Being too attached to your local area.

J_E · 04-05-2014 11:14AM

holystungun9 wrote: »

Jezus! Lads, can we do some sort of sponsored walk or something to at least get him a bus fare and a few nights in a hostel. Leave no man behind!

Charity starts at home

NSAman · 04-05-2014 11:22AM

Candie wrote: »

Being a home bird is fine, as long as it's because you love home and choose it above elsewhere. It's the home birds who view everything outside their area with suspicion that tend to be the ones with the narrow world view and the narrow minds to match.

Candie, in my own experience this is the majority of that mindset of people.

I have lived and continue to travel for work abroad. Obviously, the fact I have been all over the world and enjoy that lifestyle seems to irk some people who claim that I am "too snobby and up myself". I never brag about places that I have been to or worked in.

On a recent visit home, I was asked what I did for a living now. In brief words I described my job. Later in the loo I hear two "friends" describing me as a blow hard... the look on their faces when I appeared from the cubicle was priceless.

These same people think it a chore to actually go to Dublin for a night out...

Each to their own. Personally I have changed but certainly now a boaster. However, home is home and family are always number one no matter where I am in the world.

Holsten · 04-05-2014 11:25AM

I moved around a lot when young so don't really feel attached to any area at all.

I don't really feel attached to Ireland much either. I've lived abroad and plan to again as soon as possible. Planning a life here in Ireland doesn't appeal to me at all.

Lucyfur · 04-05-2014 12:14PM

But.....all the sexy singles are in my area....

LizT · 04-05-2014 12:48PM

Lucyfur wrote: »

But.....all the sexy singles are in my area....

:eek: Mine too!!

beks101 · 04-05-2014 12:51PM

Read thread title as 'being too attached to your local arse'
I love my local arse, my local arse is great.
I'm so hungover

Stained Class · 04-05-2014 02:05PM

holystungun9 wrote: »

Jezus! Lads, can we do some sort of sponsored walk or something to at least get him a bus fare and a few nights in a hostel. Leave no man behind!

Good a good laugh out of this!:D

Small towns & villages are good places to grow up in, raise kids in & retire to.

For that part of your life between 18 & 35, maybe your'e better off out of them unless you've a fairly good set up there.

I left my village at 20 & didn't know what homesickness was.

25 years later & I'm back. Married now & my kids are going to the same primary school that I went to 40 odd years ago.

Lots of their classmates parents were at school with me back in the day.

J_E · 04-05-2014 02:42PM

Stained Class wrote: »

Good a good laugh out of this!:D

Small towns & villages are good places to grow up in, raise kids in & retire to.

I definitely agree!!!

Unless it's Portlaoise.

Mint Aero · 04-05-2014 02:55PM

umop.episdn wrote: »

Technically we are all a little inbred, we're all 14th cousins or better in Europe I believe

Who cares.

suicide_circus · 04-05-2014 03:26PM

Some people think that climbing matthew pikachu or a year in some irish ghetto outside sydney or "helping" to build an orphanage in burkino faso makes them a more rounded person with a deeper understanding of the human condition and the mysteries of the universe. It dosnt.
Some of the most vapid and soulless tossers I have ever met have been all round the world. Some of the wisest and kindest people I've met have hardly left their village.

Temptamperu · 04-05-2014 03:33PM

I get a weird feeling when i am not in Ireland. I have been on holidays all around Ireland and never got the same feeling. But 20 minutes on a boat or plane I just get a mad weird feeling and then I make a little sick.

MJ23 · 04-05-2014 03:51PM

There's lads I know and they wouldn't be more than a mile away from home from one end of the year to the next. If they were dropped off on a road a few miles out of town, you'd think they were in outer space. They're lemmings, obsessed with soccer who drink in the same pub every night, and talk shyte to the other lemmings about "us" and "we" when referring to English Premier League football team. Poor fools couldn't point out their beloved team on a map of England.

04-05-2014 05:24PM

I can't wait to move back to my home area, only moved out of home at 24 (and didn't really want to) to do a course a few hours away. I'm 5 years gone now and still head home most weekends, use most of my holidays to head home for longer periods of time etc and I'm just watching now for an opportunity to get a job and settle back home again, building a house beside my home place being something high on my list of things to do.

Personally I don't understands peoples desire to move away, especially abroad. The thought alone if having to move abroad would nearly turn my stomach.

Being close to my family, extended family and friends (most of whom are atill around, building houses at their home places etc) are important things to me.

ivytwine · 04-05-2014 08:26PM

As Candie said, it's grand and it suits some people, but the headwrecking thing is a narrowminded homebird. Someone who couldn't invisage going out with someone from the next parish, that kind of thing.

I know people like that at home, heading to Limerick is a big deal ffs! I couldn't live like that but then I was always seen as a bit of weirdo at home.

Ihatecuddles · 04-05-2014 08:33PM

My best friend is the biggest homebird I've ever met. Another friend said she wanted to travel for 2 years, so the homebird said she would too. Everyone was worried about her, saying she'd never make it there and if she did she'd be home within the month.

She loves it, and I'm so glad my friend talked her into it. She's quite anxious and nervous by nature. Its doing her the world of good, she's there nearly a year.

I always wanted to travel, now I'm getting married and it won't ever be an option.

Legs.Eleven · 04-05-2014 08:37PM

mauzo! wrote: »

My best friend is the biggest homebird I've ever met. Another friend said she wanted to travel for 2 years, so the homebird said she would too. Everyone was worried about her, saying she'd never make it there and if she did she'd be home within the month.

She loves it, and I'm so glad my friend talked her into it. She's quite anxious and nervous by nature. Its doing her the world of good, she's there nearly a year.

