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I am so angry

  • 15-09-2014 10:26PM
    #1
    auldgranny
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 909 ✭✭✭


    Like i said i am so angry. Full of rage, resentment, sadness, guilt, fear....every negative emotion under the sun. I had a disabled son who died young. I had a daughter killed in an accident. My sister had a daughter die of cancer and a son commit suicide. Now we find out our nephew also has cancer. We are distraught.It is after hours so I guess the answers will be of every kind but I didn't know where to post.


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  • #2
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 26,219 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    auldgranny wrote: »
    Like i said i am so angry. Full of rage, resentment, sadness, guilt, fear....every negative emotion under the sun. I had a disabled son who died young. I had a daughter killed in an accident. My sister had a daughter die of cancer and a son commit suicide. Now we find out our nephew also has cancer. We are distraught.It is after hours so I guess the answers will be of every kind but I didn't know where to post.

    I'm so, so, sorry. That is an unbearably unfair series of events to hit your family and my heart breaks for you.

    Be strong, stick together. You're not alone.


  • #3
    KERSPLAT!
    Closed Accounts Posts: 31,152 ✭✭✭✭KERSPLAT!


    http://touch.boards.ie/forum/127

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=127

    Personal Issues would be better suited OP


  • #4
    Frosty McSnowballs
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,396 ✭✭✭Frosty McSnowballs


    Sorry to hear all of that. It certainly can't be easy, that's a lot for a family to deal with over the years.

    Hope you get some peace of mind from somewhere soon.


  • #5
    eviltwin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    Hope this post is treated with the respect it deserves. I don't blame you being angry, you've had your share of crap and then some. Stay strong x


  • #6
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 13,839 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Candie wrote: »
    I'm so, so, sorry. That is an unbearably unfair series of events to hit your family and my heart breaks for you.

    Be strong, stick together. You're not alone.

    I don't know what to say except repost what Candie said.


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  • #7
    monkeysnapper
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,563 ✭✭✭monkeysnapper


    I think this should be posted somewhere els , there's a few places, this isn't one of them , personal issues maybe


  • #8
    Soups123
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,098 ✭✭✭Soups123


    I've a friend who has lost 2 sons, a daughter and his wife, he is the strongest man I know. Friends are so important talking helps the anger but I only say that as someone who doesn't live in his shoes.


  • #9
    flutered
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 6,765 ✭✭✭flutered


    try and stay strong man


  • #10
    Shakespeare's Sister
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,412 ✭✭✭Shakespeare's Sister


    auldgranny wrote: »
    Like i said i am so angry. Full of rage, resentment, sadness, guilt, fear....every negative emotion under the sun. I had a disabled son who died young. I had a daughter killed in an accident. My sister had a daughter die of cancer and a son commit suicide. Now we find out our nephew also has cancer. We are distraught.It is after hours so I guess the answers will be of every kind but I didn't know where to post.
    That's just... no words. Some people/families do not seem to get a break. I really really hope you do some day...
    Karma and stuff - good things happen to good people or whatever? Nah...

    Truly sorry to read it. Massive best wishes to your nephew and family. The treatments are improving all the time.


  • #11
    P_1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,681 ✭✭✭✭P_1


    Honestly have no idea what so say OP. I'd say that I was sorry for you but that would be patronising twaddle.

    Get the anger out though, it's not good to have that festering inside you. Shout/break something that you don't mind breaking/go for a run or do something that will give you a positive release of energy I guess.


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  • #12
    The Peanut
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,169 ✭✭✭The Peanut


    That's truly awful OP. Unfortunately, sadness and tragedy are not distributed evenly; some families just seem to be dealt much harder cards.

    In time, try and draw on your own past to provide whatever support you can to your relatives. They will need it and you have the unfortunate experience of understanding what they re going through.

    Best wishes.


  • #13
    Tigger
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,701 ✭✭✭✭Tigger


    auldgranny wrote: »
    Like i said i am so angry. Full of rage, resentment, sadness, guilt, fear....every negative emotion under the sun. I had a disabled son who died young. I had a daughter killed in an accident. My sister had a daughter die of cancer and a son commit suicide. Now we find out our nephew also has cancer. We are distraught.It is after hours so I guess the answers will be of every kind but I didn't know where to post.


    fine place to post, life is hard and we all know it, i hope you can dig deep and get through this


  • #14
    KKkitty
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,537 ✭✭✭KKkitty


    Auldgranny I really don't know what to say. You and your family have been through a lot more than ye should. Get in touch with support groups and don't be afraid to talk about everything you've gone through. Wishing you and your family all the very best.


  • #15
    AndonHandon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,382 ✭✭✭AndonHandon


    Because Boards.ie is anonymous it is difficult to empathise. I'm not saying it's impossible, just difficult.

    I can appreciate how tragic a set of circumstances as those posted in the OP would be but there is not really any context, particularly in AH.


