Are anniversaries important to you?

RoboRat · 10-04-2014 11:20AM #1

It was my wedding anniversary last night and I wanted to go training but the wife wanted to celebrate.

To me, anniversaries are just another day. I completely forgot last year and this year I am working a lot lately as I have a full time job plus I am working on my own start up company so I don't get to train as often as I would like.

I didn't go training in the end but is it just me or do any others feel the same? I am good to my wife all year - I do all the cooking, usually making 2 really nice dinners a week for her. I also do a lot of the house cleaning as I use it as exercise and I will get her nice things when I have a couple of quid to spare or just treat her to something nice. This is why I don't feel it necessary to celebrate these days.

Anybody else feel the same?!

danniemcq · 10-04-2014 11:23AM

well with that kinda attitude doubt you'll have that many more anniversaries to worry about it.

RoboRat · 10-04-2014 11:24AM

well with that kinda attitude doubt you'll have that many more anniversaries to worry about it.

Seriously? Would you rather be pampered all year or just once a year? What is so important about an anniversary?

Super-Rush · 10-04-2014 11:24AM

Its nice to mark the day and look back at all the good times spent together.

Canis Lupus · 10-04-2014 11:25AM

It's just one of those things that's important to women. I can barely remember my birthday never mind other dates. My GF has given up expecting me to remember

Teyla Emmagan · 10-04-2014 11:25AM

Never understood the fuss either. But then again I don't remember birthdays either. Every date I am supposed to remember goes into my phone, and if the alarm doesn't go off on that date there is no way it will occur to me otherwise. I have friends who from the moment they met have insisted on celebrating the anniversary of the day they met, or their first date, and all that guff. It's very egotistical IMO.

wretcheddomain · 10-04-2014 11:26AM

RoboRat wrote: »

Seriously? Would you rather be pampered all year or just once a year? What is so important about an anniversary?

It's an excuse to get out and do something different in much the same way St. Patrick's Day is nothing to do with celebrating him but is instead an excuse to get pissed.

RoboRat · 10-04-2014 11:27AM

Its nice to mark the day and look back at all the good times spent together.

But sure who does that? Most people have a dinner and maybe a drink or ten.

Gambas · 10-04-2014 11:27AM

I'd feel the same OP. Most years I've forgotten my anniversary completely. Luckily for me my OH is the same and most years it goes unnoticed. It holds no significance for me, we'ed been living together for years before getting married and as far as I'm concerned nothing changed that day.

10-04-2014 11:27AM

I'm really bad at remembering dates but I like the idea of celebrating them. Doesn't have to be on the specific day though, something close is fine
Like if the anniversary is thursday go out for a nice dinner on saturday or something

Thank goodness for calendar on my phone...

anncoates · 10-04-2014 11:29AM

Didn't do anything much this year but would always at least exchange small gifts and a card.

RoboRat · 10-04-2014 11:29AM

I'd feel the same OP. Most years I've forgotten my anniversary completely. Luckily for me my OH is the same and most years it goes unnoticed. It holds no significance for me, we'ed been living together for years before getting married and as far as I'm concerned nothing changed that day.

Bingo. We were together 7 years before we married, 3 of them living together. In times past there is significance but I just think its not as meaningful now.

Mr.McLovin · 10-04-2014 11:29AM

your married, its your anniversary, you'll get to have sex, take it while you can!

eviltwin · 10-04-2014 11:31AM

We don't celebrate ours, we were together a very long time before we got married so it seems a bit weird to us that our wedding date would have so much importance, did all the previous years not count for anything?

Ihatecuddles · 10-04-2014 11:31AM

It was our first anniversary of just being together in March, he wanted to celebrate the day we met, I wanted to celebrate when we became a couple.

Getting married next month so we'll just celebrate that every year with a nice meal in

RoboRat · 10-04-2014 11:37AM

Getting married next month so we'll just celebrate that every year with a nice meal in

See this is what puzzles me, I would cook something really nice once or twice a week, I am talking lots of prep and doing the whole restaurant style presentation so this wouldn't actually mean anything! I like to celebrate our relationship all year and not just one day.

danniemcq · 10-04-2014 11:52AM

RoboRat wrote: »

Seriously? Would you rather be pampered all year or just once a year? What is so important about an anniversary?

yup, I'm not a huge fan of anniversaries myself, even my own birthday is just an excuse to drink more than usual at a weekend, but i know anniversaries mean a lot to people so yeah i'd go that extra mile for that one day a year and skip the training.

