I am so angry

auldgranny

Like i said i am so angry. Full of rage, resentment, sadness, guilt, fear....every negative emotion under the sun. I had a disabled son who died young. I had a daughter killed in an accident. My sister had a daughter die of cancer and a son commit suicide. Now we find out our nephew also has cancer. We are distraught.It is after hours so I guess the answers will be of every kind but I didn't know where to post.

auldgranny

auldgranny wrote: »

Like i said i am so angry. Full of rage, resentment, sadness, guilt, fear....every negative emotion under the sun. I had a disabled son who died young. I had a daughter killed in an accident. My sister had a daughter die of cancer and a son commit suicide. Now we find out our nephew also has cancer. We are distraught.It is after hours so I guess the answers will be of every kind but I didn't know where to post.

I'm so, so, sorry. That is an unbearably unfair series of events to hit your family and my heart breaks for you.

Be strong, stick together. You're not alone.

KERSPLAT!

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Personal Issues would be better suited OP

Frosty McSnowballs

Sorry to hear all of that. It certainly can't be easy, that's a lot for a family to deal with over the years.

Hope you get some peace of mind from somewhere soon.

eviltwin

Hope this post is treated with the respect it deserves. I don't blame you being angry, you've had your share of crap and then some. Stay strong x

Candie

Candie wrote: »

I'm so, so, sorry. That is an unbearably unfair series of events to hit your family and my heart breaks for you.

Be strong, stick together. You're not alone.

I don't know what to say except repost what Candie said.

monkeysnapper

I think this should be posted somewhere els , there's a few places, this isn't one of them , personal issues maybe

Soups123

I've a friend who has lost 2 sons, a daughter and his wife, he is the strongest man I know. Friends are so important talking helps the anger but I only say that as someone who doesn't live in his shoes.

flutered

try and stay strong man

Shakespeare's Sister

auldgranny wrote: »

Like i said i am so angry. Full of rage, resentment, sadness, guilt, fear....every negative emotion under the sun. I had a disabled son who died young. I had a daughter killed in an accident. My sister had a daughter die of cancer and a son commit suicide. Now we find out our nephew also has cancer. We are distraught.It is after hours so I guess the answers will be of every kind but I didn't know where to post.

That's just... no words. Some people/families do not seem to get a break. I really really hope you do some day...
Karma and stuff - good things happen to good people or whatever? Nah...

Truly sorry to read it. Massive best wishes to your nephew and family. The treatments are improving all the time.

P_1

Honestly have no idea what so say OP. I'd say that I was sorry for you but that would be patronising twaddle.

Get the anger out though, it's not good to have that festering inside you. Shout/break something that you don't mind breaking/go for a run or do something that will give you a positive release of energy I guess.

The Peanut

That's truly awful OP. Unfortunately, sadness and tragedy are not distributed evenly; some families just seem to be dealt much harder cards.

In time, try and draw on your own past to provide whatever support you can to your relatives. They will need it and you have the unfortunate experience of understanding what they re going through.

Best wishes.

Tigger

auldgranny wrote: »

Like i said i am so angry. Full of rage, resentment, sadness, guilt, fear....every negative emotion under the sun. I had a disabled son who died young. I had a daughter killed in an accident. My sister had a daughter die of cancer and a son commit suicide. Now we find out our nephew also has cancer. We are distraught.It is after hours so I guess the answers will be of every kind but I didn't know where to post.

fine place to post, life is hard and we all know it, i hope you can dig deep and get through this

KKkitty

Auldgranny I really don't know what to say. You and your family have been through a lot more than ye should. Get in touch with support groups and don't be afraid to talk about everything you've gone through. Wishing you and your family all the very best.

AndonHandon

Because Boards.ie is anonymous it is difficult to empathise. I'm not saying it's impossible, just difficult.

I can appreciate how tragic a set of circumstances as those posted in the OP would be but there is not really any context, particularly in AH.

Shakespeare's Sister

AndonHandon wrote: »

Because Boards.ie is anonymous it is difficult to empathise. I'm not saying it's impossible, just difficult.

I can appreciate how tragic a set of circumstances as those posted in the OP would be but there is not really any context, particularly in AH.

What more context do you need?

Perhaps we should all just ignore the tw@ttish posts. Pretend we never read them. Nothing worse than being ignored.

Sending you all my best wishes OP. If you ever need to rant and rave, don't think twice about sending me a PM x

The Purveyor of Truth

auldgranny wrote: »

I'm so angry.

So you should be. With good reason.

Hopefully not so much though, that it means you don't get some joy from life .

tayto lover

There's not much anyone can say OP except to wish you well and keep you in our thoughts.Hope things improve in your life.

AndonHandon

Shakespeare's Sister wrote: »

What more context do you need?

