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Are we going back to the laundries for single mothers?

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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭Celly Smunt


    anncoates wrote: »
    Child care?

    School?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 24,461 ✭✭✭✭darkpagandeath


    I just take a look around me.

    So that's a no then you could be living in an unemployment black spot ? As you know its difficult to relocate or travel long distances with a child to find a suitable job.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 740 ✭✭✭Alf. A. Male


    You know as well as I do that the bulk of single mothers in this country are not women who went out to work to provide for their child or widows. There's an awful lot of them who just can't be bothered to work. As for deliquent dads, that's a whole other thread.

    I know no such thing, got some facts and figures to back it up?
    I just take a look around me.

    Oh, you've answered that already, you don't, you just made some assumptions.

    And delinquent fathers isn't another thread, the children weren't conceived immaculately and this measure does nothning to make them financially responsible, but reinforces the prejudices you espouse.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭Celly Smunt


    Yes, because we have full employment, no jobless at all, so single parents can just walk into jobs.

    What specifically becomes different about the cost of raising a child once they turn 7? Do they eat less or need less clothing or something? Or is just a divide and conquer tactic which will be successful because people unaffected will jumpt to defend it or just shut up and accept it? There's nothing justified about this cut, it's just as ill thought out as cuts to medical cards, carer's allowances, services for the elderly etc. in spite of having money to pay bondholders and bankers who gambled and should have lost but won't be allowed to.

    Key words, looking for work.

    I'm going to brush past your burn the bondholders crap and say that there is also no reason why they shouldnt be in education if they cant find employment.This sense of entitlement of staying home to look after one child malarkey is not merited and shouldn't exist.If the mother cant find employment, then she should be training to better herself; not leeching off the state to stay at home whilst being rewarded.

    It might be firm and "unfair" but that's how thw world works.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,635 ✭✭✭Pumpkinseeds


    So that's a no then you could be living in an unemployment black spot ? As you know its difficult to relocate or travel long distances with a child to find a suitable job.
    You're just grasping at straws now. There's a lot of unemployed single mothers who don't want to work because they just don't want to work. I don't live in an unemployment blackspot. There's an engrained culture in this country among families from regeneration backgrounds. The simple reality is that many of them get pregnant as soon as they can and get themselves a council flat or Rent Allowance. It's gone on for decades and it doesn't look like stopping any time soon.

    But you want to believe that all single mothers are just down on their luck and really want to work in order to provide a decent standard of living for their children, as much as I'd like to play that game with you I can't, there's entirely too much delusion going on with the Social Welfare system.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 13,925 ✭✭✭✭anncoates


    School?

    Home time is between 1.30 and 3.30 depending on the year in primary school so you need quite flexible hours and to be near to the school.

    By all means I think people should work if they can, but this across the board diatribes are petty.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭Celly Smunt


    anncoates wrote: »
    Home time is between 1.30 and 3.30 depending on the year in primary school so you need quite flexible hours and to be near to the school.

    By all means I think people should work if they can, but this across the board diatribes are petty.
    There are after school programs across the country, can't see why they couldn't be availed of.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 24,461 ✭✭✭✭darkpagandeath


    You're just grasping at straws now. There's a lot of unemployed single mothers who don't want to work because they just don't want to work. I don't live in an unemployment blackspot. There's an engrained culture in this country among families from regeneration backgrounds. The simple reality is that many of them get pregnant as soon as they can and get themselves a council flat or Rent Allowance. It's gone on for decades and it doesn't look like stopping any time soon.

    But you want to believe that all single mothers are just down on their luck and really want to work in order to provide a decent standard of living for their children, as much as I'd like to play that game with you I can't, there's entirely too much delusion going on with the Social Welfare system.

    Nope I just gave a reason why some could be unemployed your the one tarring everyone with the same brush not me. I do know some people who are like your afford mentioned examples but I would hesitate to say it's not reflective of the whole group that are single mothers.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,635 ✭✭✭Pumpkinseeds


    I know no such thing, got some facts and figures to back it up?



    Oh, you've answered that already, you don't, you just made some assumptions.

    And delinquent fathers isn't another thread, the children weren't conceived immaculately and this measure does nothning to make them financially responsible, but reinforces the prejudices you espouse.
    A woman is ultimately responsible for her own body. If she chooses to have a child it will be her choice. If she chooses to have a child with a man who is an unreliable waste of space, well that's her choice too. I'm expressing my point of view. You don't like my point of view so you label my as being predjudiced. If you define being predjudiced as thinking that single mothers should get off their arses and provide for their children then you need a reality check.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 13,925 ✭✭✭✭anncoates


    There are after school programs across the country, can't see why they couldn't be availed of.

    ??