I always wanted to travel, now I'm getting married and it won't ever be an option.

You can do it when you're older though after they've all grown up!

Ihatecuddles · 04-05-2014 08:38PM

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

You can do it when you're older though after they've all grown up!

I'm marrying a homebird. So it will have to wait until after the divorce!

(Clearly a joke!!!)

04-05-2014 08:45PM

mauzo! wrote: »

I'm marrying a homebird. So it will have to wait until after the divorce!

(Clearly a joke!!!)

Must be any day now? Hope you got your house sorted so you have somewhere to be homebirds together.

kowloon · 04-05-2014 09:08PM

Attachment to family, pets, a career, a hobby that doesn't travel, there are plenty of reasons people can't live out of a backpack. That said, we all know people who don't like being away from the familiar. You'll meet plenty of them in Oz and NZ too.

Fox_In_Socks · 04-05-2014 09:26PM

I suppose where ever you go in the world, you will fall into a routine and become a homebird there.

Otherwise become a rail hopping tramp!:pac:

Mrs Garth Brooks · 04-05-2014 09:31PM

LadyLucinda wrote: »

I am not the most well traveled person out there but at the same time I do know that it will not be the end of the world if I don't end up settling down in my local village. The thing is that I have a group of friends whose lives revolve around working, living, drinking and most importantly playing GAA with the local team. They could easily work at what they are working at here in another country but the idea wouldn't even enter their heads. They drink in the same pubs every weekend and the same night club for years.

I am thinking about heading off to Australia or New Zeland soon but I wouldn't even bother asking them to come with me. I may not be so smart when I am abroad but I do think that if I do head off that I wouldn't miss the place too much, if at all. I would be very surprised if any of them even left the province to work and would expect them all to be at home for the rest of their lives. I actually find this quite sad.

Is this normal?

You sound very arrogant. You think you're so much better for flying off and leaving your buddies behind in the pub. Off with you but don't come back with that "oh look at me, I left Ballygobackwards, amn't I great" attitude.

I went myself a few months ago. I only lasted 8 weeks in Australia.

I'm from Galway and went to college in Cork. I much preferred Cork than I did Australia and I didn't have to leave the country. And I still got away from my home village.

Not everyone has to hop onto a plane and go to Australia.

Mayweather vs Maidana · 04-05-2014 09:33PM

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

You can do it when you're older though after they've all grown up!

Couldn't agree more with this, so many people assume you can only travel before you settle down. My aunt and uncle are late 50's and having the time of their lives travelling the globe.

Legs.Eleven · 04-05-2014 09:34PM

Mayweather vs Maidana wrote: »

Couldn't agree more with this, so many people assume you can only travel before you settle down. My aunt and uncle are late 50's and having the time of their lives travelling the globe.

Fact.

ivytwine · 04-05-2014 09:44PM

HardLuckWoman wrote: »

I'm from Galway and went to college in Cork. I much preferred Cork than I did Australia and I didn't have to leave the country. And I still got away from my home village.

Tru dat, I love Dublin and loved Galway and never had to leave Ireland. I would still like to live abroad and travel someday but you don't necessarily gain more character by emigrating!

LadyLucinda · 04-05-2014 10:36PM

HardLuckWoman wrote: »

You sound very arrogant. You think you're so much better for flying off and leaving your buddies behind in the pub. Off with you but don't come back with that "oh look at me, I left Ballygobackwards, amn't I great" attitude.

I went myself a few months ago. I only lasted 8 weeks in Australia.

I'm from Galway and went to college in Cork. I much preferred Cork than I did Australia and I didn't have to leave the country. And I still got away from my home village.

Not everyone has to hop onto a plane and go to Australia.

You can tell the grandchildren about Cork!!

Jamsiek · 05-05-2014 01:14AM

Rasheed wrote: »

I'm a self confessed home bird. Even when I was younger and had the chance to travel I didn't see the appeal. I'm still living in the same area I grew up in, mixing with the sane people and a lot of the social life revolves around the football club.

Yeah I get slagged for it but that's just me and I don't really care. I like where I live, I like being close to my extended family and friends. Some want to travel, best of luck & bring me back a stick of rock, but I'm happy toddling along in my little parish.

Each to their own but I get bored easily.
I can't understand the appeal of the same place all the time.
"Toddling along" sounds like hell to me tbh

05-05-2014 01:28AM

I was never able to grasp the concept of living in the same town for your whole life when I was growing up. I lived in 3 countries and loads of towns before the age of 8 and always thought I'd move off to some other country again once I finished school.

Now I've finished college and live in a city that is an hour away from my "hometown" and I am happy out here. Don't know where I will end up going in the future, but not in any major rush to move to a different country like I was when I was a teenager.

I do find people who have no interest in experiencing other cultures a bit odd though. Different strokes I guess...

Jamsiek · 05-05-2014 01:32AM

Temptamperu wrote: »

I get a weird feeling when i am not in Ireland. I have been on holidays all around Ireland and never got the same feeling. But 20 minutes on a boat or plane I just get a mad weird feeling and then I make a little sick.

When I first mover abroad I felt weird like that but I grew out if it pretty quickly. I think it comes down to getting used to situations but some handle it better than others

Ihatecuddles · 05-05-2014 01:33AM

Candie wrote: »

Must be any day now? Hope you got your house sorted so you have somewhere to be homebirds together.

Thanks

Wedding is the 24th, still seems ages away!

LadyLucinda · 05-05-2014 01:38AM

this isn't a wedding forum guys, get back on topic, don't wanna start handing out infractions

Being too attached to your local area.

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