How much € should parents take off grown-up children towards their keep per week

PizzamanIRL · 03-08-2014 08:29PM

I 'earn' 188 and give 25 and buy my own food.

Shakespeare's Sister · 03-08-2014 08:29PM

I moved home temporarily when I wasn't working, so I wasn't expected to contribute anything, but working and contributing nothing is just taking the piss.

Sam Kade · 03-08-2014 08:30PM

JerCotter7 wrote: »

Everytime this topic comes up I am amazed. I have never heard anyone talking about paying to live at home. Most parents I know just love to have their kids at home. If I said it to my parents they would just laugh at me.

Yeah food and other household expenses are for nothing these days :rolleyes:

Redshift · 03-08-2014 08:31PM

I used to hand up 1/3 of what ever I earned when I was at home right from the very first pay packet. My brothers were the same. Once we finished school the free ride was over and we were expected to pay our own way.
I think it was a great deal , I wish I could cover my accommodation, food and bills with a third of my salary now.
I know people living at home earning good money who don't hand up anything it's the height of meanness.

Mint Sauce · 03-08-2014 08:33PM

I used to pay £50, what ever that equats to now. So did all my other cousins growing up in london. When my irish cousins heard we paid housekeeping, they were shocked at such an arrangement.

Your earning money, why not pay your share of the bills.

03-08-2014 08:35PM

I've lived at home. Between rental homes and while saving and offered money but my folks would say you're at home there's no need. I would chip in 50 a week and just pick up stuff at shop if needed. The "payment" expected of me was a days work around the house painting odd jobs etc.. my parents aren't well off by the way

Shakespeare's Sister · 03-08-2014 08:36PM

Mint Sauce wrote: »

I used to pay £50, what ever that equats to now. So did all my other cousins growing up in london. When my irish cousins heard we paid housekeeping, they were shocked at such an arrangement.

Irish mammy syndrome "We can't be getting the poor craythurs to pay us something!"

bumper234 · 03-08-2014 08:38PM

25/30% minimum

gstack166 · 03-08-2014 08:38PM

Joeytheparrot wrote: »

If he is earning roughly €300 per week then I think between 80-100 is an acceptable figure

€80-€100 out of €300 a week? You're a mad man. It's a bed they are paying for, not a rent boy, you're in the wrong thread.

bumper234 · 03-08-2014 08:40PM

gstack166 wrote: »

€80-€100 out of €300 a week? You're a mad man. It's a bed they are paying for, not a rent boy, you're in the wrong thread.

So just a bed. No food, elec, gas, heating etc?

Shakespeare's Sister · 03-08-2014 08:40PM

gstack166 wrote: »

€80-€100 out of €300 a week? You're a mad man. It's a bed they are paying for, not a rent boy, you're in the wrong thread.

Well it's more than a bed, but I think 80 to 100 out of 300 does seem way too steep also. I agree with making a contribution but don't see a need for a harshly high one either.

lulu1 · 03-08-2014 08:44PM

gstack166 wrote: »

€80-€100 out of €300 a week? You're a mad man. It's a bed they are paying for, not a rent boy, you're in the wrong thread.

What about food washing cooking cleaning esb internet need I go on

UCDVet · 03-08-2014 08:47PM

I'll probably be living with my parents soon, for a few weeks even a 2-3 months (hopefully not that long, but who knows?).

They won't ask for money.
I'll offer to pay rent, they'll tell me no.

I'll end up doing a bunch of chores around the house to help out and I'll try to do more than my fair share of shopping for household stuff (so that I'll be paying for groceries).

Having said that, they're doing pretty well financially. So the additional cost of me and my husband hanging around won't be a concern for them.

candy-gal1 · 03-08-2014 08:52PM

Ive been living at home the past few years, I did move out for a couple of years after college but moved back cos of circumstances, Ive never been asked to give up anything, as of yet anyway

Im on the dole so I get 188e a week, till i get a job hopefully soon :rolleyes::P, I pay for my own food, different things I may need, toiletries etc, internet as Im the only one in the house who uses it so far anyway and pretty much look after myself with cooking etc

Most of my friends live at home right now and give up about 50e a week as rent/housekeeping, but their food, cooking daily essentials like that are taken care ofby their parents also so that makes sense to give up 50e or something in that instance

My parents are separated, and over the past 4-5 years give or take my mother has depression and the like, is near retirement age, gets meals on wheels etc and seems quite comfortable so doesnt work but gets benefits etc so housekeeping/cleaning/cooking is mostly left up to me
My father lives in the family home, is retired so spends a few months a year away with the gf to which I housesit his house a few times a week, pay the bills for those few months and whatever I need

Giving up money at home, imho, is subjective to your situation imho, also being an only child may be different to most too

darkpagandeath · 03-08-2014 08:55PM

Magaggie wrote: »

Well it's more than a bed, but I think 80 to 100 out of 300 does seem way too steep also. I agree with making a contribution but don't see a need for a harshly high one either.

Do people in the real world get to chose how much of their wage goes on bills rent and so on ? No. That thinking is like wanting to keep the majority of the money to spend as they chose. People in the real world don’t get to do that. They get to use what's left after bills rent and all that.

UCDVet · 03-08-2014 08:55PM

bumper234 wrote: »

So just a bed. No food, elec, gas, heating etc?

I'm currently in a 2-bed/2-bath place. I have a roommate that is back and forth between here and Canada. Everything is in my name, so I pay the bills and the rent, and she pays me.

Most of the utilities don't change when she's gone verse here. UPC costs the same, still need to heat the place. Waste removal costs the same too. I thought I'd notice a difference in the electricity bill, but it must be pretty small.

