever - to call him a lecherous creep ????

come on...

So I guess I'm was a lecherous creep too cos I met my wife in a bar and god forbid - approached her and spoke to her

the_monkey · 15-12-2014 11:30AM

lufties wrote: »

I'm done with dating sites, speed dating is fun and I've got a few dates out of it. Otherwise I think dancing classes might be the way to go. Meeting women through friends too. I cant state enough how much of an impact shiftwork has.

Or try a sports club - like tennis or squash ?

or a language class - thats a good place too.

smcgiff · 15-12-2014 11:42AM

lufties wrote: »

Nope, Ice queens who can barely crack a smile.

Ah, my ideal woman.

smash · 15-12-2014 11:46AM

BoJack Horseman wrote: »

Being tall in itself isn't the be-all.

Just being 'taller' is key.

Women don't like leaning down to kiss a guy.

Yea OP, go buy some heels...

One eyed Jack · 15-12-2014 11:55AM

lufties wrote: »

Anyone know where to go where there are less men than women?

I think I'm done with pubs, went to a singles night last night and it was awful ****e. I don't have much luck on tinder, or dating websites. It seems i'm **** out of luck.

I do yoga but the women are mostly stuck up or don't want to be chatted up.

might try dancing classes

Join a convent?

Nothing wrong with having a high opinion of yourself in isolation, but if you're hoping to attract someone, your opinion of yourself doesn't matter, it's their opinion of you that matters, and if you don't want to acknowledge that fact, well, it's hardly surprising you're striking out all over the shop.

Seems to me you don't really know what you want tbh.

Reoil · 15-12-2014 12:06PM

toastedpickles wrote: »

Or take a beauty therapy course

Again, he said attractive women...

TheBeardedLady · 15-12-2014 12:10PM

Gotta hand it to you, Lufties, your threads are nothing if not entertaining. Fair play.

The Corinthian · 15-12-2014 12:17PM

BoJack Horseman wrote: »

Women don't like leaning down to kiss a guy.

Depends on what they're kissing.

Seriously though, women make up just over 50% of the population. It's not like they can only be found in pubs, or dance classes. The reality is that a man will get the opportunity to meet a new woman a dozen or more times every day, it's just that he won't be bothered to take that opportunity because he's not in the safety zone of somewhere with alcohol. He doesn't even have to ask her out the moment he sees here; you can bump into someone you like several times over the course of a few weeks, build up a rapport and eventually ask them for a drink or (gods forbid) coffee.

This goes for women too, of course. The onus on men doing the 'hunting' basically went out the door the moment the contraceptive pill was invented, and a lot of women have copped onto this - but many others still haven't copped onto this and you'll see them starting similar threads to this.

Specialun · 15-12-2014 12:27PM

I must Admit It

I liked the OP

marcbrophy · 15-12-2014 12:32PM

Wow! OP asked a genuine question. Where can I go and hang out / do stuff where there would be more women than men?

I know AH isn't the best place to ask for advice, but seriously there was no need to attack him with baseless projected assumptions either.

smcgiff · 15-12-2014 12:37PM

marcbrophy wrote: »

I know AH isn't the best place to ask for advice, but seriously there was no need to attack him with baseless projected assumptions either.

Try reading his posts again.

RDM_83 again · 15-12-2014 12:45PM

marcbrophy wrote: »

Wow! OP asked a genuine question. Where can I go and hang out / do stuff where there would be more women than men?

I know AH isn't the best place to ask for advice, but seriously there was no need to attack him with baseless projected assumptions either.

I know he clearly shouldn't have asked it in a forum thats user base is mainly males.
OP I would recommend you try a mainly female userbase forum like the Ladies Lounge they will be delighted to give you any information you desire on how to improve your chances

woodchuck · 15-12-2014 12:57PM

RDM_83 again wrote: »

I know he clearly shouldn't have asked it in a forum thats user base is mainly males.
OP I would recommend you try a mainly female userbase forum like the Ladies Lounge they will be delighted to give you any information you desire on how to improve your chances

Eh no, we wouldn't. Particularly since that remark that he doesn't give a damn about women on boards!!

OP your original post wasn't even that bad, but all your subsequent posts absolutely reek of a bad attitude and negativity towards women.

You might think you're acting the appropriate way towards women, but from what you've written, that's all it is... acting. Most of us can see right through it.

I could recommend some places that have more women than men, but I wouldn't want to run into the likes of you there.

Vomit · 15-12-2014 01:04PM

You know, women in yoga classes may just be there to do yoga, believe it or not. Just because they don't want to be chatted up it doesn't mean they are stuck. If you're lonely and want to hook up quickly you need Tinder -> Date / live music.. and you must dance..simple as. Resign yourself to the fact that she might not be into you and enjoy the date, otherwise you'll give off the whiff of desperation. Women smell that easily and it turns them off.

smash · 15-12-2014 01:07PM

woodchuck wrote: »

Eh no, we wouldn't. Particularly since that remark that he doesn't give a damn about women on boards!!

I think he's playing hard to get. Like really, really hard to get.

RDM_83 again · 15-12-2014 01:08PM

woodchuck wrote: »

Eh no, we wouldn't.

I know I should have used

instead of

because obviously sarcasm is much better when you have to explain it

woodchuck wrote: »

Particularly since that remark that he doesn't give a damn about women on boards!!

But he's just saying that to put forward an image that he's a handsome rebel that plays by nobody else's rules but his own, and we all know women love a bad boy so they can tame him

kylith · 15-12-2014 01:15PM

lufties wrote: »

I couldn't give a damn about the women on boards.

And yet here you are asking our advice.

I was going to give you the benefit of the doubt and make some suggestions, but since you don't give a damn about what I think I'm going to add my +1 to the 'obvious why you can't meet a woman' side.

Honestly, with your 'I'm very attractive and intelligent' blather you come across as someone actually attractive - 10 years ago, and you've now realised that looks fade and you're not having much luck attracting partners with your winning personality now the crows feet are showing up, the hair is thinning, and the paunch is getting obvious.

Earthhorse · 15-12-2014 01:15PM

I love the fact that half the advice on here is telling him to join various clubs and activities and the other half condemning people who make moves on people in such environments as "creepy".

Also interesting to note that he described the women I his Yoga class as stuck up. Two posters then went on to use the phrase "stuck up bitches" whilst criticizing him. Projecting much today, are we AH?

kylith · 15-12-2014 01:19PM

Earthhorse wrote: »

I love the fact that half the advice on here is telling him to join various clubs and activities and the other half condemning people who make moves on people in such environments as "creepy".

Also interesting to note that he described the women I his Yoga class as stuck up. Two posters then went on to use the phrase "stuck up bitches" whilst criticizing him. Projecting much today, are we AH?

Because joining a class just to meet women is kind of creepy. Women generally go to art/cooking classes to learn to paint or cook and are not expecting PUAs to be using it as a stalking ground.

OTOH joining an art/cooking class as a male because it's something you want to learn about, and happening to meet a lady with whom you click is no problem at all. Generally it's easy enough to spot the difference.

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