Online dating. Would you? Wouldn't you?

GuessWhoEh · 29-07-2014 02:18AM #1

I've recently joined Tinder and so far it's been going pretty well. I've spoken to some decent chaps and I've also been asked for a drink or two by some.

My main question is...

Would you go on a date with someone you've started to chat to online? What are your opinions on internet dating? Have you heard any success stories? Or even embarrassing stories.....

Sir Arthur Daley · 29-07-2014 02:20AM

Got married after 4 days of meeting someone on tinder, i swear by it.

A Greedy Algorithm · 29-07-2014 02:23AM

Its a last resort really.

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy · 29-07-2014 02:25AM

Would you buy clothes online? Book a flight? Download a song?

If so, then why not date someone you met online?

NightOfTheHunt · 29-07-2014 02:25AM

I'm heading to my local diy store tomorrow to collect some rope and a shovel. Then I'll be all set to try this internet dating lark.

29-07-2014 02:29AM

With my gf 2 and a half years now, met her online, kinda strange when people ask where we met!

GuessWhoEh · 29-07-2014 02:30AM

Duracell Bunny wrote: »

Would you buy clothes online? Book a flight? Download a song?

If so, then why not date someone you met online?

I'm pretty sure you can't refund a bad date...

smellmepower · 29-07-2014 02:38AM

Bit the bullet and joined one earlier this evening,strangely enough.

I'm not expecting much from it in all honesty, but can't do any harm I suppose.

GuessWhoEh · 29-07-2014 02:43AM

smellmepower wrote: »

Bit the bullet and joined one earlier this evening,strangely enough.

I'm not expecting much from it in all honesty, but can't do any harm I suppose.

I was always against these dating websites and apps and my friend went on two seperate dates in the last 2 weeks and she said they went grand, meal, drinks and banter. Maybe she was just lucky?

She kept going on about Tinder so eventually I downloaded it. It honestly seems a little harmless but at the same time, talk about your ego failing when a guy you "like" doesn't match back -_-

smellmepower · 29-07-2014 02:49AM

GuessWhoEh wrote: »

I was always against these dating websites and apps and my friend went on two seperate dates in the last 2 weeks and she said they went grand, meal, drinks and banter. Maybe she was just lucky?

She kept going on about Tinder so eventually I downloaded it. It honestly seems a little harmless but at the same time, talk about your ego failing when a guy you "like" doesn't match back -_-

That tinder thingy is a bit too vain for my tastes (though if I was better looking I'd probably have no problem with it!) at least on some of the dating sites you get a chance to skim over what someone has written on their profile page before dismissing them!

takamichinoku · 29-07-2014 02:49AM

I've had positive experiences mostly but it depends really, outside of Dublin you're gonna have issues with the relatively low numbers on most sites. I gather pay sites are better if you want to avoid time wasters cos a lot of people might be not that interested in meeting up on free ones and are just there out of boredom.

Installed tinder about a week ago and I didn't really get it at all, it was an extremely misanthropic experience of rejecting people endlessly just to see who the next person was ...probably not for me. Something like it could be cool in a major city if people were serious about it though, arrange loads of instant casual dates with someone else who's free in the area or something.

Very important to have some okay photos too, I guess, especially on tinder.

Wishiwasa Littlebitaller · 29-07-2014 02:59AM

Was going to start a thread on the following a half hour or so, but I decided to make a bacon sambo instead. Was lovely so it was, anyway ...

OKCupid today admitted that they experimented with and manipulated people's profiles with some interesting, but perhaps particlaby, outcomes:

It Doesn’t Matter What You Write on Your Dating Profile

Lest you think Facebook is the only site conducting experiments on its users, OKCupid published a blog post today on a few of the ways the dating site has transformed itself into a little online love laboratory. One of the most interesting findings: No one pays much attention to the words you so painstakingly chose to describe yourself.

Christian Rudder, one of the site’s co-founders, writes that in an older version of the site, users were able to rate a profile for both looks and personality. But data from that earlier iteration of OKCupid suggested that, to most users, looks and personality are practically interchangeable.

Once OKCupid’s administrators realized that having two rankings wasn’t giving them any additional, useful data, they replaced the two with just one overall rating — though they were pretty sure users were still mostly judging from the photographs. To test this, they manipulated the profiles of about 10,000 users and hid the text on their profiles about half of the time, allowing them to see how much the text influenced the person’s ratings:

The results? “Essentially, the text is less than 10% what people think of you,” Rudder writes. “[Y]our picture is worth that fabled thousand words, but actual words are worth … almost nothing.” All the more reason to worry about your profile picture.

GuessWhoEh · 29-07-2014 02:59AM

takamichinoku wrote: »

I've had positive experiences mostly but it depends really, outside of Dublin you're gonna have issues with the relatively low numbers on most sites. I gather pay sites are better if you want to avoid time wasters cos a lot of people might be not that interested in meeting up on free ones and are just there out of boredom.

Installed tinder about a week ago and I didn't really get it at all, it was an extremely misanthropic experience of rejecting people endlessly just to see who the next person was ...probably not for me. Something like it could be cool in a major city if people were serious about it though, arrange loads of instant casual dates with someone else who's free in the area or something.

Very important to have some okay photos too, I guess, especially on tinder.

That's my thoughts exactly! When going through the profiles, I'm hardly paying attention half the time because it can be a bit dull but on the other hand, it can be a little exciting.

I've yet to hear some success stories though....

Shenshen · 29-07-2014 09:49AM

Wishiwasa Littlebitaller wrote: »

Was going to start a thread on the following a half hour or so, but I decided to make a bacon sambo instead. Was lovely so it was, anyway ...