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,635 ✭✭✭Pumpkinseeds


    Nope I just gave a reason why some could be unemployed your the one tarring everyone with the same brush not me. I do know some people who are like your afford mentioned examples but I would hesitate to say it's not reflective of the whole group that are single mothers.
    I'm referrring to single mothers who can't be bothered to work. The kind who plaster 'full time mommy' on their Facebook pages but who think that giving a child a packet of biscuits is giving them lunch. Or who have kids that they don't bother to sit down and do homework with or any of a whole host of other things.

    I'm not referring to women who've been made redundant, or who are ill or who have to be at home as a carer. I'm specifically referring to those single mothers who are just too bone idle and lazy to work to provide for their kids and who in my opinion really shouldn't have kids at all.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,337 ✭✭✭✭banie01


    I'm going to buck a trend on this thread.
    As a Male who has previously been in receipt of OPFA(It is not ''invariably'' a woman's payment, @2.5% of recipients are Male)
    Getting back to work and away from the welfare dependence is incredibly difficult due to the way the system is currently setup!
    It is meant to be a support, but it often forces a dependency.
    As not only is there automatic assumption that anyone who is in receipt of that payment is female.
    There is also a very very skewed support system in place around it.
    Female recipients are offered training and course's usually in the childcare or caring for the elderly areas.
    Courses that are basically designed to get a person off welfare but offer little scope for career development or any real semblance of a work/life balance.
    However as a man, you get offered no courses!
    No opportunity to retrain and indeed when I tried to gain access to certain courses I was told ''Ah sure your already well qualified and we don't have any programs in place for a man in your situation''

    The focus after a child reaches 7, indeed the focus at any age!
    Should be around ensuring
    1. The child's wellbeing is paramount, and their will be some situation where either through lack of a family support network, Illness or isolation that a parent may genuinely be unable to ''afford'' to return to work without significant continuing support.
    2. The parent has adequate access to affordable childcare(Subsidised or Tax Credited)
    3. The parent has access to opportunity to appropriate educational and training courses to allow them to upskill for a job that can actually raise them out of the welfare trap, rather than giving them minimum wage opportunities and topping up their earnings via FIS or other welfare supports.
    The earlier a suitable support and intervention is made to support a single parent...
    The earlier that parent can get back to either education or employment, avoiding the welfare trap and ensuring the actual wellbeing of their child.
    At 7.o the child is often in school meaning generally the parent can be available for work at minimum between 9am-2pm.....
    Sounds good,
    Try finding a job within those hours that can offer the wage that will pull one out of the welfare trap though ;)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,468 ✭✭✭✭OldNotWIse


    Hitchens wrote: »
    So the children have to suffer for something they have no hand, act or part in? We're talking about human beings here, not rats.

    As opposed to childless taxpayers having to suffer for something they too had no hand, act or part in?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,087 ✭✭✭Potatoeman


    banie01 wrote: »
    I'm going to buck a trend on this thread.
    As a Male who has previously been in receipt of OPFA(It is not ''invariably'' a woman's payment, @7.5% of recipients are Male)
    Getting back to work and away from the welfare dependence is incredibly difficult due to the way the system is currently setup!
    It is meant to be a support, but it often forces a dependency.
    As not only is there automatic assumption that anyone who is in receipt of that payment is female.
    There is also a very very skewed support system in place around it.
    Female recipients are offered training and course's usually in the childcare or caring for the elderly areas.
    Courses that are basically designed to get a person off welfare but offer little scope for career development or any real semblance of a work/life balance.
    However as a man, you get offered no courses!
    No opportunity to retrain and indeed when I tried to gain access to certain courses I was told ''Ah sure your already well qualified and we don't have any programs in place for a man in your situation''

    The focus after a child reaches 7, indeed the focus at any age!
    Should be around ensuring
    1. The child's wellbeing is paramount, and their will be some situation where either through lack of a family support network, Illness or isolation that a parent may genuinely be unable to ''afford'' to return to work without significant continuing support.
    2. The parent has adequate access to affordable childcare(Subsidised or Tax Credited)
    3. The parent has access to opportunity to appropriate educational and training courses to allow them to upskill for a job that can actually raise them out of the welfare trap, rather than giving them minimum wage opportunities and topping up their earnings via FIS or other welfare supports.
    The earlier a suitable support and intervention is made to support a single parent...
    The earlier that parent can get back to either education or employment, avoiding the welfare trap and ensuring the actual wellbeing of their child.
    At 7.o the child is often in school meaning generally the parent can be available for work at minimum between 9am-2pm.....
    Sounds good,
    Try finding a job within those hours that can offer the wage that will pull one out of the welfare trap though ;)

    Can you not access FAS courses?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 24,461 ✭✭✭✭darkpagandeath


    OldNotWIse wrote: »
    As opposed to childless taxpayers having to suffer for something they too had no hand, act or part in?

