Are anniversaries important to you?

RoboRat

It was my wedding anniversary last night and I wanted to go training but the wife wanted to celebrate.

To me, anniversaries are just another day. I completely forgot last year and this year I am working a lot lately as I have a full time job plus I am working on my own start up company so I don't get to train as often as I would like.

I didn't go training in the end but is it just me or do any others feel the same? I am good to my wife all year - I do all the cooking, usually making 2 really nice dinners a week for her. I also do a lot of the house cleaning as I use it as exercise and I will get her nice things when I have a couple of quid to spare or just treat her to something nice. This is why I don't feel it necessary to celebrate these days.

Anybody else feel the same?!

danniemcq

well with that kinda attitude doubt you'll have that many more anniversaries to worry about it.

RoboRat

well with that kinda attitude doubt you'll have that many more anniversaries to worry about it.

Seriously? Would you rather be pampered all year or just once a year? What is so important about an anniversary?

Super-Rush

Its nice to mark the day and look back at all the good times spent together.

Canis Lupus

It's just one of those things that's important to women. I can barely remember my birthday never mind other dates. My GF has given up expecting me to remember

Teyla Emmagan

Never understood the fuss either. But then again I don't remember birthdays either. Every date I am supposed to remember goes into my phone, and if the alarm doesn't go off on that date there is no way it will occur to me otherwise. I have friends who from the moment they met have insisted on celebrating the anniversary of the day they met, or their first date, and all that guff. It's very egotistical IMO.

wretcheddomain

RoboRat wrote: »

Seriously? Would you rather be pampered all year or just once a year? What is so important about an anniversary?

It's an excuse to get out and do something different in much the same way St. Patrick's Day is nothing to do with celebrating him but is instead an excuse to get pissed.

RoboRat

Its nice to mark the day and look back at all the good times spent together.

But sure who does that? Most people have a dinner and maybe a drink or ten.

Gambas

I'd feel the same OP. Most years I've forgotten my anniversary completely. Luckily for me my OH is the same and most years it goes unnoticed. It holds no significance for me, we'ed been living together for years before getting married and as far as I'm concerned nothing changed that day.

I'm really bad at remembering dates but I like the idea of celebrating them. Doesn't have to be on the specific day though, something close is fine
Like if the anniversary is thursday go out for a nice dinner on saturday or something

Thank goodness for calendar on my phone...

anncoates

Didn't do anything much this year but would always at least exchange small gifts and a card.

RoboRat

I'd feel the same OP. Most years I've forgotten my anniversary completely. Luckily for me my OH is the same and most years it goes unnoticed. It holds no significance for me, we'ed been living together for years before getting married and as far as I'm concerned nothing changed that day.

Bingo. We were together 7 years before we married, 3 of them living together. In times past there is significance but I just think its not as meaningful now.

Mr.McLovin

your married, its your anniversary, you'll get to have sex, take it while you can!

eviltwin

We don't celebrate ours, we were together a very long time before we got married so it seems a bit weird to us that our wedding date would have so much importance, did all the previous years not count for anything?

Ihatecuddles

It was our first anniversary of just being together in March, he wanted to celebrate the day we met, I wanted to celebrate when we became a couple.

Getting married next month so we'll just celebrate that every year with a nice meal in

RoboRat

Getting married next month so we'll just celebrate that every year with a nice meal in

See this is what puzzles me, I would cook something really nice once or twice a week, I am talking lots of prep and doing the whole restaurant style presentation so this wouldn't actually mean anything! I like to celebrate our relationship all year and not just one day.

danniemcq

RoboRat wrote: »

Seriously? Would you rather be pampered all year or just once a year? What is so important about an anniversary?

yup, I'm not a huge fan of anniversaries myself, even my own birthday is just an excuse to drink more than usual at a weekend, but i know anniversaries mean a lot to people so yeah i'd go that extra mile for that one day a year and skip the training.

