What is your current life struggle?

Benny_Cake · 15-04-2014 05:40PM

Life is pretty good at the moment. I've a home that I can pay the mortgage on (for now), I'm getting married later this year with a great honeymoon coming up after that. I've become involved in a number of things outside of work which I find fulfilling and enjoyable - for too long I was in the habit of going straight home and doing nothing for the evening.

Two areas that need some attention - my job bores the he'll of of me and I've been doing the same thing for too long. It's permanent and pensionable, which is nice and I certainly can't afford to give it up, but I'd like to transfer to a completely different section. That's unlikely to happen anytime soon though. The second is to develop a consistent fitness routine. I get off to a great start with hiking etc, but can't seem to maintain it.

ThirdMan · 15-04-2014 05:45PM

byrned17 wrote: »

Read 'Intuitive Eating' and see what you think. It's changed my life and things are on the up.

Thanks for the tip. I'll be sure to read into it.

I'm a text-book binge eater. So I know what my problem is. I'm also obsessive when it comes to behavioural patterns, both good and bad. If I take an interest in something I max it out. I can, and have, lived as a hard-core vegan for months on end, simply because I was interested in the lifestyle. I can also pack on muscle when I'm interested in lifting weights, or slim right down when I'm interested in long-distance running. The past 15 years of my life have been characterised by various interests that totally consume me and effect my body shape and level of health. Unfortunately for me I'm currently 'interested' in trying new beers, trying new foods, watching movies, reading books and studying. Basically anything that involves sitting down.

loalae · 15-04-2014 05:46PM

Arranging to move to the UK - there's a lot of organisation involved, particularly in my area of work!

Also ALL my friends are either preparing for babies, organising their weddings, or buying houses with their husbands/fiances - I'm extremely single!

I am pie · 15-04-2014 05:55PM

If I could just untether Ireland from it's current location and drift it it a good few thousand miles south west I'd be happy out. 14 hr flights home are a major inconvenience. My salary is now worth nothing in Ireland also, but I'm ok with that. 6 month summer vs money. Summer won.

Call Me Jimmy · 15-04-2014 05:59PM

How cool is Buenos aires on a scale from 1 to deadly?

Ficheall · 15-04-2014 06:03PM

Candie wrote: »

Getting through my viva with my soul and my sanity intact. I'm dying of stress.

I spent almost five years worrying about my viva at the end, because there were so many questions they could have asked that could have easily tripped me and ended up costing me everything I'd worked for. Then viva day came and I was giddy with excitement - one way or the other I was finished working on the PhD and worrying about it. I gave the best presentation I've ever given, the question session afterwards was just like a chat and they didn't ask me any difficult questions, and then I was free*!!!

So don't stress about it - you've the hardest part of the work done, and it looks really bad on them if you fail, so everyone will do their utmost not to let that happen. Be grand!

*I've since started a postdoc which I'm not enjoying at all, and don't have the balls to quit, but that's another story...

lily09 · 15-04-2014 06:12PM

My current life struggle is that i have my first apt with the pregnancy loss clinic this week after 3 miscarraiges in 8 months. Each one has slowly broken me down but I believe things will get better.

Gi joe! · 15-04-2014 06:17PM

At the moment it would be my love life. Since cutting down on drinking/clubbing I've been finding it so hard to do, when I am out at a club/bar I sometimes feel like a creep approaching women when I'm sober.

Apart from that things are pretty great, I have a half decent job, a loving family and my health(mental especially!)

Compared to some of the other posts in this thread I have very little to complain about!

I am pie · 15-04-2014 06:23PM

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

How cool is Buenos aires on a scale from 1 to deadly?

Somewhere in between most entertaining city in the world and the most frustrating city in the world. If it had a personality it would be subject to some unpredictable mood swings. Glorious and terrible, beautiful and ugly, incredibly friendly & hostile... all before I reach the office in the morning.

I love it, but it's not for the faint hearted. Spanish is a must and so is a DIY attitude. The drama makes life interesting, for me. Not for lovers of the quiet life, only for people who manage stress well !

Penny Tration · 15-04-2014 06:30PM

Only real struggle at the moment is making time to see my bf.

