Laura Young wrote: »
I only googled Good shepard Dunboyne now and saw all your comments about the Good Shepards. I'm like, wow. I spent a brief encounter there in early 1983 (anyone out there from that time?? would have been Jan / Feb). My daugher is now 28 and it did seem surreal and how times have change so much, for the better I may add. I often think about the girls that I met and shared a room with during my time there and what happend to both them and their babies. I was known as 'Carol Ann' because we obviously weren't allowed to use our real names. I was one of the lucky ones because i was 'allowed' to go back home and keep my baby after 'running' away to the Good Shepards. I do remember meeting up with one of the other girls when I gave birth in Holles Street (where we 'unmarried mothers' were all kept in a large ward together) 'Assumpta' and I think she'd had a baby boy. I don't remember a mother and baby unit or room when I was there, albeit briefly.
Good luck to any 'babies' that are now seeking their birth mothers and it would be good to hear back from anyone that may have shared the same time as me there.
Laura aka 'Carol Ann'
pamela1961 wrote: »
You need to change that name too! Sunshine does not suit this cold, dark, dreary statement.
pamela1961 wrote: »
sorry if I upset anyone by writing the above. Maybe...., Im not sure if this is the right forum for me to write about my experience. From what I see now, there dosen't appear to be posts of a similar experience. If, it is not the right place, again I am truely sorry people. And if anybody can direct me onto the right forum, or lend some advice it would be truely appriciated.
Amandy82 wrote: »
I was wondering if anyone could give some information. My partner was adopted and his birth mother stayed at the good shepherd Dunboyne from the end of May 1985 through to September 1985. His bm gave birth at Holles St on the 5th of September 1985.
She was 23 years old at the time and came from a county in Leinster. She was one of ten siblings and her sister at the time lived in England. Prior to pregnancy she worked on a stud farm.
My partner has received the non identifying information from Cunamh but has been told it is a 2.5 year wait for further information. We currently live in Australia so unable to go to and look for his original birth certificate. We do go back each year but have only started the process a few months ago.
If anyone stayed there at the same time and can share any information that would be great.
Elizvonne wrote: »
Thats a long waiting list. Maybe you might do your own trace.
There are tracing guides on this page. Also I would recommend a Facebook group Adoption Rights Alliance - there are a few people on there who help out with searches
Best of luck with all.
martina74 wrote: »
hi i am adopted and my birth mother was in dunboyne in 1974 we have met and have kept in contact on and off i would like more but i have been doing all the phoning etc so have stopped as i feel it is reminding her of what might have been back then in the home. i have read post but i would like to know from someone who was in the home at this time am i doing the right thing of letting it go as in my imagination awful horrible things happend and i dont want to upset this wonderful person who gave birth to me anymore heartache. It is upsetting me and breaking me in two as i want to have a relationship with her but on the other hand i dont want to upset here. Please help confused 40 year old.
RANIA wrote: »
how did holles st treat the mums?did anyone go with them for their labour?i hate my birthday as i always imagine my mum alone and scared.after the babies were born did ye stay in holles st long?my non iden info says i was in hospital for 2 weeks,i always wondered if my mum was with me for the 2 weeks?
basically after birth,who was there?nuns?anyone/did mums go back to the home or what happened in days /weeks after?
Hermy wrote: »
I visit the GRO in Dublin from time to time for various genealogy projects including my own and another family member's search for our birth mothers. It may be another month before I go there again but I'd be delighted to offer to search on your behalf if you would like.
lyn1961 wrote: »
Hi , I was in dunboyne 82-83march,
Lyn 1961, I am trying to learn how to use this forum , please forgive me for mistakes
sunshine1799 wrote: »
I too stayed at the convent from Jan 83 until June 83 and had the pleasure of knowing St Cait. I have never known, until this day, a more kind hearted person than Cait. All my experiences there were good, even if the circumstances was not great, I was only 17. We were never chastised for our situation, we were treated with kindness and compassion, and never forced to do anything against our will. My situation was not as bad as some of the girls, I didn't have to hide my situation from my parents, I was there because my boyfriends parents wanted me there, and to give up my baby but I was lucky, I was allowed to keep my baby and he is now 29yrs old. Not everyone was as lucky as me but it was my decision and any girl who gave up her baby was very brave, it was and will be the hardest decision they will ever have to make. I know it was the 80s but those who post and say it was an awful place is lying, in my opinion. The nuns were lovely, they never treated us badly, I even sat my leaving cert there, they even hired tutors for me. If anyone reads this and thinks its easy to give up their baby is far from mistaken, those girls done the best they could in a bad and difficult situation. Sr Cait, Claire and Maura were saints esp Cait, I cannot imagine how my life would be now if someone had forced me to put my baby up for adoption, it was left to us. That is not to say we were not encouraged for adoption and yes it was discussed, but in the end in it was our parents decision whether we could take the baby home. I was lucky they said yes.
sheba99 wrote: »
It seems I cannot post web addresses here as I got a message saying I am a new user even though I have been posting here from time to time for quite sometime.
Hermy wrote: »
Kathy, I think you need fifty posts before that restriction is lifted.