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  • 14-10-2014 8:03pm
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    Registered Users Posts: 22 kilkenny46


    I am going to move in with my bfriend soon to his farmhouse,his parents live in another section of the house.I am a secondary school teacher and i have been told by a few people in the same situation that their boyfriends parents wanted a donation of €40,000 beforw this happened,is this the norm?Im not from a farm so i dont know thanks in advance for your advice


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  • Registered Users Posts: 1,217 ✭✭✭moonshadow


    Tell your boyfriend to move in with you !!


  • Registered Users Posts: 28,863 ✭✭✭✭whelan2


    kilkenny46 wrote: »
    I am going to move in with my bfriend soon to his farmhouse,his parents live in another section of the house.I am a secondary school teacher and i have been told by a few people in the same situation that their boyfriends parents wanted a donation of €40,000 beforw this happened,is this the norm?Im not from a farm so i dont know thanks in advance for your advice
    what is the 40k for?


  • Registered Users Posts: 936 ✭✭✭st1979


    run


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,090 ✭✭✭AP2014


    kilkenny46 wrote: »
    I am going to move in with my bfriend soon to his farmhouse,his parents live in another section of the house.I am a secondary school teacher and i have been told by a few people in the same situation that their boyfriends parents wanted a donation of €40,000 beforw this happened,is this the norm?Im not from a farm so i dont know thanks in advance for your advice

    [mod] That's a completely distasteful comment and absolutely no credit to you. [/mod]


  • Posts: 5,121 Kailani Raspy Bargain


    Told by a few people but not your boyfriend or his family?

    I've never heard of it.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 12,313 ✭✭✭✭Sam Kade


    I've never heard of this 40k before, what happens if you split up with him after a while do you wave goodbye to your 40k :eek: Wouldn't it be a great way to boost farm income keep bringing in different women charge them 40k get rid and shout next :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,237 ✭✭✭Username John


    kilkenny46 wrote: »
    I am going to move in with my bfriend soon to his farmhouse,his parents live in another section of the house.I am a secondary school teacher and i have been told by a few people in the same situation that their boyfriends parents wanted a donation of €40,000 beforw this happened,is this the norm?Im not from a farm so i dont know thanks in advance for your advice

    What?

    If this 'donation' ever comes up in conversation, tell your boyfriend to sort it out and if he can't, then leave...


  • Registered Users Posts: 599 ✭✭✭curioser


    kilkenny46 wrote: »
    I am going to move in with my bfriend soon to his farmhouse,his parents live in another section of the house.I am a secondary school teacher and i have been told by a few people in the same situation that their boyfriends parents wanted a donation of €40,000 beforw this happened,is this the norm?Im not from a farm so i dont know thanks in advance for your advice
    It's all to do with "the land". You need to show that you are a person of substance and that any offspring will have good bloodlines. Secondary school teacher sounds OK. Complications arise if, for instance, the heir to a farm falls for a girl from "the terrace" in the town.


  • Registered Users Posts: 22 kilkenny46


    curioser wrote: »
    It's all to do with "the land". You need to show that you are a person of substance and that any offspring will have good bloodlines. Secondary school teacher sounds OK. Complications arise if, for instance, the heir to a farm falls for a girl from "the terrace" in the town.


    Im from a nice housing estate near the town,i have my own wages definitely dnt need any land!!!!John yep thats a selection of true stories ive heard


  • Registered Users Posts: 22 kilkenny46


    Epfff you did right i didnt think that went on looking for money


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  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 8,963 Mod ✭✭✭✭greysides


    kilkenny46 wrote: »
    Epfff you did right i didnt think that went on looking for money

    I've never heard of that 'custom' in over two decades of working in the countryside in several parts of the country.

    The aim of argument, or of discussion, should not be victory, but progress. Joseph Joubert

    The ultimate purpose of debate is not to produce consensus. It's to promote critical thinking.

    Adam Grant



  • Registered Users Posts: 11,182 ✭✭✭✭Nekarsulm


    Wind up.
    Pure and simple.

    (If not a wind up, run like hell.)