  • #16
    Shakespeare's Sister
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,412 ✭✭✭Shakespeare's Sister


    AndonHandon wrote: »
    Because Boards.ie is anonymous it is difficult to empathise. I'm not saying it's impossible, just difficult.

    I can appreciate how tragic a set of circumstances as those posted in the OP would be but there is not really any context, particularly in AH.
    What more context do you need?


  • #17
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 13,839 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Perhaps we should all just ignore the tw@ttish posts. Pretend we never read them. Nothing worse than being ignored.

    Sending you all my best wishes OP. If you ever need to rant and rave, don't think twice about sending me a PM x


  • #18
    The Purveyor of Truth
    Closed Accounts Posts: 397 ✭✭The Purveyor of Truth


    auldgranny wrote: »
    I'm so angry.

    So you should be. With good reason.

    Hopefully not so much though, that it means you don't get some joy from life .


  • #19
    tayto lover
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 57,077 ✭✭✭✭tayto lover


    There's not much anyone can say OP except to wish you well and keep you in our thoughts.Hope things improve in your life.


  • #20
    AndonHandon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,382 ✭✭✭AndonHandon


    Shakespeare's Sister wrote: »
    What more context do you need?

    The OP could simply be a bot essentially based on the fact that usernames do not have to have any correlation to the person who posts under the guise of whatever username.


  • #21
    allthedoyles
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,891 ✭✭✭allthedoyles


    Sometimes it hard to see light at the end of the tunnel , and that has been a really long tunnel you are in.

    But there is plenty light ahead , and keep the best side out .........


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  • #22
    eviltwin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    fussyonion wrote: »
    First time I've ever seen a mod make such a heartless comment. It's dispicable. I've seen people banned for less. Doubt F1ngers will get any slap on the wrist for that one.

    OP, I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what you must be feeling; all I can say is stay strong.

    People capable of that kind of insensitivity shouldn't be mods, aren't they expected to set an example to the rest of us.


  • #23
    auldgranny
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 909 ✭✭✭auldgranny


    Thank all of you for your kind words. I am upset. My family is upset. But my poor mother, my poor mother who has tried so hard to take all of this.


  • #24
    Gmol
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,281 ✭✭✭Gmol


    Really sorry to hear that OP, you have had it harder than most people could bear. Stay strong.


  • #25
    Shakespeare's Sister
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,412 ✭✭✭Shakespeare's Sister


    AndonHandon wrote: »
    The OP could simply be a bot essentially based on the fact that usernames do not have to have any correlation to the person who posts under the guise of whatever username.
    I guess you don't have to post though, particularly that you're suspicious of them when they could be genuine.


  • #26
    Quazzie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 30,773 ✭✭✭✭Quazzie


    I read the title and came into this post expecting some idiot to be complaining because their local shop stopped selling their favourite bread or some other meaningless everyday event.

    Reading the OP though, and there is a definite cause to be angry. Life can be cruel sometimes, and for many it seems harder to continue than to just give up, but remember OP that even when you are at your weakest, you can still be a source of strength for those around you. You may feel you need to lean on someone, but by leaning on them, you can help hold them up, and get through it together.

    You'll be in my thoughts OP and I wish I could do more to help.


  • #27
    Oink
    Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 2,163 Mod ✭✭✭✭Oink


    I am very sorry for your loss OP.

    I have heard that you can only learn to live with this kind of pain. You will need every little bit of help you can get, so I suggest that you talk to the Samaritans or any professionals who will know how to guide you.

    All the best.


  • #28
    Tim the Enchanter
    Closed Accounts Posts: 309 ✭✭Tim the Enchanter


    Hey, look. You had the pleasure of knowing the people your family has lost. I know it's little consolation. And the hurt will always be there, and believe me I know it's hard, remember them, celebrate what they brought to all of you and your families life. The anger won't rid the reality of life and it will cause you avoidable pain.


  • #29
    monkeysnapper
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,563 ✭✭✭monkeysnapper


    My father in law is going through a real bad time at moment, they don't think he will be here this time next year then I find out my mum has breast cancer a few days ago, we find out the full truth tomorrow after her full scan results . My heart goes out to you op .

    Stay strong , talk to people , counciling , there's always somebody to talk to , personal issues even on here is really helpful .


  • #30
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 13,839 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Treatments improve everyday OP. Both of my parents got cancer in their early sixties. My mum breast cancer, my dad cancer of the throat. Now reaching their middle seventies and as active as ever.

    Keep positive OP x


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  • #31
    KKkitty
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,537 ✭✭✭KKkitty


    AndonHandon wrote: »
    The OP could simply be a bot essentially based on the fact that usernames do not have to have any correlation to the person who posts under the guise of whatever username.

    So a person on an internet discussion board posts about something that is harrowing to them and they're a bot? I'd rather be empathetic than just pathetic for the clear reason that you seem to have cynicism in abundance.


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