What is your current life struggle?

Tokyo

Seeing as we regularly have threads about obesity, depression, smoking and drinking, etc on the front page, what's something you're having trouble with in life? Doesn't matter if it's small or large, frivolous or serious, can be anything you want.

My current life struggle is the struggle to get fit again. I came back home to Ireland recently from a quite active lifestyle, but in the last few months I've been as lazy as sin, and have put on a few kilos in the process. I used to be able to stay fit from day-to-day activity, but whether it's age, or lifestyle, or both, for the first time in my life I've actually needed to start a proper exercise routine in order to keep the weight off, and my fitness up. And it's something that I find very hard to keep motivated enough to stick to. Haven't turned my back on it yet thankfully, but there have been mornings where I was sorely tempted to pull the duvet over me and go back to sleep. What keeps me going is knowing that my father managed to find the willpower to get fit again in his 50's rather than end up in an early grave, and I don't want to find myself having to make the same choice myself someday.

What about you? Air your life's struggle. Get it off your chest! Maybe get some words of support!

ScummyMan

Exams in 3 weeks. B@stard sun.

Garrigai

6 months into a three and a half year contract and I hate my job

Mahogany Gaspipe

It's a woman as usual.

It's always trying to get with one, or away from one. But mostly trying to get with one.

Maximus Alexander

Resolving my constant sleep deficit. Figuring out what career to change into and how to go about it before it's too late.

All good apart from that really.

Merkin

Having to practically to do Harry Houdini contortions in an attempt to get into my knickers - I'm six months pregnant and Baby Merkin hinders my usual flexibility somewhat.

LizzieJones

Trying to lose many pounds. I also am awaiting surgery for a medical condition.

snaphook

I'm a late developer in terms of driving.
Currently jumping through the hoops in order to get a license.

With the evenings longer, I really regret not learning earlier.
Making up for it now though but it's a frustrating process.

The Backwards Man

Have a big dinner now and a light bite later or a light bite now and a big dinner later.

SEPT 23 1989

it would be easier to list off things that are not a struggle at the moment

but tomorrow is another day

whitewave

Final year (hopefully) of my PhD....it's slowly destroying my soul

131spanner

Trying to cram 12 weeks worth of college work in 3 weeks. With the sun shining.

That and recovering from an operation on torn cartilage in my knee. Busy, busy, busy! :P

cactuspaw

No job, no money (theres €3.20 in my bank account), cant get a job, cant afford to go to interviews, cant afford to have friends or keep in contact with anyone, have no social life, cant afford food or any sort of living so spend most of my time at home on the net, social welfare barely covers the rent for my house in Dublin and moving home would just not be an option as any time spent at home at the moment is hell with family constantly watching my every move and asking everything I do, I feel like im 16 again asking for permission to go to a disco!

yeah, just need a job really...

Just finished my MSc dissertation (won't get the result for a few months and I'm not taking it for granted that it'll pass) and am heading back home tomorrow 'cause I can't afford to do anything else. Home is rural and I haven't learned to drive yet 'cause I could never really afford it.

So I'm gonna be struggling with social isolation and a period of unemployment for who knows how long. This to add to general depression and self-esteem issues over weight I just can't seem to lose.....the next few months are gonna be fun.

shamrock55

Not being able to get a job is really getting to me now, im fed up sending out cvs, i dont know what more i can do

5live

My current struggle involves constant arguing with an insurance company to cover the deficit in repairs of 15k after storm Darwin:mad:

iamanengine

6 exams coming up in a week, stresssssssss.

Alf. A. Male

Trying to forget the last woman who let me down and find the next one. The rest of my life is pretty sweet though, so I can't really call it a struggle.

howamidifferent

Lack of money...

not1but4

Last week: Trying to find somewhere to live after going to endless viewings.

This week: Work drying up and may have to jump ship.

Next week: Who knows.

Once one thing gets fixed another problem props up.

professore

cactuspaw wrote: »

No job, no money (theres €3.20 in my bank account), cant get a job, cant afford to go to interviews, cant afford to have friends or keep in contact with anyone, have no social life, cant afford food or any sort of living so spend most of my time at home on the net, social welfare barely covers the rent for my house in Dublin and moving home would just not be an option as any time spent at home at the moment is hell with family constantly watching my every move and asking everything I do, I feel like im 16 again asking for permission to go to a disco!

yeah, just need a job really...

You're about €29,996.80 better off than me in that case

bijou

shamrock55 wrote: »

Not being able to get a job is really getting to me now, im fed up sending out cvs, i dont know what more i can do

+1....... same as this

professore

Current struggle is having an elderly mum living alone, 2 hours drive away, needing 2 new hips and not being able to take care of her and having no money to pay for home help - assuming she would let them in the door, which is unlikely. Her giving out to me over the phone all the time doesn't help.

I'd say to the people with no money - it's not a big problem if it's only yourself you have to take care of. I've been broke most of my adult life. There are much worse things. Try to avoid getting into debt at all costs. If you're young, get out there and start living. You will have plenty of time when you're older to feel sorry for yourself.

