What is your current life struggle?

Ann Landers · 15-04-2014 04:09PM

Losing weight. Tis hard, tis very hard. Yeah, yeah, I know, eat less, move more. But you need to go through sustained periods of hunger and it is a long, looooong process where for most of it, you'll still look overweight even if you're consistently losing. Fun times!

I'm getting there, though.

Oh, and exams that I am really struggling to find the motivation to study for.

DeltaWhite · 15-04-2014 04:09PM

Hmmmm

I HATE my job, feel like a complete failure in what I do. Have no drive or ambition to fix this problem...

I would honestly cut my right arm off if it meant I would not smoke anymore

HATE it and again - have no drive or ambition to give it up.

FML... if I could eradicate those 2 issues, the long list of others would be a sinch to sort out

Ash.J.Williams · 15-04-2014 04:15PM

cactuspaw wrote: »

No job, no money (theres €3.20 in my bank account), cant get a job, cant afford to go to interviews, cant afford to have friends or keep in contact with anyone, have no social life, cant afford food or any sort of living so spend most of my time at home on the net, social welfare barely covers the rent for my house in Dublin and moving home would just not be an option as any time spent at home at the moment is hell with family constantly watching my every move and asking everything I do, I feel like im 16 again asking for permission to go to a disco!

yeah, just need a job really...

same here and i have a decent job!

Call Me Jimmy · 15-04-2014 04:21PM

Ah not as objectively serious as a lot of other stuff here but I'd have to say the ould baldingness. My personality changed completely as I lost confidence and became even more of a recluse than I was before. I felt like I was looking too old for my personality and I couldn't be myself anymore. I'd have to start reading newspapers on a sunday morning etc.

I know for a fact that personality/confidence are what normal sound people are attracted to but I became obsessed and lost social fluency. I'm a bit more okay with it now, and have had a return to form socially but I'm going to find it hard to believe (not saying this for sympathy simply true) someone really fancies me on a physical level.

Plus I'm a guy so there's the feeling that we're not supposed to have these feelings/thoughts and just get on with it. It has deeply affected me, but I realise objectively it's not a big deal.

Knex* · 15-04-2014 04:24PM

My worries are trivial, and right now I am extremely thankful of that. I just have to try and remember it while it lasts.

Edit: Only seeing Corvo's post now. If anything could reinforce the above, that's it. Have had some close friends in the past commit suicide, and they were pretty young too. Depression is a horrible, horrible thing.

You have my empathy, and I hope that you can move on and progress, and get the help you need, I genuinely do. One day you may well look back and be eternally grateful to your Dad for finding you when he did. I hope so, anyway.

Il Trap · 15-04-2014 04:26PM

whitewave wrote: »

Final year (hopefully) of my PhD....it's slowly destroying my soul

Here, here. Same. The past year especially has been nothing but toil and drudgery. Absolutely hating the thing now. Eight weeks and counting till the Viva and out ta f*ck!

FullblownRose · 15-04-2014 04:27PM

''Things rarely go according to ones youthful, heroic master plans''

Merkin · 15-04-2014 04:27PM

Mike.ie - are you touting for business in Personal Issues?

Corvo · 15-04-2014 04:27PM

Tried a few things, mostly at the request of others but found no joy, especially in the public system and I am becoming more and more disillusioned with the whole thing.

It's kind of simple as this, I'll come out of it or I won't! But that's life.

15-04-2014 04:27PM

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

I'm a bit more okay with it now, and have had a return to form socially but I'm going to find it hard to believe (not saying this for sympathy simply true) someone really fancies me on a physical level.

If girls didn't like the baldies then Jason Statham would be just another guy. He's not, he's a sex symbol.

Cut it very tight or shave it. The only thing that looks bad is bald denial, but a bare head hardly ever is an issue with a girl. Baldies can be hot, and that should be your mantra.

Never put me off anyway.

stop animal cruelty · 15-04-2014 04:29PM

Relationships, all of them.

