Waiting until Marriage.

Autonomous Cowherd wrote: »

Closes eyes...holds nose...dives in (against better judgement)

Well, from personal experience, i was never ''saving'' myself for marriage; plus I am not religious in that way; but i happened to meet the love of my life quite young and before Ireland was shagging everything that moved as a matter of course (hehe).
It is pretty easy to tell if people are sexually compatible without sex.....the whole all over body magic every time you see them, touch them, smell them, think of them, the whole crazy love thing (ya know, that old-fashioned stuff). So, for various reasons, including my being young and a bit of an innocent, we did not have ''full'' sex for a good while and just before marriage as it happens. (But there's a lot of fun things to do between kissing and screwing, as an old lady once told me.)
Yeah, in the beginning it was a learning curve but mad mad love and enthusiasm makes up for lack of experience. He was also a first timer. But yeah, there is something special about figuring that stuff out with someone who is the love of your life.
So 27 years later I will say that we are very lucky and are actually constantly learning, surprising each other. Sex wise I mean. Yeah, life is never a bed of roses all the time, but if you are mad about someone you will know that at the beginning and work through it.
I am not saying it is for everyone and it was completely circumstantial and unplanned on my part, but just writing this to dispel the notion that one has to have had many partners or even more than one to know a hot sex life.
He's been away for a few days with the kids. CANNOT wait till he gets home

AlexisM wrote: »

And to follow on from that story OP, i would suggest that you look to get married very young (and quickly after meeting her...) or accept that your pool of women willing to accept a 'no sex before marriage' rule will grow smaller every year.

It is possible but you need to be careful that this strict rule doesn#t overtake the primary goal which should be to have a lasting, happy marriage. I have a cousin who waited but he ended up waiting a looong time. He had various relationships over the years but they invariably ended as the girlfriends 'made demands' of him (his words) that he was unwilling to go along with. He got married in his 40s. It's a large part (and the most virile part) of your life to go without sex.

If you don't get married young, it will definitely get more difficult to find a girlfriend willing to wait - and willing to put up with her friends and family questioning and worrying about what's wrong with you that you don't want to have sex with her. If my friend/sister/daughter told me her boyfriend didn't want to have sex, I would be concerned that he was a bit weird TBH and had some deep-seated sexual issues. And there'll be complications and temptations - there will be an assumption that you ARE having sex so if you go away together, you'll probably be put sharing a room.

So all in all, the best advice is probably get married young and/or only look in the pool of like-minded Christians.

anothernight wrote: »

As a woman, I couldn't possibly wait until marriage knowing that my pleasure in sex will depend, in part, on the physical shape of my future husband. Some things simply can't be solved by talking.

Have you considered that you may end up being into things that your future wife might not enjoy? Without going into details, my boyfriend has some pretty "alternative" sexual interests which none of my female friends (or indeed, most women) would ever accept. If he waited until marriage he'd be doomed to being sexually frustrated and maybe cheating in the end.

Though of course things can also work out perfectly in the end. Good luck.

Candie wrote: »

I was just wondering if there religious restrictions I didn't know about of if everything was on the table (or stairs, or sofa,or bed, or roof ) once a couple is married.