It doesn't mean you have to dedicate the full 24 hours of that day to your SO but putting them above other stuff is a must.

Now I guess it depends on the training, is it training in a course you paid for, is it training where life and death come into it (fire brigade etc) was it training for a super de dooper important match against your rivals? or was it training like going for a run.

Ihatecuddles

RoboRat wrote: »

See this is what puzzles me, I would cook something really nice once or twice a week, I am talking lots of prep and doing the whole restaurant style presentation so this wouldn't actually mean anything! I like to celebrate our relationship all year and not just one day.

We do that too, the difference is we'd open wine on our anniversary :P

Badly Drunk Boy

bluewolf wrote: »

I'm really bad at remembering dates but I like the idea of celebrating them. Doesn't have to be on the specific day though, something close is fine
Like if the anniversary is thursday go out for a nice dinner on saturday or something

Thank goodness for calendar on my phone...

I'm the opposite. I'm really good at remembering dates but don't really like celebrating stuff. Also, I'm a partnerless, childless wretch who has nothing to celebrate anyway, so what's the point of living?

But seriously, I remember the stupidest of dates, but I still wouldn't be bothering doing anything about them. I note it in me head, then just tick it off.

Akrasia

You should all have been a genius like me.
We got married on Valentines day (2 birds one stone and impossible to forget)

Our first official date was at electric picnic many moons ago, so instead of wasting money on flowers and chocolates and the obligatory 'meal out'. I get to be the most romantic husband ever and still get to go to a 3 day music festival

anncoates

RoboRat wrote: »

I am talking lots of prep and doing the whole restaurant style presentationy

You dress as a waiter?

4zn76tysfajdxp

anncoates wrote: »

You dress as a waiter?

He charges her for eating.

Pumpkinseeds

OP pulling your weight around the house isn't an excuse to not celebrate your anniversary. Was it really worth making her feel like you don't care about it just so you could train? Jeez, don't count on too many more anniversaries if you can't be bothered to make the effort to make her feel special on the one day that really matters to her.

rainbow kirby

We do like to mark it - but our anniversary is December 30th, so it all ends up blending into the Christmas and New Year festivities!

cailinardthair

We don't make a big deal about our anniversary but we do go out for dinner as a treat. Nothing fancy, just to enjoy the night. Just nice really

Does your wife not work outside the home?

BetterThanThou

Not married, but on a related note, I definitely agree, I hate those days you're "supposed" to go and be nice to someone just because. Recently, I was asked by someone if I bought my mother a gift for mother's day, and they were shocked when the answer was no. I'm a good son year round. I don't see why it matters if I don't buy my mother a box of chocolates she probably doesn't even want.

LynnGrace

Kinsley Nutritious Hairdresser wrote: »

He charges her for eating.

And expects a tip.

LynnGrace

LynnGrace wrote: »

And expects a tip.

But just the tip

Badly Drunk Boy

Akrasia wrote: »

You should all have been a genius like me.
We got married on Valentines day (2 birds one stone and impossible to forget)

Our first official date was at electric picnic many moons ago, so instead of wasting money on flowers and chocolates and the obligatory 'meal out'. I get to be the most romantic husband ever and still get to go to a 3 day music festival

Real genius would be doing as you say above, but finding somebody who was born on Valentine's Day. That's one fewer date to have to remember. Unless you forget Valentine's, your anniversary and his/her birthday all in one. :pac:

dee_mc

RoboRat wrote: »

Seriously? Would you rather be pampered all year or just once a year? What is so important about an anniversary?

This has quite possibly been said already, but why does it have to be a choice between the two? Most successful relationships I'm aware of consist of both partners treating each other well all year, and making a bit of an extra fuss of each other on anniversaries...

Capt'n Midnight

danniemcq wrote: »

well with that kinda attitude doubt you'll have that many more anniversaries to worry about it.

All you have to do is forget one, and you'll never be let forget again.

Or get married on your birthday. Easy to remember and presents.