Food would be the big one for us - though I'm sure it could be different for others. But yeah, I expected to see a lot more of a difference. To be honest, when she left for the summer I was really hoping the electric bill would drop a lot, but it didn't

AlanS181824 · 03-08-2014 08:57PM

€50 a week is generally what most people I know give.

deelite · 03-08-2014 08:59PM

We all contributed in our parents house the only time our parents wouldn't take money (six months max.) was when deposits were being saved to buy first homes. But if the parents got an inkling that money was being squandered ie., by going out on the beer, having hair done, buying stupid things the deal was off.

krudler · 03-08-2014 08:59PM

darkpagandeath wrote: »

Do people in the real world get to chose how much of their wage goes on bills rent and so on ? No. That thinking is like wanting to keep the majority of the money to spend as they chose. People in the real world don’t get to do that. They get to use what's left after bills rent and all that.

Yes? you keep the bills low and live somewhere cheap if you don't want to pay high bills. I lived on my own for months and the highest esb bill I got was 60 for 2 months, the gas was 19 euro and that was used for cooking almost every night.

oppenheimer1 · 03-08-2014 09:02PM

jonny666 wrote: »

I was made hand up 1/3 of what I earned to housekeep. I'm better for it too. Friends who had to give nothing struggled to adapt to living out of home. Always late / missing rent and so on. I don't know would

I never had to hand up and was perfectly capable of surviving on my own with everything paid on time.

acon2119 · 03-08-2014 09:04PM

UCDVet wrote: »

I'll probably be living with my parents soon, for a few weeks even a 2-3 months (hopefully not that long, but who knows?).

They won't ask for money.
I'll offer to pay rent, they'll tell me no.

I'll end up doing a bunch of chores around the house to help out and I'll try to do more than my fair share of shopping for household stuff (so that I'll be paying for groceries).

Having said that, they're doing pretty well financially. So the additional cost of me and my husband hanging around won't be a concern for them.

if I didn't need the money to pay essential bills I would probably still take a small amount of money just to get them into the mindset of paying their way but I do definitely need the money. I do all the cleaning and household jobs inside and outside the house, clothes washing, shopping etc so my 20 year old does not really do anything other than work and socialise, I do not cook for her very often as she prefers to eat whenever it suits her. although I need a contribution I would never seek to make a profit from my children, and I don't think that any grown up child living at home ever really covers their full living costs because there's usually hidden costs that crop up when running a home that are hard to take into account.
Also in your case your parents know that you will only be living with them short term, if my child moved back home for a few months I wouldn't take anything apart from expecting them to pay towards food, but right now although I love my child living at home they are only 20 so could live at home for the next 5 plus years and that alot of years of paying all the household expenses fully while they are earning money

Demonique · 03-08-2014 09:05PM

HardLuckWoman wrote: »

Do what my mother did, charge the girls and not the lads. Housekeeping, bills, buy our own food...the lads were earning more and drinking it.

What the f**k was wrong with your mother?

takamichinoku · 03-08-2014 09:05PM

Never been any kind of rule about it, I'd pay for bits and pieces across the place out of my pocket. Always tons and tons and tons of work to be done back round home though.

Think it's definitely a good idea to have some kind of charge involved, whether it's through labour beyond chores or money, stop people from just letting time drift away there. Even if it's just a token amount, you'd be taking note of each week passing.

shruikan2553 · 03-08-2014 09:07PM

I would just go for their share of the bills. If it was me living with my mother then half electricity, half broadband, half oil and then pay for my own food.

Demonique · 03-08-2014 09:07PM

HardLuckWoman wrote: »

It boils my piss.

Why didn't you refuse to pay your mother? If my mother was charging me to stay at home but letting my (non-existent) brothers off scott free I'd tell her f**k off

Sam Kade · 03-08-2014 09:14PM

krudler wrote: »

Yes? you keep the bills low and live somewhere cheap if you don't want to pay high bills. I lived on my own for months and the highest esb bill I got was 60 for 2 months, the gas was 19 euro and that was used for cooking almost every night.

You must be using very little electricity considering it costs almost €30 for standing charge and levies.

lazybones32 · 03-08-2014 09:45PM

Never chipped in a set amount every week. Always made it my business to pay my way. When the oil bill comes - open the wallet. When the phone bill came - open the wallet. Bought my own food since 17; toiletries, washing powder and sundries. I don't like buying toilet paper so I've never bought it...ever.

Mrs Garth Brooks · 03-08-2014 09:45PM

Demonique wrote: »

What the f**k was wrong with your mother?

Favouritism towards the lads. Bought their food, toiletries, dinners cooked, washing done, bought petrol for their cars, bought them new beds...while my brothers were able to afford holidays, drink and cars.

The girls had to pay up, pay bills, buy food, so we were tenants in our own home and there was a time I had to buy myself a new bed...that a was a landlord's responsibility!

When myself and my sister moved out, my mother actually struggled with money, so much that she went to my sister and got a loan to pay for the oil fill. A loan that my sister never saw again. Yet, if she took €6 a week of the three brothers it would have covered the oil bill.

That should never have happened. I believe in paying what I owe in life, and living at home is no different but it should be the same for everybody.

Talib Fiasco · 03-08-2014 09:54PM

Nothing unless you want them to be living with you when they're 30. If you're stuck for money yourself ask them for something small but nothing fixed per week or whatever. If I had to pay 50 euro a week in my family home I would have moved out permanently at 17...

darkpagandeath · 03-08-2014 09:57PM

Talib Fiasco wrote: »

Nothing unless you want them to be living with you when they're 30. If you're stuck for money yourself ask them for something small but nothing fixed per week or whatever. If I had to pay 50 euro a week in my family home I would have moved out permanently at 17...

Seems a Massive over reaction, Were else could you live for 50 ?

How much € should parents take off grown-up children towards their keep per week

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