  • Registered Users Posts: 283 ✭✭smokey-fitz


    kilkenny46 wrote: »
    Epfff you did right i didnt think that went on looking for money

    Em I think, maybe just maybe your friend is taking the p**s


  • Registered Users Posts: 599 ✭✭✭curioser


    kilkenny46 wrote: »
    Im from a nice housing estate near the town,i have my own wages definitely dnt need any land!!!!John yep thats a selection of true stories ive heard
    You miss my point, but the best of luck anyway.


  • Registered Users Posts: 22 kilkenny46


    Em I think, maybe just maybe your friend is taking the p**s

    Im only quoting what she told me thats what a few people had to do that she knew


  • Registered Users Posts: 22 kilkenny46


    curioser wrote: »
    You miss my point, but the best of luck anyway.

    What part am i missing curioser??were you taking the piss


  • Registered Users Posts: 11,182 ✭✭✭✭Nekarsulm


    If you are serious, and his parents are seriously looking 40k (how do you get on with them, by the way?) then either your boyfriend needs a slap upside the head, or you need to find somebody else.
    ( you haven't been leaving Nursing Home brochures lying around, have you?)


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,379 ✭✭✭epfff


    kilkenny46 wrote: »
    What part am i missing curioser??were you taking the piss
    My great granny supposedly paid £300 to get into our family 100 plus yrs ago
    It was the tradition at tje time
    Bigger the farm the more the father of the bride had to pay to secure her future their/get her into wealth


  • Registered Users Posts: 4,840 ✭✭✭mf240


    Run . Run away quite fast.


  • Registered Users Posts: 283 ✭✭smokey-fitz


    kilkenny46 wrote: »
    Im only quoting what she told me thats what a few people had to do that she knew

    I know, I was just been a smart arse so no offence..

    I and alot of others never heard anything of the sort, so thats why I'd think she was having a laugh. Also I'm sure your boyfriend would of mentioned this before, so I think you have nothing to worry about :)


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  • Registered Users Posts: 1,527 ✭✭✭on the river


    Dowry all the go years ago.
    However if you take good care of your partner and help out farming wise I'm sure that will be enough


  • Registered Users Posts: 599 ✭✭✭curioser


    kilkenny46 wrote: »
    What part am i missing curioser??were you taking the piss
    No urine extraction intended. The point is, if the requirement to pony up is genuine, the purpose is to establish your substance.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,433 ✭✭✭darragh_haven


    Dowry all the go years ago.
    However if you take good care of your partner and help out farming wise I'm sure that will be enough

    You don't have to life one finger on the farm if you don't want to.


  • Registered Users Posts: 22 kilkenny46


    You don't have to life one finger on the farm if you don't want to.

    I farm with him anytime im there and for calfing etc im up in the night and school during the day


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,412 ✭✭✭J.O. Farmer


    curioser wrote: »
    No urine extraction intended. The point is, if the requirement to pony up is genuine, the purpose is to establish your substance.

    If a dowry is needed to establish substance then perhaps they shouldn't be moving in together.
    Things may or may not work out long term but presumably if they're moving in together they should know each other pretty well and therefore know about substance or otherwise.


  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 8,963 Mod ✭✭✭✭greysides


    [mod]I think we've had the entire gambit of possible jokes. The question seems genuine so let's keep the answers helpful please.[/mod]

    The aim of argument, or of discussion, should not be victory, but progress. Joseph Joubert

    The ultimate purpose of debate is not to produce consensus. It's to promote critical thinking.

    Adam Grant



  • Registered Users Posts: 11,182 ✭✭✭✭Nekarsulm


    Howdoes somebody with 16 posts only have 7 show up?


  • Registered Users Posts: 22 kilkenny46


    Nekarsulm wrote: »
    Howdoes somebody with 16 posts only have 7 show up?

    I had this in personal but the mod told me to move it over here lads its an honest question im serious about asking the questions


  • Registered Users Posts: 395 ✭✭Carazy


    kilkenny46 wrote: »
    I had this in personal but the mod told me to move it over here lads its an honest question im serious about asking the questions
    Answer; Its not the norm.

    /thread


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  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 8,963 Mod ✭✭✭✭greysides


    Nekarsulm wrote: »
    Howdoes somebody with 16 posts only have 7 show up?

    The number of posts is correct, I presume posts in certain other forums don't appear in searches.

    The aim of argument, or of discussion, should not be victory, but progress. Joseph Joubert

    The ultimate purpose of debate is not to produce consensus. It's to promote critical thinking.

    Adam Grant



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