Do you like your partner to be a little jealous?Are you Jealous

Bafucin · 14-09-2014 03:03PM #1

I don't like it if I am more jealous than my partner.

I like to feel she would be a little jealous.

I know women say they don't like it when the BF is the jealous sort. But I think some people do.

It kinda annoys me a little if she isn't. A little jealousy makes me feel wanted to some extent it's a sign of how much you care.

Mr. Incognito · 14-09-2014 03:04PM

Jealousy = Insecurity

I dont like to be on either end of that

lukesmom · 14-09-2014 03:05PM

Yes I would get jealous but husband doesn't have a jealous bone in his body. I'd like if he was a little bit jealous.

Bafucin · 14-09-2014 03:06PM

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

Jealousy = Insecurity

I dont like to be on either end of that

I feel sometimes it's an indication of passion. I am not talking mad crazy jealousy. But if your partner was totally indifferent to being a little jealous I would worry.

Bafucin · 14-09-2014 03:06PM

lukesmom wrote: »

Yes I would get jealous but husband doesn't have a jealous bone in his body. I'd like if he was a little bit jealous.

I think a lot of men and women are the same. I am stressing the 'Little bit' here.

Sauve · 14-09-2014 03:06PM

Christ no. Jealousy is a terrible thing and eats into people and relationships. Leads to no good whatsoever.

LETHAL LADY · 14-09-2014 03:08PM

Freddie describes it perfectly. I'm not the jealous type, sure why bother your hole with that kind of thinking.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vk9g9HIbZdc

14-09-2014 03:10PM

All sounds like games to me. Why anyone wants to partake in these relationship games is beyond me.

Bafucin · 14-09-2014 03:10PM

Sauve wrote: »

Christ no. Jealousy is a terrible thing and eats into people and relationships. Leads to no good whatsoever.

You never get jealous ? Or do you say that because you have experienced it?

I have gone down THAT road I'll admit and been that person. But I think if there is no jealousy it means a lack of passion....if I had a girlfriend was not not a bit jealous ....that would make me more jealous...weirdly...

B.A._Baracus · 14-09-2014 03:12PM

Nothing wrong with a bit of jealously. We are all human and no one is perfect. Of course there is a "line" between an acceptable amount and too much.

Fat Christy · 14-09-2014 03:13PM

I'm not jealous, either is my partner. I don't like jealousy at all.

Bafucin · 14-09-2014 03:15PM

Deleted User wrote: »

All sounds like games to me. Why anyone wants to partake in these relationship games is beyond me.

I don't believe anyone who says they are not a little jealous and to me claiming that would be a type of game.

If we were not a little jealous we would all be in open relationships all the time.

Monogamy presupposes a little jealousy.

Sauve · 14-09-2014 03:15PM

Bafucin wrote: »

You never get jealous ? Or do you say that because you have experienced it?
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Ah of course I've been jealous in various circumstances, but it always raised a red flag for me.
If you have something to be jealous of, then the person you're with has probably acted inappropriately to some degree.
If a girl flirted with a guy I'm with and he didn't react, then I wouldn't bat an eyelid. However, if he did react and I started to feel jealous, then there's something very wrong somewhere.

Bafucin · 14-09-2014 03:16PM

Fat Christy wrote: »

I'm not jealous, either is my partner. I don't like jealousy at all.

I am not being disrespectful and I believe what you say. But can I ask why if you are not a little jealous are you both monogamous? (I am assuming you are).

Fat Christy · 14-09-2014 03:17PM

Bafucin wrote: »

I don't believe anyone who says they are not a little jealous and to me claiming that would be a type of game.

If we were not a little jealous we would all be in open relationships all the time.
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I'm not jealous because I know my bf is faithful and I have no need to be jealous.
He's the same with me.

Had a jealous bf in the past and never again! He used to have a fanny fit whenever I went out and told me all my male friends wanted to ride me. I can't be dealing with that.

Fat Christy · 14-09-2014 03:18PM

Bafucin wrote: »

I am not being disrespectful and I believe what you say. But can I ask why if you are not a little jealous are you both monogamous? (I am assuming you are).

We are. If I wanted to get with someone else, I'd just break up with him. Simple as.

Bafucin · 14-09-2014 03:19PM

Sauve wrote: »

If you have something to be jealous of, then the person you're with has probably acted inappropriately to some degree.
If a girl flirted with a guy I'm with and he didn't react, then I wouldn't bat an eyelid. However, if he did react and I started to feel jealous, then there's something very wrong somewhere.

To me though that's like pushing it onto the other person.

So you get jealous if he flirts with others. Which is fine and very normal i would say. But that wouldn't bother someone else maybe it might be something else for them.

14-09-2014 03:19PM

I had an ex who would have preferred me to wear a burqa and to have him screen my mails and calls. I remember being on the beach with him and he couldn't relax for glaring at anyone walking by in case they looked in our direction.

He told everyone that he hadn't a jealous bone in his body. Even when they say they're not jealous and if they're smart enough to not say anything directly to you, it ruins things. First thing he said when I ended it was "I knew there was something going on".

dark crystal · 14-09-2014 03:20PM

Of course I've felt jealous before - it's a human trait we are all capable of in one form or another.

