Has your personality changed in the last 10 years?

Busted Flat. · 19-04-2014 09:12PM

I am 64, but mentally stuck at 34, how do I get over that, not that I want to. I need the pension.

seenitall · 19-04-2014 09:21PM

Hehe, I should certainly hope so!

Due to an unfortunate set of circumstances in earlier life, I used to be wound up tighter than your gran's perm. Shades of PTSD, I believe looking back.

I've mellowed so much in recent years, I can hardly believe it! Jaysus, I've come a long way. Becoming a parent was one of the big things that put me on that path.

Coincidentally, I woke up from my afternoon doze today, and I just had this sense of perfect peace and happiness - it was as if while I was sleeping everything became crystal clear and in balance and proportion. It was just feeling that there is nothing to this life but this time, my little life is so insignificant and a pure gift from the universe, the world has been turning forever before I came along and will carry on forever after I've gone. Which means that nothing I do matters all that much, no fcuk up in the world is all that important or worth worrying about. Life is just to be savoured while it lasts - that's it!

I feel free.

And no, I haven't been smoking anything!

holystungun9 · 19-04-2014 09:24PM

I used to be soo diplomatic in the past. I am still sensitive if necessary but I really cut straight to the chase now.
I have come to realise that some of my friends come to me specifically because I give sensible but no bull sh1t answers to whatever they ask.
It pains to me hear others dilly dally and waste so much of their breath without saying anything.
We rarely have meetings at work thank jebus because as Karl Pilkington put it, "it's like dung beetles pushing sh1t around a room". Yes, everyone needs to chip in, all angles need to be looked at, etc., but fek sake let's actually cut the nonsense out, do this step by step, makes some decisions and move the hell on! My last boss/manager (now demoted) was the least proactive person I have ever met.

Larianne · 19-04-2014 09:27PM

Don't think my personality has changed too much.
Less introverted, more extroverted.
Less prudish, more willing to try new things and openminded.

que pasa · 19-04-2014 09:29PM

10 years ago I was much more confident and friendly. I had a large group of friends and always did what I was told. I was a boy-scout type and always avoided fights.

Nowadays I dabble in a bit of crime here and there, get into arguments with pretty much anybody and despise authority figures to the extent where no one will hire me.

I'm sexually promiscuous, I've contracted chlamydia around 4 times the past two years and given it to my girlfriend twice. I've ended up in court more than my fair share of times and had an arrest warrant issued for me once.

I owe the social welfare over 2,000 euros because I was caught working and signing. I owe the Bank of Ireland 7,500 euros which they will never see because like most bankers of the country, I gave them the 'two fingers'.

I value money over friendship and I think life is a total joke.

Micky Dolenz · 19-04-2014 09:31PM

When I was a young man, I had the world at my feet. There were endless possibilities and many roads that needed to be travelled. I had fire in my belly and ice in my mind.

These days I like a cup of tea before bed and maybe a game of bridge at the weekend.

Dravokivich · 19-04-2014 09:32PM

Not so much changed, but developed over the last 10 years yeah. But then again, ten years ago I was 19, so I had a lot ahead of me to figure out, or so I thought. Turns out its much easier being the fool than naive.

SPM1959 · 19-04-2014 09:32PM

Like others, far more confident + mature than I was.
I really wish though that I could back to that period of my life with the mind set I have now. I would do things so much different..

que pasa · 19-04-2014 09:35PM

SPM1959 wrote: »

Like others, far more confident + mature than I was.
I really wish though that I could back to that period of my life with the mind set I have now. I would do things so much different..

The famous last words of those who never lived.

maryishere · 19-04-2014 09:35PM

I am more confident than 10 years ago. I think that having lived and worked in Australia and having work colleagues out there helped broaden my mind.

Larianne · 19-04-2014 09:36PM

SPM1959 wrote: »

Like others, far more confident + mature than I was.
I really wish though that I could back to that period of my life with the mind set I have now. I would do things so much different..

But sure all that period in your life made to get you how you are now in your life!

SPM1959 · 19-04-2014 09:41PM

que pasa wrote: »

The famous last words of those who never lived.

Everyone has some regrets I think. Even those who 'have lived'.

lukesmom · 19-04-2014 09:43PM

10 years ago I was 24 and was Lukesmom.
10 years later I am 34 and still Lukesmom.

so no change.

Legs.Eleven · 19-04-2014 09:47PM

Not really tbh. I was almost 24 years old 10 years ago. One thing I've accepted as an inevitable fact of life is that not everyone will like me. The idea that someone didn't like me 10 years ago upset me and made me feel worse about myself but now I genuinely don't care. You can't please everyone and you'll kill yourself trying. I'm probably more serious now than I was as well.

que pasa · 19-04-2014 09:47PM

SPM1959 wrote: »

Everyone has some regrets I think. Even those who 'have lived'.

Just because you're old doesn't mean you can't change that.

The problem with age is that you become less naive with education and more pessimistic.