Nesta99

The way that work gets in the way of living my life - and the 12000 words worth of reports to be done, damn continuous professional development. Curse those who thought of that one and anybody who refers to reflective practice!

readyletsgo

Looking after a very difficult alzheimer's father for the past 3 years. I love him to bits of course, but my life has stopped, to look after him. Pisses me off no end, but I'm his son and thats what son's do, isn't it? Thank god my brother lives close by.

What I would give to have exams coming up

miss-p

whitewave wrote: »

Final year (hopefully) of my PhD....it's slowly destroying my soul

Good god I know exactly how you feel! It's been my "final year" for faaaar too long...
Plus the whole figuring out what I want to do next...now that's a whole new bag of fun

Getting through my viva with my soul and my sanity intact. I'm dying of stress.

Seaneh

Finishing one college and getting into another one are pretty much my struggles right now. Getting final assignments done, studying for exams and attending interviews for the next course I want to do.

That said, I spent today at an indoor activity centre playing in ball pools, slides, a bungee climbing tower thingy and obstacle courses, so I guess it ain't all bad.
‪#‎youthwork‬

deseil

Working my ass off and still broke!
wishing someone could figure out what the hell is wrong with my mouth and throat 1 year 7 different medications 5 doctors and an ent specialist later and everyones still clueless.

PizzamanIRL

cactuspaw wrote: »

No job, no money (theres €3.20 in my bank account), cant get a job, cant afford to go to interviews, cant afford to have friends or keep in contact with anyone, have no social life, cant afford food or any sort of living so spend most of my time at home on the net, social welfare barely covers the rent for my house in Dublin and moving home would just not be an option as any time spent at home at the moment is hell with family constantly watching my every move and asking everything I do, I feel like im 16 again asking for permission to go to a disco!

yeah, just need a job really...

All I see is excuses. Can't can't can't can't can't.

Pumpkinseeds

Struggling to get in shape. I really have let myself get shockingly unfit. I'm waiting for treatment for a medical problem and the potential side effects of that freak me out. I'm also waiting for surgery if the other treatment option doesn't work and that's another nightmare.

Losing weight will make a big difference to both courses of treatment, but I've begun to realise that I've been subconsciously sabotaging myself by not taking the weight loss routine more seriously, in order to avoid the treatment. Have to get my ass in gear.

Ann Landers

Losing weight. Tis hard, tis very hard. Yeah, yeah, I know, eat less, move more. But you need to go through sustained periods of hunger and it is a long, looooong process where for most of it, you'll still look overweight even if you're consistently losing. Fun times!

I'm getting there, though.

Oh, and exams that I am really struggling to find the motivation to study for.

DeltaWhite

Hmmmm

I HATE my job, feel like a complete failure in what I do. Have no drive or ambition to fix this problem...

I would honestly cut my right arm off if it meant I would not smoke anymore HATE it and again - have no drive or ambition to give it up.


FML... if I could eradicate those 2 issues, the long list of others would be a sinch to sort out

Ash.J.Williams

cactuspaw wrote: »

No job, no money (theres €3.20 in my bank account), cant get a job, cant afford to go to interviews, cant afford to have friends or keep in contact with anyone, have no social life, cant afford food or any sort of living so spend most of my time at home on the net, social welfare barely covers the rent for my house in Dublin and moving home would just not be an option as any time spent at home at the moment is hell with family constantly watching my every move and asking everything I do, I feel like im 16 again asking for permission to go to a disco!

yeah, just need a job really...

same here and i have a decent job!

Call Me Jimmy

Ah not as objectively serious as a lot of other stuff here but I'd have to say the ould baldingness. My personality changed completely as I lost confidence and became even more of a recluse than I was before. I felt like I was looking too old for my personality and I couldn't be myself anymore. I'd have to start reading newspapers on a sunday morning etc.

I know for a fact that personality/confidence are what normal sound people are attracted to but I became obsessed and lost social fluency. I'm a bit more okay with it now, and have had a return to form socially but I'm going to find it hard to believe (not saying this for sympathy simply true) someone really fancies me on a physical level.

Plus I'm a guy so there's the feeling that we're not supposed to have these feelings/thoughts and just get on with it. It has deeply affected me, but I realise objectively it's not a big deal.

Knex*

My worries are trivial, and right now I am extremely thankful of that. I just have to try and remember it while it lasts.

Edit: Only seeing Corvo's post now. If anything could reinforce the above, that's it. Have had some close friends in the past commit suicide, and they were pretty young too. Depression is a horrible, horrible thing.

You have my empathy, and I hope that you can move on and progress, and get the help you need, I genuinely do. One day you may well look back and be eternally grateful to your Dad for finding you when he did. I hope so, anyway.

Il Trap

whitewave wrote: »

Final year (hopefully) of my PhD....it's slowly destroying my soul

Here, here. Same. The past year especially has been nothing but toil and drudgery. Absolutely hating the thing now. Eight weeks and counting till the Viva and out ta f*ck!

FullblownRose

''Things rarely go according to ones youthful, heroic master plans''

Merkin

Mike.ie - are you touting for business in Personal Issues?