Ilyana 2.0

I love birthdays, and I always try to get nice presents for my family and boyfriend because it's nice to be pampered a bit on your birthday.

We never celebrate our anniversary as it's right before Christmas, when I normally have exams and he has to work a lot. The next one is a biggish one though, so we might try do something for it. Maybe a takeaway :pac:

Tasden

They're not important as such but it would mean a lot to me if someone went to the bother of actually remembering /figuring out that the date was significant. But I wouldn't think anything of it if they didn't if that makes sense.

I'm a sap when it comes to stuff like that though, even when the boyfriend remembers something I said in passing I appreciate that he remembered, nice to know they care like.

kowloon

I can't remember these things, the calendar in outlook has saved me a lot of trouble. Mother's Day displays in shops and the likes also help.

Ghost Buster

RoboRat wrote: »

Seriously? Would you rather be pampered all year or just once a year? What is so important about an anniversary?

Its called romance. Kinda tried and tested and found to be important in marriages.

None of them are important.. Thankfully my girlfriend thinks the same.

Gongoozler

Ghost Buster wrote: »

Its called romance. Kinda tried and tested and found to be important in marriages.

That's not romance. That's just going with what society would make you believe every woman wants.

But she is your wife, you should know what she wants and needs, and as I think whoopsy was heading, maybe if she works at home she was maybe even looking for the excuse to get out and do something special.

Reading your partner is much more important than automated 'romance'.

zcorpian88

Well I like to acknowledge the day when it comes around and also spoil my other half on any normal day too when I'm more flushed than usual.

Feck it, life is too short, put a smile on your partners face on special days, women like a sentimental fellow and do it spontaneously on non important days when you can.

Would hate to live like a shrew.

Muise...

Badly Drunk Boy wrote: »

I'm the opposite. I'm really good at remembering dates but don't really like celebrating stuff. Also, I'm a partnerless, childless wretch who has nothing to celebrate anyway, so what's the point of living?

But seriously, I remember the stupidest of dates, but I still wouldn't be bothering doing anything about them. I note it in me head, then just tick it off.

Same. Fancy getting hitched next Leap Day?

LizzieJones

Only my birthday.

It's more important to be thought of, and treated thoughtfully, throughout the year, but it's nice to have milestones in relationships recognised and celebrated.

Ghost Buster

Gongoozler wrote: »

That's not romance. That's just going with what society would make you believe every woman wants.

But she is your wife, you should know what she wants and needs, and as I think whoopsy was heading, maybe if she works at home she was maybe even looking for the excuse to get out and do something special.

Reading your partner is much more important than automated 'romance'.

It kinda is romance. Its become societal because its such a basic fundamentally romantic thing to do. Im not saying we have to all go out and do a check list from Hallmark and Interflora but doing something to mark the milestones in a relationship is fluffy, trivial and utterly romantic.
If ya had to do this crap to win a heart ya need to do it to keep it.:D
Personally I love this stuff and am very inventive

Fox_In_Socks

No, they aren't important to me. I dislike attention paid to me, so haven't celebrated any birthday since I was about 9. 21st and 30th would have been absolutely cringeworthy affairs if I had them.

I'm single so don't have to mark anything like Valentines day/wedding/"day-we-met". Now, I do buy birthday/Christmas presents for immediate family and stuff, but again, I don't see the point in recieving anything myself as I have a job and could've just bought whatever was given.

Penny Tration

BetterThanThou wrote: »

Not married, but on a related note, I definitely agree, I hate those days you're "supposed" to go and be nice to someone just because. Recently, I was asked by someone if I bought my mother a gift for mother's day, and they were shocked when the answer was no. I'm a good son year round. I don't see why it matters if I don't buy my mother a box of chocolates she probably doesn't even want.

So why not buy her something she does want?

LizzieJones

green_screen wrote: »

So why not buy her something she does want?

Or at least make her a nice dinner.