The OP could simply be a bot essentially based on the fact that usernames do not have to have any correlation to the person who posts under the guise of whatever username.

allthedoyles

Sometimes it hard to see light at the end of the tunnel , and that has been a really long tunnel you are in.

But there is plenty light ahead , and keep the best side out .........

eviltwin

fussyonion wrote: »

First time I've ever seen a mod make such a heartless comment. It's dispicable. I've seen people banned for less. Doubt F1ngers will get any slap on the wrist for that one.

OP, I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what you must be feeling; all I can say is stay strong.

People capable of that kind of insensitivity shouldn't be mods, aren't they expected to set an example to the rest of us.

auldgranny

Thank all of you for your kind words. I am upset. My family is upset. But my poor mother, my poor mother who has tried so hard to take all of this.

Gmol

Really sorry to hear that OP, you have had it harder than most people could bear. Stay strong.

Shakespeare's Sister

AndonHandon wrote: »

The OP could simply be a bot essentially based on the fact that usernames do not have to have any correlation to the person who posts under the guise of whatever username.

I guess you don't have to post though, particularly that you're suspicious of them when they could be genuine.

Quazzie

I read the title and came into this post expecting some idiot to be complaining because their local shop stopped selling their favourite bread or some other meaningless everyday event.

Reading the OP though, and there is a definite cause to be angry. Life can be cruel sometimes, and for many it seems harder to continue than to just give up, but remember OP that even when you are at your weakest, you can still be a source of strength for those around you. You may feel you need to lean on someone, but by leaning on them, you can help hold them up, and get through it together.

You'll be in my thoughts OP and I wish I could do more to help.

Oink

I am very sorry for your loss OP.

I have heard that you can only learn to live with this kind of pain. You will need every little bit of help you can get, so I suggest that you talk to the Samaritans or any professionals who will know how to guide you.

All the best.

Tim the Enchanter

Hey, look. You had the pleasure of knowing the people your family has lost. I know it's little consolation. And the hurt will always be there, and believe me I know it's hard, remember them, celebrate what they brought to all of you and your families life. The anger won't rid the reality of life and it will cause you avoidable pain.

monkeysnapper

My father in law is going through a real bad time at moment, they don't think he will be here this time next year then I find out my mum has breast cancer a few days ago, we find out the full truth tomorrow after her full scan results . My heart goes out to you op .

Stay strong , talk to people , counciling , there's always somebody to talk to , personal issues even on here is really helpful .

Treatments improve everyday OP. Both of my parents got cancer in their early sixties. My mum breast cancer, my dad cancer of the throat. Now reaching their middle seventies and as active as ever.

Keep positive OP x

KKkitty

AndonHandon wrote: »

The OP could simply be a bot essentially based on the fact that usernames do not have to have any correlation to the person who posts under the guise of whatever username.

So a person on an internet discussion board posts about something that is harrowing to them and they're a bot? I'd rather be empathetic than just pathetic for the clear reason that you seem to have cynicism in abundance.

a fat guy

It is one of lifes greatest tragedies for a parent to outlive their child.

Your losses in life have been heavily stacked against you when compared to most people, but please do not let this destroy you.

No matter your religion, or lack of it, you will one day go where they have gone.

Wibbs

eviltwin wrote: »

People capable of that kind of insensitivity shouldn't be mods, aren't they expected to set an example to the rest of us.

I thought it was a twatty post too, but we all have our bad moments(oh god do I), but the chap apologised and made amends. No need to start a witch hunt over it ET.

THIS is the important bit of the thread;

auldgranny wrote: »

Thank all of you for your kind words. I am upset. My family is upset. But my poor mother, my poor mother who has tried so hard to take all of this.

Christ talk about being dealt a bad hand AG. All I can say is it will get easier. Try and concentrate on the good in you and your family's lives and it is there. People getting loved up, people having children, goin on holiiers, having some fun and contentment. If you try and focus on that it will make the crap easier to take. Difficult I know lass, but it can be done.

It's hard to be optimistic if you have a family history like yours OP, but your nephew isn't destined to die too. Depending on his cancer his outlook could be very good and this could be a tough time, but not necessarily a tragedy, for the family.

Stay hopeful, hang in there and let the life experience and empathy that your terrible losses have given you, be a tool to help yourself and your family through this new challenge. But keep the hope alive in your heart, you need it and you deserve it.

AndonHandon

Shakespeare's Sister wrote: »

I guess you don't have to post though, particularly that you're suspicious of them when they could be genuine.

There are different rules than in P.I. where unhelpful posts are rightly not permitted.

This thread is simply to vent, there is no real anything to discuss, therefore I am fully entitled to make a general point about the type of post that the OP is; anonymous and unverified which means that a lack of a knee jerk sympathetic reaction is not absurd. I am fully entitled to point that out here.