    What’s childless have to do with anything ? You have to pay tax irrespective lots of things people have to pay tax for that they may not have a hand in..


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,337 ✭✭✭✭banie01


    Potatoeman wrote: »
    Can you not access FAS courses?

    Online ones are available, but as I said generally hometimes are around 2.30pm for a child upto the age of 12.
    Fulltime Fás courses usually require attendance until 4pm.
    Meaning school collection, and childcare needs to be arranged and without a good support network this gets expensive.
    And the same applies to the few Fás courses available in the evening, childcare still needs sorting.

    My main point around the courses offered to the recipients of OPFA is that they are generally very deliberately targeted towards roles that would be traditionally female and are service orientated.
    There are options around BTEA that weren't available to me as I already have a level8 qualification and as such I was precluded from retraining in a more employable feild.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,468 ✭✭✭✭OldNotWIse


    What’s childless have to do with anything ? You have to pay tax irrespective lots of things people have to pay tax for that they may not have a hand in..


    erm...the fact that they wont benefit is kind of the point.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    banie01 wrote: »
    Online ones are available, but as I said generally hometimes are around 2.30pm for a child upto the age of 12.
    Fulltime Fás courses usually require attendance until 4pm.
    Meaning school collection, and childcare needs to be arranged and without a good support network this gets expensive.
    And the same applies to the few Fás courses available in the evening, childcare still needs sorting.

    My main point around the courses offered to the recipients of OPFA is that they are generally very deliberately targeted towards roles that would be traditionally female and are service orientated.
    There are options around BTEA that weren't available to me as I already have a level8 qualification and as such I was precluded from retraining in a more employable feild.

    I feel your pain. I was made redundant just before my second child was born, thankfully my husband was working but I was badly in need of upskilling and just couldn't access anything, all the courses were full time and I couldn't afford childcare and the grant wouldn't cover an OU course or other distance learning.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,114 ✭✭✭Electric Sheep


    Is childcare something of an afterthought for parents? It seems to only dawn on them after their children come along that they need to be minded, why are parents always so surprised about childcare costing money

    True. Parents also like to blabber on about how raising children is the most important job in the world, but they think it should be low cost or free when they outsource it.


  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,424 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    Why are people having children then expecting everyone else to fund them? Seriously if you can't raise your children because the government aren't giving you enough, then don't ****ing procreate. Jesus.

    7 years gives a parent to get out of a bad situation, find a job/retrain/find their feet if it was an unplanned pregnancy and it should be enough time to get yourself into a position to be able to raise the child without handouts.

    Just becuase someone may need assistance, doesnt mean they are looking for a handout. Maybe someday you'll learn the difference becuase you are always incredibly quick to shoot this one off in these topics.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,114 ✭✭✭Electric Sheep


    Potatoeman wrote: »
    I think its usually provided instead of child benefit. Good luck trying to get that changed.

    The very people calling for free/low cost child care would be the ones to object if it meant losing out on the cash.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,280 ✭✭✭paperclip2


    banie01 wrote: »
    Online ones are available, but as I said generally hometimes are around 2.30pm for a child upto the age of 12.
    Fulltime Fás courses usually require attendance until 4pm.
    Meaning school collection, and childcare needs to be arranged and without a good support network this gets expensive.
    And the same applies to the few Fás courses available in the evening, childcare still needs sorting.

    My main point around the courses offered to the recipients of OPFA is that they are generally very deliberately targeted towards roles that would be traditionally female and are service orientated.
    There are options around BTEA that weren't available to me as I already have a level8 qualification and as such I was precluded from retraining in a more employable feild.

    Is Springboard any use to you banie01? http://www.springboardcourses.ie/ If you're eligible for Springboard you can do courses at lower qualification levels than one you hold already.
    You might be eligible for CCS childcare support for these courses. http://www.citizensinformation.ie/en/education/pre_school_education_and_childcare/community_childcare_subvention_programme.html

    Also if you are doing a VEC/ ETB course through VTOS or BTEI or if you do a FAS course you might be able to avail of CETS childcare places: http://www.citizensinformation.ie/en/education/vocational_education_and_training/child_care_support_during_fas_training_courses.html


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,962 ✭✭✭✭dark crystal


    Why are people having children then expecting everyone else to fund them? Seriously if you can't raise your children because the government aren't giving you enough, then don't ****ing procreate. Jesus.

    7 years gives a parent to get out of a bad situation, find a job/retrain/find their feet if it was an unplanned pregnancy and it should be enough time to get yourself into a position to be able to raise the child without handouts.