Working ridiculous hours at the moment because my colleague is out til next month, combined with looking after my mam (she's disabled). It's starting to take a toll on me. I'm fine with a lack of sleep when I'm on 4 day weeks in work, but on 6 day weeks, trying to look after her, see him, see my friends and find time to do the basics like eat and shower - I'm struggling. Just have to get through this month and it'll get better. It's making me very tired and snappy, which I don't like. Snapped at my mam the day before yesterday and I feel awful over it.

sock puppet · 15-04-2014 06:31PM

Garrigai wrote: »

6 months into a three and a half year contract and I hate my job

Auditor I presume? At least busy season is over.

upstairs for coffee · 15-04-2014 06:41PM

Lazy, lack of discipline, red bull cravings (at least 1 a day at this stage), poor college student when it comes to studying...grrr

FullblownRose · 15-04-2014 06:47PM

Dealing with someone who is basically very selfish and inconsiderate and demanding and trying to live some kind of life of my own at the same time.

Duff · 15-04-2014 06:49PM

My thesis. I hate everyone and I hope the sun explodes.

Rothko · 15-04-2014 06:50PM

Dealing with social anxiety and trying to lose weight

beano345 · 15-04-2014 06:52PM

Saving to travel south east Asia again and teach english,although I've been there before the teaching part will be new to me.

Galwayguy35 · 15-04-2014 06:53PM

Money problems, going bald and trying to get myself fit again, although reading some of the things other people here have to deal with I ain't got much to complain about.

Czarcasm · 15-04-2014 06:53PM

I used to be terrible for my inability to say 'no' to people, and then I got good at it when I started to tell myself it was ok to say no to people and it was ok to be selfish, take time out and concentrate on putting myself first.

But it's slowly creeping back into my life again now this inability to say no to people, because I'm not happy leaving stuff unfinished, incomplete, or "putting it off till tomorrow" (I have other shìt planned for tomorrow already), and I know if I don't get it under control and implement a proper time management system and stop taking on shìt, I'll snap, again, and then I'll get bored not doing stuff, and then I'll throw myself into stuff again because I'm afraid that they'll get someone else to do the job and that person will make a balls of it.

I hate the control-freak, micro-managing, people pleasing perfectionist nature of my personality that preaches that there's nothing wrong with failure, yet I'm shìte at taking my own advice.

Knowing **** and getting control over it is what I'm struggling with right now. Also cursing like a sailor - it's vulgar, uncouth, unnecessary, and I'm struggling with cutting it out of my vocabulary.

Donkey Oaty · 15-04-2014 06:59PM

Czarcasm wrote: »

Also cursing like a sailor

"Billions of bilious blue blistering barnacles!" - Captain Haddock.

Or better still, come up with some new ones. Now there's a thread waiting to happen.

Kitty6277 · 15-04-2014 07:02PM

I want to start learning to drive but it's expensive and I can't afford it :rolleyes:

Actually, I can't afford anything in general.

KimmyKims · 15-04-2014 07:05PM

My health is shockingly bad as of late. When i had my operation to remove cancer back in 2012 i thought a few months of recovery and i will be ok. That was wishful thinking. The long term side effects that have resulted from that operation affect me everyday. I pick up every illness going and i just generally feel woeful some days....

But, im alive ( thanks to my oncologist ) and im here for my two children so i can live with it.

Galwayguy35 · 15-04-2014 07:15PM

Kitty6277 wrote: »

I want to start learning to drive but it's expensive and I can't afford it :rolleyes:

Actually, I can't afford anything in general.

Maybe your mother or father could teach you?

carolinespring · 15-04-2014 07:19PM

Self employed business stress. Feel like a debt collector half the time.

Gheebag · 15-04-2014 07:25PM

Now it's trying to stop myself from ringing my ex.Oh God.

carraig2 · 15-04-2014 07:28PM

Problems with weight, alcohol and depression. All 3 are linked.
Feel bad reading other people's posts. The solutions to my problems lie with me and I just won't do it.

Kitty6277 · 15-04-2014 07:30PM

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Maybe your mother or father could teach you?

True, still have to do the theory test though.

Arthur Beesley · 15-04-2014 07:36PM

On the DART at the moment, I have an itchy arse but can't give it a good scratch.

markfinn · 15-04-2014 07:39PM

shamrock55 wrote: »

Not being able to get a job is really getting to me now, im fed up sending out cvs, i dont know what more i can do

I hear ya. Job due to disappear in less than a fortnight... Loadsa recruiters, no actual jobs :-/

c_man · 15-04-2014 07:44PM

I feel pretty lonely most of the time tbh.

Donkey Oaty · 15-04-2014 07:46PM

carraig2 wrote: »

Problems with weight, alcohol and depression. All 3 are linked.
Feel bad reading other people's posts. The solutions to my problems lie with me and I just won't do it.

You won't want to hear this, but the truth is that by posting about it you are already taking control of the situation.

A tiny nudge in the right direction is all you need to give yourself, not overnight solutions.

That suggestion goes for the guy on the Dart with the itchy arse as well.

What is your current life struggle?

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