It doesn't mean you have to dedicate the full 24 hours of that day to your SO but putting them above other stuff is a must.

Now I guess it depends on the training, is it training in a course you paid for, is it training where life and death come into it (fire brigade etc) was it training for a super de dooper important match against your rivals? or was it training like going for a run.

Ihatecuddles · 10-04-2014 11:53AM

RoboRat wrote: »

See this is what puzzles me, I would cook something really nice once or twice a week, I am talking lots of prep and doing the whole restaurant style presentation so this wouldn't actually mean anything! I like to celebrate our relationship all year and not just one day.

We do that too, the difference is we'd open wine on our anniversary :P

Badly Drunk Boy · 10-04-2014 12:00PM

bluewolf wrote: »

I'm really bad at remembering dates but I like the idea of celebrating them. Doesn't have to be on the specific day though, something close is fine
Like if the anniversary is thursday go out for a nice dinner on saturday or something

Thank goodness for calendar on my phone...

I'm the opposite. I'm really good at remembering dates but don't really like celebrating stuff. Also, I'm a partnerless, childless wretch who has nothing to celebrate anyway, so what's the point of living?

But seriously, I remember the stupidest of dates, but I still wouldn't be bothering doing anything about them. I note it in me head, then just tick it off.

Akrasia · 10-04-2014 12:04PM

You should all have been a genius like me.
We got married on Valentines day (2 birds one stone and impossible to forget)

Our first official date was at electric picnic many moons ago, so instead of wasting money on flowers and chocolates and the obligatory 'meal out'. I get to be the most romantic husband ever and still get to go to a 3 day music festival

anncoates · 10-04-2014 12:13PM

RoboRat wrote: »

I am talking lots of prep and doing the whole restaurant style presentationy

You dress as a waiter?

4zn76tysfajdxp · 10-04-2014 12:53PM

anncoates wrote: »

You dress as a waiter?

He charges her for eating.

Pumpkinseeds · 10-04-2014 01:49PM

OP pulling your weight around the house isn't an excuse to not celebrate your anniversary. Was it really worth making her feel like you don't care about it just so you could train? Jeez, don't count on too many more anniversaries if you can't be bothered to make the effort to make her feel special on the one day that really matters to her.

rainbow kirby · 10-04-2014 01:54PM

We do like to mark it - but our anniversary is December 30th, so it all ends up blending into the Christmas and New Year festivities!

cailinardthair · 10-04-2014 01:58PM

We don't make a big deal about our anniversary but we do go out for dinner as a treat. Nothing fancy, just to enjoy the night. Just nice really

10-04-2014 02:08PM

Does your wife not work outside the home?

BetterThanThou · 10-04-2014 02:12PM

Not married, but on a related note, I definitely agree, I hate those days you're "supposed" to go and be nice to someone just because. Recently, I was asked by someone if I bought my mother a gift for mother's day, and they were shocked when the answer was no. I'm a good son year round. I don't see why it matters if I don't buy my mother a box of chocolates she probably doesn't even want.

LynnGrace · 10-04-2014 02:16PM

Kinsley Nutritious Hairdresser wrote: »

He charges her for eating.

And expects a tip.

10-04-2014 02:16PM

LynnGrace wrote: »

And expects a tip.

But just the tip

Badly Drunk Boy · 10-04-2014 02:23PM

Akrasia wrote: »

You should all have been a genius like me.
We got married on Valentines day (2 birds one stone and impossible to forget)

Our first official date was at electric picnic many moons ago, so instead of wasting money on flowers and chocolates and the obligatory 'meal out'. I get to be the most romantic husband ever and still get to go to a 3 day music festival

Real genius would be doing as you say above, but finding somebody who was born on Valentine's Day. That's one fewer date to have to remember. Unless you forget Valentine's, your anniversary and his/her birthday all in one. :pac:

dee_mc · 10-04-2014 02:28PM

RoboRat wrote: »

Seriously? Would you rather be pampered all year or just once a year? What is so important about an anniversary?

This has quite possibly been said already, but why does it have to be a choice between the two? Most successful relationships I'm aware of consist of both partners treating each other well all year, and making a bit of an extra fuss of each other on anniversaries...

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