    When you were a single parent, how easy did you find it?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,624 ✭✭✭Little CuChulainn


    Hitchens wrote: »
    On the Vincent Browne show last night, it was stated that when a single parent - invariably the mother - has a child turn 7 years of age, the allowance the parent receives will be cut by 27%. This will happen even if the child has a medical condition.

    It was further stated that when contacted about this, the Minister didn't even give a hearing.

    What kind of society are we going to have in a few years if this type of policy continues?

    Hopefully one where single parents get money from the other parent instead of the state.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,962 ✭✭✭✭dark crystal


    I'm sure you have figures to backup your wild theory's ?
    I just take a look around me.

    Here's a more reliable source than what someone sees around them:

    http://www.irishexaminer.com/viewpoints/columnists/colette-browne/facts-about-lone-parents-rubbish-claims-they-abuse-welfare-system-217380.html
    There are 87,735 recipients of the one-parent family payment, comprising 98% women and 2% men, down from 92,326 in 2010. Of this number, nearly 60% have only one child, 28% have two children and the remaining circa 12% come in the category of having three or more children — with many of these families comprising women who are divorced or separated after their marriages broke down.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,337 ✭✭✭✭banie01


    paperclip2 wrote: »
    Is Springboard any use to you banie01? http://www.springboardcourses.ie/ If you're eligible for Springboard you can do courses at lower qualification levels than one you hold already.
    You might be eligible for CCS childcare support for these courses. http://www.citizensinformation.ie/en/education/pre_school_education_and_childcare/community_childcare_subvention_programme.html

    Also if you are doing a VEC/ ETB course through VTOS or BTEI or if you do a FAS course you might be able to avail of CETS childcare places: http://www.citizensinformation.ie/en/education/vocational_education_and_training/child_care_support_during_fas_training_courses.html

    Thanks for the advice Paperclip.
    Luckily I am out of the welfare trap and back at work but Springboard was and is a very useful option for those folks looking to retrain.
    I never knew about the CETS option for childcare if retraining, it is not much help to those parents who are working though.
    Indeed back @2007 I was working fulltime and had my son in a community creché, I had to pay full rate for childcare as I was working whereas other parents who were unemployed were given an @60% cheaper rate for their childcare.
    It left me totally baffled, I was going to work trying to provide for my child and paying for the privilege.
    Whereas many other parents were dropping their child to creché for a ''break'' and availing of a discounted rate to do it.
    It's one of the main reasons I feel a drive needs to be made to ensure adequate supports for working parents(not just single ones) are put in place.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 746 ✭✭✭diveout


    Scrap child benefit and extend the school year.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,635 ✭✭✭Pumpkinseeds


    banie01 wrote: »
    Online ones are available, but as I said generally hometimes are around 2.30pm for a child upto the age of 12.
    Fulltime Fás courses usually require attendance until 4pm.
    Meaning school collection, and childcare needs to be arranged and without a good support network this gets expensive.
    And the same applies to the few Fás courses available in the evening, childcare still needs sorting.

    My main point around the courses offered to the recipients of OPFA is that they are generally very deliberately targeted towards roles that would be traditionally female and are service orientated.
    There are options around BTEA that weren't available to me as I already have a level8 qualification and as such I was precluded from retraining in a more employable feild.
    Would it not be more practical for Fás to incoporate childcare facilities into their centres? At least for children up to a certain age. I'm thinking that if a child who is at school until 3pm or so could look after themselves for an hour if they live within walking distance of the school.

    My mother went back to work when we were at primary school. There was about an hour an a half between us finishing each day and her getting home from work, so we had a list of chores to do to keep us busy and I suppose, safe until she got home. I don't know if Fás does childcare courses but if not, surely providing childcare would be a step in the right direction and might eliminate an excuse that some mothers use not to pursue courses or further education.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,624 ✭✭✭Little CuChulainn


    Would it not be more practical for Fás to incoporate childcare facilities into their centres? At least for children up to a certain age. I'm thinking that if a child who is at school until 3pm or so could look after themselves for an hour if they live within walking distance of the school.

    My mother went back to work when we were at primary school. There was about an hour an a half between us finishing each day and her getting home from work, so we had a list of chores to do to keep us busy and I suppose, safe until she got home. I don't know if Fás does childcare courses but if not, surely providing childcare would be a step in the right direction and might eliminate an excuse that some mothers use not to pursue courses or further education.

    I cannot see the state bringing in childcare facilities. They'd be sued every time a child caught a cold.


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  • Posts: 12,694 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    The vast majority of lone parents have a job even if it is a part time job, I got in to an argument about this with someone who then said part time work is not work??? because they are still getting support from the state as well; totally idiotic response.

    I do think there should be an expectation the everyone works to support themselves and that welfare should be viewed as form of short term support and form of income support, it should not been view as form of long term support for anyone, lone parent, single, married or whatever.


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