Corvo

Tried a few things, mostly at the request of others but found no joy, especially in the public system and I am becoming more and more disillusioned with the whole thing.

It's kind of simple as this, I'll come out of it or I won't! But that's life.

Call Me Jimmy

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

I'm a bit more okay with it now, and have had a return to form socially but I'm going to find it hard to believe (not saying this for sympathy simply true) someone really fancies me on a physical level.

If girls didn't like the baldies then Jason Statham would be just another guy. He's not, he's a sex symbol.

Cut it very tight or shave it. The only thing that looks bad is bald denial, but a bare head hardly ever is an issue with a girl. Baldies can be hot, and that should be your mantra.

Never put me off anyway.

stop animal cruelty

Relationships, all of them.

FullblownRose

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Ah not as objectively serious as a lot of other stuff here but I'd have to say the ould baldingness. My personality changed completely as I lost confidence and became even more of a recluse than I was before. I felt like I was looking too old for my personality and I couldn't be myself anymore. I'd have to start reading newspapers on a sunday morning etc.

I know for a fact that personality/confidence are what normal sound people are attracted to but I became obsessed and lost social fluency. I'm a bit more okay with it now, and have had a return to form socially but I'm going to find it hard to believe (not saying this for sympathy simply true) someone really fancies me on a physical level.

Plus I'm a guy so there's the feeling that we're not supposed to have these feelings/thoughts and just get on with it. It has deeply affected me, but I realise objectively it's not a big deal.

Hey, Call Me Jimmy, two words: Jason Statham! And Patrick Stewart

Tasden

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Ah not as objectively serious as a lot of other stuff here but I'd have to say the ould baldingness. My personality changed completely as I lost confidence and became even more of a recluse than I was before. I felt like I was looking too old for my personality and I couldn't be myself anymore. I'd have to start reading newspapers on a sunday morning etc.

I know for a fact that personality/confidence are what normal sound people are attracted to but I became obsessed and lost social fluency. I'm a bit more okay with it now, and have had a return to form socially but I'm going to find it hard to believe (not saying this for sympathy simply true) someone really fancies me on a physical level.

Plus I'm a guy so there's the feeling that we're not supposed to have these feelings/thoughts and just get on with it. It has deeply affected me, but I realise objectively it's not a big deal.

I know how you feel. I had alopecia a while back and it sucked. And as a girl who always styled my hair and stuff it was difficult to feel like myself with ****ty hair. Its not any lesser than anyone else's issues, its your struggle, it bothers you so it doesn't matter how it looks objectively or that its not a big deal to other people, it is to you.

Maximus Alexander

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Ah not as objectively serious as a lot of other stuff here but I'd have to say the ould baldingness. My personality changed completely as I lost confidence and became even more of a recluse than I was before. I felt like I was looking too old for my personality and I couldn't be myself anymore. I'd have to start reading newspapers on a sunday morning etc.

I know for a fact that personality/confidence are what normal sound people are attracted to but I became obsessed and lost social fluency. I'm a bit more okay with it now, and have had a return to form socially but I'm going to find it hard to believe (not saying this for sympathy simply true) someone really fancies me on a physical level.

Plus I'm a guy so there's the feeling that we're not supposed to have these feelings/thoughts and just get on with it. It has deeply affected me, but I realise objectively it's not a big deal.

Have you tried giving the head a shave? I think it's a much better look than the balding pattern and there's plenty of women out there who love a bald man.

Call Me Jimmy

Candie wrote: »

If girls didn't like the baldies then Jason Statham would be just another guy. He's not, he's a sex symbol.

Cut it very tight or shave it. The only thing that looks bad is bald denial, but a bare head hardly ever is an issue with a girl. Baldies can be hot, and that should be your mantra.

Never put me off anyway.

Oh yea I do have it shaved all the time (not quite skinhead but as close as). I actually have always prefered it cut tight but it's just one of them things ye fixate on.

I do try and look for role models, say Kevin Spacey, Jack Nicholson etc. but that means I have to up my suave/personality and possibly become famous :P Also, I think in the back of my mind I assume from a distance people just might think 'scaldy' and that we all look the same and I won't have my own identity.

ShiftStorm

Fixing a long, deep-rooted, negative relationship with my body and food. And work is steadily going downhill so on the lookout for something else, trying to figure out what my dream job is and going for it.

Everything else is pretty great. I've loads to be thankful for

catallus

My only problem at the moment is finding the right mix of alcohol and barbiturates to moderate my command hallucinations. It's like playing a game of ping-pong with a demon.

errlloyd

Two people very close to me are seriously depressed, so I'm fighting for their mental health while trying to protect mine. Working for a startup, so just trying to balance things financially and hoping it all gets better.

Probably the most serious struggle of my my life.

SouthTippBass

I have to go through the whole moving house process again in the next two weeks. Moving into a house share with people I don't know, so you know what thats like, not looking forward to it. Expect a, my housemates a bastard thread in about three weeks.

ThirdMan

Studying for the final exams of my law degree, and then attempting to break into the legal profession despite having no Leaving Certificate, no contacts and no relevant experience. I'm almost 5 years into a long, hard, expensive journey that may not to lead anywhere.