I salute anyone who says they wouldn't be even slightly bothered if another person was showing a sexual interest in their partner. It would bother me!

Bafucin · 14-09-2014 03:20PM

Fat Christy wrote: »

We are. If I wanted to get with someone else, I'd just break up with him. Simple as.

Would it bother you if he wanted to sleep other women with no emotional attachments?

Bafucin · 14-09-2014 03:21PM

dark crystal wrote: »

Of course I've felt jealous before - it's a human trait we are all capable of in one form or another.

I salute anyone who says they wouldn't be even slightly bothered if another person was showing a sexual interest in their partner. It would bother me!

Exactly! I am not saying hey react in the extreme to it. But a little reaction I think means something. I think I would be slighted if there was no reaction.

14-09-2014 03:23PM

Bafucin wrote: »

Exactly! I am not saying hey react in the extreme to it. But a little reaction I think means something. I think I would be slighted if there was no reaction.

I think it'd be more productive to choose to be flattered that they trust you that much, that they're so secure in your relationship, that it doesn't bother them at all because they know you'd never act on it.

KingOfFairview · 14-09-2014 03:24PM

My wife is strange this way. Certain types of girls showing me attention really annoys her - but she literally lets her single friends paw me in front of her and doesn't mind at all.

LETHAL LADY · 14-09-2014 03:25PM

Imo jealousy shows a lack of confidence from the person who is jealous and nobody admires that kind of insecurity.

14-09-2014 03:25PM

Bafucin wrote: »

I don't believe anyone who says they are not a little jealous and to me claiming that would be a type of game.

If we were not a little jealous we would all be in open relationships all the time.

Monogamy presupposes a little jealousy.

I've been jealous, it's not nice. I've also had a jealous partner, that's also not nice.

Wanting your partner to be jealous, is playing games. It's pretty pathetic actually.

Fat Christy · 14-09-2014 03:26PM

Bafucin wrote: »

Would it bother you if he wanted to sleep other women with no emotional attachments?

I'm sure they are women he finds attractive that he would bang if he wasn't with me. He's a man, he watches porn, he masturbates.....so do I.

We go to Burlesque shows together, he can appreciate good looking women and men, just like I can. But he doesn't go chatting other women up or openly flirting with women, so I have no need to be jealous.

I told him from the start, if he doesn't want to be with me anymore, just break up and I'm the same. I can't be dealing with paranoia and wondering when he goes out with the lads if he's getting with some young wan.

Bafucin · 14-09-2014 03:26PM

Candie wrote: »

I had an ex who would have preferred me to wear a burqa and to have him screen my mails and calls. I remember being on the beach with him and he couldn't relax for glaring at anyone walking by in case they looked in our direction.

He told everyone that he hadn't a jealous bone in his body. Even when they say they're not jealous and if they're smart enough to not say anything directly to you, it ruins things. First thing he said when I ended it was "I knew there was something going on".

That's an overly extreme case of someone who not only can't control their jealousy but is in extreme denial of it.

Generally VERY jealous people are all about the power etc. control.

It's better to feel a little than nothing and admit it. I admit I can be a jealous person but I try not to let it impact negatively on anyone.

I know I have a tendency and so I know those feelings don't ACTUALLY mean anything would be going on at all. I can admit my irrationality and therefore own it.

Bafucin · 14-09-2014 03:29PM

Fat Christy wrote: »

I'm sure they are women he finds attractive that he would bang if he wasn't with me. He's a man, he watches porn, he masturbates.....so do I.

We go to Burlesque shows together, he can appreciate good looking women and men, just like I can. But he doesn't go chatting other women up or openly flirting with women, so I have no need to be jealous.

I told him from the start, if he doesn't want to be with me anymore, just break up and I'm the same. I can't be dealing with paranoia and wondering when he goes out with the lads if he's getting with some young wan.

Ok. But what if he wanted to eat his cake and have it too. WHat if he said to you 'I want to be honest with you about this. I want to stay with you and sleep with other women. It does not impact the strength of my feelings for you. '

If a little jealousy was not a part of love you would not assume that him wanting to sleep or even be in a relationship with others meant that he should leave you.

Miss Lizzie Jones · 14-09-2014 03:30PM

I have a tendency to get jealous. I hate it when it happens because I wish I never would. I think it might be one of the reasons I choose to remain single and am currently not in a relationship (also by choice).

Bafucin · 14-09-2014 03:31PM

Deleted User wrote: »

I've been jealous, it's not nice. I've also had a jealous partner, that's also not nice.

Wanting your partner to be jealous, is playing games. It's pretty pathetic actually.

I admit that I do to some extent want that. I am not sure why. I would be honest about it and just say 'it bugs me you don't react when this happens etc'.

I wouldn't TRY to make someone jealous ( edit I HOPE i wouldn't). I would just be miffed if they were not sometimes.

14-09-2014 03:31PM

Bafucin wrote: »

It's better to feel a little than nothing and admit it.

Can you not just feel secure and happy and leave the destructive emotions behind?

I believe how and what we feel are often a choice. I could allow and excuse jealous emotions or I can decide to focus on why those feelings don't matter and affirm the positive emotions instead.

There's a lot more happiness in life when you're willing to experience security and contentment and leave jealous uncertainty and stress behind.

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