A wise man once said; ''The optimism of the will must overcome the pessimism of the intellect.''

And therein lies your solution.

holystungun9 · 19-04-2014 09:47PM

Larianne wrote: »

Don't think my personality has changed too much.
Less introverted, more extroverted.
Less prudish, more willing to try new things and openminded.

:eek: PM sent! :pac:

Mariasofia · 19-04-2014 09:52PM

Im definately more chilled than I was 10 years ago.
Actually Im so laid back now Im practically horizontal and I dont sweat the small stuff anymore!!

Busted Flat. · 19-04-2014 09:52PM

que pasa wrote: »

Just because you're old doesn't mean you can't change that.

The problem with age is that you become less naive with education and more pessimistic.

A wise man once said; ''The optimism of the will must overcome the pessimism of the intellect.''

And therein lies your solution.

Would it be better to have your porridge first, than try and take that on board.

Stavros Murphy · 19-04-2014 09:57PM

lukesmom wrote: »

10 years ago I was 24 and was Lukesmom.
10 years later I am 34 and still Lukesmom.

so no change.

Is Luke turning out the way you hoped? I'm not being nasty, I'm just genuinely interested. My missus was a single parent before we met and she kinda saw herself as *****Mom, as opposed to just herself. I think now she sees herself as just that, herself.

Larianne · 19-04-2014 10:02PM

holystungun9 wrote: »

:eek: PM sent! :pac:

PM is delayed I think.

Worksforyou · 19-04-2014 10:12PM

People are the same deep down I think or even not deep down just a little bit down. Aren't our personalities formed by the time we're 3? I don't think we ever change, maybe to the outside World a little but have the same morals and stuff.
Jesus what a load of crap, I don't have a clue what I'm talking about, the same as when I was 3 so you see I've proved my point in a way.
I think I'll just pm Larianne instead.

Micky Dolenz · 19-04-2014 10:21PM

Jaysus, Larianne's inbox will be stuffed this evening.

Larianne · 19-04-2014 10:23PM

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

Jaysus, Larianne's inbox will be stuffed this evening.

I weep...

playedalive · 19-04-2014 10:36PM

Hmmm. 10 years ago, I would have been 13 and in 1st year of Secondary. Based on that alone, I would say my personality has definitely changed in a lot of ways. But I guess it's to be expected. I was incredibly shy in school. I literally spoke to very few people and was somewhat content in my own company. Then, when I got to college, I gradually became more of a people person with a tendency to chat and smile a bit more.

19-04-2014 10:36PM

10 years ago I was 14 and an extremely naive, sheltered teenager who had gone through puberty without developing any sort of sexual interest in anyone. So yeah I've definitely changed a lot since then.

I've changed a good bit in the past five years too though. It's also been roughly five years since I was first diagnosed with depression, yet throughout that period I've also become a bit more outgoing, a bit more experimental and a LOT more hedonistic. I still have self-esteem issues and lack confidence a lot but I'm getting slightly better.

Also five years ago I wasn't even fully sure of my sexuality. Nowadays I'm pretty ok with being gay and more recently, out of nowhere, I've developed a massive kinky side that I'm desperate to explore. So you could say that's a big change as well! :pac:

HotHHead · 19-04-2014 10:38PM

10 years ago I was pregnant with my first son, just bought my first house and putting up with a ****load of nonsense from my x who I thankfully kicked to the curb 9 years or so ago!

I definately cared what people thought about me, maybe tryed to act like others to fit in to what I though was normal. Now I'm just me, like me or feck off...

I think in general MOST of us mature as we get older!

whirlpool · 19-04-2014 11:05PM

Robson Lobson wrote: »

Your personality is the "pretend not to care about anything" personality.

I have a personality, it's just not as big as it used to be because the amount of **** I care about has decreased a lot.

I swear I have one :cool:

whirlpool · 19-04-2014 11:11PM

Worksforyou wrote: »

People are the same deep down I think or even not deep down just a little bit down. Aren't our personalities formed by the time we're 3? I don't think we ever change, maybe to the outside World a little but have the same morals and stuff.
Jesus what a load of crap, I don't have a clue what I'm talking about, the same as when I was 3 so you see I've proved my point in a way.
I think I'll just pm Larianne instead.

00:28

Smidge · 19-04-2014 11:28PM

10 years ago I was 28 and I would say I have changed.
Mellowed would be one way to put it I suppose.
I don't make excuses for people anymore and don't stress about the people who need excuse made for them. Someone else can do that for them, not my concern anymore

I try to identify the things that used to make me nuts and not let them do that anymore. That in itself is worth the ten years. No more bruises on forehead from brick wall :pac:

holystungun9 · 19-04-2014 11:38PM

holystungun9 wrote: »

:eek: PM sent! :pac:

Larianne wrote: »

PM is delayed I think.

That PM was delayed in the same way that I plan to delay my orgasm being the kind and considerate lover that I am. :cool:

Has your personality changed in the last 10 years?

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