OKCupid today admitted that they experimented with and manipulated people's profiles with some interesting, but perhaps particlaby, outcomes:

Interesting... back when I was still using them, I would never, ever reply to a profile that didn't contain any information.

And I would get annoyed as the proverbial if a first contact message clearly showed that the other person hadn't read mine.

JeffKenna · 29-07-2014 09:51AM

I wouldn't get laid if it wasn't for online dating.

God bless that sex ap, I mean tinder!

Trebor176 · 29-07-2014 06:47PM

From my experience on POF, girls are a very fussy bunch. It seems there is more to a genuine, honest, friendly chap that they would like, judging by the lack of replies. At least they view the profile. . .after!

The few replies have been from timewasters. That is that the conversation seems to go very well until they stop replying a while later. I've been chatting to a nice girl from Okcupid for a few months now, and we will probably be meeting at some point soon. Though, I don't see any romance on the cards there.

I'm intrigued by this Tinder thing. I may as well join, see what the fuss is and give my opinion further down the line. I feel I may not like it that much.

tink2 · 29-07-2014 06:56PM

I met my now husband on match.com ! I felt the paid sites had more genuine people. You need to be sure on what you are looking for too like someone with the same values etc it can be hit and miss like anything else but worth a try. Try not to let the rejection get to you too much it can be harsh at times and don't spend weeks talking to people before meeting them it can be a real disappointment if you build up a connection that isn't there when you meet! Good luck! ðŸ˜႒

Fat Christy · 29-07-2014 08:04PM

Does riding them and buying them chips count as a date? If so, then yes.

agriman27 · 29-07-2014 08:40PM

I don't think tinder is that bad, the fact that it can be narrowed down to a local search, its handy to see women who are actually single who you might just know to see when out at night in big groups who are hard to approach sometimes because of cockblockers or friends of friends who I fancy. You can just flick by all the strangers if you want, it's sometimes surprising to see who are looking for someone.

Kev.OC · 29-07-2014 08:58PM

GuessWhoEh wrote: »

That's my thoughts exactly! When going through the profiles, I'm hardly paying attention half the time because it can be a bit dull but on the other hand, it can be a little exciting.

I've yet to hear some success stories though....

I met my GF of 7 months on Tinder. So there's one success story to get you started.

Micky Dolenz · 29-07-2014 08:59PM

You'd be mad not to, sure everyone is on the google machine these days.

Elessar · 29-07-2014 09:41PM

Only overweight women like me on Tinder

I'm not even fat, or ugly. You see I'm a nice guy. Nice guys get all the fat women, unfortunately

EDIT: I'm joking

realgirl · 29-07-2014 09:45PM

Elessar wrote: »

Only overweight women like me on Tinder

I'm not even fat, or ugly. You see I'm a nice guy. Nice guys get all the fat women, unfortunately

Emm...not a very 'nice' statement...

I just started using tinder 2 weeks ago, am.frustrated with it already!

jebediah · 29-07-2014 09:45PM

GuessWhoEh wrote: »

I've recently joined Tinder and so far it's been going pretty well. I've spoken to some decent chaps and I've also been asked for a drink or two by some.

My main question is...

Would you go on a date with someone you've started to chat to online? What are your opinions on internet dating? Have you heard any success stories? Or even embarrassing stories.....

They only want to get in your knickers.

spookymuffin · 29-07-2014 09:49PM

Success story here. Met my husband online and couldn't be happier :-)

Strazdas · 29-07-2014 09:59PM

Haven't done so so far but things are rapidly heading in that direction anyway. A couple of people flirting on Facebook is a form of online dating when you think about it and I suspect it's going to be the absolute norm in future.

Fat Christy · 29-07-2014 10:02PM

Elessar wrote: »

Only overweight women like me on Tinder

I'm not even fat, or ugly. You see I'm a nice guy. Nice guys get all the fat women, unfortunately

Thanks Elessar, seriously thanks! I can't believe you found me on boards and decided to comment on the thread I commented on. Way to go, thanks for adding salt to my wounds!! :mad:

I thought you were a nice guy and there was something there, obviously not! You could have just politely said no without leading me on. :mad:

I feel so broken up inside. </3

topcatcbr · 29-07-2014 10:05PM

Don't replace meeting people in real life with virtual dating.

i met my gf of 4 years on PoF.

i had mixed experience of it before that.

get enough info to establish their not psyco then meet. Make your opinion on real meeting. That for me is how you met. Anything before that is only anonymous chatting.

castletownman · 29-07-2014 10:10PM

I'm in the process of making an documentary based on my experiences from Tinder.

I'm calling it Tindlers List

Strazdas · 29-07-2014 10:15PM

topcatcbr wrote: »

Don't replace meeting people in real life with virtual dating.

i met my gf of 4 years on PoF.

i had mixed experience of it before that.

get enough info to establish their not psyco then meet. Make your opinion on real meeting. That for me is how you met. Anything before that is only anonymous chatting.

Dating is starting to move in that direction already though. Many people use social media to communicate with each other and I've a funny feeling the traditional going out to a pub or nightclub on the off chance of meeting someone will actually start to become unfashionable in years to come. The main reason it was the established way of meeting people for decades is that there was no alternative to it, but we're into a whole new ball game now.

Macavity. · 29-07-2014 10:20PM

Elessar wrote: »

Only overweight women like me on Tinder

If I swipe right on Tinder to a fat woman's profile I'll match with them, same with my friends. None of us are fat. I guess they're just less picky than women of a normal weight. Thankfully I've a good few matches who look after themselves physically.

Online dating. Would you? Wouldn't you?

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