FullblownRose · 15-04-2014 04:30PM

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Ah not as objectively serious as a lot of other stuff here but I'd have to say the ould baldingness. My personality changed completely as I lost confidence and became even more of a recluse than I was before. I felt like I was looking too old for my personality and I couldn't be myself anymore. I'd have to start reading newspapers on a sunday morning etc.

I know for a fact that personality/confidence are what normal sound people are attracted to but I became obsessed and lost social fluency. I'm a bit more okay with it now, and have had a return to form socially but I'm going to find it hard to believe (not saying this for sympathy simply true) someone really fancies me on a physical level.

Plus I'm a guy so there's the feeling that we're not supposed to have these feelings/thoughts and just get on with it. It has deeply affected me, but I realise objectively it's not a big deal.

Hey, Call Me Jimmy, two words: Jason Statham!

And Patrick Stewart

Tasden · 15-04-2014 04:31PM

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Ah not as objectively serious as a lot of other stuff here but I'd have to say the ould baldingness. My personality changed completely as I lost confidence and became even more of a recluse than I was before. I felt like I was looking too old for my personality and I couldn't be myself anymore. I'd have to start reading newspapers on a sunday morning etc.

I know for a fact that personality/confidence are what normal sound people are attracted to but I became obsessed and lost social fluency. I'm a bit more okay with it now, and have had a return to form socially but I'm going to find it hard to believe (not saying this for sympathy simply true) someone really fancies me on a physical level.

Plus I'm a guy so there's the feeling that we're not supposed to have these feelings/thoughts and just get on with it. It has deeply affected me, but I realise objectively it's not a big deal.

I know how you feel. I had alopecia a while back and it sucked. And as a girl who always styled my hair and stuff it was difficult to feel like myself with ****ty hair. Its not any lesser than anyone else's issues, its your struggle, it bothers you so it doesn't matter how it looks objectively or that its not a big deal to other people, it is to you.

Maximus Alexander · 15-04-2014 04:33PM

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Ah not as objectively serious as a lot of other stuff here but I'd have to say the ould baldingness. My personality changed completely as I lost confidence and became even more of a recluse than I was before. I felt like I was looking too old for my personality and I couldn't be myself anymore. I'd have to start reading newspapers on a sunday morning etc.

I know for a fact that personality/confidence are what normal sound people are attracted to but I became obsessed and lost social fluency. I'm a bit more okay with it now, and have had a return to form socially but I'm going to find it hard to believe (not saying this for sympathy simply true) someone really fancies me on a physical level.

Plus I'm a guy so there's the feeling that we're not supposed to have these feelings/thoughts and just get on with it. It has deeply affected me, but I realise objectively it's not a big deal.

Have you tried giving the head a shave? I think it's a much better look than the balding pattern and there's plenty of women out there who love a bald man.

Call Me Jimmy · 15-04-2014 04:34PM

Candie wrote: »

If girls didn't like the baldies then Jason Statham would be just another guy. He's not, he's a sex symbol.

Cut it very tight or shave it. The only thing that looks bad is bald denial, but a bare head hardly ever is an issue with a girl. Baldies can be hot, and that should be your mantra.

Never put me off anyway.

Oh yea I do have it shaved all the time (not quite skinhead but as close as). I actually have always prefered it cut tight but it's just one of them things ye fixate on.

I do try and look for role models, say Kevin Spacey, Jack Nicholson etc. but that means I have to up my suave/personality and possibly become famous :P Also, I think in the back of my mind I assume from a distance people just might think 'scaldy' and that we all look the same and I won't have my own identity.

ShiftStorm · 15-04-2014 04:35PM

Fixing a long, deep-rooted, negative relationship with my body and food. And work is steadily going downhill so on the lookout for something else, trying to figure out what my dream job is and going for it.

Everything else is pretty great. I've loads to be thankful for

catallus · 15-04-2014 04:37PM

My only problem at the moment is finding the right mix of alcohol and barbiturates to moderate my command hallucinations. It's like playing a game of ping-pong with a demon.

errlloyd · 15-04-2014 04:40PM

Two people very close to me are seriously depressed, so I'm fighting for their mental health while trying to protect mine. Working for a startup, so just trying to balance things financially and hoping it all gets better.