Let me be clear for you before your little one liner response again; I am saying nothing personal against the OP.

delw

Easy for me to say OP but try stay strong especially for your mother,life can be so cruel & some people just never know how good & lucky they have it

December2012

I bet anybody who has been through all of that would be angry too.

Even the most outwardly appearing calm person must seethe with anger at times.

That's so much to bear.

Anger gets a bad rap sometimes, it's a normal and healthy emotion. I hope you can control it, if you start to feel like it's controlling you, you could go have a chat with a GP or a Mental health professional. Or even get a boxing punchbag or trampoline or something to use up some negative angry energy.

Take care of yourself

AndonHandon

KKkitty wrote: »

So a person on an internet discussion board posts about something that is harrowing to them and they're a bot? I'd rather be empathetic than just pathetic for the clear reason that you seem to have cynicism in abundance.

Well excuse me for not taking everything at face value, particularly given the context within which this OP was placed.

Shiraz 4.99

Do you remember their faces, the way they talked, their mannerisms, do you think about them often ? . . . then they're not really gone are they ?

AndonHandon

AndonHandon wrote: »

There are different rules than in P.I. where unhelpful posts are rightly not permitted.

This thread is simply to vent, there is no real anything to discuss, therefore I am fully entitled to make a general point about the type of post that the OP is; anonymous and unverified which means that a lack of a knee jerk sympathetic reaction is not absurd. I am fully entitled to point that out here.

Let me be clear for you before your little one liner response again; I am saying anything personal against the OP.

Mod

Don't post in this thread again.

Others, please don't respond to this poster again.

auldgranny

My mother has already lost 4 gramdchildren. The first one was my son. The number of people who said we had an angel in heaven who would look after the rest of us. Sweet jesus.

Soups123

monkeysnapper wrote: »

My father in law is going through a real bad time at moment, they don't think he will be here this time next year then I find out my mum has breast cancer a few days ago, we find out the full truth tomorrow after her full scan results . My heart goes out to you op .

Stay strong , talk to people , counciling , there's always somebody to talk to , personal issues even on here is really helpful .

I hope thinks go as well as they can tomorrow

monkeysnapper

monkeysnapper wrote: »

My father in law is going through a real bad time at moment, they don't think he will be here this time next year then I find out my mum has breast cancer a few days ago, we find out the full truth tomorrow after her full scan results . My heart goes out to you op .

Stay strong , talk to people , counciling , there's always somebody to talk to , personal issues even on here is really helpful .

Sending my best wishes to you too, Monkey x

monkeysnapper

Soups123 wrote: »

I hope thinks go as well as they can tomorrow

Thank you :0)

auldgranny

auldgranny wrote: »

My mother has already lost 4 gramdchildren. The first one was my son. The number of people who said we had an angel in heaven who would look after the rest of us. Sweet jesus.

You have each other auldgranny, and your nephew hasn't gone anywhere and he may not be going anywhere for a very long time. Do you know anything about his prognosis?

I know you can't be anything other than fatalistic after your experiences, but it's not a given that this will end in his loss too. Try hang on to that.

You're a very strong person to come through what you have already, and I'm genuinely sorry for all you've suffered.

monkeysnapper

monkeysnapper wrote: »

Thank you :0)

And from me too monkeysnapper. Hang on in there, and I wish you the best.

dgt

That's a horrible run of events that I'm sure no amount of words can describe what you are going through

Chin up and stay strong. I really hope things pick up for you OP

eviltwin

Wibbs wrote: »

I thought it was a twatty post too, but we all have our bad moments(oh god do I), but the chap apologised and made amends. No need to start a witch hunt over it ET.

THIS is the important bit of the thread;
Christ talk about being dealt a bad hand AG. All I can say is it will get easier. Try and concentrate on the good in you and your family's lives and it is there. People getting loved up, people having children, goin on holiiers, having some fun and contentment. If you try and focus on that it will make the crap easier to take. Difficult I know lass, but it can be done.

That's fair enough Wibbs but when someone in distress gets a comment like that a deletion and sorry doesn't undo the hurt.

Merkin

I think your anger and hurt is entirely justified, I don't think a parent should ever ever outlive their own child, let alone have two children die so young. You poor thing. When did you lose your son and daughter OP?

P_1

Also OP cancer isn't quite the death sentence it once was. Hopefully your nephew has discovered it in time. Yes it is petrifying initially but the sooner you've caught it the better.

Spoken as a proud owner of the scar and tshirt.

auldgranny

P_1 wrote: »

Also OP cancer isn't quite the death sentence it once was. Hopefully your nephew has discovered it in time. Yes it is petrifying initially but the sooner you've caught it the better.

Spoken as a proud owner of the scar and tshirt.

Thank you that gives me hope