Probably the most serious struggle of my my life.

SouthTippBass · 15-04-2014 04:43PM

I have to go through the whole moving house process again in the next two weeks. Moving into a house share with people I don't know, so you know what thats like, not looking forward to it. Expect a, my housemates a bastard thread in about three weeks.

ThirdMan · 15-04-2014 04:45PM

Studying for the final exams of my law degree, and then attempting to break into the legal profession despite having no Leaving Certificate, no contacts and no relevant experience. I'm almost 5 years into a long, hard, expensive journey that may not to lead anywhere.

SuperGrover · 15-04-2014 04:46PM

I keep playing GTA 5 at night instead of learning my music for the band.

I'm so dead in rehearsal tomorrow.

But, it's all coming to a head with Trevor and Michael and the FIB. Mission after mission. Can't. Put. Down.

lufties · 15-04-2014 04:50PM

Finding a woman I'm actually into and holding on to her, banks and trying mimimize getting shafted by them. Keeping away from drinking too much every day. They are 3 main ones at the moment.

ThirdMan · 15-04-2014 04:56PM

byrned17 wrote: »

Fixing a long, deep-rooted, negative relationship with my body and food.

That makes two of us. I'm up and down in weight the whole time. 18 months ago I was as fit as a fiddle, living an extremely healthy lifestyle and exercising 5 days a week. Now I'm 3 stone overweight, feeling very unhealthy and with no end in sight. Within a year I'll be back in shape, feeling great and thinking I've turned a corner. But it'll all go wrong again. And again. And again. And again.

Anyway, this pizza is just about ready...

LordNorbury · 15-04-2014 04:59PM

Being so gorgeous that they want to arrest me now Father.

Tokyo · 15-04-2014 05:00PM

Merkin wrote: »

Mike.ie - are you touting for business in Personal Issues?

Far from it - we get plenty of visitors as it is

Thankfully I'm at a place in my life where my hardships are over for now, but have gone through my fair share of loss in the past - a sister, girlfriend, and the two people that raised me, plus illness, and that sadly, is the abridged version for my family. Just spent the weekend with an uncle who's coming to terms with the fact that his wife is terminally ill and trying to lend support to him.

One thing that helped me through the not-so-fun days was knowing that there were people out there who had come through far worse, and knowing that I wasn't alone in getting through it. seemed like as good a reason for a thread as any

Lingua Franca · 15-04-2014 05:01PM

Living with and trying to get a diagnosis for a constant stomach complaint. It worsens at night so my sleeping patterns are screwed.

Gheebag · 15-04-2014 05:05PM

Trying to stay alive

weemcd · 15-04-2014 05:31PM

This thread rings true to the old saying that if you took all your troubles and put them in a pile, along with everyone elses and you could see what other people deal with, you would not be long taking your own back.

I have v. little in the way of struggle, I'm currently broke BUT starting a new job next month.

I haven't had much riding of late, BUT I'm improving on that front, new job, new place soon when I'm back on my feet and getting fit is all helping with that confidence that was lacking. Hello ladyee's

I hated my previous job and am glad to be away from it, it was genuinely my biggest problem, and even though I always thought that was the case, I wasn't sure if I was just making it into a bigger thing than it was. Turns out I'm 100% brighter and better off away from the place :cool:

ShiftStorm · 15-04-2014 05:34PM

ThirdMan wrote: »

That makes two of us. I'm up and down in weight the whole time. 18 months ago I was as fit as a fiddle, living an extremely healthy lifestyle and exercising 5 days a week. Now I'm 3 stone overweight, feeling very unhealthy and with no end in sight. Within a year I'll be back in shape, feeling great and thinking I've turned a corner. But it'll all go wrong again. And again. And again. And again.

Anyway, this pizza is just about ready...

Read 'Intuitive Eating' and see what you think. It's changed my life and things are on the up.

ShiftStorm · 15-04-2014 05:35PM

byrned17 wrote: »

Read 'Intuitive Eating' and see what you think. It's changed my life and things are on the up.

(but not the scales, thankfully!)

What is your current life struggle?

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